Taboo. Open discussion, no attitude.

[SLUT13]

well im only 18 and my partner jus barely turned 31. i met him at 13, and at that age we started a relationship..and oddly, i ended up teaching him things, and helping him get comforatable with his sexuality and its helped him tremendesly. i dont see anything wrong with it..sometimes we need a lil taboo to help us realize who we really are inside.

 

[Retrieval]

I want to fuck a black woman attending a black power convention while I'm dressed as the Grand Wizard of the KKK.

I want to fuck a Muslim woman, while I'm dressed as a Christian Crusader, as she prays in a mosque.

I want to fuck a Jewess while I'm dressed as a S.S officer.

 

[Retrieval]

I want to fuck a black woman attending a black power convention while I'm dressed as the Grand Wizard of the KKK.

I want to fuck a Muslim woman, while I'm dressed as a Christian Crusader, as she prays in a mosque.

I want to fuck a Jewess while I'm dressed as a S.S officer.

What, nobody wants to touch this one?

 

[BiBunny]

I almost posted this somewhere else, but I didn't feel like donning the flame suit. I figured this thread was the best place to post with the least likelihood of getting bitched at.

What is up with the fucking pussy-fication (technical term) of BDSM? Why is it when someone posts a thread about breath play or breast bondage or whatever, it seems that the consensus is usually, "It's dangerous. Don't do it"? I'm not advocating doing stupid shit just for the sake of doing stupid shit, but damn. Educating oneself and minimizing the risks of any activity are things intelligent people do, obviously. But does every fucking activity have to be dumbed-down and totally idiot-proof before we can even think about engaging in it?

It's not supposed to be pretty and romantic and perfectly safe. It's supposed to be raw and primal and, dare I say, violent, at least in my world. To over-simplify, I crave BDSM because it's not vanilla. Vanilla bores me. To make kink into a slightly different shade of vanilla is defeating the purpose. I'm not into "kinder, gentler, prettied-up BDSM," sorry. I suppose it's fine if you are, but don't try to force it on me.

I could go on and on, but I'd like to know what y'all think.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

What, nobody wants to touch this one?

Hey Retrieval, are you getting your calcium dude. You know osteoporosis is a serious debilitating health concern for some.

Let's talk about that awhile shall we

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[Retrieval]

Hey Retrieval, are you getting your calcium dude. You know osteoporosis is a serious debilitating health concern for some.

Let's talk about that awhile shall we

So, do you want to be the black woman, the Muslim woman or the Jewess?

And stop using big words like "osteoporosis", you're confusing me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I almost posted this somewhere else, but I didn't feel like donning the flame suit. I figured this thread was the best place to post with the least likelihood of getting bitched at.

What is up with the fucking pussy-fication (technical term) of BDSM? Why is it when someone posts a thread about breath play or breast bondage or whatever, it seems that the consensus is usually, "It's dangerous. Don't do it"? I'm not advocating doing stupid shit just for the sake of doing stupid shit, but damn. Educating oneself and minimizing the risks of any activity are things intelligent people do, obviously. But does every fucking activity have to be dumbed-down and totally idiot-proof before we can even think about engaging in it?

It's not supposed to be pretty and romantic and perfectly safe. It's supposed to be raw and primal and, dare I say, violent, at least in my world. To over-simplify, I crave BDSM because it's not vanilla. Vanilla bores me. To make kink into a slightly different shade of vanilla is defeating the purpose. I'm not into "kinder, gentler, prettied-up BDSM," sorry. I suppose it's fine if you are, but don't try to force it on me.

I could go on and on, but I'd like to know what y'all think.

Is why I am not that big on reading lots of books on it, or attending workshops for everything you think of trying at some point. I will read up on something if I really need to check out the medical/safety aspects first, but that does not require half a dozen books and a workshop or 2, especially when dealing with fairly basic SM. Some like to attend a workshop on anything and everything before considering trying, others even like someone to show them how to do it on their submissive first and then hand it over to them....I cannot think of anything more impersonal and crossing my boundaries. I am all for safety, but I do think sometimes it is over done, and sometimes results in not even making those first steps after all.

