Sexless marriage

[Happyjack122448]

So eberyone. how many times have you had sex in the past 2 years? Me...4.

Aside from not being able to spell.....

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Wife completely off sex.

I have a very high sex drive.

Need advice on coping.

Learn to masturbate a lot.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Aside from not being able to spell.....

With my wife. Zero. Unless you count her watching me rub myself like a girl as she listens to my moans

 

[OldnCurious]

After going through menapause it was like my wife lost all interest in sex. I may go for months without out sex and just when I think everything is lost she finds a way to surprise me. However the moment is only short lived and I find myself back in the same rut.

 

[hulmule]

Tried to have discussions with my wife but she doesnt like to talk about sex. Gets upsets when i try to talk about it. Menopause really just stoppped her. Love my wife dearly but my needs are so high for sex... Just wish she understood and gave me a green light to take care of them .

 

[Filipinawife]

Tried to have discussions with my wife but she doesnt like to talk about sex. Gets upsets when i try to talk about it. Menopause really just stoppped her. Love my wife dearly but my needs are so high for sex... Just wish she understood and gave me a green light to take care of them .

When I escorted most of my clients were guys in the late 40s 50s frustrated sexually because their wives were no longer interested in sex

 

[Tayloroc]

When I escorted most of my clients were guys in the late 40s 50s frustrated sexually because their wives were no longer interested in sex

Same same same.

 

[hulmule]

When I escorted most of my clients were guys in the late 40s 50s frustrated sexually because their wives were no longer interested in sex

I just wish there were a happy medium . Understand her pain if i try to penetrate her, so idont but at least show me some type of love. She says she has no feeling for it. Plus depression meds dont help. SOOO i spend way to much time on lit. Problem is if i dont get a release vey often i just cant focus

 

[falkor207]

Like the proverbial broken record, anyone remember those, been sexless with my gf for going on 3 1/2 years. Porn only does so much, thankfully there is Lit where you have options for stories, joining the conversation like this, or possibly PM's.

 

[Filipinawife]

I just wish there were a happy medium . Understand her pain if i try to penetrate her, so idont but at least show me some type of love. She says she has no feeling for it. Plus depression meds dont help. SOOO i spend way to much time on lit. Problem is if i dont get a release vey often i just cant focus

Yes I understand

 

[cowboyup6977]

So many people are in sexless marriages. I never had a very plentiful drive and it would cause many fights between my husband and I. We raised four daughters, yes, four hormonal monsters. Top it off with the oldest having autism. It was tough to be in any mood but tired.

After our daughters grew up and all but one moved out, my husband and I found ourselves in a new stage. A nearly empty nest. By this time, we perfected the art of our communication, no longer had irrational and emotional fights but sat down and talked out things on our mind.

Because our sex life was quite stale, after having kids , it is common, my husband wanted to explore a more creative and liberal approach. He thought I would want to leave him when he asked how I felt about exploring an open marriage or swinging. At this time (5 years ago) my drive was even worse. I was open to spicing things up so we had some serious conversations about trust, how we imagined it to be, what we were looking for, what we were afraid of. We put our hearts and souls out on the table for one another, exposing feelings, fears, and desires. We planned this methodically with many rules as we were very naive. to shorten this response, we learned what worked for us, what we did not like, what we were okay with and so on. My drive improved here and there, doing something taboo helped me feel sexy, seeing one another in a different light also helped. But I am nearly 48 and my drive just isn't where it used to be. I like to write about my experiences and make ones up, it helps put me in a mood but I can go without sex for a good period of time. My husband has a regular girlfriend that takes care of his needs when I am just not in the mood. I adore her- and she and I are good friends. Perhaps this is an avenue that could be explored for those in similar situations.

Have you tried another lady

 

[LadyAdonia17]

Have you tried another lady

I have. We've had threesomes with his play mates and mine....with his, being women of course...I played along. I really wanted to be turned on by it but was not. Kissing women is nice, I like that, maybe even tonguing and sucking her nipples but sadly, nothing happens down there for me. Nothing. Even women I was attracted to.

What gets me, two men....I am center of attention and feeling the hands on me, their wanton touch.....that gets me.

