Setting free the beast

[londonaberdeen]

Way too late

I don't know how this managed to get back out the archives but I'm glad it did. Best thread I've read so far.

Me, I'm your typical sensitive guy. I'm sure there is a beast in there but she's yet to come out.

SO is trying to find it within though.
Recently while having anal sex she asked me to explain what I was doing.
The way she kept probing for an answer I know she wanted me to shout "FUCKING YOUR ASS!" but I'm too polite. I couldn't do it.

How do you let go with someone you love and trust.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Re: Way too late

How do you let go with someone you love and trust. [/B][/QUOTE]

You have to love and trust them completely without hesitation, without exception.

Then you can let go completely

Holden

 

[DuckLover]

Re: Way too late

SO is trying to find it within though.
Recently while having anal sex she asked me to explain what I was doing.
The way she kept probing for an answer I know she wanted me to shout "FUCKING YOUR ASS!" but I'm too polite. I couldn't do it.

How do you let go with someone you love and trust.

I would definitely start with talking to her. Sometime when you aren't in the middle of sex, ask her if there's anything new or different she'd like to try. Share some Lit stories with her and then discuss which things in a story you might want to try.

Dirty talk can be a fairly benign place to start with being a beast. I'd build into it slowly though; consider starting with something like "Do you like that? Do you like feeling my cock in your ass?" You might also consider trying some role-playing. That was it isn't kind, sensative Steve being nasty and wild, it's the policeman/teacher/etc.

Good luck, and be sure to let us know what happens!

 

[Cakegirl]

Wow. I'm SO glad this thread popped back up.

I had a great "unleash the beast" experience, where I was fooling around with the guy in public, and he kept saying "let's go back to the room", and I kept saying "not yet", and prolonging the "foreplay". When we eventually got back to our room, things got hotter and heavier, without actual sex - and as I got more and more turned on, I started talking dirtier and dirtier, and started demanding that he do nasty things, and talk dirty back to me. e.g. "do you like my tits? do you like them? tell me how much you like them. now BITE them. yeah, treat them nasty. bite them HARD.", and so on... Every now and then, I'd ask him "do you want to fuck me? how much do you want to fuck me? i'm not going to let you do it if you're going to be gentle. i'm only going to let you fuck me if you promise to FUCK me."... and then I'd move on to talking dirty about some other foreplay act, and demanding that he do "nasty" things there.

Eventually, he was driven crazy, and had promised like 15 times that when he fucked me he was going to FUCK me good, ram his big cock into my dripping cunt, etc... And let me say, HIS BEAST WAS UNLEASHED!

 

[SweetErika]

Re: Way too late

I don't know how this managed to get back out the archives but I'm glad it did. Best thread I've read so far.

Me, I'm your typical sensitive guy. I'm sure there is a beast in there but she's yet to come out.

SO is trying to find it within though.
Recently while having anal sex she asked me to explain what I was doing.
The way she kept probing for an answer I know she wanted me to shout "FUCKING YOUR ASS!" but I'm too polite. I couldn't do it.

How do you let go with someone you love and trust.

Fantastic thread!
Steve, my husband is a lot like you. He would never, ever do anything that might hurt or degrade me. He does get more beastly when he's either in a dominant or submissive role though (as opposed to soft, sensitive, and mutual lovemaking). When he's dominant, he is forced to be more assertive and animalistic. When he's submissive, I'm "making" him do and say the things he would usually run away from. So perhaps taking one of those roles could help bring out your inner beast too?

My other thought is when people love and respect eachother, whatever happens in bed sort of fades into a fond memory after. For example, if you did say, "I'm fucking your ass," it would just be a hot detail of the experience, and you both know that side only comes out during (or as a prelude to) sex. When you're finished, you go back to being your sensitive self. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's understood what you do in bed doesn't define who you are out of bed, so you have quite a bit of leeway.

 

[londonaberdeen]

Dirty talk

Thanks folks, and especially sweet Erika. You being able to relate that with your husband helps.

Friday night I introduced some dirty talk. "I want to fuck your ass!" and similar.

This morning, she asked me to swear at her. Tell her shes a slut.

So making progress. Slapped her arse a couple of times while she was riding me. So we'll see how much of the beast shows.

Thanks folks

 

[Elizabeth]

I had this problem for awhile. Then I just showed him what I wanted by doing it to him. I tied him to a table securely, face down. I started with a suede flogger that had been collecting dust for some time although I had been praticing with it. I ran it over his body. Then I started with small easy strokes across his back, ass and thighs. I talked to him and kissed him and watched his cock get amazingly hard, all the while reassuring him and asking how he was doing. He loved it.

