Sexual Disappointments

[Iwillgo]

Sexless marriage. Bigest Sexual disappoint you'll ever have....

I empathize and relate to this first hand. I get that some women shut down at a certain age, in the case of my wife, she never really showed any sexual energy! Regardless, to expect anyone who enjoys sex, to not have sex is wrong and should not condemn a person to celibacy...the other half who doesn't want sex anymore should allow their partner to go and enjoy, as long as it doesn't create an embarrassing situation...these things can be enjoyed discreetly and allow the other person to enjoy life...we only have one!

 

[SmokingFap]

I would be so bold as to speak for all men when I say that our biggest sexual disappointment is that we're not multiorgasmic like some lucky women.

 

[SmokingFap]

I once got a bj from a female doctor, it was so
painful I almost made her stop. My cock was ripped up like if i fucked a cheese grinder

"Almost", huh?

 

[Capecodguy2023]

"Almost", huh?

I told her To lick my balls which wasn’t painful lol . Amazing she’s a doctor and couldnt Figure out bjs . Unless she was just into giving pain

 

[SmokingFap]

Good thing she didn't give you a prostate exam...

 

[RachelWalsh]

Hmmmm. 2023?

 

[cheetah2]

Good thing she didn't give you a prostate exam...

that's hilarious

 

[Luganis]

I had a very big disappointments. In my 30‘s a coworker and became very good friends and we flirted heavily. She used to tell me what he4 BF or a hock up did. I really wanted to fuck her, but I didn’t want to cheat on my fiance. 15 years after our paths crossed and she started flirting. I was in a sexless marriage, and happened the obvious, one evening we started making out and she was what I almost imagined she was. Later we went to her place, and based on what I remembered of our conversations I did everything she liked, but at the moment of trying to get her to orgasm, and nothing. After ½ hour, nothing. I couldn’t keek on going so I came. She then told me that she rarely orgasms. It was so disappointed, because I was expecting a total slut, and was quite the oposite…

Another disappointment was my first treesome. The 2 girls totally forgot about me, even if I made both cum oraly. It was definitely not fun.

 

[SmokingFap]

I had a very big disappointments. In my 30‘s a coworker and became very good friends and we flirted heavily. She used to tell me what he4 BF or a hock up did. I really wanted to fuck her, but I didn’t want to cheat on my fiance. 15 years after our paths crossed and she started flirting. I was in a sexless marriage, and happened the obvious, one evening we started making out and she was what I almost imagined she was. Later we went to her place, and based on what I remembered of our conversations I did everything she liked, but at the moment of trying to get her to orgasm, and nothing. After ½ hour, nothing. I couldn’t keek on going so I came. She then told me that she rarely orgasms. It was so disappointed, because I was expecting a total slut, and was quite the oposite…

Another disappointment was my first treesome. The 2 girls totally forgot about me, even if I made both cum oraly. It was definitely not fun.

Well, first of all, I don't think you were looking for a slut. I think you were hoping she was a nymphomaniac, which is different. And lots of women have trouble orgasming. It doesn't mean they don't love sex. So if you don't have to make one particular woman orgasm one very specific time, it's not a statement about either you or her. Just be thankful you got to fulfill your fantasy and enjoy the memory!

 

[Luganis]

Well, first of all, I don't think you were looking for a slut. I think you were hoping she was a nymphomaniac, which is different. And lots of women have trouble orgasming. It doesn't mean they don't love sex. So if you don't have to make one particular woman orgasm one very specific time, it's not a statement about either you or her. Just be thankful you got to fulfill your fantasy and enjoy the memory!

You’re right. I messed the terms. The thing is that she described herself as a nymphomaniac, so that’s what I expected. I know that people (men and women) may have trouble orgasming. The problem is that she created some false expectations which she recognized after. We are friends, but we rarely have sex (she’s not into giving BJ, and to me is as important the pleasure of my sex partner as mine), though we love to make out like teens…

 

[SmokingFap]

You’re right. I messed the terms. The thing is that she described herself as a nymphomaniac, so that’s what I expected. I know that people (men and women) may have trouble orgasming. The problem is that she created some false expectations which she recognized after. We are friends, but we rarely have sex (she’s not into giving BJ, and to me is as important the pleasure of my sex partner as mine), though we love to make out like teens…

Seems to me that you're both learning as much about yourselves as each other. Just enjoy such a wonderful friend, even if the sex isn't Nobel Prize worthy. I'm sure she appreciates your love and understanding more than your cock...

