Telling My Wife I'm Bi

[1960curious]

At times we've both been a tad submissive. And lets face it, you don't have relationships that last this long without being a good team. But she's been the best partner that anyone could every have. Even though some days we could strangle each other.

We have also been married for 36 years

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

We have also been married for 36 years

Congratulations.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

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[BBCfan]

My wife and I have been through a lot over the last 12 months. Her sexual awakening was a big thing and also we explored bringing in other people into our sex life. Before this my wife wasn't that interested in sex, this had gone on for some years and it led me to exploring my bi side. I wasn't constantly meeting guys but I would go online when I felt the need for some sexual gratification.


Recently my wife confessed to a brief affair with somebody before her sexual awakening with me. She was very sorry and in some way this has brought us a lot closer. I decided I had to come clean as well and I told her about my bisexual experiences including a 3some with a bi couple. She took it well and asked some questions and I told her about some of the experiences. Since then it hasn't really been mentioned except for the other night when she asked if I would still like to meet guys. I told her I probably would but only if she agreed.


She said she would be ok with it and. She said she would like to watch me suck a guy off.

My wife knows EVERYTHING about my BBC fetish. It's not really an issue as I haven't acted on it in some time. I told her if I felt I needed to I would discuss it with her first.

She desires monogamy and I'm cool with that.

She did want to watch me suck my dildo a few times, which was fun.

 

[OpenMouth]

My wife knows I like to watch videos like this, in fact we watch together (she likes them, too!). https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph58198bbb842e8

Beautiful. I would love my wife to watch me wanking myself off while watching that. Then she would know how I feel.

 

[OdysseusMan]

Wow...

What an amazing ejaculation!

 

[PG564E]

Beautiful. I would love my wife to watch me wanking myself off while watching that. Then she would know how I feel.

OMG. . . a massive cock like that. . . in my mouth. . . I'm blowing him, one man sucking another man's big pulsing dick. . . and that sweet warm cream floods my mouth, can't get enough. . . more, more, please cum more baby

 

[vizio]

My wife knows I like to watch videos like this, in fact we watch together (she likes them, too!). https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph58198bbb842e8

That is an impressive cock as well as the size of the load. Dear god that could drown you, but I bet it would feel soooo good in my boy pussy

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

I think this will be popular...

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[confort]

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[muycurioso]

Great post

Quite possibly. Sometimes she'll joke about me and another guy and sometimes she makes comments about my being attracted to some men which are on the hateful side. There's a lot of stress in our relationship because of other issues as well that would tear a lot of marriages apart. Nothing to do with either sex or her health. No idea how this will all end up. But however it does, I'm just going to remain true to myself.

I am in a similar boat as you. I have told my wife about my giving a blowjob fantasy. She was ok with it. But in other area she has thrown stuff in my face in front of others. I would not trust her with that anymore. She gas also made a nasty remark about a pic of me and another guy.

 

[muycurioso]

Sexy story

A couple of weeks ago Jill asked if I knew anymore bi guys who would be happy to meet with me while she watched and possibly joined in. I thought of one guy who's called Graham. Really nice guy but he's more into guys than women, he told me that he hadn't been with a woman for over 3 years. I contacted him and told him that my wife knew and wanted to watch us.

He said that would be fine, he asked if she knew about me and him wearing panties when we used to meet. I said no so we decided to leave the panties out of it this time. We arranged a day and me and Jill went around to his house. Graham is in his early 50's and is fairly tall and thin with average sized cock. We sat and chatted for a few minutes before going upstairs. Graham got a chair for Jill to sit on and me and Graham stripped off and got on the bed.

He is quite passionate and we began to kiss and feel each other and we were both getting into it and forgot we were being watched. Graham went down on me and I looked over at Jill. She had pulled up her dress and slid off her panties off, she was rubbing her pussy as she watched us. We then switched and I was sucking Graham off, I could hear Jill starting to moan. We were now in a 69 and soon I was cumming into Graham's mouth.

Jill had orgasmed and was now watching as I was laid back on the bed with Graham fucking my mouth. He was ready to cum and pulled slightly back and shot over my chest. He is a very heavy cumer and Jill came over to look at the large pool of cum on my chest.

I cleaned up and got dressed, we thanked Graham who said we were welcome back anytime. All the way home Jill couldn't stop talking about it and how much he cum. I asked if she wanted to go again and she said yes. We arranged to meet last week and that was a different kind of meet.

