Sexually aggressive women

[BiTodd]

I was very vanilla and only ever been with just my husband. I'd say I was more submissive for lack of experience. When my husband brought up sharing me and cuckolding that's when things began to change. With him turning submissive I started feeling dominate and aggressive.
With my husband I'm really aggressive with him. It has really opened up other parts of my life besides just sexual.
My husband wouldn't know what to do if I wasn't giving him instructions. I get my pussy eaten as often as I want. Part of his duty as a little cuck boy.
He also always wanted to try eating his own cum. He could never achieve this because as soon as he climaxed he lost interest and it wasn't arousing then.
Well, when the cuckolding started that was the first problem I fixed. I'd let him cum in my mouth and I would kiss it back to him in a very long kiss. Now no matter when he cums, he eats it whether it's with me or with him masterbating.
He's also taken care of his curiosity for sucking another mans cock. He loves sucking cock and having his suck buddy feed him. I also have a lover. However he isn't really into the whole bi cuckold thing, but my husband cleans me when I come home. He gets more cum than most girls.
That is what I do as a sexually aggressive woman. I'm in control and he prefers that.

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I would love to be your husband. ughnnnn!

 

[MILFSauce]

I think the dom/sub thing is hotter when you act out the opposite of your normal personality

Interesting point.

 

[sereneone4u]

That's a very good distinction to make. I don't think being sexually assertive has much if anything to do with dominance or submission.

I'm sexually submissive, too. But you'll never know that until we're in the bedroom, because it's not an outward part of my personality.

I think it does.

There are nuances in domination and submission which I think includes assertiveness.

Just from my limited experience.

 

[WishItsTrue_TG]

I've had mixed reactions. Instead of philosophizing:
A "friend" (strictly friend) who, out of the blue, began to grind me during a dance. That resulted in a determined and highly motivated search for a motel, and a LT relationship afterwards.

A bi domme in a Les relationship, for an on and off relationship. That resulted in only body-worship and fun for her ordering me around. I was Very happy to have her lead me around by the nose.

A domme who would occasionally show up in the clubs, and disappear for weeks and months, only to reappear. That resulted in vanilla sex the first night, that stretched out into the morning, and neither of us could walk. Thereafter, F/m for mild stuff, and one switch scene, M/f, and a lot of phone talks.
With both these, they stopped to visit a clique I was part of, and I made them laugh when we talked. After I made them laugh and we talked a while, they initiated and I happily followed. Enthusiastically.

A pro domme from Montreal visiting NYC. When I first saw her, she was talking to a Hasidic guy in an SM club, and I sat down to wait until she finished. Hasidic guys were very rare, and I guess she was just curious about him. She hauled off and slapped the guy in the face. He must have been a houseboy or up for petticoat discipline, because he went berserk. I cut in from the side and chased him away, and sat back down. She crooked her finger, calling me over. After a little talking, it turned out we got along. That was 3 days of body-worship, after a little testing with verbal domination, and taking her damn dog for a walk before and after. That was free fun for three days just because I save her a problem. I guess it was a barter arrangement, services for services, and a dog walk for a tip.

The woman I married let me know she wanted to go out, after which she turned as shy as a church mouse. Getting her to talk was like pulling teeth.

On The Other Hand:

Two pickup in supermarkets. I turned into a 13 yo boy and ran away scared.
I've greyed out of it now, but I was kind of ripped. ("Mommy, look at the muscles on that man.) Jogged. Heavy duty stuff, with 10 lb. Heavy Hands. No shirt in summer. I've had women in cars stop for whistles......I punked out. Smiled, waved, and kept running like my life depended upon it. I guess the difference was the settings. When the atmosphere contained sexual tension, and everybody was aware of it, I was prepared and up for it. When it caught me by surprise in an asexual setting, I retreated scared.

I think the previous post by knottygirl, "I'm aggressively seductive. I don't usually initiate first contact, but I will invite it," covers a lot of situations. They're gatekeepers, who decide when they want to play, and action starts when a women decides a guy is worthwhile. She signals, "It's alright. You can approach me." There's an old saying, "Men chase women, until she catches him."

But it doesn't matter. It's like a tennis match, after the initial serve, it's a volley back and forth, each person taking a turn a putting the ball back into play. What does it matter who makes the first serve, the fun for everybody is in the volley. If a woman serves first, the volley just gets started sooner.

But I think Rox88, "Men fear sexually aggressive woman just like they fear any women who aren't shackled to the kitchen sink," can only claim partial accuracy. 70% of the time she's right. There's a fun part of the time she's wrong. I'd suggest sampling a larger sample size.

A PS Edit to emma_the_librarian below. I've always been a big fan of the piece of advise, "The More, The Merrier." If a guy is up for the top role, that's just more ways to have fun. If the guy takes the lead, he can be THE RING_MASTER, and decide which of the "rings" gets the spot-light next. If he can get the women to climax more than once during a session - Big Ego Boost. Every time you get her to come, you can pat yourself on the back and think, "I am Soooo Goooood at This!" If the guy takes the lead, that's a chance to shine and get your ego pumped up. That's a time for, "The More, The Merrier!"

