Taboo. Open discussion, no attitude.

[mcafee]

I enjoy tremendously letting girlfriends force me to embarass myself in front of my family and hers. Is it common to like showing off hardons in embarrasing situations?

 

[EmpressFi]

For me those more sadistic things are romantic, but then I am also quite willing to be showered in roses and chocolates, taken to dinner, have sweet nothing whispered in my ear (in Spanish of course), given a massage once in a blue moon as a reward for being good, and see these things as equally romantic. I think a lot of people are afraid to want and/or welcome these more mainstream ways of showing romance incase others don't think them as D/s enough....I have no such insecurities, but then I also do not get the either/or arguments which arise in many of life's situations....diversity is the spice of life for me and keeps things interesting with the unpredictable contrast of dark and light.

Catalina

I've bolded the part that struck me. I think you've just hit the proverbial nail on its head. Getting flowers from my husband after my surgery left me with the same warm feelings as getting a PM from my Master saying how pleased he was with my submission.. Why does it have to be either/or?

 

[twysted73]

He works in mysterious ways...

When I was younger, just a wee sprite of betticus my family went to a zoo. In this zoo there was the primate exhibit, filled with various forms of raucous, shrieking semi-bipedal mammals swinging from things. Next to us stood this woman, older and she was wearing a dress and one of those woven hats with the flowers and stuff on it. What we would call old fashioned.

I watched as this one monkey was hanging from a limb next to the bars and it was taking a monkeypoo. Another monkey saw this poo activity and swung over as about six inches of said poo was hanging precariously from the first monkeys distended asshole. Monkey number 2 batted this chunk of poo like Sammy Sosa and out it flew, between the bars. The firm, brown monkeypoo missile arched through it's flight pattern as gravity took hold of it, pulling it down into a graceful curve as the horrified spectators leapt out of the path of the impending poo. All that is but for this lady with the hat. A nefarious twist of fate had drawn her attention elsewhere for the moment in time that it took for this vicious attack to take place and she stood still. I recall in vivid detail as this monkey weapon of ass destruction impacted on her hat with an accuracy that even our own military cannot match. As if guided by the hand of God this poo made it's presence known on the now stained innocence of a woven hat.

You know...I can't really quite place my finger on just which kernel of gramatical beauty made me laugh more. Was it the "monkey weapon of ass destruction" or was it the poo that seemd as if "guided by the hand of God"? Imagine it. God-directed monkey poo. Where does the lord find the TIME to stop in and direct Primate Shit? That'll teach her to skimp on the collection plate next sunday.

 

[twysted73]

I enjoy tremendously letting girlfriends force me to embarass myself in front of my family and hers. Is it common to like showing off hardons in embarrasing situations?

Hmm..this caught my attention. Not that I wish to be embarrased per se. But what of having a signifficant perform in the presence of family? Granted I'd not get the much coveted Christmas Card or Thanksgiving invite like you know I enjoy. But still....these little family gatherings really need some updating. I mean, how many generations can we drag out the usual "reverance for grandma's potato salad"? Push the limits. Leave a memory.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[intothewoods]

Sorry, Chris, I think some of us are just, er, tougher nuts to crack. Roses don't really do much for me. Especially in and of themselves. One year my husband had my favorite florist from our old neighborhood in the city deliver a bouquet. That made me so happy -- because he really thought about it.

The other week my PYL bought some extra contact lens cases to have at his house for those impromptu overnight visits. I thought that was so sweet!

 

[BiBunny]

I almost posted this somewhere else, but I didn't feel like donning the flame suit. I figured this thread was the best place to post with the least likelihood of getting bitched at.

What is up with the fucking pussy-fication (technical term) of BDSM? Why is it when someone posts a thread about breath play or breast bondage or whatever, it seems that the consensus is usually, "It's dangerous. Don't do it"? I'm not advocating doing stupid shit just for the sake of doing stupid shit, but damn. Educating oneself and minimizing the risks of any activity are things intelligent people do, obviously. But does every fucking activity have to be dumbed-down and totally idiot-proof before we can even think about engaging in it?

It's not supposed to be pretty and romantic and perfectly safe. It's supposed to be raw and primal and, dare I say, violent, at least in my world. To over-simplify, I crave BDSM because it's not vanilla. Vanilla bores me. To make kink into a slightly different shade of vanilla is defeating the purpose. I'm not into "kinder, gentler, prettied-up BDSM," sorry. I suppose it's fine if you are, but don't try to force it on me.

I could go on and on, but I'd like to know what y'all think.

Well, that was obviously a perfectly useless rant. Same shit, different day around here.

 

[graceanne]

Damn. I should check out what's going on over here more.

I personally love romance, but have no patience for imagination-less romance. Do I like flowers? Yes. Is he gonna get tons of points for it? No. It's obvious and requires no imagination or thought. The butterfly necklace he got me? Since it's the first present I've gotten from him in years that I didn't point out, and tell him to get me, I was thrilled. The last time I was in the hospital I came home and found he'd put up the mirrors I'd been procrastinating for several months. BIG POINTS for that one.

 

[Retrieval]

Again? All right, when do you want to come over.

How about I kick your door down and fuck you on the dining table while your folks are over for dinner?

 

[intothewoods]

How about I kick your door down and fuck you on the dining table while your folks are over for dinner?

My folks live on the other side of the country, so that one will take a while to orchestrate.