Catalina

 

[Quint]

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[BiBunny]

Is why I am not that big on reading lots of books on it, or attending workshops for everything you think of trying at some point. I will read up on something if I really need to check out the medical/safety aspects first, but that does not require half a dozen books and a workshop or 2, especially when dealing with fairly basic SM. Some like to attend a workshop on anything and everything before considering trying, others even like someone to show them how to do it on their submissive first and then hand it over to them....I cannot think of anything more impersonal and crossing my boundaries. I am all for safety, but I do think sometimes it is over done, and sometimes results in not even making those first steps after all.

Catalina

Exactly. I agree with CM that sometimes the obvious does need to be pointed out. But people tend to insist on beating the dead horse a lot of times, you know what I mean?

 

[Chris_Xavier]

I want to fuck a black woman attending a black power convention while I'm dressed as the Grand Wizard of the KKK.

I want to fuck a Muslim woman, while I'm dressed as a Christian Crusader, as she prays in a mosque.

I want to fuck a Jewess while I'm dressed as a S.S officer.

LOL.. obviously you like your sex on the dangerous side.

 

[intothewoods]

I want to fuck a Jewess while I'm dressed as a S.S officer.

Again? All right, when do you want to come over.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

I almost posted this somewhere else, but I didn't feel like donning the flame suit. I figured this thread was the best place to post with the least likelihood of getting bitched at.

What is up with the fucking pussy-fication (technical term) of BDSM? Why is it when someone posts a thread about breath play or breast bondage or whatever, it seems that the consensus is usually, "It's dangerous. Don't do it"? I'm not advocating doing stupid shit just for the sake of doing stupid shit, but damn. Educating oneself and minimizing the risks of any activity are things intelligent people do, obviously. But does every fucking activity have to be dumbed-down and totally idiot-proof before we can even think about engaging in it?

It's not supposed to be pretty and romantic and perfectly safe. It's supposed to be raw and primal and, dare I say, violent, at least in my world. To over-simplify, I crave BDSM because it's not vanilla. Vanilla bores me. To make kink into a slightly different shade of vanilla is defeating the purpose. I'm not into "kinder, gentler, prettied-up BDSM," sorry. I suppose it's fine if you are, but don't try to force it on me.

I could go on and on, but I'd like to know what y'all think.

I think that there CAN be a romantic side to a bdsm ~ D/s relationship. Flowers, chocolates, holding the door open for your pyl, sending a card in the mail "just because" and all that other gushy stuff but lets remember we are a crowd of "pervs" who like our sex on the dark side.

Can someone show me the romance of taking a woman's breast.. and driving a nail through it?

Can someone show me the romance of taking a man's cock and squeezing it until it turns purple?

 

[BiBunny]

I think that there CAN be a romantic side to a bdsm ~ D/s relationship. Flowers, chocolates, holding the door open for your pyl, sending a card in the mail "just because" and all that other gushy stuff but lets remember we are a crowd of "pervs" who like our sex on the dark side.

Can someone show me the romance of taking a woman's breast.. and driving a nail through it?

Can someone show me the romance of taking a man's cock and squeezing it until it turns purple?

Everything that gets our rocks off doesn't have to be all lovey-dovey and romantic. That's my point. It's ok to want to choke somebody just because you like it. It doesn't all have to be prettied up to make it more palatable for the faint of heart.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Everything that gets our rocks off doesn't have to be all lovey-dovey and romantic. That's my point. It's ok to want to choke somebody just because you like it. It doesn't all have to be prettied up to make it more palatable for the faint of heart.

It doesn't?

 

[BiBunny]

It doesn't?

You're being deliberately obtuse, and you know it.

Just because Jim Bob is too damn chicken-shit to wale away at his sub with a whip until he draws blood doesn't mean that I can't draw blood with my whip on my (hypothetical) sub. I don't care what other people do in their relationships, but it's ridiculous to think that because what I do doesn't conform to the sweet little picture of BDSM that Jim Bob has, I should just hang up my whip altogether.