 

[cowboyup6977]

If that’s what it takes you’re husband should be supportive

 

[LadyAdonia17]

If that’s what it takes you’re husband should be supportive

he is more than supportive

 

[hulmule]

I have. We've had threesomes with his play mates and mine....with his, being women of course...I played along. I really wanted to be turned on by it but was not. Kissing women is nice, I like that, maybe even tonguing and sucking her nipples but sadly, nothing happens down there for me. Nothing. Even women I was attracted to.

What gets me, two men....I am center of attention and feeling the hands on me, their wanton touch.....that gets me.

Then you hubby should be more than willing to take care of your needs. Sounds like MFM, so thats easy enough to fulfill. Nothing better than giving a woman her pleasures, see her glows from being fulfilled . Her humming the rest of the day because she was well taking care of ! IMO

 

[Tayloroc]

I just wish there were a happy medium . Understand her pain if i try to penetrate her, so idont but at least show me some type of love. She says she has no feeling for it. Plus depression meds dont help. SOOO i spend way to much time on lit. Problem is if i dont get a release vey often i just cant focus

I know. I spend hours here. Edging edhing edging

I have. We've had threesomes with his play mates and mine....with his, being women of course...I played along. I really wanted to be turned on by it but was not. Kissing women is nice, I like that, maybe even tonguing and sucking her nipples but sadly, nothing happens down there for me. Nothing. Even women I was attracted to.

What gets me, two men....I am center of attention and feeling the hands on me, their wanton touch.....that gets me.

it gets me too..

 

[gbhl44]

i discovered that my wife has been sleeping around with 2 guys from our church for some time. she has no idea that i found out.

over that time, we have been having less and less sex ... down to once every 2 months or so.

strang thing however ... the sex we have is a lot better than it has been. she is more active and "slutty" when we have sex.

go figure

 

[LeeKee]

Not sexless yet but down to maybe once a week & the same routine every time. Try to deviate from the script & hear “what are you doing” or “don’t do that!!” It’s sad but anymore it is what it is. At last I get to see a real naked woman every now and then.

Wait till it’s once a year, then nothing. It’s fuckin abuse. And she seems “happy”? Cuz she’s gettin it from someone else. If it were reverse role, you’d never hear the end. Total horseshit.

 

[Peaker44Redeux]

Wait till it’s once a year, then nothing. It’s fuckin abuse. And she seems “happy”? Cuz she’s gettin it from someone else. If it were reverse role, you’d never hear the end. Total horseshit.

Sometimes I wonder but as soon as we got married her sexual habits changed!!! I think that’s called entrapment!!!!

 

[JessGabriel]

If we're talking actual intercourse, it's been years. Sexual contact, maybe three times in the last two years. Usually on our anniversary.

 

[magicalmoments]

Wait till it’s once a year, then nothing. It’s fuckin abuse. And she seems “happy”? Cuz she’s gettin it from someone else. If it were reverse role, you’d never hear the end. Total horseshit.

I agree with Lee Kee. I accept that a woman has the right to deny her partner sex but in doing so she is breaking her marriage vow to love and honour her husband. It's actually a form of abuse/cruelty. In my opinion that gives the husband every right to disregard his vow to forsake all others and free him up to look elsewhere. My advice to men who are being denied sex, save up your beer money and treat yourself to a nice young lady like Filipinawife every now and them.

 

[LeeKee]

I agree with Lee Kee. I accept that a woman has the right to deny her partner sex but in doing so she is breaking her marriage vow to love and honour her husband. It's actually a form of abuse/cruelty. In my opinion that gives the husband every right to disregard his vow to forsake all others and free him up to look elsewhere. My advice to men who are being denied sex, save up your beer money and treat yourself to a nice young lady like Filipinawife every now and them.

Save your beer money for retainer fees.

 

[icrwid68]

Been married for almost 28 years. I still have the want. She does not. 3 times in the last 2 years. Makes me wonder if it is me or her.

 

[trevorness]

I do not even remember the last time. Probably more than a year ago. In my dark times recently I have thought I my never have a blowjob or lick a pussy again.

 

[BackwoodsMama]

There are so many missing details that are critical in figuring out what direction would be the most helpful.

If she is willing, go get yourselves a couples therapist who has some background in sex therapy. Or find a sex coach who can help you find your way back to one another.