Sph / tiny penis fetish

[NancyPan]

Right, and I don't think I'd be comfortable commenting on someone else's size anyway. Even if the woman is the only one doing it, it's still a situation I'd want to make sure it was deal where everyone was 100% in on it and wanted it.

Yes, all D/# activities should be consensual (of course). A Domme who really knows (and loves) her sub, like in a solid marriage, is not out to hurt him through humiliation, but knows that he craves (needs) it. Although we do not do the cuckold game, when my Wife erotically teases me about my small penis and/or my PE, She sees how submissive and aroused I become. She finds it both powerful and amusing

 

[Charlotte_Sin]

I know there are a few threads about it but recently I've been talking about the topic with people in here and seems like there are some users into it or just curious. Anyway, the other threads are lost in the forum lol But I was wondering....what's the female interest in this fetish? Talking about girls and women that like it.
I'm on the smaller side so that's where my curiosity comes from

As a Webcam model it tends to be one of the most requested things from guys when they go onto private shows

 

[SlutAddicted]

I will say, as a better endowed guy who has something of a hotwife fantasy (haven't acted on it due to marital situation), I won't yuck someone else's yum. My main concern, would I get involved with a couple who participates in SPH, would be that it was 100% consensual for both parties, and not just something the man was guilted or forced into. It would definitely be something I'd have to really talk with both spouses about before I'd even consider getting involved. For me that is about respect, not having an issue with the kink.

From what I know it seems like this sort of thing is most often driven by the husband/bf. And if anyone is reluctant it is his partner. I’m sure it happens but I have a hard time imagining a woman seeking to compel her man to engage is SPH.

 

[Bbl87]

From what I know it seems like this sort of thing is most often driven by the husband/bf. And if anyone is reluctant it is his partner. I’m sure it happens but I have a hard time imagining a woman seeking to compel her man to engage is SPH.

Very true, but there are always exceptions to the rule. It could be something that starts out as just a hotwife dynamic but then she takes it there in the heat of the moment. My big thing is it's just important to be sure where everyone stands before engaging in something. In that situation, a couple would be accepting me into their relationship, and I owe that much to both of them.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Very true, but there are always exceptions to the rule. It could be something that starts out as just a hotwife dynamic but then she takes it there in the heat of the moment. My big thing is it's just important to be sure where everyone stands before engaging in something. In that situation, a couple would be accepting me into their relationship, and I owe that much to both of them.

Absolutely. In our situation my wife is very much in control of everything including the other man. She certainly prefers them to be much better endowed than I am and actively acknowledges that, but she is not at all submissive. And she generally doesn't let anyone take a dominant posture towards me unless they are very familiar and have earned her trust.

It isn’t the stereotype of her looking up to a better man and down to me. It is more her being in charge of both of us and setting the hierarchy as she sees fit but with her at the peak.

 

[Bbl87]

Absolutely. In our situation my wife is very much in control of everything including the other man. She certainly prefers them to be much better endowed than I am and actively acknowledges that, but she is not at all submissive. And she generally doesn't let anyone take a dominant posture towards me unless they are very familiar and have earned her trust.

It is the stereotype of her looking up to a better man and down to me. It is more her being in charge of both of us and setting the hierarchy as she sees fit but with her at the peak.

Yep, and I think it's important for any "third" to recognize those dynamics, and how they may vary from couple to couple and how that may change how you can and should interact.

Talking about it makes me really wish I could try out being that for a couple, haha.

 

[SlutAddicted]

Yep, and I think it's important for any "third" to recognize those dynamics, and how they may vary from couple to couple and how that may change how you can and should interact.

Talking about it makes me really wish I could try out being that for a couple, haha.

It takes a uniquely open-minded and non-judgmental guy to be the third. Most have a hard time not turning it into something more than it is.

 

[Bbl87]

It takes a uniquely open-minded and non-judgmental guy to be the third. Most have a hard time not turning it into something more than it is.

I imagine. Kind of wish I'd gotten a chance to try it out pre marriage. As it is, only way it happens now is divorce or her magically deciding to open our marriage.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I imagine. Kind of wish I'd gotten a chance to try it out pre marriage. As it is, only way it happens now is divorce or her magically deciding to open our marriage.

That is too bad. There is nothing quite like a slutty hotwife. And I think that mine is the hottest and the sluttiest.

 

[whenagain]

Do you enjoy providing this service?

As a Webcam model it tends to be one of the most requested things from guys when they go onto private shows

 

[BisForBritany]

I don’t think I’ve ever been with anyone I’d consider small. Or maybe I’m just not picky

 

[Charlotte_Sin]

Do you enjoy providing this service?