Sounds like a lot of fun

 

[yukonnights]

I'm trying to think of how to tell my wife I just had my first experience with a man. I don't think she'll be surprised, but it could cause problems, and we already have enough of those. I know the news isn't going to get any better with age. I'm thinking about suggesting a 3-way and just go from there. I hate being dishonest.

The bummer here is that you have already cheated on her. This is probably going to be a bigger issue now. I really don't know if the 3-way suggestion is going to go over unless she has already shown interest in it.

Agreed that dishonesty is a burden to carry. However, given the circumstances, do you think it might be best to bury this "first experience with a man" and begin to talk openly about your sexuality with the goal of living a more honest life with her?

For my wife and I it was easy to share secrets of our past and kinky desires during sexy pillow talk. Perhaps you both have things you'd like to share but are afraid of what the other might think? Anyway, I feel your burden and wish you the best in getting things out in the open.

 

[muycurioso]

Being afraid of....

The bummer here is that you have already cheated on her. This is probably going to be a bigger issue now. I really don't know if the 3-way suggestion is going to go over unless she has already shown interest in it.

Agreed that dishonesty is a burden to carry. However, given the circumstances, do you think it might be best to bury this "first experience with a man" and begin to talk openly about your sexuality with the goal of living a more honest life with her?

For my wife and I it was easy to share secrets of our past and kinky desires during sexy pillow talk. Perhaps you both have things you'd like to share but are afraid of what the other might think? Anyway, I feel your burden and wish you the best in getting things out in the open.

What shell say and think yes. Although it went over ok a few years ago, at least in fantasy world/talk

 

[yukonnights]

What shell say and think yes. Although it went over ok a few years ago, at least in fantasy world/talk

That's encouraging. If she has already shown interest in a threesome in "fantasy talk", then maybe that would be a good place to jump back into the conversation about you being bisexual. All I can say is that if you can ever come out to her it will be like a weight lifted off of you. Best wishes to you both !

 

[BBCfan]

I am in a similar boat as you. I have told my wife about my giving a blowjob fantasy. She was ok with it. But in other area she has thrown stuff in my face in front of others. I would not trust her with that anymore. She gas also made a nasty remark about a pic of me and another guy.

Thankfully I was able to eventually be completely open with my wife while we were dating. I was unsure if she would be able to understand and want to continue dating.

It took some time and lots of patience and explanation. She'll sometimes joke and throw playful jabs my way, but in a fun and supportive way. Its so freeing and fun to be open and trusting of my partner with it. The fact she's willing to role play with my sometimes is icing on the cake.

If she hadn't been I would have likely moved on. I feel for guys in situations where they are repressed or untrusting of their partner with their sexuality.

 

[bedroomexplorer]

over the years, I have come to enjoy the thought of sex with men. During sex with my wife I have always discussed my thoughts and have gotten more bold. She was fine with it and afraid she couldn't please me. But my desire with men has always been sexual not emotional. We have gotten to the point where when I'm fucking her she will start telling me to imagine that I'm sucking a cock while I'm fucking her and that it is about to cum in my mouth. She will tell me how much cum I will have to swallow. It can be really hot sex. She just isn't ready for me to start having sex with men I think mostly because she is concerned I'll enjoy it too much. I have told her I would like her to be there with me and this might have been ok when we were younger but not at this stage in our life.

 

[blowit]

over the years, I have come to enjoy the thought of sex with men. During sex with my wife I have always discussed my thoughts and have gotten more bold. She was fine with it and afraid she couldn't please me. But my desire with men has always been sexual not emotional. We have gotten to the point where when I'm fucking her she will start telling me to imagine that I'm sucking a cock while I'm fucking her and that it is about to cum in my mouth. She will tell me how much cum I will have to swallow. It can be really hot sex. She just isn't ready for me to start having sex with men I think mostly because she is concerned I'll enjoy it too much. I have told her I would like her to be there with me and this might have been ok when we were younger but not at this stage in our life.

Exactly the same as my wife and I. Yet, although she is too scared/shy to go for it, she has my express consent to satisfy her own bi curiosity in real life. She knows I'm comfortable with her having a discreet relationship with a woman if she wishes. She's also aware that although I wouldn't refuse an offer, that consent is not dependent upon my physical presence. I can but hope and also wish you luck.

