Smoking Cessation the Kink way

[serijules]

D helped me quit by taking my focus and redirecting it.

At first, I had to ask permission to smoke, which helped me realize how OFTEN I smoked. If she wasn't around to ask, I wasn't allowed to smoke. That helped me cut down a bit without too much trouble as honestly, I hated the pursed lip look she'd give me when I asked, even though I usually got permission.

Gradually, she started saying no more and more, and made me switch brands to ligher and ligher versions during that time.

When she finally said enough was enough and I wasn't allowed to smoke anymore. If I had cravings, I had to txt her or message her or tell her and she would help take the focus off my craving by directing the focus on serving her. Basically, she tied it all into a service focus for me, which I respond to very well. I love serving and pleasing her...smoking was a diservice and not pleasing to her. Smoking without permission resulted in extreme disappointment, and usually punishment. I only smoked without permission once, was punished for it, couldn't stand the disappointment it created, and I've been smoke free since November.

Many people have tried to help me quit over the years with rewards, punishments, control, etc, but D making the cravings and the discomfort of quitting a way of serving her and redirecting my focus was the first thing that's ever truly worked, and now while I still have cravings now and then, the thought of pleasing her by keeping myself healthy is a much stronger craving.

Doubt that helps, but maybe you'll get some ideas from that or something.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Weirdly, I didn't like IV morphine. I had it after some knee surgery and it just made me cranky and didn't seem to help the pain at all.

Addictions are scary, scary things.

I'm not the only one!!! Gods I hated that stuff. Made me sick to my stomach (and I was on it for kidney stones so it wasn't helping at all.) Add the dizziness and the fact that all opiates I have ever tried give me migraines and night terrors... *shivers at the thought of another kidney stone*

 

[Private_Label]

Um... I kinda wanted the fun little playful kind. That leads to giggling and tickling and stuff.

Sure! Shall I wear the break away clothing too? Then you can rip it off my body!

 

[graceanne]

I'm not the only one!!! Gods I hated that stuff. Made me sick to my stomach (and I was on it for kidney stones so it wasn't helping at all.) Add the dizziness and the fact that all opiates I have ever tried give me migraines and night terrors... *shivers at the thought of another kidney stone*

Actually I didn't like it at first. It's something I came to like. Frankly it gave me horrible nightmares and occasionally I'd start having hallucinations. I was scared to go to bed. I would come out here, and start surfing, then find myself sound asleep, with my face on the keyboard. But whether you like something or not doesn't mean you can't develop an addiction to it. I hate prednisone, but my body was still addicted to it. It took me three months to get off of it.

 

[Rrrosyn]

Actually I didn't like it at first. It's something I came to like. Frankly it gave me horrible nightmares and occasionally I'd start having hallucinations. I was scared to go to bed. I would come out here, and start surfing, then find myself sound asleep, with my face on the keyboard. But whether you like something or not doesn't mean you can't develop an addiction to it. I hate prednisone, but my body was still addicted to it. It took me three months to get off of it.

I would argue dependancy and addiction as being different, but it is a very fine line. I've been dependant on antibiotics. I was on them for so long my immune system took a break, it was a while before I could go out in public while off of them. On the other hand my mother who is in severe pain is going off morphine because her heart cannot handle it. No withdrawl issues, except the pain she was taking the drug for in the first place.

Addiction is scary. I've never smoked. My grandfather smoked for years, through his daughter's asthma attacks and his own heart attacks. But when his daughter moved in while pregnant (with my sister) with the condition he stop smoking or she'd lose the baby, he stopped cold and never had a complaint. My uncle stopped smoking pot (addicted in 'Nam) and went heavier on the cigs. But when doc told him he was going to have his feet amputated for poor circulation, he also stopped cold. Motivation is everything. But in order to work it has to be really important.

 

[timberwolf05]

has to be important? interesting. why does it have-to-be important? or is this just for these before mentioned people?

i am a bit hazy on this.
for me personally.........i quit cold turkey just coz my Ms asked me to. otherwise i would still be doing it.

wolfie
owned/operated real time by Ms Laura

 

[Rrrosyn]

has to be important? interesting. why does it have-to-be important? or is this just for these before mentioned people?

i am a bit hazy on this.
for me personally.........i quit cold turkey just coz my Ms asked me to. otherwise i would still be doing it.

wolfie
owned/operated real time by Ms Laura

Then I would ask how important Ms, her opinion and her reasons were to you. (Gonna guess very important.) Importance is up to the individual. Sometimes the possibility disappointing a loved one is all the motivational importance one needs.

A disapproving frown makes my sub wish he had a hole to hide in. He looks like a kicked dog with his tail between his legs cowering in a corner. (Which makes me feel terrible, but isn't gonna make me change my mind unless he has a legitimate argument supporting his side.)

 

[graceanne]

I would argue dependancy and addiction as being different, but it is a very fine line. I've been dependant on antibiotics. I was on them for so long my immune system took a break, it was a while before I could go out in public while off of them. On the other hand my mother who is in severe pain is going off morphine because her heart cannot handle it. No withdrawl issues, except the pain she was taking the drug for in the first place.

'Going off it', as in a little as a time? Cause you can't just quit morphine, it'll kill you. I've tried to quit morphine cold turkey and I had migrains like you would not believe. If you do it right, though, you won't have withdrawls. Or at least not bad ones, I just noticed I was sleepy whenever I'd drop a pill.

