The NEW UK Kink Thread

[Malich]

Been trying to post this since 7am this morning. Rule one is to remember the difference between your sub and a sub. You can get away with a lot more with your own sub than someone elses or an unpartnered sub.

Also remember you can only Control a sub who gives you permission yo. Demanding submission or attempting to assert control is tantamount to assault. Likewise assuming familiarity is like going into a bar and calling a random woman a pet name. Phrases like girl, baby, little one have meanings similar to calling someone girlfriend to vanilla folks.

Oh. Lally, daisy... landed safe in case you hadn't guessed.

 

[SirNick48]

Mal its quite unusual to hear that your not stuck down a hole somewhere!

HG
Take on board what Daisy and Malich have said.

I have taken on board your apology in the spirit that it has been given.

Some more tips for you

Only a fool thinks that they know everything. The wise person recognises that the more you learn the more there is to learn.

The BDSM recognises a broad spectrum of kink.
What is right for one person is wrong for another.

In a BDSM relationship, more than in any other relationship trust and communication are key.

Communication so that you know you are wanting the same thing, what limits there are and that you can learn, evolve into areas of exploration that you BOTH want to.

Trust is at the heart when you play. A sub, bottom or maso empowers the Dom, top or sadist to use them within the limits that have been agreed. They are extremely vulnerable and trust that the Dom, top or sadist will look after them.

It is important that safety is at the forefront of a Dom, top or sadists mind.
They have a massive responsibility to ensure their safety.

If Daisy and i decided we wanted to do a form of play we hadn't done before we would read up, talk to others. I would be a danger to Daisy if i said i knew what i was doing and didn't.

For example breath play. Get this wrong someone could die. You may think this sounds dramatic but it happens. I personally know someone who had a heart attack during breath play.

If you don't take on board anything else remember what Daisy said

Safe
Sane
Consensual (consensual play issomething that all parties involved want to do. If it isn't it becomes abuse)

If you are still unsure what they mean ASK.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Glad you are home safe Mal

Just home from band rehearsal, good fun!
I think we must be the only band who rehearse in a bondage dungeon!

Hi Master, words of wisdom (or is that wisDom )

A Dom has so much responsibility for the safety of their sub, a relationship of trust and communication must be built.

Feet up time! My cat is on my lap, I need to chill.

 

[N48]

Morning all. Hope you have an enjoyable Friday.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Morning peeps!
It's friday

 

[LallyH]

Morning all.

Just trying to connect to my computer at work and it's not having it.....I'm taking it as nature's way of telling me to take today off

 

[Malich]

Morning all.

Mostly, sort of recovered from the trip to Sweden, feels very warm here today after -6ish yesterday morning.

Another night's sleep and I should be mostly back to normal... well, as normal as I ever am

@SirNick - Nope, no holes for my this week. A nice hospital ina a nice city full of very pretty Swedish ladies!

 

[LallyH]

@SirNick - Nope, no holes for my this week. A nice hospital ina a nice city full of very pretty Swedish ladies!

So you've arrived back with a big beaming smile then, have you?

 

[Malich]

So you've arrived back with a big beaming smile then, have you?

No. Alas not. Too tired for smiles.

 

[LallyH]

No. Alas not. Too tired for smiles.

Booo!!! No-one should ever be too tired for a smile

 

[hampshireguy8]

First thanks to sir Nick for accepting my apology my stupidNess wasn't meant to be disrespectful and I hope daisy did not get punished for my behaviour, I read Stellas essay and know now where to go from but still leaves more questions. Main one is I'm in a normal marriage but need more d/s lifestyle he that the way to say it. Sometime my brain knows the way but my words don't explain correctly. I would love a mentor to help me find myself and explain the path that I want to travel

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

HG, I would suggest finding your local munch and meeting people in your area and finding a mentor that way.

 

[Malich]

Morning all

Hope everyone is doing ok today?

HG, I agree with Daisy about the local events, they can be a good place to meet like minded people though you do need to watch out for the "larger than life" people. they can sometimes be the worst to listen to despite how loud they shout about themselves.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Morning All
Housework day (boo) I have a mountain of washing

Bathroom done
Somebody shoot me!!

 

[Malich]

*Reaches for my gun.

 

[SirNick48]

Mal Daisy will probably enjoy being a target

Daisy.....love your new purchase

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

*Reaches for my gun.

Mal, I am considering Airsoft as potential impact play shoot the subbie!

Thank you Master! I know it's something we will both get a kick out of every time we see it! Xxxx

 

[Malich]

Morning all.

Daisy, if I come down for a visit at some point I'll bring it along so you can see how it feels.

Hope everyone else is ok?

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Morning all.

Daisy, if I come down for a visit at some point I'll bring it along so you can see how it feels.

Hope everyone else is ok?

that will be fun!!

Dinner at mums, stuffed now!

 

[Malich]

Was going to cook tonight.... can't be arsed

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Feeling really tired today, little surprise when a certain someone, after consuming a lot of tequila, decided that 2.30 am was a great time to chat!

Mal, hope you have something decent to eat, even if you don't cook and get a take out! Oh and M is very interested in that gun!!

Hope everyone else is well.

 

[SirNick48]

Feeling really tired today, little surprise when a certain someone, after consuming a lot of tequila, decided that 2.30 am was a great time to chat!

Mal, hope you have something decent to eat, even if you don't cook and get a take out! Oh and M is very interested in that gun!!

Hope everyone else is well.

Daisy who on earth would be chatting at that time
Palm face

I'm very surprised to hear about my forthcoming nuptials!
Lol

 

[pink_ivory]

Hey I haven't really been in touch on lit in a while and thought I might pop in and say hi in the "new" thread. Anyone still up?

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

Daisy who on earth would be chatting at that time
Palm face

I'm very surprised to hear about my forthcoming nuptials!
Lol

Someone who had been chugging tequila! Whatever next?!

I was surprised too!! Nay shocked! Do I need a hat?

 

[Malich]

Morning all

And wb Pink Ivory.

Could quite happily role back to bed today but I shall be strong and head off to deal with the Prof. Need to purchase and fit a doorbell today I think.

Have a good morning all.