Taunting peer pressure harrassment teasing name calling etc?

[autymn]

so...bullies are just violent attention whores? you know, i find something deeply entertaining about that idea.

ed

LOL

I don't think I would have put it quite that way I am speaking from a personal point of view. If a bully isn't doing it for some sort of attention/reaction then why are they doing it ?

 

[Macdaddy23]

Autymn, people that usually make fun of someone has been made fun of before so it makes them feel like they are cool or in power by making fun of others. It's stupid but that's what I see.

 

[zerimar1231]

There's a lot of peer pressure in school from friends, they always want you to try drugs and sneak out to see guys/girls. My mom's a total authoritarian so i never did any of that stuff bc i was always too scared of the consequences but i sure watched a lot of people my age do it. Once a friend sneaked out of her window to hang out with some "friends" and she ended up at the hospital with alcohol poisoning. Other kids i went to elementary & middle school with ended up being drug addicts or in jail. If you have teenagers and they say they're going to their "friend's house" call the parents and make sure someone's there. Kids are VERY sneaky. You have to teach your kid to say "NO!" Drugs? NO! Alcohol? NO! I still don't drink and i'm 19, IN COLLEGE! Good luck

 

[HybridCrow]

Hmm.... bullies... I hate bullies. I've been bullied once in awhile in my entire life, but I never let them get to me for long. Majority of the time, I'll ignore it and take it, but if it continues and/or becomes worse, then I step up. Because I don't like violence, I make sure I stand up to them, look them in the eyes, and tell them to fuck off or something. I like how the result is they're all huffin' and puffin' and making threats to kick my ass or something, because it is all hilarious. I don't immediately start laughing when they do it, however, I simply get nose to nose and quietly say, "I'm right here. Bring it on." They'll end up standing down. If that doesn't work, then I'll just give them the "Start it, finish it." routine. That usually gets them.

Anyhow, most of the replies are pretty much accurate. It could be anywhere from physical abuse at home, insecurities, or they just don't have much of a brain and they're bound to bully for no reason in particular.

As whoever put it, bullies CAN be attention whores. They'll bully because they want attention.

I myself don't like to see somebody who seems weaker getting bullied on. I tend to work on my throwing skills, that way I'll have a better chance of hitting something. However, you can't guarantee a successful shot when you factor in outside factors, but if it helps and I don't think I'll catch their attention in time, I like to throw something at them to get their attention focused on me. As I said, I play the "Start it, finish it" role very well in my life.

There will always be somebody we don't like and there will always be people bullying other people, but the only thing that matters at the end is how we deal with them in life.

 

[HybridCrow]

There's a lot of peer pressure in school from friends, they always want you to try drugs and sneak out to see guys/girls. My mom's a total authoritarian so i never did any of that stuff bc i was always too scared of the consequences but i sure watched a lot of people my age do it. Once a friend sneaked out of her window to hang out with some "friends" and she ended up at the hospital with alcohol poisoning. Other kids i went to elementary & middle school with ended up being drug addicts or in jail. If you have teenagers and they say they're going to their "friend's house" call the parents and make sure someone's there. Kids are VERY sneaky. You have to teach your kid to say "NO!" Drugs? NO! Alcohol? NO! I still don't drink and i'm 19, IN COLLEGE! Good luck

Ok, first off, even though everything from drugs and alcohol to the food we eat and the activities we perform, everything WILL BE bad for us. HOWEVER, the only way people are going to learn to know what's good and what's bad for them is simply dealing with it the first time. Sure, there are people out there who don't learn the first time around, but more times than one, there will be somebody who learns after the first time, it was a bad idea.

It's like when I remember reading somewhere that the Indians taught their children about fire. They don't tell their children not to touch. They let their children find out for themselves. That doesn't mean they won't be there for the children after they've been burnt and start crying though.

Although I dislike some things that people do, I have come to respect and believe that it is a matter of personal interest/opinion as well as pressure involved.

So, basically, it's all about how well you deal with pressure, etc.

 

[Undomiel]

I've never been bullied by my peers, simply cause I don't care what people think of me and I just ignore them. Which really annoys them, lol. They like a reaction.

However I was bullied pretty bad by a teacher in school. I couldn't stand up to a teacher or ignore her. She used to call me stupid and lots of other pretty bad things and to make a long story short; I just snapped one day, told her she was a useless teacher and left the class. The rest of the faculty supported me, though not openly. And I taught myself and passed the honours exam. And I still get satisfaction out of thinking, ha! I won.

