Strip Clubs and Pole Dancing

[SgtSpiderMan]

Shit... Here in Jersey, if there's alcohol served, it's bottoms and tops... Satin Dolls (Bada Bing from the Sopranos) crushed my fucking dream by dropping reality on it...

Satin Dolls is a go go bar.

 

[prdigy666]

Still... In Jersey, unless it's a juice bar, it's clothed...

 

[kaitlyn_sun]

I've talked to girls that worked as strippers.... and it seems like it would be so much fun...

I've never been very good at being overtly, publicly sexual. I like having sex in public... but that's still sort of a contained thing. to have that sort of rampant, unabashed sexuality... it seems like it would be so EMPOWERING.

and I know what I'm going to get... lots of "find an amateur night" sort of replies... but honestly, if it were that easy, I would have done it already

 

[prdigy666]

I've talked to girls that worked as strippers.... and it seems like it would be so much fun...

I've never been very good at being overtly, publicly sexual. I like having sex in public... but that's still sort of a contained thing. to have that sort of rampant, unabashed sexuality... it seems like it would be so EMPOWERING.

and I know what I'm going to get... lots of "find an amateur night" sort of replies... but honestly, if it were that easy, I would have done it already

I don't care if you called it out already... Find an amateur night! Hahaha

 

[Rozalin_0123]

I never understood the "serve alcohol, girls must keep bottoms on" rule.

Honestly, I'd much rather a club not serve alcohol from both a dancer and guest perspective. There are other places to get shit-faced and drunkenness is distracting for both the dancers and those around you. But the law suggests that a drunken man is more likely to try to grope you where he shouldn't and I've never had that happen. Usually if a guy was that drunk he was escorted out regardless.

I've talked to girls that worked as strippers.... and it seems like it would be so much fun...

I've never been very good at being overtly, publicly sexual. I like having sex in public... but that's still sort of a contained thing. to have that sort of rampant, unabashed sexuality... it seems like it would be so EMPOWERING.

and I know what I'm going to get... lots of "find an amateur night" sort of replies... but honestly, if it were that easy, I would have done it already

So why not do it from the privacy of your own home for your SO? It's equally empowering, having his/her eyes glued to your body as you swing, twirl and twirk on that pole. Throw on some fishnet stockings, and a nice bra and panties set for extra effect and you'll have them completely enthralled, willing to do whatever you wished afterwards

 

[kaitlyn_sun]

So why not do it from the privacy of your own home for your SO? It's equally empowering, having his/her eyes glued to your body as you swing, twirl and twirk on that pole. Throw on some fishnet stockings, and a nice bra and panties set for extra effect and you'll have them completely enthralled, willing to do whatever you wished afterwards

lol... aside from the pole, I HAVE. I think most women enjoy stripping for their guys.

I think what I'm specifically saying is that what I wish I had the balls to do is actually strip in stage. in public. it seems like it would be intensely empowering and degrading all at the same time... something that I would just LOVE doing...

but again... not brave enough

 

[perrafuker]

i have been to strip clubs a couple of times and it was fun.the only thing that bothered me was that women were begging for your money when they pass thru your table.this may sound weird but i felt used because of that.other than that i enjoyed the shows and even a titty rub on my face haha

 

[Lustful_Intentions]

lol... aside from the pole, I HAVE. I think most women enjoy stripping for their guys.

I think what I'm specifically saying is that what I wish I had the balls to do is actually strip in stage. in public. it seems like it would be intensely empowering and degrading all at the same time... something that I would just LOVE doing...

but again... not brave enough

Here's where I would ask the question-do you, or your SO, have a small group of friends for whom this could be done? That way it is quasi-public, but with people you trust?

I have no idea if this is feasible enough or not, just offering suggestions that might help you get something you would enjoy and feel safe doing.

 

[jeninflorida]

talk about a work out...and once you start, clearly one wants to become stronger.

This could make for a great story! Where two soccer mom's want to get into better shape and put a poll in her basement, clearly the guys want to watch ... can see where this turns into a swinger story! yummie lol

 

[Rozalin_0123]

lol... aside from the pole, I HAVE. I think most women enjoy stripping for their guys.

