Sexless marriage

[Tweedledude]

My wife ended our physical relationship more than 15 years ago. Said "It hurts too much, I can't do this anymore." So, we became room mates. Divorce wasn't an option. It's been quite an experience. Our sex life was very good before. Now, she's very sick (cancer). Just remember two things: 1) Life isn't fair, and 2) You're not in control of anything. BTW, I would never marry again (I'm 64).

Absolutely agree

 

[jamiesixtynine2]

I feel for people..men and women in sexless marriages..must be frustrating x

It’s nice to know some people care. I’m stuck after 8yrs and some kids then the faucet turned off and shed rather just watch tv to relax

 

[Tweedledude]

It’s nice to know some people care. I’m stuck after 8yrs and some kids then the faucet turned off and shed rather just watch tv to relax

We care we care allot being stuck in similar situations. But like world peace this is a very difficult situation we didn't see a solution to. I'm just gonna go to the corner and cry some more.

 

[Wetmariner]

I am dating a married woman my age, 80, and she had no sex for decades until we began fucking......I gave her her first orgasm, and I am the first cock she has sucked....

Wow, I guess it never too late for a great sex life. I’m still in a sexless marriage but did have the greatest lover for awhile until I had to move away

 

[muycurioso]

I feel for people..men and women in sexless marriages..must be frustrating x

my sexless turned into divorce, been hard on me. I got the short end of the stick.

 

[muycurioso]

sexless marriage = divorce most of the time. when the intimacy ends so does the love. Some folks do stay together for some reason. But, most sexless marriages = divorce. Mine did. She said, see ya!!! Had a BF the next day. I havent even held a woman s hand in years.

 

[Searchingman]

I just posted about this very topic. Actually, I posted looking for a chat buddy due to my sexless marriage. It's been over 5 years now. If a woman were to drop her pants in front of me right now I would probably faint lol. I really do feel for all who are in this same boat. If anyone would like to talk I'm a good listener.

 

[Bbl87]

sexless marriage = divorce most of the time. when the intimacy ends so does the love. Some folks do stay together for some reason. But, most sexless marriages = divorce. Mine did. She said, see ya!!! Had a BF the next day. I havent even held a woman s hand in years.

In my case, it's because we have kids.

Our marriage isn't literally sexless, but is borderline based on the 12 times a year or less standard. And when we do do it she's usually pretty disinterested.

If it weren't for our kids, I'd probably be considering it now or have already done it.

I've just gotten tired of asking to work on our intimacy and sex lives together, because the answer is always just be patient. We'll, 12 years of patience hasn't paid off yet...

 

[Tweedledude]

In my case, it's because we have kids.

Our marriage isn't literally sexless, but is borderline based on the 12 times a year or less standard. And when we do do it she's usually pretty disinterested.

If it weren't for our kids, I'd probably be considering it now or have already done it.

I've just gotten tired of asking to work on our intimacy and sex lives together, because the answer is always just be patient. We'll, 12 years of patience hasn't paid off yet...

The experiences seem to follow a real comnon thread for those of us that are experiencing this in our marriages. I've often wondered what allows a person being one in a relationship of two to unilaterally decide for both that intimacy is not important. I get the illness factors but.... The idea that the physical and emotional is not important has just caused all kinds of angst disappointment confusion and has just settled into severe resentment. Non of which is good.... Oh well here we are.

 

[nsa3006]

In my case, it's because we have kids.

Our marriage isn't literally sexless, but is borderline based on the 12 times a year or less standard. And when we do do it she's usually pretty disinterested.

If it weren't for our kids, I'd probably be considering it now or have already done it.

I've just gotten tired of asking to work on our intimacy and sex lives together, because the answer is always just be patient. We'll, 12 years of patience hasn't paid off yet...

Im in a similar situation.. having a wife being disinterested in sex while you have a high sex drive and enjoys intimacy sucks bad.. sigh…

 

[nsa3006]

The experiences seem to follow a real comnon thread for those of us that are experiencing this in our marriages. I've often wondered what allows a person being one in a relationship of two to unilaterally decide for both that intimacy is not important. I get the illness factors but.... The idea that the physical and emotional is not important has just caused all kinds of angst disappointment confusion and has just settled into severe resentment. Non of which is good.... Oh well here we are.