As for peer pressure, from my friends and stuff. I used to get a lot of hassle cause I don't drink. I decided when I was 12 and had a bit of a scare, that I didn't wanna drink. The pressure to drink here is unreal. I didn't touch alchohol until I was finished school at 17 (bearing in mind the legal age for drinking here is 18 and underage drinking is very common) which I was quite proud of. I still only drink every few months and I won't have more than one and never will. Though my college friends just accept it.
School was evil!

Ooh that was long, sorry!

 

[Brainboyz]

I've never been bullied by my peers, simply cause I don't care what people think of me and I just ignore them. Which really annoys them, lol. They like a reaction.

However I was bullied pretty bad by a teacher in school. I couldn't stand up to a teacher or ignore her. She used to call me stupid and lots of other pretty bad things and to make a long story short; I just snapped one day, told her she was a useless teacher and left the class. The rest of the faculty supported me, though not openly. And I taught myself and passed the honours exam. And I still get satisfaction out of thinking, ha! I won.

As for peer pressure, from my friends and stuff. I used to get a lot of hassle cause I don't drink. I decided when I was 12 and had a bit of a scare, that I didn't wanna drink. The pressure to drink here is unreal. I didn't touch alchohol until I was finished school at 17 (bearing in mind the legal age for drinking here is 18 and underage drinking is very common) which I was quite proud of. I still only drink every few months and I won't have more than one and never will. Though my college friends just accept it.
School was evil!

Ooh that was long, sorry!

I had the don't care attitude in high school as well. But, I got bullied a bit anyways. It did keep me out of peer pressure though, and to this day I don't drink, smoke, or get involved with drugs. Not because I'm scared of them, but because I don't want them. Personal decision, and most people respect that.

As for "HA! I won" against the bullies, that is the best revenge. Personally, being a computer geek worked out very well despite the crap it gave me in school. It's the best feeling in the world when you fly back to your hometown to see your family only to run into the jock that bullied you in school who is still flipping burgers (at the 3rd or 4th burger chain cause they keep getting fired) while you're sucessfully moving up through the business world making 5-10 times more than they are and enjoying life!

And for those getting bullied: Buck up, get some confidence and keep having fun, but keep your eyes open. Opportunities will pop up for the hunted to become the hunter and while you can't bully them physically or socially, you can make the bully's life harder. That insecurity pays out nicely when everyone thinks they're too dumb to study, but they really need help for an exam and no one will help them. At that point, you can step in and begin to show them how it's beneficial to be on your good side. If they start crap, leave them high and dry.

The other side is when highschool hits and everyone starts getting into cars. If you're mechanically inclined (many "geeks" are) you can do a lot because cars are social status in highschool (at least here in the USA). Anything they can do by bolting crap on, you can do and best with a little effort and thought. Ever seen the "ricer" car drivers in highschool get whooped something fierce by the geek in the old '72? I've seen that humble more than one brick-head. "But I'll wipe you all over the road when I get my T-Bazillion turbo and run 40 pounds of boost!" "I'll be waiting for it." Plus, when a girl's first car breaks down or needs work you can get a freebie to go over and hang out with them (just be careful of the exploitation of beauty).

Wow, longer than I thought it was going to be. Oh well, not like I hide the fact that I'm a proponent of the geeks in society.

 

[Eilan]

Back in my high school days, I was 1/3 honors student, 1/3 jock, and 1/3 band geek, so while I wasn't Miss Popularity (and I didn't aspire to be), I got along pretty well with a variety of people. I had a core group of three friends, but we weren't always participating in the same activities, so I had to branch out, so to speak. I always tried to be nice to everyone, and I stood up for people who were being treated unfairly.

The closest I've ever come to being bullied was during junior high, and that was primarily a school bus issue involving a couple of older students who made fun of my appearance every now and then. (Yeah, I had glasses and braces and stupid-looking hair back then, but what prepubescent kid doesn't go through an awkward stage?) I emerged from that experience with a pretty sharp tongue, which I still use on occasion. I'm amazed that I didn't get my ass kicked for being a mouthy little bitch!

In the past year or so, there have been a couple of widely publicized suicides in my state in which the kids who killed themselves had been bullied and threatened by their peers. And what's really sad is that online bullying is becoming more prevalent. It's easier to make in-school issues become out-of-school issues via IMs and blogs.

I've been out of high school for *gasp* 14 years now, and here's what I've learned: Those years are NOT the best years of our lives, no matter what anyone says. I know that's not something that any teen wants to believe--and I wouldn't have believed it when I was 16--but it's true. Quite frankly, I'm experiencing the best years of my life right now, and I hope they keep getting better.