I mean I get paid to play eroticlly and help a someone discover their kink. So yeah I would say so

 

[SlutAddicted]

I don’t think I’ve ever been with anyone I’d consider small. Or maybe I’m just not picky

A lot of guys into SPH aren't even particularly small. It is just a humiliation fetish. Kind of like being the bottom in a BDSM scenario or the Sub in a D's dynamic doesn't mean you are weak - it is just the role we like to play.

 

[NancyPan]

I can’t speak for other guys or why SPH arouses them. My arousal has nothing to do with my Wife threatening to take a more well-endowed lover. She has never threatened this, and would very likely not ever do it. It has to do with my acknowledging her clear sexual superiority over me, her erotic tease and denial, and Femdom. It is a kink to be sexually humiliated by her, lovingly mocked about how hungry I get for her pussy, how my little penis drips precum, how my “poor baby penis” isn’t allowed in her pussy…. It makes me desire her more… And she finds it both powerful and amusing.

Would she prefer to have a stud for a husband with a big cock who isn’t prone to PE, doesn’t have a SPH and panty fetish? Maybe, but she has told me that I am very good at what I do for her. It’s an adaption.

 

[policywank]

I can’t speak for other guys or why SPH arouses them. My arousal has nothing to do with my Wife threatening to take a more well-endowed lover. She has never threatened this, and would very likely not ever do it. It has to do with my acknowledging her clear sexual superiority over me, her erotic tease and denial, and Femdom. It is a kink to be sexually humiliated by her, lovingly mocked about how hungry I get for her pussy, how my little penis drips precum, how my “poor baby penis” isn’t allowed in her pussy…. It makes me desire her more… And she finds it both powerful and amusing.

Would she prefer to have a stud for a husband with a big cock who isn’t prone to PE, doesn’t have a SPH and panty fetish? Maybe, but she has told me that I am very good at what I do for her. It’s an adaption.

I think that some men revel in embracing their truth and being accepted for it. I mean if your dick is under 4" you can't realistically live in the delusion that it isn't small. It is. You know it is. It is smaller than any version of average one cares to find and certainly smaller than what most women prefer (we aren't looking for average). If you expend energy trying to cast your dick size in a positive light or get women to tell you it doesn't matter for PIV sex you are actively promoting your own delusion and feeding a cycle of insecurity and disappointment every time the fallacy is made clear.

It is a bit like being a guy who is 5'0" tall. The only thing to do is accept and move on enjoying the many great things you have and have to offer. Fighting the reality that your are short or that some women care about height is wasted energy and may lead you to be bitter.

SPH for some is a way of leaning in to that small dick reality and it works if you have a partner who you know is loving and loyal. You move past the whole "she is going to leave me for a bigger dude" insecurity and embrace who you are.

 

[Escierto]

I think that some men revel in embracing their truth and being accepted for it. I mean if your dick is under 4" you can't realistically live in the delusion that it isn't small. It is. You know it is. It is smaller than any version of average one cares to find and certainly smaller than what most women prefer (we aren't looking for average). If you expend energy trying to cast your dick size in a positive light or get women to tell you it doesn't matter for PIV sex you are actively promoting your own delusion and feeding a cycle of insecurity and disappointment every time the fallacy is made clear.

It is a bit like being a guy who is 5'0" tall. The only thing to do is accept and move on enjoying the many great things you have and have to offer. Fighting the reality that your are short or that some women care about height is wasted energy and may lead you to be bitter.

SPH for some is a way of leaning in to that small dick reality and it works if you have a partner who you know is loving and loyal. You move past the whole "she is going to leave me for a bigger dude" insecurity and embrace who you are.

Comparing dick size with height is a useful tool for understanding what you are talking about. Men get super sensitive about dick size (especially their own) and can’t think rationally about it. When you think about the height of a man, it’s a reality that isn’t as charged with emotion.

If you say many women (but certainly not all) prefer a man taller than themselves and ideally someone six feet or greater in height, it’s understandable. You might not like this reality if you are a short man but there is really no way to rationalize it away.

It’s the same with cock size.

 

[NancyPan]

I think that some men revel in embracing their truth and being accepted for it. I mean if your dick is under 4" you can't realistically live in the delusion that it isn't small. It is. You know it is. It is smaller than any version of average one cares to find and certainly smaller than what most women prefer (we aren't looking for average).

To say that I “revel” in embracing my truth would be giving me way too much credit. I have accepted this reality, but this reality humiliates me, as does the reality that my wife does not desire me (or allow me to) fuck her.

