Shave down there - for women

[SweetCupcake]

Which razor do you use?

I after care.... twice a day And I still get ingrowns

I have used several different kinds (none electric) and the secret for me is use a brand new, super sharp one every time with 3-4 blades (e.g. quattro). And you are right -- aftercare and exfoliation are a big help to keep super smooth and avoid bumps or ingrowns.

On another related subject, I have always wanted a (manually dextrous) hot guy to shave me. Somebody here mentioned that for the awkward places, but I think it is very sensuous. Has anyone had that?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[padiguy]

Dumb Guy Questions...

I'll just ask these dumb guy questions and get the ribbing over.

(1) Waxing. When a woman gets a wax, doesn't she need to remove her panties? If so, I am definitely in the wrong profession!

(2) Nair. I cannot imagine putting a razor to pussy lips as sensitive as they are. Why not use Nair in the shower and simply wash away unwanted hair?

Personally, I much prefer a neatly trimmed bush. Just say'n...

 

[SweetCupcake]

I'll just ask these dumb guy questions and get the ribbing over.

(1) Waxing. When a woman gets a wax, doesn't she need to remove her panties? If so, I am definitely in the wrong profession!

(2) Nair. I cannot imagine putting a razor to pussy lips as sensitive as they are. Why not use Nair in the shower and simply wash away unwanted hair?

Personally, I much prefer a neatly trimmed bush. Just say'n...

No such thing as a dumb question (especially if you are a man and want to know about women):

(1) Yes, she does. But that wasn't really a question, was it?

(2) Ouch for Nair. That is a harsh chemical. I wouldn't put it near my pussy. Or anywhere.

It's always good to ask.

 

[rustywilliams]

I'm astonished to read about all this suffering. If it's that uncomfortable, why the hell not leave it alone?
I can see that it might make sense to trim it if you're so hairy it looks like a wild animal, but to go to all this trouble just to please guys who want their woman to look like pre-pubescent girl seems strange.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny

This question gets asked a lot and has been answered with many helpful comments, links, and products. The best advice would be to look at the blank manual posted at the top of the page, and to use the search feature and look for "shaving" and various other terms for genital grooming.

If all else fails, post a picture and we'll walk you through it ...

^^^----------^^^^^ SEARCH.^-------^^^^^^

Posting photos also helps.

 

[MeekMe]

I'm astonished to read about all this suffering. If it's that uncomfortable, why the hell not leave it alone?
I can see that it might make sense to trim it if you're so hairy it looks like a wild animal, but to go to all this trouble just to please guys who want their woman to look like pre-pubescent girl seems strange.

Women look like women regardless of the amount of hair on their crotch. Do men look like pre-pubescent boys when they remove their pubic hair? Not every woman out there shaving is doing it to impress men, some of us prefer it for ourselves.

 

[rustywilliams]

Women look like women regardless of the amount of hair on their crotch. Do men look like pre-pubescent boys when they remove their pubic hair? Not every woman out there shaving is doing it to impress men, some of us prefer it for ourselves.

I was over-stating the case, for sure, but I just think if it is unpleasant, uncomfortable, or painful then folks should just relax and let it be.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[fire_breeze]

I'm astonished to read about all this suffering. If it's that uncomfortable, why the hell not leave it alone?
I can see that it might make sense to trim it if you're so hairy it looks like a wild animal, but to go to all this trouble just to please guys who want their woman to look like pre-pubescent girl seems strange.

Because it's the woman's choice to do whatever she hell wants to do with her body. That's the beauty of feminism: your body, your choice.

If it's done well, a professional wax or any type of hair removal isn't very painful (if at all), no more painful than shaving, or working out. The stories about suffering are the results of incompetence or lack of experience or finding a technique that works for the person getting hair removed.

Most women determine what they do with their body hair in correlation to their individual preferences and perhaps with input from their partner(s) (which often goes both ways by the way). It has nothing to do with primarily pleasing guys, but rather pleasing themselves.

I do what I want with my body regardless of my partner or whether or not I have one at the moment. I will take his preferences into consideration, to a point. I may alter slightly, if it's not too extreme in my opinion, just the same as I would extend that courtesy to my partner: it's his body, he does what he wants with it. He may take my preferences into consideration. Most women are the same. It's my body, and I do what I see fit, and if that includes complete hair removal, partial, or none at all, that's my decision to make.

It may seem strange to you, it's not strange to the woman doing it, and to those women (and men) who removed hair for thousands of years.

 

[SweetCupcake]

It just keeps making me giggle thAt someone called rusty is postinh, it makes me think of a rusty blade

Haha -- you made me laugh with that! True.

 

[srgreene]

I have used several different kinds (none electric) and the secret for me is use a brand new, super sharp one every time with 3-4 blades (e.g. quattro). And you are right -- aftercare and exfoliation are a big help to keep super smooth and avoid bumps or ingrowns.

On another related subject, I have always wanted a (manually dextrous) hot guy to shave me. Somebody here mentioned that for the awkward places, but I think it is very sensuous. Has anyone had that?

