The Men Who's Wives Have No Sex Drive Support Club

[Elite_Goblin]

I did bump into an older and quite horny woman one day, but I was picking up something from the store and rushing right back home for our son's party. I could not spare a minute! And as luck would have it, an older lady that sees me and my son (many mornings) at the bus stop was there.
So although a possibility, it was a double-fated no-way.

 

[hulmule]

I have some good conversations when in the grocery store, but nothing that seems to go farther. Maybe on 2 occasions it got good, but never ran into them again. Bummer. Wish there was a way to chat again with them.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

Yea, I may get a nibble once every 2 or 3 years.

I could have easily gotten blown by that older/horny lady too. (or likely anything else) She was a little drunk and sitting at an outside table. When I came by, she grabbed my arm and was looking me up and down. She said I needed to go inside and get a drink and come back to her. I had enough time to politely decline, but I gave her a hug as I left, then I winked. The other ladies loved it!
She would have been a pretty good contender too. She was a 4.5 to a 5.5 on the scale. (not great I know) But I don't think there was much traffic in her department either. She also looked like she would love anything you surprised her with. LOL Maybe it was for my own good that things worked out like that.

 

[Bbl87]

I have a buddy in a pretty bad marriage he can't divorce because it'd cripple him, and he's tried everything, talking, therapy, date nights, everything. His wife simply doesn't want sex. So he has a lady he 'visits' a couple of times a month purely for sex. Yes its transactional but he said he gets his release and has no drama back home

Glad that works for him. I'm not sure I could do purely transactional sex, the actual intimacy is a big part of what I miss.

 

[hulmule]

What ive done in the past is stroke while in bed and let the wife wake up and see me. Most times she rolls away and once in a blue moon she'll at least rub my body as i stroke myself. Take what i can get....

 

[Elite_Goblin]

What ive done in the past is stroke while in bed and let the wife wake up and see me. Most times she rolls away and once in a blue moon she'll at least rub my body as i stroke myself. Take what i can get....

I think my wife would utter her grievances then get up and go into the spare bedroom.

 

[drobert44]

At least mine dont walk into my cave while I jerk to gay sex.........


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[Mtnmike]

I would, if an opportunity presented itself.
It just doesn't rain 'horny, available women' around here.
My social circle is near non-existant as well. So, unless I bump into a random, horny and available woman while walking around town, it is a pretty rare thought.

This sounds just like my life, they don't grow on tree's.

 

[Mtnmike]

I have some good conversations when in the grocery store, but nothing that seems to go farther. Maybe on 2 occasions it got good, but never ran into them again. Bummer. Wish there was a way to chat again with them.

Since I do the shopping this happens a lot but I can never tell if their just being friendly because i'm doing the shopping & they don't feel threatened or if something could come of it. Just not good at picking up on the signs.

 

[Mtnmike]

Glad that works for him. I'm not sure I could do purely transactional sex, the actual intimacy is a big part of what I miss.

I used to be this way to but not anymore, after many year's of no interest from your other, you'll take what you can.

 

[Mtnmike]

What ive done in the past is stroke while in bed and let the wife wake up and see me. Most times she rolls away and once in a blue moon she'll at least rub my body as i stroke myself. Take what i can get....

Lol, year's ago I would do that but got tired of being told to quit or go somewhere private, she didn't want to see or hear it. Omfg

 

[Ingenue844]

Interesting thread. I’m sure my husband feels the same way. My sex drive hasn’t faded away, it’s changed. I’m not interested in sex with my husband. He is still attractive and eager. I still love him and we get along great. But the thrill is gone with him.
He travels on business and that is my opportunity to see other men. I get a rush from meeting new men. New lovers are the best.
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This.

Plus my drive is higher than my husbands. And I tried to talk to him about my kinks and my needs get largely ignored.

 

[Bbl87]

I used to be this way to but not anymore, after many year's you'll take what you can.

Fair point. My sex life right new feels pretty transactional as it is, so maybe not as far of a leap as I think.

 

[hotcpu]

This.

Plus my drive is higher than my husbands. And I tried to talk to him about my kinks and my needs get largely ignored.

Been there done that ... Sorry for you.

 

[Ingenue844]

Been there done that ... Sorry for you.

It is what it is.

 

[Mtnmike]

This.

Plus my drive is higher than my husbands. And I tried to talk to him about my kinks and my needs get largely ignored.

Just my thoughts as a male but I have a hard understanding men like this. I get it can & does happen to both genders but hearing a man like this is rare, at least from my experience. So sorry for all the people going thru it, i'm much older now & life is to short not to enjoy everything you desire.

 

[hotcpu]

It is what it is.

Once my ex and I became empty nesters, I had a long talk and things were not going to change. So we thankfully made the mutual decision to divorce. Hard on the kids, but I just wasn't going to live the lie the rest of my days. I hope it can be turned differently for you.

 

[Mtnmike]

It is what it is.

This is how I look at it to, still it's frustrating & hurts sometimes.

 

[Ingenue844]

Once my ex and I became empty nesters, I had a long talk and things were not going to change. So we thankfully made the mutual decision to divorce. Hard on the kids, but I just wasn't going to live the lie the rest of my days. I hope it can be turned differently for you.

My plan is to openly discuss my need for a boyfriend. And see how that plays out

 

[Mtnmike]

My plan is to openly discuss my need for a boyfriend. And see how that plays out

Wishing you the best with it, everyone is different so it could go either way.

 

[Bbl87]

Just my thoughts as a male but I have a hard understanding men like this. I get it can & does happen to both genders but hearing a man like this is rare, at least from my experience. So sorry for all the people going thru it, i'm much older now & life is to short not to enjoy everything you desire.

It's more common than you probably realize, especially with the proliferation of medications, specifically psychotropic meds. Definitely occurs more often in women still I'm sure, but there are many a man out there who has had their libido killed by meds.

I had the opposite issue, I had an addition blood pressure med added to my regimen and it boosted mine. Fat lot of good its done me.

 

[Ingenue844]

Just my thoughts as a male but I have a hard understanding men like this. I get it can & does happen to both genders but hearing a man like this is rare, at least from my experience. So sorry for all the people going thru it, i'm much older now & life is to short not to enjoy everything you desire.

I’m at that age when my body goes crazy during my fertile window. He’s older than me and can be counted on maybe once or twice a week.

I think it’s best if I have a boyfriend to feel fulfilled. Not just sexually, but affection, time and attention is just not something my husband gives.

 

[Bbl87]

My plan is to openly discuss my need for a boyfriend. And see how that plays out

I'm interested to see how that goes for you. I want to have the same discussion with my wife (though for a girlfriend ), but I am fairly certain it would end extremely poorly.

As it is, I'm content to enjoy the company and occasional female attention I can find on Lit for now.

 

[Mtnmike]

It's more common than you probably realize, especially with the proliferation of medications, specifically psychotropic meds. Definitely occurs more often in women still I'm sure, but there are many a man out there who has had their libido killed by meds.

I had the opposite issue, I had an addition blood pressure med added to my regimen and it boosted mine. Fat lot of good its done me.

Really wow, my BP meds affected mine negatively, if I may, what are you on?

 

[hotcpu]

My plan is to openly discuss my need for a boyfriend. And see how that plays out

I hope that works out ... Would be a very lucky boyfriend