So, Doms, is it because you are too inadequate in real life?

[Slutacus]

sorry dude i cant be arsed reading it. Xmas truce? we can play footie in no mans land?

Uh, say that in American? (Or I will be forced to.) Why a truce, and when was the war? What has your ass/arse to do with reading? Hurts to sit down? And why am I a dude?

 

[Marquis]

And if "old" litsters have attitudes, maybe it's because of the endless hijacks and puerile behavior of people who can't seem to hold an adult discussion for 20 seconds.

 

[Netzach]

Dogfucking. Alien Rape. Cookies. What was this thread again?

 

[Marquis]

Dogfucking. Alien Rape. Cookies. What was this thread again?

Pure Vaudeville.

 

[Netzach]

I just don't think anyone has a monopoly on hijacking.



And yes, I'm a Domme because I'm totally fucked up, if that was the initial question.

 

[Sean]

Uh, say that in American? (Or I will be forced to.) Why a truce, and when was the war? What has your ass/arse to do with reading? Hurts to sit down? And why am I a dude?

Two nations divided by a common language methinks

 

[FurryFury]

<snip> A dog, I don't really picture enjoying it that much. <snip>

I don't know, I've seen dogs going at it they seem to enjoy it at least until they can't get loose then they tend to panic, snap and whine.

Who I picture as looking something like Quint, but with those big alien bugeyes.

'Fraid I don't know what Quint looks like but now the bug eyes I can see in my head.

Fury

I think the chimp should rape the big bug-eyed alien Quint.

You are always having interesting thoughts! Good for you!

<snip>A friend of mine was in an online bdsm chatroom this morning and a very strick (his self-descriptor) guy was going on and on about how slaves are supposed to want anything you do to them and in fact that is why they are slaves. People were getting really sick and tired of Mr. Strick's stupid diatrible (he just ignored other peoples' arguments and went on with his "slaves should take any sort of abuse and that is how HE treats slaves" speech). Then my friend had a good idea. She said, "Hey everybody? Have you seen this site? It's a new weird fetish!" And everybody in the room except Mr. Strick went to that site and it got very quiet. Then they all came back to the room and started talking enthusiastically about the website, and Mr. Strick got extremely frustrated. He kept trying to start up his talk about treatment of slaves but nobody was listening anymore. I don't exactly blame them. <snip>

Hahaha!

Guys like that deserve whatever they get online. A damned good reason to be in invisible mode is guys like that.

It's not that you can't slap em down, it's just that they are so stupid and boring but the poor idiots don't realize it.

Have you seen the Invisible Masters thread over on the GB? Fun Read!

Weird wacky shit man!

A chimp would be a comedy, for everybody except the poor woman. It'd be screeching, jumping up and down while inside her, pummeling her butt with it's fists, lol, I'd watch that movie. Maybe even star in it.

Now that's the spirit. The animals have that rape thing down man. They call it mating but you'll notice they approach from the back, bite her neck and then go ape wild!

Fury

Two nations divided by a common language methinks

I like your av but can You stay awake in Gethsemene?

Fury

 

[ntp]

......

 

[FurryFury]

chimps are horrible things.
they do things like chew your fingers off or eat your face.
*shudder*

No, no, no . . . those are the rare and feared Hannibal Chimps. Normal chimps are happy movie side kicks who merely chatter too much and fling poop, unless they have been trained to rape damsels.

Fury

 

[Marquis]

No, no, no . . . those are the rare and feared Hannibal Chimps. Normal chimps are happy movie side kicks who merely chatter too much and fling poop, unless they have been trained to rape damsels.

Fury

Yes, but they smoke too much.

 

[FurryFury]

Yes, but they smoke too much.

As long as they don't "puff" with their butts. LOL! Have you ever seen that? I have.

Merry Christmas and to all a goodnight!

Fury

 

[Slutacus]

Two nations divided by a common language methinks

I've kind of noticed that.

The little glimpses that I've seen of British life and people (without ever having been to the island) have made me shake my head and said to myself, I'll _never_ understand those strange, strange people. I communicate better in sign language with Latin Americans and Southern Europeans than I do in words with people from England! (Would I attempt sign language with the British? Only if I wanted to star in the sequel to Eraserhead!)

 

[Guest]

I rather like threads that are interesting, and this one had the makings of being interesting, until the same old shit started. Cookies for chrissakes. All people asking questions aren't trolls, as Marquis pointed out. And if "old" litsters have attitudes, maybe it's because of the endless hijacks and puerile behavior of people who can't seem to hold an adult discussion for 20 seconds.

*sigh* I'm breaking a promise to myself...Swore I wouldn't post to this thread...
Such is life though. And I have nothing else to do while it is snowing..

At the risk of offending a couple of people I actually kind of like..... I think it's time to agree on this one...
The whole "cookies/chocolate" schtick WAS funny............. About a year or so ago. And while I understand the urge to de-fuse certain kinds of situations. I think that in spite of good intentions, this method may have outlived it's time.
If people want to troll and argue with each other... Well, thats why there are moderators, and the ignore function.