I think what I'm specifically saying is that what I wish I had the balls to do is actually strip in stage. in public. it seems like it would be intensely empowering and degrading all at the same time... something that I would just LOVE doing...

but again... not brave enough

If you're brave enough to admit you'd love it, you're brave enough to get on that stage

Trust me, when I got on the stage the first time I was nervous and didn't know much about pole dancing at all. I basically walked around the pole all skittish with my top off. At the time, it was a means to an end but the more I did it, the more comfortable I got. Doing some research on pole dancing moves etc helped too

 

[policywank]

I think we're talking different degrees of touching.





Poor Jess-so pretty, so about to have her inbox explode with requests to join her on her next trip to Vegas.

In Ontario (Canada) it is fully nude and lap dances are in a separate room. If the stripper is willing the clients can touch anything but her pussy. And of course the guys have to keep it in their pants.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

In Ontario (Canada) it is fully nude and lap dances are in a separate room. If the stripper is willing the clients can touch anything but her pussy. And of course the guys have to keep it in their pants.

Time to take a trip to Ontario, Canada

Hopefully they perform well, would hate to have to show them how it's done.

 

[ProfQ1955]

There are two reasons to be a guy and frequent strip clubs. To see the power and grace the woman have dancing. And the the mind games that can be played. It was psych 101 and pretty entertaining.

 

[kaitlyn_sun]

Here's where I would ask the question-do you, or your SO, have a small group of friends for whom this could be done? That way it is quasi-public, but with people you trust?

I have no idea if this is feasible enough or not, just offering suggestions that might help you get something you would enjoy and feel safe doing.

you'd think so, but somehow that is even scarier it feels like that would be a step FURTHER than stripping for strangers... stripping for people that actually know me that... you know... aren't seeing me naked on a regular basis.

I should probably clarify that I'm not exactly a naked type person. I don't have any problem getting naked when I'm intimate with someone, or lying out in a swimsuit, or anything... but I'm not usually very casual about nudity.

not that that's a reason not to get on stage... that just makes it that much more exciting. that it's erotic for me too... still.

If you're brave enough to admit you'd love it, you're brave enough to get on that stage

Trust me, when I got on the stage the first time I was nervous and didn't know much about pole dancing at all. I basically walked around the pole all skittish with my top off. At the time, it was a means to an end but the more I did it, the more comfortable I got. Doing some research on pole dancing moves etc helped too

I was just talking to someone about agency... about being able to maintain control and responsiblity for what happens to you, sexually. that seems to be a big deal with me. I like being submissive, but I'm very comforted by the safe word. I don't give up control easily. so while I know that being onstage is, in fact a position of power, I have a lot of trouble wrapping my head around TAKING that power.

have you ever fired a gun? it's a pretty powerful thing, but it's also scary. you have to respect you own fear in order to step up and handle that power. I feel like this might be the same thing.

 

[Lustful_Intentions]

you'd think so, but somehow that is even scarier it feels like that would be a step FURTHER than stripping for strangers... stripping for people that actually know me that... you know... aren't seeing me naked on a regular basis.

I should probably clarify that I'm not exactly a naked type person. I don't have any problem getting naked when I'm intimate with someone, or lying out in a swimsuit, or anything... but I'm not usually very casual about nudity.

not that that's a reason not to get on stage... that just makes it that much more exciting. that it's erotic for me too... still.



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I totally get it-I'm sure I've minimized the impact of it in my response. I apologize.

You know what might work, and this is almost silly, but, find a place with an 'amateur night' that's a couple of hours away-driving distance-and have your BF accompany you there. That way, you can think about the fact that you have his eyes on you, but experience doing it in a safe, stranger-filled place.

 

[kaitlyn_sun]

I totally get it-I'm sure I've minimized the impact of it in my response. I apologize.

