Scared to do it!

[Netzach]

ok, I can try and be productive.

What's to discuss? Either you have it in you to do what she wants because she wants it, no further explanations needed, or you don't at this time and she'll need to address it again later or find someone else to suck dick for her amusement.

There's no cocksucker training course. There's no dick 101, in my world. If I am considering forcing someone to do something I dont really give a rat's ass if it was "good for them" because that's not the issue, the only issue is whether it's good for me.

I like to watch a guy in action, and for this reason I prefer bisexual males for my personals. It's so much easier than trying to make your own bisexual from scratch, so much less fraught with drama. I don't understand why so many femDoms gravitate towards this conundrum, the tentative bicurious male... give me a good ol' self aware experienced bi guy any day of the week. But some people thrive on challenge and drama, I guess.

If you were my dude I'd tell you to shut your eyes open your mouth and think of England and me. If that's not enough, then maybe you need more Mistress 101 and less cocksucker 101.

 

[Shadowsdream]

ok, I can try and be productive.

What's to discuss? Either you have it in you to do what she wants because she wants it, no further explanations needed, or you don't at this time and she'll need to address it again later or find someone else to suck dick for her amusement.

There's no cocksucker training course. There's no dick 101, in my world. If I am considering forcing someone to do something I dont really give a rat's ass if it was "good for them" because that's not the issue, the only issue is whether it's good for me.

I like to watch a guy in action, and for this reason I prefer bisexual males for my personals. It's so much easier than trying to make your own bisexual from scratch, so much less fraught with drama. I don't understand why so many femDoms gravitate towards this conundrum, the tentative bicurious male... give me a good ol' self aware experienced bi guy any day of the week. But some people thrive on challenge and drama, I guess.

If you were my dude I'd tell you to shut your eyes open your mouth and think of England and me. If that's not enough, then maybe you need more Mistress 101 and less cocksucker 101.

Ditto!

 

[Pure]

Hi Fun,

First, ftsoa, let's assume this is all on the level. Which means
your mistress has allowed or asked you to see what other have to say about her plan or your following it.

Hmmm

And she wants you to find a way to make it *easier*. Why would that be. Why not just 'order' you to eat ice cream?

?


Further, she's interested in other's ideas about certain practices like how to use a dildo on you.

Hmmmm.

First let's start at the beginning. Are you paying (or materially compensating) her? Is so, then is it understood she'll entertain you according to your requirements?

In that case it's simple, as NC said, You don't want it, she shouldn't do it.. then you'll hire a replacement.

IF, on the contrary, she's in it for the fun of exercising power over you, controlling you--which seems implausible, at this point-- I wonder why she let's you run a little 'chat with the sub' corner on the net. Unless of course she plans to punish this narcissism, up the road.

Hey, there's many ways to have fun, but it's entirely unclear to me if anyone's exercising power or control over the other. But hey, if you want a banana up your butt, and she likes doing it, more power to y'all.

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Hmmm, I think what FIP was trying to say is that this was a hang-up his Mistress wanted to get him past, rather than something he absolutely didn't want to do. When you have a hang-up like that, it doesn't mean that you may not want to do it, it just means you're too hung about it to do it.

For a regular, vanilla example, I'd love to ride a rollercoaster, but I'm acrophobic. If you forced me onto one, you'd soon be performing CPR on me and/or watching me die from a heart attack. Doesn't mean that I don't wish I could get past that.

As a sexual example, I had a fear of anal penetration when I first started having sex. My boyfriend wanted it, but I was afraid it would hurt too much. Guess what? It did! Shocking discovery, huh? It hurt so much because he just used a little vaseline and that was it. (Now I have the rule that no man puts his cock anywhere he's not willing to stick his tongue first with me.) I didn't want anal sex after that, even though I'd always enjoyed anal stimulation when I masturbated. It took years, but I finally began to enjoy anal sex. Now, if that boyfriend had been more considerate and willing to arouse me anally, I might have been enjoying anal sex years before then instead of being afraid it would always hurt like that.

Now, if this something FIP does NOT want to do, period, he shouldn't, no matter what anyone else wants. But if it's something that turns him on but he's afraid to do, then he needs to be guided past this boundary, not forced. Telling him, or any sub, do it because I say so or I'll get someone else to do it, is only going to traumatize him.