I simply don't understand the modern fascination with shaving the pubic area- the only people it seems to me who would benefit would be female porn stars. All the work of waxing, and I don't see it as any more benefit than a nice bush. FTR, I kept mine lightly trimmed, just so it didn't show in a bathing suit. But then again, after I had a baby, I even stopped shaving my legs (not sure there was any real connection there, but that's the way it happened- my husband didn't mind, and men continued to hit on me hairy legs and all). Maybe not having a lot of body hair to begin with guided my decisions on the matter.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I agree

I love pubic hair. Call me old-fashioned, but it is, after all, one of the things that makes a woman a woman.

 

[MeekMe]

Pubic hair does not make a woman a woman. ;; wtf? If this isn't your preference then move along. The people that want this info are clearly here for a reason and that reason doesn't need anyone else's approval.

 

[Olderthanthat]

It's the woman's choice to do whatever she hell wants to do with her body. That's the beauty of feminism: your body, your choice. To be sure.

The stories about suffering are the results of incompetence or lack of experience or finding a technique that works for the person getting hair removed. Not according to the medical literature, which is replete with warnings and advices as to treatments.

Most women determine what they do with their body hair in correlation to their individual preferences and perhaps with input from their partner(s) (which often goes both ways by the way). It has nothing to do with primarily pleasing guys, but rather pleasing themselves. Since the 1970's, the depilatory industry has expended billions of dollars "educating" women (and men) as to what they should deem pleasing and hygienic.

I do what I see fit, and if that includes complete hair removal, partial, or none at all, that's my decision to make. Absolutely.

It may seem strange to you, it's not strange to the woman doing it, and to those women (and men) who removed hair for thousands of years. Prior to the industry's astonishingly successful marketing campaign, skillfully tied to put-downs of the women's movement, few, women or men, removed their pubic hair.

For your consideration.

 

[MeekMe]

Clearly we just aren't thinking about this rationally. We've been brainwashed and if we just break free we can all go be natural and happy and stop sharing our hair removal tips.

Seriously, various forms of hair removal have been happening around the world as far back as ancient Egypt. Hair trends differ from time to time and place to place. You've heard of the merkin, right? We really don't need anyone to come and tell us about the dangers or that we're only doing it because an industry advertised it to us. If you can't see how trying to push your preferences for leaving things be in a thread about hair removal is just like someone trying to shame another for not removing hair, then I don't know what to tell you.

We don't need permission or approval to grow our pubic hair. If we really wanted to keep it we wouldn't be here sharing ways to remove it and avoid "the dangers" of removal. Does anyone comment and tell men to just stop shaving when they talk about the process of shaving their beards (or any other part of their body) and trying to prevent razor burn?

 

[SweetCupcake]

Yes, my husband shaves me reasonably often.

Oh -- so nice! This sounds very sexy and intimate to me.

I am thinking I would have to wait until some time after the first date to broach the subject of him shaving me. . . . right? Wondering if any men think this is interesting? Sexy?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

It seems practical to me: He gets a better view . It's also kind because he also prefers natural most of the time and we found compromise that works for us both.

I think it depends on the relationship. It became apparent to my husband there was extreme depilation of some sort going on the first time we slept together; obviously. It hadn't been a topic of conversation before. Other partners took it as standard. My husband doesn't object but he would certainly not be keen for me to have a 'permanent' hair removal method.

This would not be practical for me. It doesn't seem comfortable for someone else to use razors near my bits. I also react terribly to shaving and prefer pulling the hair out, it just wouldn't translate well as pulling typically requires a skill he hasn't practiced.

I used to compromise by leaving some because he prefers it. That in itself was more difficult than just taking it all off because then I had to worry about keeping it even. I just do everything now because it's easy and after doing it for so long it doesn't really bother me. He's not concerned as long as I'm content.

 

[fire_breeze]

For your consideration.

It's the woman's choice to do whatever she hell wants to do with her body. That's the beauty of feminism: your body, your choice. To be sure.

The stories about suffering are the results of incompetence or lack of experience or finding a technique that works for the person getting hair removed. Not according to the medical literature, which is replete with warnings and advices as to treatments.

Most women determine what they do with their body hair in correlation to their individual preferences and perhaps with input from their partner(s) (which often goes both ways by the way). It has nothing to do with primarily pleasing guys, but rather pleasing themselves. Since the 1970's, the depilatory industry has expended billions of dollars "educating" women (and men) as to what they should deem pleasing and hygienic.

I do what I see fit, and if that includes complete hair removal, partial, or none at all, that's my decision to make. Absolutely.

It may seem strange to you, it's not strange to the woman doing it, and to those women (and men) who removed hair for thousands of years. Prior to the industry's astonishingly successful marketing campaign, skillfully tied to put-downs of the women's movement, few, women or men, removed their pubic hair.

