Snub a Dom/mme?

[crazybbwgirl]

Yes - I agree 'snub' wasn't quite the right word. But that was the guilt talking when I started this thread! And this isn't my first time - but close to it. Hopefully I'll get better at picking suitable matches with practice.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I've been stood up countless times...it's just part of the deal. I don't really believe in three strikes-you're out! People need to see patience and steadiness demonstrated, esp. new subs.

 

[FungiUg]

I have a friend who is Dom and he says 3/4 of the subs he meets online never show up for that first r/l meeting. They don't even call to explain or apologize. Is this a common occurance?

Sure is. Sucks, but what can you do?

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

In all my years in this lifestyle, I have yet to get to the actual meeting stage with someone where something has not occured at least twice to ruin the supposed meeting. (Either on my part or the part of the prospective playmate) That being said, when we get the little red flag there is usually a reason. Your decision was a good one for you and delivered well in advance of the first meeting.

Here's hoping your next one leaves you feeling more secure.

Luna

 

[Mr Blonde]

Last minute cancellations, re-schedulings or postponements happen maybe 15% of the time.

I've had women show up in such a bad mood or condition that I wish they had cancelled. There is a certain percentage where we quickly realize zero chemistry and date is cut short. But believe it or not, I've never actually been stood up.

Anyway, don't feel obliged to go on a date with each man who asks you out.

 

[SweetDommes]

We have been stood up many times, although never when we had more than 15-20 min to drive, and that one was because he was in a car accident on the way - we didn't find out until he got out of the hospital 2 weeks later.

We have gotten e-mails and messages after they were supposed to have left though - one of them when we were getting ready to leave ourselves (the meeting place was 20 min for us, 50 for him - he messaged us after he should have left with a bullshit excuse). We have also had one that for the second meeting backed out, telling us about an hour after he should have left ...

People suck

At least you told him in advance.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Well hell - after all that he didn't even reply to my email. I really do appreciate everyone's input. And I AM going to take more time next time I decide to meet with someone.