 

[Typeropewalker]

I'm a big fan of strong, confident, self aware women. Women who know what they want and like but are aware of what I want and what I like. It's the trade off, the give and take, the shift balance of power, control between two people.

Well that and getting a blow job without asking.

 

[neiljames74]

I really love sexually aggressive women. I find it very attractive when a women is sexually confident, knows what she wants, and goes about getting it.

It's not necessarily a question of being submissive.. Although that can be pretty hot too. For me, sexual submission is as much about submitting to yourself, as submitting to another.

 

[emma_the_librarian]

I'm sexually aggressive in the process of getting sex..but I tend to be submissive once I get the guy...

 

[Aamazing1]

Aggressive

How do you men feel about women who are sexually aggressive and openly express their desire for sex? Do you like it? Or do you prefer to be the one to make the first move?

Ladies, how do you feel about being sexually aggressive? Do you like being the one to initiate sex? Will you approach a man you don't know? Would you ask him out? And if it's a man you know and have never gone to bed with, but now you want to, will you make the first move to get him into bed?

A sexually aggressive woman usually is attractive when she's calculated, confident and when she times it right. Men like to chase --so she can't come off as desperate or come off as too eager.

 

[Cobra6813]

I absolutely love assertive women. It is such a turn on when I am being pursued and you know there is no doubt where we'll end up....

My wife and I are swingers and when we're out at one of the events, women tend to be much more assertive than in vanilla life....i had a super hot blond come up to me at an event with 200+ couples, she proceeds to tell me I am the hottest guy there.....I was on top of the world???I made sure not to disappoint her

God, I love assertive women !

 

[BongoGal]

I've been aggressive and submissive and all points in between. The times I've been aggressive have often been when I had reason to believe that the guy I was interested in wasn't going to make 'the first move' for whatever reason. I always like to see that look in their eyes when they suddenly realize that they might actually be getting laid soon.

 

[Touch_72]

I love sexually aggressive women.

They're not only in touch with their own desires and hunger for it (in touch with their natural sexuality), but they're willing to show it... in words and/or acts.

Come after me and it's going to floor my own pedals, igniting my own fires.

 

[MasterDave123]

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[sereneone4u]

I won't pursue a man. However if a man that I have interest in pursues me and I will respond assertively.

 

[merryohmd]

I like assertive women but I don't think assertive mean dominating. I think assertive is seeing what you want and suggesting through word or action that you are going to get it. I think my partner should be assertive sometimes and that I should be assertive at sometimes. It also includes telling me what you want.

 

[dirtycarol]

I've been sexually aggressive on occasion and from what I remember, those guys loved it! It's not my normal way though.

 

[klippert]

How do you men feel about women who are sexually aggressive and openly express their desire for sex? Do you like it? Or do you prefer to be the one to make the first move?

Ladies, how do you feel about being sexually aggressive? Do you like being the one to initiate sex? Will you approach a man you don't know? Would you ask him out? And if it's a man you know and have never gone to bed with, but now you want to, will you make the first move to get him into bed?

I have no problem..always attracted to those woman who weren't afraid to say what they wanted....Mrs K is aggressive...passive then aggressive. IT's hot... Unless your like my ex-wife...very aggressive sexually...even took it to the bar, ended up fucking and sucking in the backseat of our car....and it wasn't me she was fucking

I had to take an extensive CPR, and field Medic training for a job, that involved Hi'voltage and being miles in the back-country.
There was a lady working and finishing up her AED. We hit is off pretty good. rather flirty....then one day in the Class....the instructor was finishing up. I felt her tap me on shoulder.
I looked back and smiled...class was still quiet...she mouthed....."I want to give you head"...
I fucking luv'd it. and the head was great...

 

[Asshungry]

I love a sexually aggressive woman. Contrary to popular belief we are not mind readers. My wife is not aggressive at all, she always waits for me to initiate things. Even when she is burning with desire she won't initiate anything sexual. Then she gets upset fi I don't figure out she is horny. I once dated a girl that would throw you against the wall, pull your pants down and fuck your brains out. And she really didn't care where you were at the time. It was very hot and exciting.

 

[avidwriter]

I prefer women this way actually.

 

[shark968]

I love a sexually aggressive woman. They seem to be rare and hard to find. I've really only known one in my life. She was very aggressive for many years... had a few children and not so much any more. Life can be very busy.

 

[SunKistSkin]

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[njgirl0863]

The only way to get what you want is to speak up and/or go after it

 

[reaktor]

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[WantonSavage]

Would absolutely love to meet a sexually aggressive woman, but I haven't as of yet. I seem to end up with very nice, polite, submissive women. Doesn't mean I haven stopped looking!

 

[Eclectic2012]

Sexually aggressive women usually possess a self-confidence that is very erotic and sensual. So, yeah...I love it.

 

[chimike]

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