After I untied him we had sex that was nothing like before. It unleashed that animal in him. That was really all it took. Now we do the switchy thing and it's so much fun. I might be on top of him ordering him around and then he will grab my hair and force me down on his cock hard. We might go for weeks with one of us in the more dom role and then switch back to the other for awhile. It's great. For all the time I spent trying to talk to him and tell him what I wanted, I realize now that one time of showing him is what did it. This isn't the answer for everyone but it worked for us.

 

[Guest]

As a guy I can say that sometimes it is hard to get into that "beast" mode. To be honest I am afraid that I may hurt her or go too far and kill the moment. Never have reached that point yet but it takes communication from her to know where the limit is and what she wants.

Can't leave us guys guessing. Some guys will treat you like dirty little sluts but I think most guys have been raised not to treat a woman that way, don't strike her, etc. Almost like we need an invitation, a permission slip before we'll go forward.

Hope that helps some from the guy side.

 

[bashfull]

A Bump and a Grind...

It's Beasty Time!

 

[pink swirl]

Re: Cum one, cum all!

Step right up ladies, and behold the amazing Janus Bashful! This two-sided marvel of masculinity will fulfill all your carnal cravings!

From up front his outer veneer is the ideal guy to take home to the folks-- he's kind, he's considerate, he's polite, heck he even puts down the toilet seat lid! And at the end of the day, this gentle giant is there with a firm massage and a hot bath for YOU! (Don't worry about dinner-- Bashful's already got it in the oven!)

Not your cup of tea? A bit too prim and proper? Just you wait!

Sneak up from behind and you'll experience the raw power of this horny hombre! In the dark of night his wild side comes out... and so do the handcuffs! Whether you submit easily or prefer to battle for control, Bashful will put you to the test. He's the hair-pulling, smut-talking bad-boy of your dreams!

bears repeating...

thanks for the bump and grind, bash - i've been reading through this thread and, my oh my, aren't you the bashful beast unleashed!! terrific writing.

 

[pink swirl]

As a guy I can say that sometimes it is hard to get into that "beast" mode. To be honest I am afraid that I may hurt her or go too far and kill the moment. Never have reached that point yet but it takes communication from her to know where the limit is and what she wants.

Can't leave us guys guessing. Some guys will treat you like dirty little sluts but I think most guys have been raised not to treat a woman that way, don't strike her, etc. Almost like we need an invitation, a permission slip before we'll go forward.

Hope that helps some from the guy side.

and what kind of invitation or permission slip should we issue? any hints on what men need to hear to release the beast?

 

[londonaberdeen]

Permission

Hi Pink,

From my point of view, if the lady goes first, then it's okay.

So telling him to "fuck your brians out." Tell him your a slut and want fucked around the room. Grab his ass and slap him as he pounds you. That is one way to open the door to his beasts cage.

It would work for me anyway.

 

[goro goro]

Getting rough yourself can help. My GF tried to talk me into being rougher, but I just couldn't bring myself into being more than a dirty talker. One day (and probably out of frustration) she started to slap and bite me. That got my adrenalin pumped up so much that I really lost all inhibiton.

Concerning the division between cuddle cute and nasty rough sex, she also came up with a brilliant idea (she's more creative than me when it comes to sex). She bought a spiked dog-collar which she wears whenever she really wants to get it going. And now, I can't pass someone walking his dog without getting a hard-on.

 

[DarkLover]

I think a big part of this is the relationship between sex and power. If a man is going to be a gentleman, he knows he's not supposed to use sex as an expression of power over a woman.

But that's exactly what rape is, isn't it? It's about power, not sex. And look at how many rape porn web sites are out there. Which brings me to my point.

I think we men deep down inside have that beast that wants to let loose and seize power over a woman because it boosts our ego. This is the beast that we are told to keep in check, but which some of you ladies want to see every now and then.

I know what this beast feels like because I feel it rise when my wife and I are doing this kind of sex. Part of me wants to torture her and revel in her screams. One night we were both so turned on that we did a lot of scratching and biting--and I was asking her to do more of that to me! She was teasing me and threatening to walk away, but I grabbed her, held her down to the bed and took her without mercy--but not without her consent.

So what I'm saying is, aren't we talking about power here--even if only roleplayed power?

 

[bashfull]

Re: Re: Cum one, cum all!

bears repeating...

thanks for the bump and grind, bash - i've been reading through this thread and, my oh my, aren't you the bashful beast unleashed!! terrific writing.

Well, thanks darlin. I reckon ya'll find most men are when given permission...and when they allow themselves to let go. Welcome to Lit btw. Hope to see ya post more often.