And traumatizing a sub or slave is NOT ok, whether the dom/me gets anything out of it or not. If a domme resorts to forcing a sub or slave to do anything and traumatizes him, and doesn't care how rhe sub feels about it, then the domme is the one who needs Mistress 101.

 

[Pure]

Pagan said: Hmmm, I think what FIP was trying to say is that this was a hang-up his Mistress wanted to get him past, rather than something he absolutely didn't want to do.

Well, as Fun's mouthpiece, what you propose is at least as improbable: Sub posts to get Mistress info on how to get him past a hangup. And incidentally sub notes how great the details are, to whack off to.

PS. I'm not sure, but is one poster suggesting a blow job may cause 'irreparable harm'? Disease issues aside, What form would that take? Dislodging a wisdom tooth?

 

[Funinpanties]

I do enjoy

I understand that you might think I am weird because I do not want to go down on a man but the taboo fantasy part totally turns me on. I said before I am confussed. I have been reading this form of porn for so long that it feels that it is a part of my life. But the reality of doing it scares me. Come on I am a sub I am a pussy. I don't like alot of unknowns. So if you think I am weird because I jack off to things that scare me then go figure. I am just a person trying to figure out the best way to keep my mistress happy. any Help please and if someone could tell me what I am going through I would appreciate it . I will be leaving for three days I will be back on Sunday to return posts. Thanks.
FIP

 

[catalina_francisco]

Think one thing that needs clearing up, at least from my own perspective is that I gather the 'Iam a sub, I am a pussy' statement is meant to convey being sub makes you automatically less than strong and is an excuse for not knowing things. From a gender issue POV I could take offence at the connotations put in this statement, but as it is an issue I am more than sure your Mistress would be able to clear up for you I will leave it at that. As to the belief sub means weak, helpless, uninformed, not responsible, think you will find a mountain of threads here which will not only dispute that thought, but may give you the understanding you say you want.

Submission is in part about challenging your comfort zones, fighting the urge to run from the things you know both excite and repel you at the same time, and exploring all those limits and areas that lie in the darkest corners of your psyche. Reading the threads here is enough to see most of us on the submissive side of the equation get off on things which don't exactly make sense to the mainstream, or ourselves at times, those things which make us work to get through, show us we do possess strength for the purpose of pleasing those who dominate, if not ourselves.

As Netzach and Shadowsdream have both asserted from the Domme POV, it is you who has to decide to get on with it or not. I would add I don't believe an interest in porn can create such thoughts in your head without there being a seed already existing (ie. this is your responsiblity call to admit your own innermost desires and needs), nor do I see how us posting things to make you hard can help.....that is why there is fiction already on the site. If this is for real, face what it is you want and move forward instead of playing cat and mouse.

Catalina

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Well, as Fun's mouthpiece, what you propose is at least as improbable: Sub posts to get Mistress info on how to get him past a hangup. And incidentally sub notes how great the details are, to whack off to.What form would that take? Dislodging a wisdom tooth?

I'm not anyone's mouthpiece, not even my own sub's, let alone someone else's sub. I'm just somebody who's trying to help. And however improbable that may be, that is pretty much what he said.

And yes, I am rather protective of subs, particularly those who have been trained to sub 24/7. That's how I was trained as a domme.

 

[Pure]

Hi Pagan.
You misquote me, in stitching together unrelated sentences, creating gibberish.

As to mr "fun." whom you deem to need protection:

He says,

Come on I am a sub I am a pussy. I don't like alot of unknowns. So if you think I am weird because I jack off to things that scare me then go figure.

Hey this is j.o. heaven. No problem with that.

The problem or mystery is--maybe you, Pagan, can clarify this, from the dommely pov-- why does the supposed domme send the fellow to the 'net to obtain j.o. material? Is this part of a 'training' method I'm unaware of?




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[start Pagan's posting]

Originally posted by Pure

Well, as Fun's mouthpiece, what you propose is at least as improbable: Sub posts to get Mistress info on how to get him past a hangup. And incidentally sub notes how great the details are, to whack off to.What form would that take? Dislodging a wisdom tooth?
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{{Note by pure: this alleged quote is a mismash, a concoction}}

{Pagan replies:}
I'm not anyone's mouthpiece, not even my own sub's, let alone someone else's sub. I'm just somebody who's trying to help. And however improbable that may be, that is pretty much what he said.

