Sex in to our 50's and 60's? You bet! :)

I'm 55, but I have to admit that my whole time growing up, in fact up until I started chatting with folks here on Lit, I was led to believe that menopause was the end of sexual desire for women, and that guys couldn't even get it up after about 50.

I've learned a lot on here over the past couple years.
Stories of marriages becoming sexless in later years break my heart. And it's quite often (though not always) the woman calling it quits after menopause. I'm not a sex therapist but I have two theories as to why...

  • Sadly, there are many women who never really enjoyed sex all that much before menopause because they were in marriages where their sexual fulfillment wasn't given equal priority. Nonetheless, they did what they believed was their obligation and put up with years and years of mediocre, mostly one-sided sex. But once menopause arrives and makes penetrative sex potentially painful, many of these women understandably decide it's time to simply tap out and call it quits. After all, if their inconsiderate lover didn't make sex enjoyable BEFORE menopause, they have little hope he'll make it enjoyable AFTER menopause, when it becomes so much more difficult. So... many tell their husbands, "Sorry dear, I'm going through The Big Change and sex now hurts - so I'm done with it!"
  • Thanks to the internet, there are many men whose idea of good sex is very porn-driven, which of course is very male driven. So imagine being a menopausal woman who is struggling to enjoy just basic masturbation - thanks to vaginal dryness/ pain, depression, body-image issue, etc. - and knowing your husband is getting off to porn clips of hyper-orgasmic, tight-bodied 20-something women who are wailing and writhing with ecstasy the moment they're touched. It's not surprising this might cause her to feel sexually irrelevant and left behind. Please understand I'm not anti-porn (I love it) I'm just saying that as their wife struggles with menopause it's even more important than ever for men to assure her they know the difference between the fantasy sex of the porn world and real-world sex with real world bodies.
 
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I'm north of 60 now and I have sex every chance I get with females, males, and trans women. I had radiation treatment for prostate cancer several years ago and was concerned about my erectile health. My oncologist told me after the treatments were complete that I needed to try and get an erection at least once per day and maintain it for 15 minutes or more to ensure continued erections until late in life. I followed her advice and still get spontaneous erections occasionally, but with a little stimulation I usually have no trouble getting and staying hard. On the rare occasions when I have trouble getting an erection, I have a little blue pill to help things along. And I sometimes take it to enhance things a bit more!

I do worry that I may not always have the ability, which is why I'm having as much sex as I can now. I love sex, and I know that I can pleasure my partners even without an erection, but I I'm not quite ready to lose the ability to get hard!
 
As a couple in our 50's (me) and 60's (my hubby), I'd like to take the opportunity to say to those who are younger and wondering if their ages will end up depriving them of the wonderful pleasures of sex, "not at all!" as long as you keep your curiosity and affection for one another. Please feel free to add your own experiences, fears etc! But keep these traits alive, and you're on your way to a deliciously erotic twilight .:)
So true, sex in your 50s is great, kids are out of the house so no worries about interruptions, we take our time more now and really focus on each other.
Be sure to incorporate toys and lube, and youโ€™ll both fall asleep smiling and have sweet dreams
 
Our sex is still great in our 60's. Her orgasms are just as wet and loud as when she was in her 20's and 30's. I enjoy cumming just as much, although the volume is a bit less. She even gives better blowjobs now than when she was young.
I wonder if her orgasms are stronger, more intense, and/or more of them? Mine are getting that way the older i am.

Practice makes perfect!! ๐Ÿ’ฆ
 
We don't have sex as often, but do have regular sex that is better in some ways than it was premenopause. And, definitely invest in some really good lube. We have four types for different activities. For pegging, I prefer KY. She prefers Spunk for vaginal sex.
 
I'm early 60s, swinging, have a partner 20 years younger than me. Life is good.
 
I've just tipped over into my 50s (well, 51) and Mrs Gent is 53. Other than a bit of a blip for me earlier this year, I can safely sex that we're having more and better sex than I think we ever have. Long may it continue, and looking at the posts here, it will!
 
Love the responses here by everyone, keep the sexual fires burning as long as you can. Love seeing that passion grow stronger.
 
55, and probably as horny, if not hornier, now as I was at 18, and I have every intention of still being a hard and horny in my late-70s, so I am beginning to look after myself more than I used to. Unfortunately, the wife's health packed up a few years ago and the opportunities to get amorous are few and far between. Sadly, just as her health begins to improve from the last crisis, something else always seems to come along. An FWB would be a welcome release, but my cautious nature (which controls who I do it with, not what we do) says it is not worth the risk.
 
70 here married 47 years. After all that time the lust is gone and it's more like we have sex to get off. We've pretty much done it all over the years or things we wanted to try. We have played with our friends for?? 30 something years and as a result the sex between us increases after one of our adventures. My wife had no problem with menopause besides being hot all the time, she would like more sex. Me I'm good with a couple times a week. 47 years of fucking the same person does get sort of ho hum been there done that. I'm sure she would probably say the same thing if she was being truthful.
 
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