The Bunny Thread

[spanky5147]

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[lakesailer_mi]

So today, I spent some more time with the couple I mentioned a few posts ago. They seem very nice, and I'm enjoying becoming friends with them. None of my friends live in town anymore, so it's nice to start making some again.

On my way home from their place, though, I got some bullshit sprung on me. My father is moving in with me. *Sigh*

He's a truck driver by profession, but some of you may remember that I posted that he had a brain bleed back in December. He had a seizure on the operating table, so he hasn't been able to start back driving again. He has, however, snagged a job at the company he used to drive for doing something else until he can start driving again (which'll be in December).

Problem is, my apartment is closer to the place he'll be working than my parents' house, so he wants to live with me during the week to save on gas money and travel time.

I couldn't tell him no, but sweet Jesus, this is going to fuck me over so bad.

For those of you who don't know, I work at home, and one of my (several) jobs is as a phone sex operator. At the moment, this is where the bulk of my income comes from. My parents don't know what I do, and I have no intention of ever telling them because that's just a conversation I don't want to have to have.

Him being here--even if he's only here when he's not at work--is seriously going to curtail the amount of work I'm going to be able to do. And I'm already just barely getting by as it is, so I'm panicking because I have no idea what I'm going to do.

This week just keeps getting better and better.

Why can't you say no?

Will he be contributing to rent? Utilities? If yes, will that offset lost income?

Can you discuss this him? Be up front about this loss of income?

My spidey sense says protect yourself.

I think Cookie is making sense.

I think, especially, you need to sit down and tell your parents, you need your privacy. That you are not a child and you do, "adult" things that would be, to say the least, "awkward" with your dad in the next room.

Or something to that effect....
You don't have to tell them you're a phone sex operator.
You just have to let them understand that this isn't going to work for you, and while you're sorry, and you wish you could help, you're not in a position to help.

I'm a parent of an adult child. We make mistakes. We forget that our little girls grow up and that they have lives. A gentle, but firm, reminder of this will go a long way.

 

[barefootgirl69]

I understand how hard it is to say no in that circumstance, Bunny. He's trying to get up on his feet and continue working... maybe you should remind him that you work at home and your hours aren't always in line with when he's gone at work.

Hoping your week gets better. Did you buy that Lottery ticket? (I forgot but I am not going back out)

 

[cookiecat]

Omg. I totally glossed over that's it's your dad moving in. I thought it was the guy from the couple. Yikes!!

I couldn't figure out why you needed to tell your parents anything. Sheesh. So my spidey sense is wayyyy off. Sorry about that part.

As to the PSO stuff, do you have additional revenue streams from things like mp3's, picture sets or having guys pay for tasks?? It's been a while since I've been a PSO, so not sure if the market for that stuff sells. But I made some good $ doing custom robot recordings.

 

[cascadiabound]

I think Cookie is making sense.

I think, especially, you need to sit down and tell your parents, you need your privacy. That you are not a child and you do, "adult" things that would be, to say the least, "awkward" with your dad in the next room.

Or something to that effect....
You don't have to tell them you're a phone sex operator.
You just have to let them understand that this isn't going to work for you, and while you're sorry, and you wish you could help, you're not in a position to help.

I'm a parent of an adult child. We make mistakes. We forget that our little girls grow up and that they have lives. A gentle, but firm, reminder of this will go a long way.

I am gonna second cookie and sailor.

You need to protect yourself and have a frank conversation that covers the ground that Sailor suggests. You are an adult. You need to be able to continue to piece together an income. It is unreasonable that anything your parents might do or ask of you to jeopardize that.

 

[Blue]

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[DeepGreenEyes]

Damn. Well that is a conundrum, brought on by being kind and generous.

Can you do your operator gig somewhere else? A car maybe, parked elsewhere, like Phone Sex Operator Bluff or the library parking lot? Or is there a visual element to it that would be frowned upon by people arriving for book clubs?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cascadiabound]

^^^^ as usual Elle is wise. Bunny... think carefully about these things.

 

[Farawyn]

How's Da Bunz today?

 

[Primalex]

For those of you who don't know, I work at home, and one of my (several) jobs is as a phone sex operator. At the moment, this is where the bulk of my income comes from. My parents don't know what I do, and I have no intention of ever telling them because that's just a conversation I don't want to have to have.