 

[EmpressFi]

Everything that gets our rocks off doesn't have to be all lovey-dovey and romantic. That's my point. It's ok to want to choke somebody just because you like it. It doesn't all have to be prettied up to make it more palatable for the faint of heart.

You're right, but how is adding, "do these things to be careful" to "if that rocks your socks..." turning it into pussy-fied BDSM.. I'd say it's simply providing education or experience to make sure that people dont end up wounded, maimed or dead.

 

[BiBunny]

You're right, but how is adding, "do these things to be careful" to "if that rocks your socks..." turning it into pussy-fied BDSM.. I'd say it's simply providing education or experience to make sure that people dont end up wounded, maimed or dead.

I said in an earlier post that it was ok to point things out. The beating of the dead horse is what I object to. Ok, *insert kinky activity here* is dangerous, fine. Ok, Suzie Subbie wouldn't dare dream of letting Sir White Knight do it to her, fine. The point's been made. It doesn't have to be rehashed over and over because somebody's got a stick up his/her ass.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

You're being deliberately obtuse, and you know it.

Danger! Grumble Bunny is loose.. Danger!​

 

[BiBunny]

I just have a problem when people don't read for comprehension. Excuse the hell out of me.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[BiBunny]

[hijack]

All that "gushy stuff" isn't romance [to me]...that's commericalism. While I'd struggle to see the "romance" in specifically having my breast nailed to a board, I do see romance in a hell of a lot of things that other people think are sick/twisted/abnormal.

Romance is the physical manifestation of my Love for my PYL, and his love for me... if you Love me [I mean capital L Love], don't pacify me with pink roses. Use me as you see fit; enable my suffering, allowing me an outlet for my devotion; offer me every opportunity to serve... that is romance.

[/hijack]

/\/\/\/\

What she said.

 

[EmpressFi]

I just have a problem when people don't read for comprehension. Excuse the hell out of me.

I'm sorry.. I'm not quite sure I'm able to comprehend what it is you were trying to say. Perhaps I should read it again

 

[Chris_Xavier]

[hijack]

All that "gushy stuff" isn't romance [to me]...that's commericalism. While I'd struggle to see the "romance" in specifically having my breast nailed to a board, I do see romance in a hell of a lot of things that other people think are sick/twisted/abnormal.

Romance is the physical manifestation of my Love for my PYL, and his love for me... if you Love me [I mean capital L Love], don't pacify me with pink roses. Use me as you see fit; enable my suffering, allowing me an outlet for my devotion; offer me every opportunity to serve... that is romance.

[/hijack]

Okay.. I will grant your point that Valentines Day was invented by the chocolate and flower industry to boost sales in the post Christmas slump BUT there is still merits to doing the aforementioned.

I remember a post that you made about some potential suitor and how you were impressed by the fact that he made a point to get the spelling and other details of his text message correct from his cell phone and how that impressed you. Wouldn't attention to detail be considered "romantic" - like remembering a birthday with a card or a night on the town?

Maybe I've missed the boat somewhere..

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think that there CAN be a romantic side to a bdsm ~ D/s relationship. Flowers, chocolates, holding the door open for your pyl, sending a card in the mail "just because" and all that other gushy stuff but lets remember we are a crowd of "pervs" who like our sex on the dark side.

Can someone show me the romance of taking a woman's breast.. and driving a nail through it?

Can someone show me the romance of taking a man's cock and squeezing it until it turns purple?

For me those more sadistic things are romantic, but then I am also quite willing to be showered in roses and chocolates, taken to dinner, have sweet nothing whispered in my ear (in Spanish of course), given a massage once in a blue moon as a reward for being good, and see these things as equally romantic. I think a lot of people are afraid to want and/or welcome these more mainstream ways of showing romance incase others don't think them as D/s enough....I have no such insecurities, but then I also do not get the either/or arguments which arise in many of life's situations....diversity is the spice of life for me and keeps things interesting with the unpredictable contrast of dark and light.

Catalina