You know what might work, and this is almost silly, but, find a place with an 'amateur night' that's a couple of hours away-driving distance-and have your BF accompany you there. That way, you can think about the fact that you have his eyes on you, but experience doing it in a safe, stranger-filled place.

oh, no apology necessary

that actually might make it easier. a LOT easier, actually. every time I've ever had sex in public, it was outside the country

you know.... my boyfriend and I are going to a wedding across the country this summer, and we're planning on driving.... a lot of states I don't ever plan on being in again....

 

[Lustful_Intentions]

oh, no apology necessary

that actually might make it easier. a LOT easier, actually. every time I've ever had sex in public, it was outside the country

you know.... my boyfriend and I are going to a wedding across the country this summer, and we're planning on driving.... a lot of states I don't ever plan on being in again....

Fair enough. I never want to come across as offensive here.

See?! There you go-a little bit of risk, but not much-I think that's the ticket for you. And, if you're driving through the middle of the country, I'm sure you can find something that works for you.

You just have to report back to this bunch and tell us how it went.

 

[kaitlyn_sun]

Fair enough. I never want to come across as offensive here.

See?! There you go-a little bit of risk, but not much-I think that's the ticket for you. And, if you're driving through the middle of the country, I'm sure you can find something that works for you.

You just have to report back to this bunch and tell us how it went.

lol.... now I REALLY need to start practicing!

 

[Lustful_Intentions]

lol.... now I REALLY need to start practicing!

Well, I'm betting if you wanted to, Rozalin could share some amazing tips with you

 

[policywank]

Time to take a trip to Ontario, Canada

Hopefully they perform well, would hate to have to show them how it's done.

I would say they do pretty well, but I am sure if you want to strut your stuff there would be plenty of takers

 

[Rozalin_0123]

oh, no apology necessary

that actually might make it easier. a LOT easier, actually. every time I've ever had sex in public, it was outside the country

you know.... my boyfriend and I are going to a wedding across the country this summer, and we're planning on driving.... a lot of states I don't ever plan on being in again....

I second this idea. A lot of women who first start out have "what if someone I know sees me?" looming in the back of their mind. This creates unneeded stress and will affect your performance. By going somewhere a great distance away you eliminate this issue entirely. Also, yes, have your SO with you. He/she will be able to provide moral support as well as give you something to focus your attention on. Just put the strangers in the room out of your mind.

Wherever it is you may be going, you should look at stripclubnetwork.com. It is a site with a directory of strip clubs across the country and ways to contact them. They also have user reviews which can help weed out the bad ones. Find one somewhere close to where you're going and contact them about an amateur night or even a tryout.

And as Lustful suggested, I can offer some tips if you need them

 

[widow132]

I danced in college and after for a total of about 8 years. It was fun and I made good money. The guys were mostly nice and respectful but there were some jerks. It did keep me in shape and made me look after my appearance. After I got married I danced another year or so, then subbed to make extra money and after that and since I have only danced for my husband and some of his friends (for free).
I was often tempted to try amateur night but haven't gone back but if they had a night for 40 something ladies I might try it on a whim.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

I danced in college and after for a total of about 8 years. It was fun and I made good money. The guys were mostly nice and respectful but there were some jerks. It did keep me in shape and made me look after my appearance. After I got married I danced another year or so, then subbed to make extra money and after that and since I have only danced for my husband and some of his friends (for free).
I was often tempted to try amateur night but haven't gone back but if they had a night for 40 something ladies I might try it on a whim.

One of my good friends who I danced with is still working at the same club. She's 43 and still rocking it

 

[widow132]

I really don't need the money anymore the attention ????? I am hooked on exhibitionism, however.

 

[Rozalin_0123]

If you've been following the thread, then you would have read that while I stated sex at a strip club was rare, I was guilty of one count. A friend had inquired about it and after telling him he suggested that I post it here. This is that one count:

I had been dancing for the same club for a while, by that point I had quite a few regulars who would come in. One such guy was a nice but socially awkward college guy who always came by himself. When we first met, I approached him as he was sitting at one of the back tables far away from the stage, almost as if he didn't want to be noticed. Now me being me, if I wasn't on stage or in one of the VIP rooms, I was chatting with someone. Mind you, by chatting i mean actual polite everyday conversation. I NEVER asked a guy if they wanted to buy a dance, I felt it was extremely rude, makes you look like a tramp, and also puts the guy in an uncomfortable position if he didn't want one.

