Taking the Pain

[shy slave]

LOL, I don't know what you mean!! I actually look up to both you and KC.

Catalina

Thanks catalina, as i am only 4'10" no-one actually looks up to me unless they kneel lol.

I have long admired you KC and ADR all for very different reasons, but the pain thing, well wow you and KC are amazing in your consistant advice and support.

Regarding your point about people who think you just have to say 'hey presto' and it all works between a PYL & pyl.
I have been married twice, had a more than few relationships but have only just come to realise that respect plays a HUGE part of being able to make a relationship work.

I speak to both my ex husbands, I even like one of them but I don't respect them as people.

Respect is different to trust. I have let people inflict pain on me who I trusted at the time, I lost respect for them later over different things but for a long time I thought the two words so similiar it was barely worth arguing the semantics.
My thinking has changed, pain is not easier to take from Andante because I trust him, or because I have strong feelings for him, or because I want to please him; all of those things have been in place with other people at the time of the scene.

The pain is easier because I took KC's advice, because I allow the endorphins to flood my body and make me mad/angry, because I am able to say I don't want aftercare and explain why I don't want it, because I read other peoples advice/views and studied my own reactions and fears about it

And ultimately because I respect him.
I respect him both as a man and a Dom. He is not always 'Domly' I am not always submissive but I respect his views, his thoughts and his understanding of where he wants this relationship to go.

Yes, The pain still hurts but its different to how it was.
Respect, small word but it works for me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thanks catalina, as i am only 4'10" no-one actually looks up to me unless they kneel lol.

I have long admired you KC and ADR all for very different reasons, but the pain thing, well wow you and KC are amazing in your consistant advice and support.

Regarding your point about people who think you just have to say 'hey presto' and it all works between a PYL & pyl.
I have been married twice, had a more than few relationships but have only just come to realise that respect plays a HUGE part of being able to make a relationship work.

I speak to both my ex husbands, I even like one of them but I don't respect them as people.

Respect is different to trust. I have let people inflict pain on me who I trusted at the time, I lost respect for them later over different things but for a long time I thought the two words so similiar it was barely worth arguing the semantics.
My thinking has changed, pain is not easier to take from Andante because I trust him, or because I have strong feelings for him, or because I want to please him; all of those things have been in place with other people at the time of the scene.

The pain is easier because I took KC's advice, because I allow the endorphins to flood my body and make me mad/angry, because I am able to say I don't want aftercare and explain why I don't want it, because I read other peoples advice/views and studied my own reactions and fears about it

And ultimately because I respect him.
I respect him both as a man and a Dom. He is not always 'Domly' I am not always submissive but I respect his views, his thoughts and his understanding of where he wants this relationship to go.

Yes, The pain still hurts but its different to how it was.
Respect, small word but it works for me.

Very good words about something many struggle to understand. So good it had to go in the calandar..bit out of my usual sequence given I have been slack, but couldn't risk forgetting to put it there.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Edited to say:....

...beacuse someone says I talk too much.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I learn to walk through the pain.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Edited to say:....

...beacuse someone says I talk too much.

we have voice on the forums now?

pfffttttt if they think you talk too much tell em to try to clothepin your lips closed through the computer.

 

[graceanne]

Edited to say:....

...beacuse someone says I talk too much.

So?

 

[graceanne]

we have voice on the forums now?

pfffttttt if they think you talk too much tell em to try to clothepin your lips closed through the computer.

hehe Great mental picture hehe

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I said "so" too but unfortunately it was to someone holding a cane and within arms length of me when I said it.
Haven't had the opportunity to experience the clothspin though KC. It has been mentioned on occassion but I have managed to avoid it so far by batting my lashes and ....

Well you know.

We can let it surffice to say, I take the pain, rather well in fact.

So?

 

[Kajira Callista]

I said "so" too but unfortunately it was to someone holding a cane and within arms length of me when I said it.
Haven't had the opportunity to experience the clothspin though KC. It has been mentioned on occassion but I have managed to avoid it so far by batting my lashes and ....

Well you know.

We can let it surffice to say, I take the pain, rather well in fact.

ok some advice...dont ever.......EVER say go ahead...clip my tongue with as many as you want...i dont care. lol

 

[graceanne]

ok some advice...dont ever.......EVER say go ahead...clip my tongue with as many as you want...i dont care. lol

I don't want to know how you found that one out. LOL

 

[Kajira Callista]

I don't want to know how you found that one out. LOL

i can also tell you how many actually fit on a tongue without any space left over.

 

[graceanne]

i can also tell you how many actually fit on a tongue without any space left over.

I bet you can. I just can't imagine what made you say that. SAM.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I bet you can. I just can't imagine what made you say that. SAM.

remember the brain to mouth filter? lol

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Thanks KC but I'm not that rebellious most of the time. I know my place and tend to keep it but boy oh boy step over that line with one toe and ....

ok some advice...dont ever.......EVER say go ahead...clip my tongue with as many as you want...i dont care. lol

 

[Kajira Callista]

Thanks KC but I'm not that rebellious most of the time. I know my place and tend to keep it but boy oh boy step over that line with one toe and ....

exactly how i found out how many clothespins fit on a tongue.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Sorry KC girl. Had I been there I would have stroked your hair and gemtly sucked on you tongue until it felt better.

exactly how i found out how many clothespins fit on a tongue.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Sorry KC girl. Had I been there I would have stroked your hair and gemtly sucked on you tongue until it felt better.

*mew*

 

[graceanne]

remember the brain to mouth filter? lol

Ah, yours had a hole that day? tsk tsk Mine never does that. *bats eyes*

 

[Kajira Callista]

Ah, yours had a hole that day? tsk tsk Mine never does that. *bats eyes*

you do that so nicely pretty girl *pets you*

 

[graceanne]

you do that so nicely pretty girl *pets you*

*purr*

 

[graceanne]

Speaking of head to mouth filters . . . never ask 'why?' when you're told to stop asking questions.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Why?

Speaking of head to mouth filters . . . never ask 'why?' when you're told to stop asking questions.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Speaking of head to mouth filters . . . never ask 'why?' when you're told to stop asking questions.

Why?

Click me, and me.

 

[the captians wench]

Click me, and me.

I don't know what this says about me but, I thought that sounded like very fitting punishment. I love and crave the attention of my Dom, be it my Sir or a friend sessioning me at the time. The best punishment for me is to take away what I crave so much, and I get rewarded with extra attention when I'm good. And to have to see my crime written on my face the whole time I've been removed from him would just re-enforce things.

 

[myinnerslut]

i i find that the pain becomes really intense, i focus on my breathing. i keep reminding myself to breathe evenly, kind of like medtating. i once slipped and told myself to breathe outloud while being flogged. my Sir was very amused.