Some medical literature, such as written by Hackley and Kriebs, Glass or Robbins, indicates that there has been some increase in folliculitis, which can lead to an abscess or in worst case scenarios, a staph infection. However, if one actually reads said literature, these infections are actually caused by unhygienic practices, dirty tools and improper aftercare. Additionally, the increase hasn't been exponential: it has been only an 2% increase (Rowen, Awad, et al. 2016).
What, if one actually reads said medical literature, the warnings are filled with are unhygienic practices and haste. Minor complications, which includes nicks, and slight razor burns, are common, but no more common than those encountered by shaving one's legs. In fact, the various studies indicate that the majority of complications, minor to serious, arises from shaving and those that arose from waxing and laser removal are directly linked to untrained professionals (DeMaria, Flores, et al, 2014; Rowen, Awad, et al. 2016; Glass, Bagga et al., 2012)), unsterile environment or untreated underlying conditions, such as uncontrolled diabetes (Robbins, 2013). It's not as replete as media likes to sensationalise.

As for the idea that hair removal is a recent phenomenon, driven by consumerism, evidence indicates otherwise. Within many Middle Eastern, ancient Greeks and Roman, Indian, Central Steppes, Maghreb, Far Eastern societies (and there are some evidence that some Germanic, Celtic and Dacian tribes), body hair removal among women and men were commonly practiced - citations below.

We have evidence of hair removal techniques from over 4000 years ago in Egypt and Sumers, specifically tweezing and sugaring complete body hair (razor for the latter) - trends that carried throughout the Levant and Maghreb, as it was a sign of a civilised person. Anatolia had depilatory creams, dating back to 3000BCE. Though threading is today associate with eyebrows, it was also used in complete hair removal in some Far Eastern and Indian societies. Ancient Greeks and Romans waxed or used pumice stones to become smooth (as hair was considered to be 'barbaric'). The Renaissance had recipes that, amongst others, included combining arsenic and calcium oxide as a means of removing hair - look at Caterina Sforza'a Experimenti - there's something like 9 different depilatory recipes. (Fawcett, 2004; Fernandez, 2013; Burke, 2012; Sherrow, 2006; Lim, et al. 2016; Green, 2001).

Hell, if you look at some 1915s Gillette adverts, you will find specific razors directed at women (granted, this is specifically for underarms, but let's face it, it was also probably used around the pubic region; I have to dig up the citation but one paper suggests that underarm was a euphemism. However, I cannot concretely back it up).

This all predates 1970s and if you want to take the capitalism route within America, then we are talking about 1910, which had, in your words, been 'educating' women and men in what is hygienic and what is attractive- a notion that has been expounded on by Foucault and Bartsky (disclaimer: I'm a fan of both, but they are philosophers, not historians, and much of their presumptions are not exactly based on historical facts). They influenced the notion that hair removal is a modern phenomena, built about the industry to dictate all of us into what is pleasing. However, the evidence patently contradicts the idea that the industry has been indoctrinating the masses into what is hygienic and beautiful since the 1970s.

People have been removing their hair, in one form or another, for millennia. Maybe not in North America, but the world over and throughout history, more than a "few, women or men, removed their pubic hair." Fact remains, it was incredibly prevalent.

For your consideration.

 

[Olderthanthat]

More than interesting. Thank you, fire breeze.

 

[Zodia195]

Where do you get well. . . the item to trim your area down there? I do use a razor, but I like the idea of trimming more so I don't get those bumps (even though they vanish pretty quickly). I just like to keep my options open.

I am pretty new to shaving there (been only doing it for about 5 years now), but I find I like it also because it doesn't get as messy down there when it's that time of the month. I'll never do waxing though due to having a very low pain tolerance.

 

[fire_breeze]

Where do you get well. . . the item to trim your area down there? I do use a razor, but I like the idea of trimming more so I don't get those bumps (even though they vanish pretty quickly). I just like to keep my options open.

I am pretty new to shaving there (been only doing it for about 5 years now), but I find I like it also because it doesn't get as messy down there when it's that time of the month. I'll never do waxing though due to having a very low pain tolerance.

You can use small, blunt scissors for eyebrow trimming and trim in the shower. Or Schick has a razor with a bikini trimmer. Also, many electric razors made for ladies also has a trimming accessory.

Unfortunately, personal grooming is, well, personal, so what works for one (for example, I have lasered and usually wax) may not work for you. It's trial and error until you find a method that works for you. Good luck

 

[JenniBean]

I tried shaving once but never again. Trimmed is fine by me and I have yet to receive any complaints.

 

[Olderthanthat]

Women look like women regardless of the amount of hair on their crotch. In YOUR mind's eye, MeekMe, and, to be sure, in those of many others, but it's hardly a factual matter.

Do men look like pre-pubescent boys when they remove their pubic hair? In my view, yes, you've hit it on the head. (Sorry, I couldn't resist.)

Not every woman out there shaving is doing it to impress men, some of us prefer it for ourselves. Is it not unfortunate that any woman should feel the need to do so to impress a man? In any event, it is unacceptable for any man to demand it.

Pubes are an evolutionary part of us all. Something to at least consider, I respectfully suggest.