Bash

 

[bashfull]

<scratches head>

Kinda funny how lately when i post on a thread or start one, for that matter, it kinda dies reeeaaaallll quick. Think it's my deodorant?


Bash

 

[pink swirl]

Getting rough yourself can help. My GF tried to talk me into being rougher, but I just couldn't bring myself into being more than a dirty talker. One day (and probably out of frustration) she started to slap and bite me. That got my adrenalin pumped up so much that I really lost all inhibiton.

Concerning the division between cuddle cute and nasty rough sex, she also came up with a brilliant idea (she's more creative than me when it comes to sex). She bought a spiked dog-collar which she wears whenever she really wants to get it going. And now, I can't pass someone walking his dog without getting a hard-on.

ROFL

call of the wild!

 

[pink swirl]

So what I'm saying is, aren't we talking about power here--even if only roleplayed power?

and sometimes it feel so good to give up control, to just let go...

 

[pink swirl]

<scratches head>

Kinda funny how lately when i post on a thread or start one, for that matter, it kinda dies reeeaaaallll quick. Think it's my deodorant?


Bash

ha! mosey on over here for a hug and i'll tell ya

 

[FinePhilly]

I'm married to a perfect gentleman...and I wouldn't have it any other way. But when I want things a little rough, he's happy to oblidge.

Usually it only takes me throwing in a few 4 letter words and explicit instructions in the middle of things (normally I don't swear at all so it gets him really hot when I talk like a porn star).

The other thing that seems to really do it is pillow fighting. I discovered this quite by accident and it was a pleasant surprise. Pillow fighting gets you warm and sweaty and usually degenerates (in a very good way) into wrestling and that can lead him to behave more like a crazed animal than a gentleman! Very nice indeed........

So if you're desperate...initiate a pillowfight...and hit him HARD!

 

[bashfull]

I'm married to a perfect gentleman...and I wouldn't have it any other way. But when I want things a little rough, he's happy to oblidge.

Usually it only takes me throwing in a few 4 letter words and explicit instructions in the middle of things (normally I don't swear at all so it gets him really hot when I talk like a porn star).

The other thing that seems to really do it is pillow fighting. I discovered this quite by accident and it was a pleasant surprise. Pillow fighting gets you warm and sweaty and usually degenerates (in a very good way) into wrestling and that can lead him to behave more like a crazed animal than a gentleman! Very nice indeed........

So if you're desperate...initiate a pillowfight...and hit him HARD!

Hmmmmm...I can see it now.....

"Oh Yes! Hit me with that big fluffy pillow, big boy!" "Oh! Your down just makes me want to go down" Kinda gives a whole new perspective to using feathers don't it? lol. Sorry, couldn't resist the laughs.

Thanks for sharing, hon. Hope to see ya back here.



Bash

 

[bashfull]

ha! mosey on over here for a hug and i'll tell ya

Moseying...aww shucks. Better watch out! I just got sprayed by a skunk.

 

[lustybud]

ShyGuy and Abraxis,

I'm not sure I'm talking about telling a man to "hurt" me, but to not feel like he has to coddle me in the bedroom. I can handle some roughness, I WANT the intensity and passion of letting go, and I'm a big girl and will let my partner know if he's going too far for me.

I hate to have to put it that way, but it's almost patronizing the way some men are in bed. Yes, if a woman wants it all soft and cuddly all the time, a man should respect that and as long as he's also satisfied with that kind of sex, it's all well and good.

But why is it okay for guys to play football and wrestle with each other and box (sometimes on TV for millions of dollars), and really try to hurt each other, but not okay to let loose, I mean really let loose and let 'er rip, with a woman he cares about if it PLEASES her. I'm not talking about beating me, breaking my bones, then fucking me against my will. I'm just talking about LETTING GO and ENJOYING a particular brand of release in an intimate setting.

Personally, I love rough sex and have always had the opposite problem. However, one woman I was with actually begged that "I fuck her like the whore she is" , which made it all the more provacative.
Hope this helps. In the future, should this continue to be a problem, let me know.

 

[LadyJeanne]

A Bump and a Grind...

It's Beasty Time!

Hey there, Bash. We miss you in the AH! Your beasty erotic little snippets (not to mention that AV) inspired me to write a story, though - hope you like a little sweet, wet submission to unleash your beast!

Release the Beast

 

[bashfull]

Hey there, Bash. We miss you in the AH! Your beasty erotic little snippets (not to mention that AV) inspired me to write a story, though - hope you like a little sweet, wet submission to unleash your beast!

Release the Beast

Oh? woo hooo. miss you too darlin. Can't wait to read your story!




Bash