Anyways, I sat next to him, introduced myself and asked if he was enjoying himself. He replied "kind of" which made me inquire why he was here then. He said some of his college friends suggested he come to a club to liven up a bit because he was always so consumed with his studies. We kept talking small talk but I could tell he was very shy and probably never been to a club before in his life. He asked why some guys disappeared into the back for a few minutes and I explained they were getting lap dances in one of the VIP rooms and explained how it all worked. He asked if I do those dances and I said yes then he asked if he could get one.

So I took him into the VIP room which is mostly a small closet sized room with a love seat and dim lights. I had him sit, and explained that I can touch him, but he can't touch me. I started dancing in front of him, between his legs, doing slow wiggles and twirls, bending over and spanking myself. Eventually, I climbed up into his lap, and I immediately noticed just how much he was enjoying me dance. It's not unusual to feel a man's erection while giving him a lap dance, but what caught me off guard was the amount. He obviously was well endowed.

I continued to grind on his crotch and asked if he was having a better time now. He finally smiled and gave a low pitched "yes". I then put my tits in his face, rubbing them against his cheeks and smearing his glasses. When the song was over, he thanked me, paid the amount and gave a nice tip. I gave him a big hug, and told him to come back and see me.

The next several weekends he came in on a Saturday night. He would ask for a lap dance and of course we'd go back to the VIP room. Each time my curiosity about his package was heightened. He was always polite and sat perfectly still. Because if this, I decided to bend a few rules. While sitting in his lap, I grabbed his hands and put them on my breasts, using my hands to squeeze them gently. His eyes got very wide and smiled from ear to ear. I told him it was technically still me touching him. I could feel him start to squeeze a little, and I ground into his crotch a little harder approvingly. I stood up, turned around, and laid my back against his chest. My head lay on his collar bone, my hands again placing his on my breasts. I then let go of his hands and place my arms around his head, moaning softly into his ear and grinding my ass mercifully against his huge bulge.

After that encounter, I decided to give into my curiosity and give him something special the next time he came; a hand job. Sure enough, the next Saturday night came and he showed up asking for a dance. He sat down as per usual and I squatted between his legs. Looking over my shoulder to see if there was a bouncer around, I started unzipping his pants. He asked what I was doing and I said that I had been curious about this since you started coming here. The coast was clear, and I reached into his boxers and pulled out what is to this day the biggest cock I've ever seen in person. He was I'd say at least 11 inches, maybe 12, and slightly above average girth.

Mind you, whenever I was dancing, I was at least a little turned on. When I pulled that cock out my pussy instantly started to twinge. He was already fully erect, and I used both hands to stroke him a few seconds before he blurted out that he was still a virgin. I was completely dumbfounded. How could this polite, yet slightly awkward, man with this huge package still be a virgin? Oddly, his social mannerisms started to make sense.

Something came over me, I don't know if it was my curiosity to know what he would feel like inside me or if it was that I wanted to be his first, or maybe a bit of both, but I climbed up in his lap, pulled my panties to the side, and impaled myself on his cock. I slide down as far as I could, but never got all of him in me. His eyes rolled into the back of his head while I rode him for maybe 30 seconds before I felt him twitch. I quickly hopped off and he shot stream after stream of stringy cum onto the floor. I quickly grabbed a towel and cleaned it up while he zipped back up. The song had just ended, and he asked why I did that. I replied, because you deserved it. He went to hand me money for the dance but I told him to keep it. I hugged him as always and gave him a small kiss on the lips.

Strangely, I never saw him after that, never even knew his name. I would have dated him if he had asked. I like to think that maybe after that night he had gained the courage to do all those social things he was afraid to do before. It will always be a mystery. Looking back, I still would have done the same, even if he wasn't so hung. It was just one of those things where the circumstances all came together to form an interesting and irresistible encounter.

So I guess the moral of the story is, be polite, be yourself, and don't be intimidated by a good looking woman.