As for the original question of this thread.... If the question was serious, then yes, it could have been phrased much better. *shrug* Whatthehell....Try this.

Dominance or submission have no more specific reasons than any other type of sexual behaviour. Being inherently different for each person.
Silly eh???? Indeed... But VERY very human...
The thing is... As long as it is not personally harmful to either themselves or their partner... WHat is important is concensus.. Or compatability, if you prefer...
Successful BDSM couples are just like ANY other... Each supplies what the other needs.
And as long as both of the people are happy, isn't that what is important???

If the question wasn't serious???
Well then it is just another, and latest, example of what I have been seeing more and more of recently on this board..

 

[shy slave]

I've kind of noticed that.

The little glimpses that I've seen of British life and people (without ever having been to the island) have made me shake my head and said to myself, I'll _never_ understand those strange, strange people. I communicate better in sign language with Latin Americans and Southern Europeans than I do in words with people from England! (Would I attempt sign language with the British? Only if I wanted to star in the sequel to Eraserhead!)

Remember Helenes thread about 'type, backspace, delete?' well that applies here.

I will retract my biting comments, take a breath and suggest you visit and meet people before you decide that a particular race are strange and state you will 'never' understand them.

Hitler had similiar views and look where that led.

Oh please note that England is a country, the language is English but an additional three countries make up the British Isles, all of whom speak english, did you mean England specifically or the whole of Britain?

If you meant Britain but said England, did you learn Geography and History from George Bush?

 

[Slutacus]

Remember Helenes thread about 'type, backspace, delete?' well that applies here.

I will retract my biting comments, take a breath and suggest you visit and meet people before you decide that a particular race are strange and state you will 'never' understand them.

Hitler had similiar views and look where that led.

Oh please note that England is a country, the language is English but an additional three countries make up the British Isles, all of whom speak english, did you mean England specifically or the whole of Britain?

If you meant Britain but said England, did you learn Geography and History from George Bush?

Sigh. It was a joke, girl meant as much at myself as at the people I was speaking about. Some of my very best friends are brits, and all that jazz. AND I find the differences and difficulties in communication charming, but also very, very real. How you could take what I wrote as a personal attack of _any sort_ is beyond my comprehension. The holidays seem to really have put a lot of people on edge.

 

[shy slave]

The holidays seem to really have put a lot of people on edge.

I blame my parents, three days is enough to put Mother Theresa or thr Pope on edge.

Either that or I blame Andante, can't think of a good reason as to why its his fault that i misread your post, but give me time and I will figure it one out !!

 

[Slutacus]

I blame my parents, three days is enough to put Mother Theresa or thr Pope on edge.

Either that or I blame Andante, can't think of a good reason as to why its his fault that i misread your post, but give me time and I will figure it one out !!

Well, you don't know me and you didn't know my context (friendly with the British I know although very bumused by them at times), so I can see how it might be taken as hostile, but you know, if you aren't sure it never hurts to ask. Only thing was you -were- sure, lol, so so much for that advice! I wanted to ask you how you met Andante (he's in another country, right?) but I'll do so in that other thread of Marquis where we were talking about this so this one doesn't drift off anymore from the humiliation chimps than it has to.

 

[shy slave]

Well, you don't know me and you didn't know my context (friendly with the British I know although very bumused by them at times), so I can see how it might be taken as hostile, but you know, if you aren't sure it never hurts to ask. Only thing was you -were- sure, lol, so so much for that advice! I wanted to ask you how you met Andante (he's in another country, right?) but I'll do so in that other thread of Marquis where we were talking about this so this one doesn't drift off anymore from the humiliation chimps than it has to.

Your right I did misread your post.

I have done that before with posts and will probably do it again, but I am always sorry when it happens.

Oh i like the new AV

But, your right, we should never drift far from the humiliation of anyone LOL

 

[Quint]

Who I picture as looking something like Quint, but with those big alien bugeyes.

To you and Marquis, I couldn't ask for a more delightful Christmas present than to be the object of your warped, degrading, perverse lust. Happy New Year, chaps.

 

[chriskchambers]

Do you feel the need to dominate someone because it's the only way you can feel like you're in control of your own life? Does the feeling of subjugating others make you feel better? Is it a repressed feeling of inadequacy?

does this person what a slap.

in my case, no I have allways feel something inside me that I can't explain. which has drawen to me to BDSM, I know I like tiring people up at a early age, then I used to play cowboys and indias, but I did conisder myself a Dominate person. I was interdosed to it at college with one of my Ex-girlfriends who was a Sub, and enjoyed being tied up, and tolded what to do.

so to answer you question, I have a good life, where I am considerite, friendly, loving to other people, but in the bedroom, I enjoy the dominate side,

 

[Kathykitten]

Hm... You say you struggle to understand why someone would want this lifestyle?

It is as simple as it is to be straight = Being gay just doesn't do anything for you, nor would you like to try it out with a guy to see if there was something there. Same goes for gay folks, the straight deal just isn't giving them the spark, the joy, the thrill, the pleasure.

