Sexually aggressive women

[Sheana_V]

I'm a little surprised by all the affirmatives in this thread.

I have actually tried walking up to a stranger and saying something like "Hey, let's go have sex right now", and there's usually a lot of him not immediately following me. I think there is a limit to how aggressive before it turns a guys brain off.

That's a really obvious example, but there are countless times where being sexually aggressive has been met with indifference. One thing I've learned is that men aren't the "ready to fuck" sex machines they seem to think they are.

 

[southern_gal]

When I was single and out with friends I saw oodles of guys that I would have loved to have made the first move with but simply never got the nerve. With my husband I will often make a move without doing much at all. Wearing something that I know will get his attention or something like that. Other times I might simply take the remote away from him and tell him it's time to give me the same attention. It would be fun I think to be single and make the first move on a guy but still not sure I could get the nerve to do it.

 

[MILFSauce]

I'm a little surprised by all the affirmatives in this thread.

I have actually tried walking up to a stranger and saying something like "Hey, let's go have sex right now", and there's usually a lot of him not immediately following me. I think there is a limit to how aggressive before it turns a guys brain off.

That's a really obvious example, but there are countless times where being sexually aggressive has been met with indifference. One thing I've learned is that men aren't the "ready to fuck" sex machines they seem to think they are.

And I think you're absolutely right .. LOL. Since I started this thread I've been getting a nice laugh out of it.

But shhhhhh. We won't reveal their secret

 

[vibes]

One thing I've learned is that men aren't the "ready to fuck" sex machines they seem to think they are.

Most men don't like to admit to themselves, let alone to the other men, how sophisticated their sex machine is ... you know, the alpha thing and all

 

[msub50some]

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[MILFSauce]

Most men don't like to admit to themselves, let alone to the other men, how sophisticated their sex machine is ... you know, the alpha thing and all

Oh, we like the alpha thing, too

 

[claimsguy]

I love sexually aggressive women. Ones that know what they want and aren't afraid to tell you. That that mindset usually comes with age is OK with me, as mature women are a huge turn.

 

[NaughtyinVegas]

I'm very flirtatious and suggestive, but don't generally consider myself aggressive unless I know there is a mutual interest.

In bed, i can go either way. I enjoy both.

I've always enjoyed the cat and mouse seduction of a new partner. Probably because of that gene in men that makes us think we have to conquer something in order to enjoy it

However, after an on-going sexual relationship develops, it's definitely fun when she decides to take the initiative and mix things up a little. All of my ex-gf's that reversed things every now and then all said that they felt "safe" with me.

So safe that they were willing to be very, very naughty sometimes.

Like telling me to rent a movie and come over to their place at a certain time for a quiet Friday night dinner and arriving right on time to find them butt naked, slathered in baby oil from head to toe and playing with a dildo on the couch. Or telling me to come up to their office because they have something to give me and then making me take off my clothes and be their foot-stool for twenty minutes before they turned submissive again and let me conquer them from behind in front of their office window.

As has been revealed in this thread, men don't always respond well to sexually aggressive strangers they've just met. However, most respond very well to a partner who surprises him with a pair of handcuffs, a sexy new dress or pair of shoes and a twinkle in her eye.

 

[msub50some]

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[StrongMaster7]

A sexually aggressive woman is rare to non-existent in my experience. That's the reason so many men are just cavemen-types. They get tired of having to guess which woman might actually be up for some sex, so they just go up and ask, which puts most women off.

I wish women would do what polite men do, walk up to a woman and offer a direct compliment. "Wow, you have a great smile." "How tall are you? I find tall men attractive." "That's a great shirt." "You smell really nice."

There are few things worse than hearing, after the fact, that a woman liked you. I don't read minds!

I have been shut down so many times simply asking a woman to dance at a club.

It is hard to have to be the one who pursues all the time. Ladies, please consider meeting us half-way.

I have heard of, but never actually seen, women who go out 'on the prowl' for 'sportfucking'. This is rarer than a bluebird in winter.

That is why I love the internet. On Lit I have actually gotten a few messages from women who directly compliment my writing or some thought I shared in a post. I guess the safety of not being face to face is a huge factor.

End of rant.

 

[Edensgarden]

I've always enjoyed the cat and mouse seduction of a new partner. Probably because of that gene in men that makes us think we have to conquer something in order to enjoy it

However, after an on-going sexual relationship develops, it's definitely fun when she decides to take the initiative and mix things up a little. All of my ex-gf's that reversed things every now and then all said that they felt "safe" with me.

So safe that they were willing to be very, very naughty sometimes.