 

[CuMex1]

Being together with a woman for the first time who I had longed to be with and she smelled terrible down there.

 

[stiv837]

One of my biggest disappointments was about thirty years ago. I was flirting with a married woman who had quite a reputation as a wild slut. When I finally convinced her to come to my house after hours of talking everyday on the phone while her husband was working , I had convinced myself that having sex with her would be like something out of a porn movie. She came to my house and spent about six hours mostly watching television. The sex we did have was the most boring I have ever experienced. It was like being with a mannequin. I was so happy when she finally decided to go home . Even her letting me cum in her mouth and her swallowing , wasn't exciting. Of course maybe she thought the same about me.

 

[pace_purr]

One of the most sexually disappointing things that happened to my wife was a handsome well endowed guy we arranged to join us had a problem with premature ejaculation no matter how many times she tried to have sex with him the best that he ever managed was to fully penetrate her before shooting his load normally he’d cum as soon as his cock touched her.

 

[StrongMaster7]

In college, I had what could have been the ultimate fantasy come true. There was a very sexy young woman who had the hots for me! She actually kind of stalked me. She was short and shapely with HUGE tits, a dreamgirl for me. When we finally had a chance, we kissed passionately. I got my hands on those huge tits and they did not disappoint. I went down on her and gave a couple of big orgasms.

Then it was her turn to go down on me. She muttered something about "not being Linda Lovelace" and proceeded to do a terrible job of sucking my cock. She was timid and hesitant and not skilled. I tried to encourage her, but she just stopped after a minute or two and we fucked. She was willing and we eventually fucked in several positions, which was fun. But she was really passive and not that sexual.

Again, just because someone looks like your sexual ideal, doesn't mean they are sexual at all!

 

[Dreamer110]

One of the most sexually disappointing things that happened to my wife was a handsome well endowed guy we arranged to join us had a problem with premature ejaculation no matter how many times she tried to have sex with him the best that he ever managed was to fully penetrate her before shooting his load normally he’d cum as soon as his cock touched her.

Lol. My wife had the same problem the first time with her fwb. But he begged for another chance and he didn't disappoint. Far from it.

 

[slavemelanie]

I'm going with "every sexual experience ever" with my ex-husband. I'm not being mean. He was just... not particularly creative and didn't let me be creative and I feel like we just kind of laid there a lot.
Him: Is it in?
Me: Does it feel like it's in?
Him: Everything is so wet, I really don't know.
Me: Check with your hand. That's my asshole.
Him: Sorry.
Me: You can keep going...
Him: Ew. Wait, that's your bush.
Me: I waxed this morning. That's YOUR bush. But thanks for noticing.
Him: ... yeah it's in.
Me: ...
Him: ...
Me: Are you gonna like, move or something?
Him: I was kinda hoping you'd do that.
Me: Have you ever tried to ride a dick while being fully laid-upon by the owner of said dick?
Him: You can't wiggle your pelvis or something?
Me: What fictional muscles do you think I have? Just fuck me already. Or at least pull my hair.
Him: ... but like, I'm really comfortable.
Me: Hey. Is it still wet down there?
Him: Let me check... yeah, yeah still wet.
Me: Pfft. I don't fucking know why.

So sad but absolutely relatable...it's pretty darn important to have a compatible sexual partner before you commit.

 

[saintcero]

No cumming could be an issue for me. I found a Top that wants to meet me. He can host and he has a nice cock too. He is just a short drive from me too. Sounds great but he has already mentioned that he can no longer cum. I guess I will decide how much that matters to me after we get together the first time.