And yes, I am rather protective of subs, particularly those who have been trained to sub 24/7. That's how I was trained as a domme. [end Pagan's posting]

 

[zot]

Do as your mistress wants. Trust me once you take the first lick and realize you have a dick in your mouth and its not half bad you'll enjoy it knowing it pleases your mistress.

 

[Nackereia]

ok, I can try and be productive.

What's to discuss? Either you have it in you to do what she wants because she wants it, no further explanations needed, or you don't at this time and she'll need to address it again later or find someone else to suck dick for her amusement.

There's no cocksucker training course. There's no dick 101, in my world. If I am considering forcing someone to do something I dont really give a rat's ass if it was "good for them" because that's not the issue, the only issue is whether it's good for me.

I like to watch a guy in action, and for this reason I prefer bisexual males for my personals. It's so much easier than trying to make your own bisexual from scratch, so much less fraught with drama. I don't understand why so many femDoms gravitate towards this conundrum, the tentative bicurious male... give me a good ol' self aware experienced bi guy any day of the week. But some people thrive on challenge and drama, I guess.

If you were my dude I'd tell you to shut your eyes open your mouth and think of England and me. If that's not enough, then maybe you need more Mistress 101 and less cocksucker 101.

Now, personally, if I were your dudette, I'd be tramatized by this. Perhaps FIP needs someone there to hold his hand, because personally, I know that I would want someone to hold my hand. I'd be worried that I'd be doing something wrong. I'd need to be coaxed and have lots of reassurance that I was doing the right thing and such. I'm kind of a baby like that

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Do as your mistress wants. Trust me once you take the first lick and realize you have a dick in your mouth and its not half bad you'll enjoy it knowing it pleases your mistress.

This might not be such a bad idea; just go ahead and try it, but without being really pressured. IOW, no punishment or being told how disappointed she is in you if you can't, but with a reward if you can.

Watching some gay porn might help too.

 

[Etoile]

A guy sucking off a guy is gay. It's not wrong, it's not bad, it's just what it is.

I won't say I don't think it's hot, but seeing two women together is not a "thing" for me.

Yes, it is a homosexual sex act. But if having ONE instance of homosexual sex made a person gay, the population would be more than 50% gay by Kinsey's reckoning. I certainly hope you meant to refer to the act as homosexual rather than the person.

 

[Etoile]

It is not going exactly where I thought this would go. (snip) Thanks for all the info but lets get beck to the original theme. I f you don't know what that is then go to the start and read. CHOW
FIP

LOL, sorry to burst your bubble FIP, but thread hijacking is a major habit of 90% of Litsters...I recommend getting used to it.

It's nice to be reminded to get back on track, but demanding it doesn't always go over well.

 

[Funinpanties]

I'm Back

I apologize for not being involved in this thread for a while. I am finding that is is alot of work to be involved in a thread topic.I did not realize how much time it takes to be focused on my sexual addiction. I gues that is what it is. I love to come home take my clothes off and read what you all have wrote. I have a confession to make. I am new to this type of writing. I thought that I could get through this by telling you guys that i have a Mistress. i don't I just wish I had a online mistress. I am sure you must thinks I am an ass hole for lieing to you to create a fantasy. I am going to be a long time reader and writer so from now on I will be honest. I am a 46 year old bachalor who is 6'4" 200 lbs and a window cleaner by profession I live in the Central valley of california. I would love to find an attractive older woman to play with me I am not looking for a long term relation just someone to own me in private I am not looking to have more than one Mistress but I will wait until I find a match for my fetishes. go to my profile to find out what that is. then PM me for furture talk PLEASE?

 

[Etoile]

Funinpanties, we have a free personals section right here at Lit - just go to the "BDSM Personals" forum category.

Your profile doesn't really mention any fetishes, except that you're interested in CD. Also, since you mention you're attached, you might want to mention that so if somebody's looking for an exclusive relationship they know that's not available.

Good luck!

 

[Funinpanties]

Thanks Etoile I am sure I will get better at this I will settle in to the place I should be. And I love the truthfullness of everyone I don't like it always but I will get over it.