Like telling me to rent a movie and come over to their place at a certain time for a quiet Friday night dinner and arriving right on time to find them butt naked, slathered in baby oil from head to toe and playing with a dildo on the couch. Or telling me to come up to their office because they have something to give me and then making me take off my clothes and be their foot-stool for twenty minutes before they turned submissive again and let me conquer them from behind in front of their office window.

As has been revealed in this thread, men don't always respond well to sexually aggressive strangers they've just met. However, most respond very well to a partner who surprises him with a pair of handcuffs, a sexy new dress or pair of shoes and a twinkle in her eye.

I'm naughty all of the time....and I do mean all of the time.

 

[msub50some]

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[Lance_GoodThrus]

How do you men feel about women who are sexually aggressive and openly express their desire for sex? Do you like it? Or do you prefer to be the one to make the first move?

Ladies, how do you feel about being sexually aggressive? Do you like being the one to initiate sex? Will you approach a man you don't know? Would you ask him out? And if it's a man you know and have never gone to bed with, but now you want to, will you make the first move to get him into bed?

For me, a sexually aggressive woman is incredible sexy. I mean, I've certainly been the aggressor a lot and have made the first move, but it's nice to have the lady make the first move sometimes. I will admit that it's good for the ego to feel 'wanted' and it's pretty assured that I won't be saying 'no'.

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

I'm a little surprised by all the affirmatives in this thread.

I have actually tried walking up to a stranger and saying something like "Hey, let's go have sex right now", and there's usually a lot of him not immediately following me. I think there is a limit to how aggressive before it turns a guys brain off.

That's a really obvious example, but there are countless times where being sexually aggressive has been met with indifference. One thing I've learned is that men aren't the "ready to fuck" sex machines they seem to think they are.

Maybe those guys had wives or girlfriends.

 

[bookworm69]

I have an extreme fondness for mature sexually aggressive women, since the best partner that I ever had was in her 40s and I was in my early 20s, and for the most part, she was in charge -- and I loved it.

 

[john_johnson]

I like sexually aggressive women because they are confident. I think when both people come in knowing what they want the sex is amazing.

 

[NaughtyinVegas]

I'm naughty all of the time....and I do mean all of the time.

You just gave me a big ... smile ;-)

 

[perhygurl19]

On another note, I saw a few of your posts and this one caught my eye because I completely agree and I am all for female equality. Men are very controlling in every other aspect of life but when it comes to sex they are willing to give up control? Have you ever read "Letter from Shana" by James Pendergass? It's one of my favorite stories mainly because the woman takes control of the relationship and has her husband do many chores that are considered "feminine". I also love his colorful use of words. If you have some time you should check it out, I would love to hear what you thought of it.

I enjoy your way of thinking, I too consider myself a very open minded female and I would love to collaborate with you on something at one point. Also, if you have any similar femdom stories that you enjoyed I would love to read.

 

[knottygirl]

My signature move in high school was to pretend to be drunk. It almost never failed.

 

[wordsNguitars]

Having been a really shy, inexperienced guy when I got out of college and entered my early/mid 20's, I became a big fan of an aggressive/assertive woman... I allowed myself to be seduced, to become the lover of several older, married women, who (cliche alert!) did teach me a lot about being a lover and a man... but while they were "aggressive", what I loved (and still do) the most wasn't just that they were forward, but they would be so open and honest about their wants, needs, desires... what it took to please them... no searching, no games, just "this is how I work, let's see if we can do this together"...

*daydreams*

 

[Tsotha]

Maybe those guys had wives or girlfriends.

Maybe they thought she was luring them to the bathroom to steal their kidneys.

Also. If you're going to be "sexually aggressive", it does help if you know what you're doing. Hint: using the male equivalent of sticking your cock out and saying: "who wants some?!" probably isn't a very good one-liner.

 

[STRC]

I'm naughty all of the time....and I do mean all of the time.

And here I thought I was the only one........

 

[wntn2try]

In Favor

Personally, I'm a fan of a sexually aggressive lady. Intelligence and strength are attractive qualities to me, so is a woman who knows what she wants. If we say we are all equal then why would an aggressive lady be so wrong ?
I take direction well, and then I like my turn to be the aggressor. Mutual satisfaction is my goal.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

I've always used seduction to lure a potential partner into sex. Seduction in of itself is making the first move. Some things guys and sometimes ladies can't resist. Seduction is an art, one that any woman should try to master.

Once I have you where I want you, I do as I please. I don't ask if I can suck your cock or sit on your face, I just do it. In the end, everyone is happy

 

[AHornyMilf]

Spoken by a woman who truly knows what she wants....a sexual dynamo...lol