 

[servant_heart]

Only one I can recall clearly was being in a hotel I'd gone to with a woman specifically for sex. The room neighbours played the game and we could hear them fucking through the wall in the morning, I was naturally hard and turned on by it and ready to make plenty of noise of our own but she was like meh, too early for me, let's listen to the radio instead.

I wanked myself off. I mean what else could you do?

Pardon the new addition to this old post, but I also had a similar experience. My husband and I went on a trip for our 10th anniversary and the couple next door were fucking so hard and so loud. He just lay there. I said to him, does this not turn you on?? He said oh yeah of course, but I could tell it didn't really. We fell asleep and they just kept fucking all night. The next morning they woke up and started fighting but that quickly turned into some rough sex. I couldn't listen any longer before I had my hand in my panties while he just.. slept.

 

[cdstefi]

Pardon the new addition to this old post, but I also had a similar experience. My husband and I went on a trip for our 10th anniversary and the couple next door were fucking so hard and so loud. He just lay there. I said to him, does this not turn you on?? He said oh yeah of course, but I could tell it didn't really. We fell asleep and they just kept fucking all night. The next morning they woke up and started fighting but that quickly turned into some rough sex. I couldn't listen any longer before I had my hand in my panties while he just.. slept.

It's something I can't really comprehend, people not getting turned on by hearing other people fucking. I just have to hear a bed creaking or moaning sex noises and I'm instantly erect.

Also, your tenth anniversary FFS. Guy should have put a bit more effort in!

 

[servant_heart]

It's funny how many people have mentioned disappointing blowjobs. Add me to the list. I know that every other act may be disappointing depending on partner, mood, physical condition, intake of alcohol, etc, etc. But I go into most acts with optimism and open-mindedness. Not so with blowjobs - even with my wife, who isn't bad. Basically, I expect every blowjob I receive to be disappointing, or 'average' at best, and I can count the really good ones on the fingers of one hand.

Full disclosure: before I get accused of bitching like a good ol' chauvinist, I do my damnedest to give oral pleasure to the women I end up in the sack with, and though I doubt I provide satisfaction every time, I would say that I almost certainly give better than I get.

I am also very shocked to read so many posts about bad blowjobs! Cock worship is one of my favorite things and I really dont understand how more women can't see the beauty in turning a soft cock in your mouth into a raging hard one. Grabbing at my hair and fucking my face out of need. Choke me, fuck my mouth, hold me down to savor the feeling. I don't understand how women are so bad at this! Hearing about men who haven't had a decent blowjob really makes me want to right the wrong.

I wonder what men really say about mine? Do you guys tell them they did a great job even if it was bad?

 

[servant_heart]

It's something I can't really comprehend, people not getting turned on by hearing other people fucking. I just have to hear a bed creaking or moaning sex noises and I'm instantly erect.

Also, your tenth anniversary FFS. Guy should have put a bit more effort in!

no kidding. This year we made 17, so stupid me is still here but I gave up on getting what I needed from him YEARS ago.

 

[Wonderer67]

I would be so bold as to speak for all men when I say that our biggest sexual disappointment is that we're not multiorgasmic like some lucky women.

It may not be your thing, but if you have ever had a prostate orgasm, you can cum over and over and over again.

 

[cdstefi]

I am also very shocked to read so many posts about bad blowjobs! Cock worship is one of my favorite things and I really dont understand how more women can't see the beauty in turning a soft cock in your mouth into a raging hard one. Grabbing at my hair and fucking my face out of need. Choke me, fuck my mouth, hold me down to savor the feeling. I don't understand how women are so bad at this! Hearing about men who haven't had a decent blowjob really makes me want to right the wrong.

I wonder what men really say about mine? Do you guys tell them they did a great job even if it was bad?

I don't think many guys would be so insensitive as to say a woman's no good at it to her face, but I guess you can gauge it by how often they come back for more. I think guys can be variable as to what they like though, what works for one may not suit another. I'm not crazy about being deepthroated for instance but I like a hand jerking my shaft while all the oral attention is on my head.

 

[Crownvic]

So sad but absolutely relatable...it's pretty darn important to have a compatible sexual partner before you commit.

This sounds like “who is on first”.....