Still arguing with myself about being bisexual -anyone else?

[coati]

My first forays into sex with others took place almost five decades ago, first with a man, and then, a few weeks later, with a woman. Both of those first encounters were so enjoyable, that I never had any regrets about discovering that I am bisexual.

This was not a common thing to talk about back then, so I simply did not talk about it. I just enjoyed it, and still do.

 

[69plus1]

Late start

I started exploring sex with men late in life but enjoyed it immediately. It feels so good it couldn't be bad.
Plus I was old enough to just say fuck it, I like it so what! I am open to sex with more people this way. , and have no regrets after.
Why limit yourself to 50% of the population.

 

[steve6161]

Lost that argument several years ago enjoying myself since then.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I share your feelings. I enjoy gay/bi sex, but often feel uncomfortable with myself afterwards. But I get over it, and do it again.

For a while I would restrict myself from enjoying a man until I'd slept with a woman again, thinking too many guys, too often, would make me gay. I was OK being Bi, but didn't want to be gay.

Now it's been years since I had a cock to suck and enjoy, but I still privately consider myself bi.

 

[yukonnights]

There was a time, quite awhile ago , that I tried to repress my true sexuality. It was a long and frustrating effort. I don't intend this to sound pretentious, nor do I think these issues are easy...my only intent is to offer input and encouragement.

I think, with all the information we now have about normal human sexuality, that it becomes incumbent upon us all to ask ourselves why we should feel bad about being bisexual (or any 'other-sexual'). There really is a lot of scientific information about how we all are formed in the womb, and how that shapes us in so many ways. Further, if one looks into many ancient cultures it is obvious that non-hetero sex was an accepted part of many of those. The point at which I finally got it was after reading an article in a newspaper about a Transgender mtf from Samoa. In her culture, people like her were accepted and embraced. But, after migrating to the USA and over a period of time, this acceptance was being challenged in her community. The point is; it is cultural/societal influence and opinion that shapes our beliefs.

The question is; Are we comfortable and happy in our own skin? If not, why? Is it because one truly believes it is wrong to be Bisexual...or is it because other people believe it is wrong?

The so called "gay community" is very big on "coming out". The reason for that is the freedom one feels as the weight of the lie is cast aside. I would say that if one's sexuality is really pulling them in a certain direction, no matter what they try to do to stop it, then that person will never be truly happy so long as the lie persists.

Easy? No. But I think it is important to ask oneself; Am I living a joyous life? If not, then I believe it is important to discover why and try to change it.

 

[bobb_sledd]

I have what is likely an odd spin on the whole straight/gay/bi thing. I consider myself straight, but I occasionally enjoy sucking cock, and of course having my cock sucked; by anyone. For me straight/gay/bi is about romance and emotional attraction. Sex for the pleasure of sex is just sex. It's not straight sex, gay sex, or bi sex...it sex for the sexual relief. I've never had romantic or emotional feelings for another guy. Wanting to maybe suck his cock? Well that's something entirely different.

Along the same lines, I believe there are different types of sex; making love, having sex, and fucking.

Making love has the emotional component. Making love to a spouse, making love to a girlfriend; someone you have emotional feelings for.

Having sex is what one might have with a casual acquaintance, friend with benefits. Sex for the pleasure of sex. No strings attached.

Fucking is purely for the primal release of ones sexual tension. No emotion! No connection! Just raw, primal fucking!

In keeping with my initial point. I've never made love with another man, though I have had sex (oral) with a few. Sex for the sake of sex. Romance for the sake of romance, with the added benefit of sex.

Bottom line...it only has to make sense to me!

 

[SparkyMark1961]

Like you, after my first time I felt regrets, I waited a long time then tried again. I enjoyed my experience then more regrets. More time in between , not a lot of opportunities but the regrets were way less.


I chatted with a guy on Silver Daddies on and off for about a year before I finally took the step to meet him and perform oral sex with him. Then it was about 9 months before I met up with another guy for the same. Even though he gave me an open invitation it took me about 6 months to go see him again.

Driving home from work one evening something happened. I had been arguing with myself about wanting to have sex with a man and that it was a bad thing. All of a sudden it was like Hey, its ok to have these desires.
I still argue with myself but less now.

 

[bunny4med]

no argument. it's like mounds and almond joy.
Sometimes i feel like nuts, sometimes i don't.
just enjoy yourself with the one your with.

 

[Mqoi]

For me with most guys, it's just about sex and getting a nut. Sometimes though (rarely), I find my self attracted to a guy on a deeper, more emotional level.