 

[muycurioso]

over the years, I have come to enjoy the thought of sex with men. During sex with my wife I have always discussed my thoughts and have gotten more bold. She was fine with it and afraid she couldn't please me. But my desire with men has always been sexual not emotional. We have gotten to the point where when I'm fucking her she will start telling me to imagine that I'm sucking a cock while I'm fucking her and that it is about to cum in my mouth. She will tell me how much cum I will have to swallow. It can be really hot sex. She just isn't ready for me to start having sex with men I think mostly because she is concerned I'll enjoy it too much. I have told her I would like her to be there with me and this might have been ok when we were younger but not at this stage in our life.

WOW, sexy and hot. When wife and I were getting along better (she doesn't like the career choices I have made) she once mentioned me getting a facial. I told her if we had a MMF she could do whatever she wanted with the other M. She also made comments about the other M being bigger than me (cock size).

 

[yukonnights]

over the years, I have come to enjoy the thought of sex with men. During sex with my wife I have always discussed my thoughts and have gotten more bold. She was fine with it and afraid she couldn't please me. But my desire with men has always been sexual not emotional. We have gotten to the point where when I'm fucking her she will start telling me to imagine that I'm sucking a cock while I'm fucking her and that it is about to cum in my mouth. She will tell me how much cum I will have to swallow. It can be really hot sex. She just isn't ready for me to start having sex with men I think mostly because she is concerned I'll enjoy it too much. I have told her I would like her to be there with me and this might have been ok when we were younger but not at this stage in our life.

I think this fear that the bisexual husband will fall out of love with the wife is not unusual. The irony is; we are all capable of loving more than one person. But, it is important I think to show and reinforce that love often. Hopefully you can ease her fears and maybe both of you can find a new pleasure with the right man.

 

[BBCfan]

over the years, I have come to enjoy the thought of sex with men. During sex with my wife I have always discussed my thoughts and have gotten more bold. She was fine with it and afraid she couldn't please me. But my desire with men has always been sexual not emotional. We have gotten to the point where when I'm fucking her she will start telling me to imagine that I'm sucking a cock while I'm fucking her and that it is about to cum in my mouth. She will tell me how much cum I will have to swallow. It can be really hot sex. She just isn't ready for me to start having sex with men I think mostly because she is concerned I'll enjoy it too much. I have told her I would like her to be there with me and this might have been ok when we were younger but not at this stage in our life.

that's a hot role play scenario with your wife. I sometimes do a similar one while fucking my wife with her coaching me while I suck a dildo.

That satisfies my fetishistic bi desires lately. If that changes and I find myself wanting a gay experience, or an ideal situation falls on my lap, I would hope I discuss and work through it honestly with her.

its such a relief and thrill to have a supportive partner so far, that I wouldn't want to jeopardize that .

 

[muycurioso]

time for a talk

that's a hot role play scenario with your wife. I sometimes do a similar one while fucking my wife with her coaching me while I suck a dildo.

That satisfies my fetishistic bi desires lately. If that changes and I find myself wanting a gay experience, or an ideal situation falls on my lap, I would hope I discuss and work through it honestly with her.

its such a relief and thrill to have a supportive partner so far, that I wouldn't want to jeopardize that .

in bed of course, I have to let some of these fantasies out. We did share them before and she even added things she wanted to see. I wonder if it would turn her on if I called the 2nd man, her bf. Like I want to suck your bf's cock while you watch. We'll see, things are touch and go here.

 

[BBCfan]

in bed of course, I have to let some of these fantasies out. We did share them before and she even added things she wanted to see. I wonder if it would turn her on if I called the 2nd man, her bf. Like I want to suck your bf's cock while you watch. We'll see, things are touch and go here.

yeah, I hope to push our boundaries with our fantasy role play. Its fun to think about scenarios that I may not really want at all but the idea is so hot. We'll see how she responds

 

[muycurioso]

I like the bf angle

yeah, I hope to push our boundaries with our fantasy role play. Its fun to think about scenarios that I may not really want at all but the idea is so hot. We'll see how she responds

her "bf" will the guy with a bigger cock who I suck at their command, I will be submissive to them

 

[BBCfan]

her "bf" will the guy with a bigger cock who I suck at their command, I will be submissive to them

sounds like a hot story in the works!