SPH for some is a way of leaning in to that small dick reality and it works if you have a partner who you know is loving and loyal. You move past the whole "she is going to leave me for a bigger dude" insecurity and embrace who you are.

I am secure that she is not going to leave me. If she started fucking guys with big cocks, I would have some further lessons in humility and trust to learn.

 

[RoanMtn]

I've a small penis and never felt humiliated. A penis is what I have, it doesn't define who I am.

 

[NancyPan]

I've a small penis and never felt humiliated.

Great! Good for you! You shouldn’t, really. We don’t get to choose our penis size any more than we choose our height or the size of our feet. I just happen to be aroused by erotic humiliation. Like with most other kinks, those not “into it, don’t “get it.”

A penis is what I have, it doesn't define who I am.

Of course your penis doesn’t define you. Mine doesn’t define me either. My wife knows that I am a lot of things outside the bedroom, but as her lover, she teases me about “it” and has chosen not to allow it entry into her any longer because it does not satisfy her.

 

[sydneyboy123]

After prostate cancer surgery there is no more semen and the erection is done by pumping a bulb up until hard. It stays hard until you release the pressure. It would not be much fun for you.

I've also had prostate surgery. Right after the surgery, the pills helped, but I didn't stay hard long, maybe 1 or 2 minutes. I asked my wife to say humiliating things about my penis. At first she wasn't comfortable with that, but she enjoys saying things now. She'll give me a hand job while telling me what a "soft flabby dick you have." I love her saying such things. And I shoot pee into her hand.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

I have a great cock, I love it. It’s around 7.5”, sometimes a little longer. My wife loves it. That being said I find small cocks to be very sexy in many cases. The energy of the man, vibration, seems most important. I know my wife has enjoyed quite a few small ones. I would actually love to have a small cocked man join us in a tryst. Seems super sexy. I don’t find any kind of humiliation sexy but that’s just me. I can understand the weird sexiness it could produce but it seems a bit needy and depraved for me, kind of like a drug that later doesn’t feel good. But that’s just my thoughts. All are free to enjoy whatever they like as long as it doesn’t harm others. Cheers

 

[bjlatx]

One of my favorite things to do is to come on to my wife and have her begrudgingly agree to let me fuck her. She will just pull her panties off and bend over the bed and wait for me to get off. She’ll ask me if I’m in when I am already all the way inside her and she will just sit there and surf on her phone when I’m fucking her as hard as I can. Occasionally she’ll ask me if I’m close or tell me to hurry up if she has a show about to start. She’ll tell me that she wishes she was fucking one of her many bulls as she can actually feel them and they get her off. It’s so hot!!

 

[CuckedbyBBC]

I have a bit of a twist on this fetish. I have a very big dick when it is hard. It’s 6.5 inches long - properly measured and almost 6 in circumference. Most people don’t know this but the numbers are something like 15 dicks in a 1000 are over 7 long and 6 thick. So that puts me in the 95th plus percentile. But after a workout and a shower, or a swim, etc., it can be really soft and small.

When I get this I fantasize about having a tiny cock - like a total micropenis. I can smush the foreskin up and really invert the few inches into my body when it’s in this state. I can fit it inside a poland spring cap - that really small and flat one. I have to pull my balls down and trap them between my thighs, because there big too and of course shrink a bit in certain situations, but they always look substantial.

I love to do this especially in a hotel and snap some pictures. I like to find places to post them and pretend I’m a tiny dicked sub that wants someone to fuck my wife - preferably with a big black cock - or just fuck me up the ass while they make fun of my pussy cock. I’m currently working on a few hot stories about micro-penises but I’m having trouble with the endings. Maybe I’ll just right then as a tiny slice of life!

 

[NancyPan]

I suppose all fetishes seem weird and hard to understand from the perspective of those who do not have them. Experiencing gentle subtle erotic humiliation from a woman who I know loves and respects me, and who I am extremely sexually attracted to, is an act of love on her part. I think it is truly an art form to do it well. She plays me like a fiddle. She can make me ejaculate against my will, then sympathize with how weak I am and remind me that my inability to control myself is one of the reasons that she can’t let me fuck her. (“You know how frustrating that is for me, baby. It’s so much better when you just eat me.”)

There is no way that I ever feel, as @Shaglus_Ziegler suggests, that it is like a bad drug. “Needy?” Yes, I need it. It is a powerful aphrodisiac for me like any fetish is for the person who has that particular trigger (or triggers).

But, I don’t expect you to understand, or care if you do. My wife doesn’t understand why either, but she has seen the power of it (many times)!

 

[bjlatx]

My wife didn’t understand it at first either, but she’s gotten really good at it!