Great point.. it we end up being the bad guys if we have needs or think about finding someone else to fulfill that need (not that I have brought anything up)..

 

[JuanVato]

Tough tough stuff

 

[Tweedledude]

Tough tough stuff

Thank goodness for training gym and Coke zero dispensers in convenience stores. Pun inuendo

 

[Moosiah84]

Couple of drinks tonight deciding wether I give in and just join my sleeping wife and turn in, or another drink and keep searching here for a conversation.

 

[eomerson]

Unfortunately it's the same in my house, except the I love you part she never says that anymore
If you ever need someone to talk with about this or anything I'm here, DM me. I'm a good listener and nonjudgmental .

I have said it before...you and I are, unfortunately, in the same boat. Always my best hopes for you.

 

[Dandy96]

I feel for people..men and women in sexless marriages..must be frustrating x

Stacy,

It can be just as tough almost being single without any sexual partners. Gets more difficult as one gets older.

Would love to hear from you. I tried to attach some photos of me but the server said that they were too large. I live in California USA. Very horny. Very sexual. Loved your avatar photo. Is that you?
Dan

 

[LookN2Talk]

I'm in a closed poly relationship. I have a wife and a girlfriend, and we all live under the same roof. You'd think I have more sex than I can handle, wouldn't you? You would be incorrect, though. Neither of them have much interest in sex. I'm lucky if I have an intimate encounter once every two months, and it's often a longer 'dry spell'. I won't go into detail, but suffice it to say I'm frequently in a state of sexual frustration, not to mention touch-starved.

WOW! Is there some crazy reason they are both still there? That makes absolutely no sense right now. There is no way I'd have a live in gf with no sex. She'd be a live out ex gf.

 

[gerrycuck]

I’m in one with boyfriend of about 12 years. He enjoys porn and himself. (And no I’m not fat or ugly, rather the opposite.) Says he’s too old, 71.

Time to find a boyfriend for yourself!!!

 

[Tasman69]

I wouldn't say my marriage is sexless, but very close. Wife's interest in sex has been slowly declining over the years, She admitted to me that she could live without sex. Intercourse for her has become painful, but she has taken care of me but that too has become less frequent.
She used to give me fantastic BJ's weekly, then every 2 weeks, now were at every 3 to 4 weeks. Intercourse in the conventional sense was last year around x-mas time. She does let me screw here analy, but only every 3 or 4 months.
When she's stressing it's near impossible to get intimate with her, and she's stressing over upcoming election.
Guess when next intimate fun might happeni

I hear ya. Same here.

 

[Tasman69]

Its very frustrating but I find my outlet playing with other men and must admit I enjoy it. A lot of men I play with are in sexless marriages also

I met a guy online. Might be getting my first cock.

 

[load69]

I met a guy online. Might be getting my first cock.

Good luck!! I hope you get his cock in your mouth and he gives you a nice load of hot cum too!!! Tell us how it goes.

 

[Thomas_Hardy]

Fifteen years here without. One gets used to it. 'In good and in bad times', I think that is what keeps us committed to each other. I also have come to think, as the years pass by, that sex is overrated. Most of us do live in crazily oversexed societies. And the new appreciation of diversity that the LGBT+ opening has brought helps too in a way, by reminding us to embrace diversity in how we live out our sexualities: It's ok to be asexual for certain season's of one's life.

 

[drobert44]

Its very frustrating but I find my outlet playing with other men and must admit I enjoy it. A lot of men I play with are in sexless marriages also

Same here, unhappy married men with a sex drive and wifey has none.

 

[Easyvirtue]

I had a glimpse into my past last night. I was sitting in my basement bar watching a game and she came to me, hugged me from behind and Al whispered in my ear “make love to me!” I think I came before she got naked LOL! Oh well it did last a little longer than that but I’m sure it’ll be another year before I see her naked body again.

 

[drobert44]

My wife ended our physical relationship more than 15 years ago. Said "It hurts too much, I can't do this anymore." So, we became room mates. Divorce wasn't an option. It's been quite an experience. Our sex life was very good before. Now, she's very sick (cancer). Just remember two things: 1) Life isn't fair, and 2) You're not in control of anything. BTW, I would never marry again (I'm 64).

Exactly, when married, and one is sick, or in the home for $6000/month; you are on the hook.