Same with prednisone, which is a steroid. Anyone who's taken large amounts for long time will tell you that the pain caused from just stopping prednisone is crippling. You can't move, you can barely breathe, and most likely whatever you were on the prednisone for in the first place will come back full force. As far as I'm concerned prednisone is the evil drug from Satan. I hate it.

As for antibiotics I've been on them up to six months. I wish my immune system would take a break, I have an overactive immune system, it's trying to kill me. I take two different kinds of medicines JUST to suppress my immune system.

 

[Rrrosyn]

'Going off it', as in a little as a time? Cause you can't just quit morphine, it'll kill you. I've tried to quit morphine cold turkey and I had migrains like you would not believe. If you do it right, though, you won't have withdrawls. Or at least not bad ones, I just noticed I was sleepy whenever I'd drop a pill.

Same with prednisone, which is a steroid. Anyone who's taken large amounts for long time will tell you that the pain caused from just stopping prednisone is crippling. You can't move, you can barely breathe, and most likely whatever you were on the prednisone for in the first place will come back full force. As far as I'm concerned prednisone is the evil drug from Satan. I hate it.

As for antibiotics I've been on them up to six months. I wish my immune system would take a break, I have an overactive immune system, it's trying to kill me. I take two different kinds of medicines JUST to suppress my immune system.

Oh yeah, she is going off very slow. A quick half-cut due to the heart prob, then tiny itty bitty bits. Odds are by the time she gets down to a minimal dose, she'll have the heart problem under control and be tranfered to a different pain killer. She kinda has no spine to speak of.

As an asthmatic, I hear ya on the prednisone issue. Yecky stuff. Hope I never need it again.

The antibiotics are another story. I have an infection I just hope stays in remission. My immune system is okay at the moment, but has done everything from destroy my own muscle tissue (trying to get the infection, or that's the theory... doctors!) to absolutely nothing.

Don't you have kids in the house? That must be hard with an autoimmune problem. (I know I was stuck in my bedroom for almost a year when my sister moved in with three kids.)

 

[sincerely_helene]

I had a friend who had a friend who had a friend who was an alcoholic. Her boyfriend didn't drink much and couldn't stand the smell of booze on her breath, so he gradually rectified the situation unwittingly by denying her the privelege of kissing him. Turned out the lip-lock proved to be an even greater addiction than that of the drink.

Not an example that would work in all cases, but it did in this particular situation. Depends how heavily one obsession weighs against the other.

 

[Rrrosyn]

I had a friend who had a friend who had a friend who was an alcoholic. Her boyfriend didn't drink much and couldn't stand the smell of booze on her breath, so he gradually rectified the situation unwittingly by denying her the privelege of kissing him. Turned out the lip-lock proved to be an even greater addiction than that of the drink.

Not an example that would work in all cases, but it did in this particular situation. Depends how heavily one obsession weighs against the other.

You might be right. It might be obsession vs obsession and not obsession vs importance. If you look at the important thing you want as something you are just more obsessed with. (Not sure it worked in my grandfather example since he did it so my mother wouldn't lose the baby, but maybe he was obsessed with the idea of being a grandparent?)

 

[sincerely_helene]

You might be right. It might be obsession vs obsession and not obsession vs importance. If you look at the important thing you want as something you are just more obsessed with. (Not sure it worked in my grandfather example since he did it so my mother wouldn't lose the baby, but maybe he was obsessed with the idea of being a grandparent?)

Exactly! Had a friend who wanted to go to England to visit relatives so badly, she was forced to quit smoking in order to fly on the plane. She has remained smoke free for over two years since.

Steering clear of bars, pubs, and friends who don't have the decency to light up out of sight has also been a must. That is when temptation is at its greatest.

 

[timberwolf05]

Then I would ask how important Ms, her opinion and her reasons were to you. (Gonna guess very important.) Importance is up to the individual. QUOTE]
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okay. You got me there...i admit it.

wolfie

 

[His_pita]

I have smoked for 23 years now, I’m going to have to quit by the time my Dom and I move into real life. He won’t tolerate me being a smoker. Plus, I really do want to quit for my health and so that he isn’t kissing an ashtray. Right now I am working hard on getting healthy with my weight. 30 pounds lighter as of this week!

Living where I am right now and doing weight loss and quitting smoking would just be too much stress for me. My plan is to cold turkey it the moment I leave here. The cigs just aren’t coming with me. I think a whole new life with my wonderful Sir will help me to not focus on what I am giving up but what I am gaining. So, I do believe in obsession vs obsession. I have heard that the best way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a good one.

 

[Rrrosyn]

I have smoked for 23 years now, I’m going to have to quit by the time my Dom and I move into real life. He won’t tolerate me being a smoker. Plus, I really do want to quit for my health and so that he isn’t kissing an ashtray. Right now I am working hard on getting healthy with my weight. 30 pounds lighter as of this week!

Living where I am right now and doing weight loss and quitting smoking would just be too much stress for me. My plan is to cold turkey it the moment I leave here. The cigs just aren’t coming with me. I think a whole new life with my wonderful Sir will help me to not focus on what I am giving up but what I am gaining. So, I do believe in obsession vs obsession. I have heard that the best way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a good one.

Congradulations on the weight loss. And good luck on the quitting. Just not taking the cigs and avoiding places with pressures will be a great help, plus having him for motivation. Sounds like a plan. Best of luck.