Him being here--even if he's only here when he's not at work--is seriously going to curtail the amount of work I'm going to be able to do. And I'm already just barely getting by as it is, so I'm panicking because I have no idea what I'm going to do.

Or you could have the conversation you don't want to have and work out the rules for living together.

One day you will have to break the cycle of hurting yourself just to prevent an unpleasant conversation with a human anyway.

 

[cfuhrer]

While I've never been in this exact circumstance I do know what it is like to not be able to go against a parents wishes. Even when you want to.
I don't think that's something that "that type"(whether by personality or upbringing) of child ever outgrows, even when said parent abuses the dynamic.

I don't have any words of wisdom because I know that if I were in your shoes my parent would move in, my income would take a hit, they probably wouldn't contribute because they took care of me for eighteen years, then there would be questions about how I could make rent before but not now. Then she would be on a mission to "fix" me, help me budget, help me get my life in order.

Take care of you, hunni bunni.

 

[BiBunny]

While I've never been in this exact circumstance I do know what it is like to not be able to go against a parents wishes. Even when you want to.
I don't think that's something that "that type"(whether by personality or upbringing) of child ever outgrows, even when said parent abuses the dynamic.

I don't have any words of wisdom because I know that if I were in your shoes my parent would move in, my income would take a hit, they probably wouldn't contribute because they took care of me for eighteen years, then there would be questions about how I could make rent before but not now. Then she would be on a mission to "fix" me, help me budget, help me get my life in order.

Take care of you, hunni bunni.

This is exactly what's going to happen.

Sure, I was technically "asked" if it was ok, but the answer was considered a foregone conclusion.

I'm glad that other people are in situations where they get to make choices. But I'm not, unfortunately. So I have to deal with this the best I can and hope maybe he'll change his mind or something.

Omg. I totally glossed over that's it's your dad moving in. I thought it was the guy from the couple. Yikes!!

I couldn't figure out why you needed to tell your parents anything. Sheesh. So my spidey sense is wayyyy off. Sorry about that part.

As to the PSO stuff, do you have additional revenue streams from things like mp3's, picture sets or having guys pay for tasks?? It's been a while since I've been a PSO, so not sure if the market for that stuff sells. But I made some good $ doing custom robot recordings.

I've been lazy and haven't been doing MP3s and stuff, but there's no time like the present to get off my ass and do it. Hopefully, it'll help me make up for lost phone time. Thank you for reminding me about this stuff.

How's Da Bunz today?

Not great, tbh.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[cfuhrer]

I've been lazy and haven't been doing MP3s and stuff, but there's no time like the present to get off my ass and do it. Hopefully, it'll help me make up for lost phone time. Thank you for reminding me about this stuff.

Was it Samuel Johnson?
Nothing focuses the mind like the prospect of a hanging.

 

[BiBunny]

*Sigh* And now my air-conditioner has stopped working.

 

[Azuldrgon]

*Sigh* And now my air-conditioner has stopped working.

*hugs*
*glass of ice water*

 

[BiBunny]

*hugs*
*glass of ice water*

Thank you.

They sent someone out to fix it, but I'm not entirely sure it's fixed. It's not getting any hotter, but it's not getting any cooler, either.

Everything else is still basically the same.

 

[spanky5147]

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[BiBunny]

ok, Bunny, as hot as you are, how do you ever expect your a/c to keep you cool ?

just saying,

Flatterer.

 

[spanky5147]

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[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[BiBunny]

I only spek the truth,

Hot bunny. Agreed.

Thank you both.


Apparently, I've passed muster with the couple I've been spending time with. I was asked today if I wanted to play at some point in the future. I said yes because why the hell not? At least they're nice and, more importantly, not clingy.

 

[spanky5147]

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[BiBunny]

The male half of the couple and I were talking tonight. He said he had no intention of asking me to submit now and that I was free to say no to anything with no hard feelings, etc., etc.

I told him I definitely wasn't ready for anything even remotely related to submitting to anyone, but that playing was fine. That sparked a conversation about what happened.

"You've got your free will back," he said. "Use it to make yourself happy."

If only having it didn't suck so much....