Can we rationalize it? Understand it through some logic? Nope. Some have feet fetishes, others like to dress up like clowns (no joke), some prefere pretending they are animals in play dressing up in big custumes, and others like to loose control and get deliciously surpriced by their lover. We just have different Kinks as human beings.

I think it's the same here. I'm a switch, meaning I like to be both dominated, and to dominate. I love to dominate because I can give my sub such great pleasure. See her reach thrill after thrill, unleashing her wildest fantasies. It just makes me happy to do my very best to give her the utmost of erotic pleasures (that she loves naturally. Again back to our basic kinks).

 

[newexplorer]

Dominance and submission is not all about one being needy and the other being more powerful over the other. It is about the give and take that any healthy relationship should have.

It is my nature to serve. It makes me happy. Long before I was ever involved in a D/s relationship, I was serving, trying my best to be pleasing and make others happy. And that does not mean just the men in my life, or in a sexual manner.

To watch a smile grow on one's face because of something I have done, makes my day. To make someone's life better in any number of small ways, makes me happy. To sit at ones feet, is my slice of heaven. It allows me to be me.

This does not mean that I don't have needs and wants. It just so happens I was fortunate to find a partner that understands these needs and desires. Together we have created a life that neither of us were able to find with others. And, we constantly are growing and learning more about ourselves and each other.

My partner understands my weaknesses, and my strengths. He loves me completely. He hugs me, cuddles me, teaches me, and learns from me. He also disciplines me, uses me (sexually, and by my choice in giving myself to him), he sets tasks for me. He encourages me to look inside myself, and to grow as a person, a submissive, a business partner, a parent, friend, lover, and finally his slave (and that is a whole other thread.. lol). He has been able to chase away demons that haunted me most of my life, and replaced bad feelings with ones of hope and joy.

We make each other happy.

I usually don't like to be the bearer of bad news, but sometimes two people have to truly look at their relationship, and at times, they find they are not compatible.

It is not a bad thing that you do not desire to be dominant, it just means that possibly, you are coupled with the wrong person. If there were sparks there for you, I would suggest researching this lifestyle... read as much as you can find on the subject... Google it! (Oh how i adore google).

The bottom line is what makes you happy? And do you have what is necessary to create happiness for you partner?

buttins

this is a really good explanation of this issue, as someone who is new to this this explanation really struck a chord. for me, being submissive has nothing to do with abuse, i was never abused, but it has a whole lot to do with trust. i guess its just an exploration of your boundaries in a safe environment with someone you trust.


and guys, stop arguing- surely there is enough of that in the real world and this site should be a place to have sensible discussions, without judgement? for newcomers to this site it is a bit off putting when people here start attacking each other, i came to this site to explore new ideas, not to listen to people arguing, everyone seems more enlightened tan the average joe so share the love there is enough opposition to alternative lifestyles, dont make more! peace x

 

[BiBunny]

this is a really good explanation of this issue, as someone who is new to this this explanation really struck a chord. for me, being submissive has nothing to do with abuse, i was never abused, but it has a whole lot to do with trust. i guess its just an exploration of your boundaries in a safe environment with someone you trust.


and guys, stop arguing- surely there is enough of that in the real world and this site should be a place to have sensible discussions, without judgement? for newcomers to this site it is a bit off putting when people here start attacking each other, i came to this site to explore new ideas, not to listen to people arguing, everyone seems more enlightened tan the average joe so share the love there is enough opposition to alternative lifestyles, dont make more! peace x

Nobody's arguing now. The thread is nearly three years old. The post above yours just bumped it up today.

 

[cherokee_dove]

SeanH did ask a legitimate question. He may not have phrased it like we would, but he did explain that it really was a honest question.

It is just the fact that most of us here on the BDSM forum, know that his usual hangout spot is over on the GB. And some of us (myself included) tend to automatically put up a "wall" of protection around our ways and beliefs; when the question is asked by an outsider.

Not all GB'ers are just looking to pick a fight, but as we peek onto that forum; those are the threads we seem to see the most of...the fighting ones.

But as to Hobbit and sluty, those two were trying to get us riled up by their words and attitudes within their posts. So our defenses went up fast.

Best way (IMO) to say this is, GB'ers; this forum tends to be a nicer group to each other because we respect each other.

If you want to come over here and hang out, or ask questions; just learn or try not to be so rude to our forum's people.

We are who we are, and proud of it. And if you ask a question in a somewhat polite manner; and not in the manner how most things on the GB are handled, then you will get more honest, polite, real answers.

And if you come over with the atypical GB'er type attitude, then most of us will tend to think you are being smartass to our people.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I tend to think it unnecessary to try and bring up an argument with someone 3 years after it was posted and discussed.....using it as a jump off point for a new discussion perhaps, but addressing the OP now seems to suggest no-one grows, learns, lives, moves on...and if they were wanting to know for a possible relationship then, they either would have sorted it out long ago (hopefully) or moved on.

Catalina