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Loving My Soulmate Scott
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re:UCE
Then there's a second situation, where you see two people identified as "top and bottom" playing, and the bottom is giggling but tied up securely and if she talks too much she's gagged and the top is choosing how hard to hit her and with what and seeming to pay no attention to her input or feedback as the play goes on. To me, if you tied up and at another person's mercy and that person is freely choosing what to do to you and you cannot stop the action, you have a power-exchange going on, a dominant-and-submissive Scene, whether the two people involved want to acknowledge it or not. Someone is partially or entirely out of cotrol. Someone else is partially or entirely calling the shots. And both people are clearly getting off on that captor-captive, "I can force you to take this" sort of situation.
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GEEZ I believe you are describing how I view things here and yes there is a power -exchange betwee Dom and Sub but a safeword is NOT a loss of power at all ,I see it as a very Respectful thing for the Dominant to offer (for my safety).. I AM entitled to it's use ad as far as the "power' trip goes ,submitting is ALWAYS my "CHOICE' not FORCE so therefore I can use that "power' anytime I so choose to end the scene or the relationship> giving over the "control'in my mind as you put it is my very REAL way of trusting someone else (my Dom ) to take care of my needs as I only wish to take care of His and put them first above mine .. if at ANY time I AM not comfortable with that,I can end it.,period
Then there's a second situation, where you see two people identified as "top and bottom" playing, and the bottom is giggling but tied up securely and if she talks too much she's gagged and the top is choosing how hard to hit her and with what and seeming to pay no attention to her input or feedback as the play goes on. To me, if you tied up and at another person's mercy and that person is freely choosing what to do to you and you cannot stop the action, you have a power-exchange going on, a dominant-and-submissive Scene, whether the two people involved want to acknowledge it or not. Someone is partially or entirely out of cotrol. Someone else is partially or entirely calling the shots. And both people are clearly getting off on that captor-captive, "I can force you to take this" sort of situation.
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GEEZ I believe you are describing how I view things here and yes there is a power -exchange betwee Dom and Sub but a safeword is NOT a loss of power at all ,I see it as a very Respectful thing for the Dominant to offer (for my safety).. I AM entitled to it's use ad as far as the "power' trip goes ,submitting is ALWAYS my "CHOICE' not FORCE so therefore I can use that "power' anytime I so choose to end the scene or the relationship> giving over the "control'in my mind as you put it is my very REAL way of trusting someone else (my Dom ) to take care of my needs as I only wish to take care of His and put them first above mine .. if at ANY time I AM not comfortable with that,I can end it.,period
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