The Need For Pain

[Magnum44]

Hi Sojurner, I just wanted to say that when I got into my early to mid 30's (41 now) I found out about this neat thing called the internet. Even on this forum most people think I'm crazy when I tell them that I like women to kick me in the balls, hard. Then when I say I like women to stand on my balls and even stomp on them (lightly) they really think I'm crazy. So most of my life I have been very ashamed and embarassed about this until I found out that I was not the only guy in the whole entire world who loved this. Thank God for the internet, it literally took a huge weight off of my shoulders. Now I am not ashamed anymore and really don't care what others might think. I figure it this way. As long as it takes place between consenting adults (except the poop fetish, thats just nasty) it really doesn't matter does it. Get this, I have actually put clamps on my nuts or hit myself in the nuts to get off while masturbating. Fortunately I have a wife who usually does this but there have been many times I didn't and I desperately needed to feel that pain so I improvised. Don't feel bad, you ain't hurting anyone but yourself. Usually those who call us deviant are hiding something much more sinister.

 

[sojurner]

Hey thanks!

So, I'm curious about this ball stomping thing. Do you get the same feeling during sex that you would get if you randomly got kicked? I mean obviously you wouldn't be turned on if some dude just walked up and kicked you but is the pain the same? Its just that during sex, pain is good.

Pain sucks for me when I'm not having sex - I don't self mutilate or anything like that.
I do have a very high pain threshold. Natural childbirth is a breeze.
Does it not hurt for you like it does for other guys?

Sorry for prying - you don't have to answer if you don't want to. ; )

 

[teresawrites2u]

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[sojurner]

Sorry, my laptop has been out of commmission - again.

Yeah, actually, this whole site has been really helpful to me. Like Magnum44 said, you just don't realize that there are other people like you out there. It has been very reassuring to me. The encouragement I have gotten has made it possible for me to open up a bit more with the hubby and ask him to be more aggressive/dominating.

Just the asking part of it is humiliating to me. That's the worst part - I don't know why yet. But as many have written over and over - communication is the key and we are definately doing that!

Thanks again, S

 

[BlueFireDragon]

Sorry, my laptop has been out of commmission - again.

Yeah, actually, this whole site has been really helpful to me. Like Magnum44 said, you just don't realize that there are other people like you out there. It has been very reassuring to me. The encouragement I have gotten has made it possible for me to open up a bit more with the hubby and ask him to be more aggressive/dominating.

Just the asking part of it is humiliating to me. That's the worst part - I don't know why yet. But as many have written over and over - communication is the key and we are definately doing that!

Thanks again, S

Ah, honey. Welcome to my life. Here's what I have learned: Sometimes asking can be weird/humiliating, but it shouldn't be. It's something that you want, and if he is not satisfying you, he probably wants to but doesn't know how. It's hard to ask for what you want, but if you want to enjoy sex with him to the fullest, you should. Maybe he has a kinky side that wants to cause pain to a point...
You're not weird at all. The need for pain to orgasm isn't all that obscure. The brain has a line between pleasure and pain, and for some people that line is a little fuzzy, or nonexistant. While getting whipped might piss off one person, it makes another person very excited, and it feels good to a point. Not your fault sweetie Blame it on the brain.

 

[Magnum44]

Sorry Sojurner, it took me awhile to back to you. As for your questions, I like getting kicked in the balls by women just about anytime. The sex usually follows. Sometimes my wife will kick the hell out of my balls and I simply just JO instead of sex because of time constraints. As far as the stomping goes, depending on whether or not my balls are trapped in something like my board I made or me just laying on the ground will determine how hard she can stomp. When my balls are on the board they have no where to go so she could really crush them if she wanted to. She has driven her heel into my balls while they were on the board and actually one squirted out two days ago through a hole I cut in the board which was a little to hard but still it was a huge turn on for me. The pain can be intense. I had an ex-wife who used to get a little carried away with her kicks and squeezing etc. and I would have to ask her to go easier but it doesn't take that much so it can be hard for a gal to judge how much force to use. It is hard to ask someone sometimes to do things for you but remember this. If your husband or BF asked you to do it to him would you? I asked myself this and providing it's sane and safe I don't think there is anything I wouldn't do for my wife.

 

[Haku_Z]

Why do I need pain to acheive an orgasm? Other people don't need it. What is it about me that requires this? I usually have to give myself pain if I am masterbating too. Are there others like me?

Tons of people out there with the same need for pain to achieve orgasm. It all goes up to that organ you got up in your skull... it's what makes you tick... tells you what you need - as you need pain, others need sensual touch. Is there a right and wrong between the two? Naw... as long as you don't majorly hurt yourself.

 

[Magnum44]

Is there a right and wrong between the two? Naw... as long as you don't majorly hurt yourself.

Thank you!