Switch Space

[catalina_francisco]

Thought this thread might do well to be bumped.

 

[Silverbabe]

The thread went inactive for a reason. For a few months, this place was a veritable hell on the net for some of us. It was a truly nasty shitstorm I bowed out of, and I was away for roughly four years, with an odd post here or there because of it.

Looks like things are different, now, so I'll try to keep up here. I've got a few other net commitments and a Real Life job search to keep me busy, so I don't know if I'll be able to keep up...

Like I said years ago, though, I never give up.

DVS gave me a link to this old thing, and I hope folks read the first nine pages, maybe ten. It got a little spammy after I bowed out.

Read, and post your thoughts, your answers to old questions, new questions that may come up, whatever, as long as it's about Switches, or switching, it's on topic, relevant, and you don't have to be a Switch yourself to post here. Just be civil.

Well I read the whole thing. I was about 5 pages in to it before I realized it was an old thread so I guess it's not out of date!

 

[Temptress_lee]

Wow I would have loved to answer some of those questions earlier if I had caught this thread early on but unfortunitly. I feel weird responding to questions, and topics that have already neem disccused.

I do identify well as a switch though. I didn't really figure that out until later on. In the beginning I always viewed myself as submissive. People would tell me your either one, or the other you can't be both. If you don't desire a need to take control, then your not a Top, or the other way around. But then I started asking myself; What if I desire both? In the beginning yes i'am very submissive, you would never guess some timid little girl like me could get a grown man to kneel at my feet, but I can depending on how comfortable i'am with that person, and how open he is to letting me do it.

I always thought you needed over inflated ego, and power to take control. Then I realized I had the most powerful thing of all and that was my own sexuality. All i'd had to do is say what I wanted and instantly a man would go get it for me... without complaint. I just never pushed myself past that barrier before so it was a little scary for me at first. But when I did it was alot of fun.

And thats kindof when I came to discover my need to play both parts.

 

[SpectreT]

Thank you for sharing that - one of the many reasons I started this thread, aside from being a "clubhouse" here, was so people could share their thoughts, ideas and experiences.

By all means, go ahead and share your thoughts and experiences as they relate to the old questions - that's what they're there for.

 

[DVS]

Wow I would have loved to answer some of those questions earlier if I had caught this thread early on but unfortunitly. I feel weird responding to questions, and topics that have already neem disccused.

I do identify well as a switch though. I didn't really figure that out until later on. In the beginning I always viewed myself as submissive. People would tell me your either one, or the other you can't be both. If you don't desire a need to take control, then your not a Top, or the other way around. But then I started asking myself; What if I desire both? In the beginning yes i'am very submissive, you would never guess some timid little girl like me could get a grown man to kneel at my feet, but I can depending on how comfortable i'am with that person, and how open he is to letting me do it.

I always thought you needed over inflated ego, and power to take control. Then I realized I had the most powerful thing of all and that was my own sexuality. All i'd had to do is say what I wanted and instantly a man would go get it for me... without complaint. I just never pushed myself past that barrier before so it was a little scary for me at first. But when I did it was alot of fun.

And thats kindof when I came to discover my need to play both parts.

I never quite understood those people who said you had to be one of the other. There's no rulebook anywhere that says that. I know I could probably submit to a woman, but it would have to be a special woman. I'm very dominant, sexually, but I won't ever say I couldn't submit, if the situation was just right.

And, I think there are a lot of people out there that could live the other side of the BDSM experience, but just don't have the available partner to live out that little fantasy. I personally know of a few who thought they were only one way or another until they were given the chance to live the other side of the flogger. I guess it sometimes takes a little walk in your partner's shoes.

It's very difficult for some people to understand and fulfil their sexual needs and desires. That's why so many are into their adult years before they begin to understand who they really are. Some are shown the lifestyle by another. Some might see it in a movie or read about it in a story. That lightbulb lights up in their head and they finally understand.

Why would being a switch be any different? I'm sure there are borderline switches out there. If given the right partner and the right sexual mood at the right time, things could start to click.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Bump....

 

[BiBunny]

Thanks for bumping this, cat. I looked for it the other day, but the search function was down.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thanks for bumping this, cat. I looked for it the other day, but the search function was down.

LOL, isn't it always?!! I tried finding a thread last week, put in the exact name, forum etc and came up as 'no matches'...found it the long way and just as I thought, I did have the title and everything correct and it still said it didn't exist.

Catalina

 

[BiBunny]

LOL, isn't it always?!! I tried finding a thread last week, put in the exact name, forum etc and came up as 'no matches'...found it the long way and just as I thought, I did have the title and everything correct and it still said it didn't exist.

Catalina

I hate that! There ought to be a better way to find things. A man must have invented Lit's search function. I'm sure of it!

 

[heyrocky]

I have mentioned the game sweet surrender in a couple of other threads. It is a game from Penthouse where the players land on spaces marked either Dominant or Submissive. There is a pile of cards for both classes. This requires a camelion like ability to switch. Most of the time I love to be the submissive one, doing everything I can to please my mistress. But occasionally I like to be dominant and call the shots. The problem with being a switch is you have to have a partner that is switch also. My mistress does a lot of topping from the bottom, which works wells for me. We have been apart for about 4 weeks due to a family illness so I am incredibly lonely and horny. I bought my first butt plug today and what a wonderful feeling. When she gets home I will be the most submissive man she has ever been with. I can't wait to please her in everyway. But then again I may tie her up, put my plug in and see what it is like to prolong the pleasure by tormenting her for a while. Ahhh the joy of switching.

"Even a blind monkey occassionally finds a banana"

 

[BiBunny]

You don't have to have a partner who's a switch to be a switch. You can have multiple partners, or you can just have one partner and concentrate on one aspect of your personality at a time. Many switches can't submit to and dominate the same person. I don't have this problem--my Master is a switch whom I Top occasionally--, but I can see why others would feel this way.