Sadist or Masochist?

[Noira]

Yes, but if I voted PYL Sadist, and pyl maso at the same time, they would cancel one another out- which would make me vanilla, and I just can't have that.

Funny, though. I feel similarly, like I have to cancel myself out! Damn this switchiness... I know there's definately a masochist in me, but be damned if I'm submitting to anyone. D:

...On the other hand, there is definately a sadist in me, she just needs a whip and someone to SHUT UP AND HOLD STILL.

...Okay, yeah, I have no idea what to vote. I'm a TERRIBLE PYL but like hell I'm voting pyl, even if by rights of being the most indecisive person EVER I should be voting pyl sado/masochist... (votes PYL masochist [/rebel])

 

[Netzach]

You do not cancel yourself out, you just have range.

If being indecisive about random mundane uninteresting world details makes you a pyl well screw me tattoo me and call me slave thing.

If you're decisive enough to want someone to SHUT THE HELL UP with a whip in your hand, go for it.

Are you decisive when it matters? Do you delegate when it bores you?

 

[subish2009]

pyl masochist. i have a sadistic streak, she just doesn't get to come out and play very often. it's more of a science experiment with the senses thing. if i had the liberty to really get in touch with that side of me i have no idea what i'd find. the masochist is pretty hardwired, and i've known about her for a long time. since puberty. i think the sex and pain lines inside me are crossed. i can do the lovey dovey vanilla sex thing, and make it work - it just takes effort. sex and receiving pain just feel natural. i can't get a spanking or have my hair yanked without getting wet. knowing it brings Him pleasure, makes it ten times better.

YES! This. Neci, you and I are clearly cut from the same cloth in many ways.

<snip>But getting someone to the point where they don't even know their own name, don't know what they're begging for, aren't clear where they are or what they want except that they WANT something in that way that makes them whimper and beg, well, indeed. And with some subs, that's more mental than physical anyway.
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<snip>I bet most of us don't really fit the PYL/pyl paradigm either. I can be a total dom, when I want to be, completely selfish and focussed on my own desires. (It took fifty years for me to come to terms with that, but that's a different subject) Most of the time though, what I "selfishly want" is to know I have wreaked a whole lot of pleasure on my victim. So I don't hurt people who hate pain. Kinda duh, really.
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Oh, y'all are KILLING ME with the hotness this morning!!!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Being a switch doesn't cancel anyone out, it just doubles the orgasm potential!

 

[Soumis]

Nothing kills my mental hard on faster than someone who's whining and pussing out before I even touch him. I like to hurt people who like pain and then hurt them in ways they don't like or don't know or don't expect.

I want it to hurt, but I want it to get to the point where it *really* hurts slowly and to watch them encounter that personal rubicon and get all sweaty.

Personal rubicon, I like it.

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

I'm actually a switch, but my inclinations drift to the masochist end of the spectrum ...

 

[Black_Bunny]

My turn for the odd question, feel free to ignore it if you think it's too personal. I'm just trying to sort out what component has to be present for "sexual context." Do you think a spanking, beating, what have you, is sexual in nature (or needs to be) or is it the specific person administering it that makes it sexual? Basically, does it have to be physically sexual or mentally/emotionally sexual to be pleasant? Or both?

I voted submissive masochist. My PYL is a sadomasochist. It is difficult for me to inflict pain on him since he is the Dominant (and I have no sadistic side), so he identifies mainly with sadist (and makes do with my fingernail scratching as his pain )

Any sort of pain inflicted on me by my PYL becomes sexual very quickly, for both of us. Sometimes he might begin without the intention of it being very sexual, but my reaction tells him that is to me, and this spurs him on. He's never inflicted pain and I've never received pain from him that hasn't taken on a sexual aspect. It doesn't mean we fuck after every little spanking, it's just one of his ways of keeping me in that ramped-up, constantly horny state.

I couldn't be in a relationship that didn't feed my masochistic side. It grows stronger and stronger the more we experiment.

 

[where]

I don't know what I am. I think it's fair to say that I am generally submissive and that I get off on pain in a purely sexual context, like spanking, cunt flogging etc but not because of the actions per se, but because it heightens sensation.

I think if I get back with women again then I'd probably be a PYL though not really wanting to inflict pain. I may also be getting access to a male pet to allow me to explore my more dominant side. I'm really not sure quite what I'd do with him though.