Does she know you’re not leaving your husband and did she know going into your relationship? If so, it’s not unfair at all, she knew what she was getting into. Even if that wasn’t discussed she knew you were married, so you don’t owe her any more than you’re willing to give. I didn’t mean for this to sound like I thought she was pressuring you for more, I’m just not that eloquent.Sometimes it isn’t just sex. Even when Hubby and I are doing the kinkiest stuff, it from a place of love for each other. With Heidi, it isn’t just sex anymore. Hasn’t been for a while. Is it fair to her if I’m not going to leave my husband for her?