The Psychology of Pegging

[HersheyBelle]

As a woman who is pretty curious about pegging (this is not an invitation for anybody to DM me) I do not believe that pegging a man will make me think less of him. To the contrary, a man that is open to exploring and secure in his sexuality is hot AF

Yes, I agree. I respect him even more for not trying to fit society’s idea of masculinity and instead choosing to just be himself, choosing to trust me in a deep way and be vulnerable letting go of all his inhibitions. This frees us to love and enjoy each other’s body in every way. The connection would be so deep. I long for a husband like this.

 

[LasTime]

My girlfriend says exactly the same thing about us, “This is just our sex.” She is the man and fucks me and gets sucked off and I am the woman who gets fucked and sucks her. Basically she tells me to relax, accept it and not worry about it.

Are you allowed to fuck her if you wanted though?

 

[Escierto]

Are you allowed to fuck her if you wanted though?

I think if I really wanted to, she would let me but I just have no desire for it. I really want her cock inside me and that’s what I crave when I am with her. Our sexual energies are male (her) and female (me) and I just want to be fucked or suck her off. I need her cum.

 

[Goldenfinger]

My girlfriend says exactly the same thing about us, “This is just our sex.” She is the man and fucks me and gets sucked off and I am the woman who gets fucked and sucks her. Basically she tells me to relax, accept it and not worry about it.

yep, sometime you have to let go and enjoy what you enjoy.

 

[anniebaby10]

I have had a number of thoughts about this over the years. Why is it that some straight men do enjoy pegging and some don't? It's got to be more than just pride! And what reproductive purpose is there for a man to be able to orgasm in his ass anyway? I know it doesn't make you gay but what I have noticed that from posts I see online, is that a lot of the men who enjoy it are also bi. I know I'm not gay, but are men who enjoy pegging more likely to be gay? For me I think a lot of the arousal comes from wondering "what in the name of God must she be thinking?" and knowing that she will now view men differently after this. Call me silly but if I were to get pegged I would feel like I'm letting my gender down... like I'm being a traitor to my team. I don't mean to offend; just my opinion.

From what I see online about pegging I often just get the impression that these guys just like things up their ass regardless of where who it's coming from. For me, who it's coming from would be very important. It's not just about the physical feeling. And testimony to that is the fact that I never actually bother playing with my ass in spite of how much pegging I watch. Just because I find a girl attractive doesn't even mean I'd be inclined to desire being pegged by her. I don't know if other men feel the same, but for me it tends to be girls that are older, a bit bigger in size (not fatter), and often more authoritative... Gillian Anderson for example. Does this make sense to other guys? Or would the thought of an 18 year girl pegging you turn you on as much as a 35 year old woman?

Regarding myself, I never feel like doing something submissive with a woman hen I'm feeling super confident. And if I were to meet a girl out some night and bring her home I would want to be the person taking charge sexually. Pegging wouldn't enter my mind. However if things were to later fizzle out between that girl and I, and I felt that she doesn't respect me as much, then that's when I might end up thinking of her in bed some morning after waking up horny... and imagine her dominating to me. If I feel that she now thinks less of me, it makes me more inclined to imagine her pegging me than imagining more regular sexual thoughts. Does that make sense to anyone else here?

Of men who enjoy pegging, what percentage of you would think that if a woman fucks you like that, that you can only drop in her opinion? And if not, then how come all pegging porn is based around humiliation? Is it that society yet have to get away from the stigma of it, and maybe 20 years from now I could expect pegging porn to not involve humiliation? I personally doubt it! I think that no matter what social conditioning a woman has had, or how open minded she is, I do not think there's any way you can be her hero after her witnessing that. Now it might be possible for her to still consider you a pretty cool guy, but not much more than that. So I do wonder are there men out there who are too proud to do this with their wives who seek out hookers for it?

And is there a chance that if a man likes pegging that it'll make it harder for him to get enough arousal to enjoy regular sex? Like Chris Rock once said "women can't go back in lifestyle, and men can't go back sexually". It is after all - unfortunately - a stronger orgasm, leaving alone the extra arousal from the fact you're doing something that's just wrong! Yet in many ways it seems like the most natural thing to desire done to you by a woman. Since I began looking at porn I managed to resist checking out pegging for 9 years. Eventually after a really stressful week I just felt I needed something. I often watch regular porn and often feel like I'd never need to go there again, but I find that 3 weeks is about as long as I can go without watching a quality pegging vid.

Another thought I've had which might seem random, is can you tell if a man is likely to like it up the bum based on the way he is sitting? You know the way sometimes you see people sitting in such a way that their feet would be under the chair with toes pointed downwards and soles of shoes at 90 degrees to the floor. It's kind of an unmanly way to sit, and I sometimes I get the impression that if someone sits like this, that it could mean that they might like it in the ass! I like to sit this way sometimes when I know no one is watching!

All things considered, I do wish I never knew what pegging was as there is a certain amount of shame in it for me, and I think it might affect my confidence with women. If you are going to give any insight on all this, perhaps I would find it helpful if you would reveal whether you're straight or bi. Thanks for reading.

You are way overthinking this. My husband started to enjoy anal sex when I stuck a finger up his asshole while giving him a blow job. He said he came harder than ever. Before long, it became two fingers and I finger fucked him and he liked that. Then one night he asked me to lube up my dildo and use that on him while I jacked him off. I fucked him with the dildo and he shot a HUGE load of cum. He said it felt so good to cum with something in his asshole. SO I then got a butt plug and used that on him while we fucked. As a matter of fact, I got one as well and we both loved to cum with them in. A very very deep orgasm!!! And I love anal sex so it was a natural for me. Finally, we read about pegging and I got a strap on. As smaller one at first but he loved it and said it made him appreciate what a woman went through during intercourse by being penetrated and I stroked his cock while fucking him in missionary. We moved on to doggie style pegging and I would reach around and stroke his cock while pegging and also spank his ass a bit. He loved that as well and shot another huge load. Eventually, he rode my strap on and would stroke himself to massive orgasms all over my tits and belly and I loved to see him cum like that. Then he would go down on me and I would cum like crazy afterwards and we smelled like sex pure and simple. His cum was all over me and my cum was all over him. It was a generic discovery and I know a lot of women who do anal on their husbands as the prostate massage really makes the male orgasm so much stronger. You must be homophobic or not want a strong female to be in charge of sex or afraid of being vulnerable. The best sex is went you are being vulnerable and pegging is just that for a man. So in my opinion, you are a bit closed off when it comes to sex and not willing to explore. It has nothing to do with being gay, bi or straight in most peoples minds. So quit thinking about it and go find a woman that is willing to explore things with you and open up your mind.

 

[KimGordon67]

The most alarming thing about this whole thread is that the OP thinks Gillian Anderson is 'bigger in size'! Compared to WHOM exactly???

Other than that ... this seems like another instance of some dude finding a site that's clearly very sex positive and deciding everyone here needs his analysis of their kinks. The guy I've most recently encountered who was into pegging (although we never got around to actually doing it. Yet. Maybe) is one of the most masculine men I've ever slept with, and definitely neither gay nor bi (not that it would be an issue if he was). Does it matter why he enjoys it? Does it matter why I enjoy have his cock in my arse, in spite of the lack of reproductive potential ... actually, I'm not capable of making babies any more, so maybe I should just give up on sex altogether? (Did you know that someone did a study with college students asking them what the purpose of sex is, and came up with a list of 172 things ... or maybe 72 things, but still lots ... and not ONE of those reasons was related to reproduction?)

OP, if it feels good and everyone is consenting and no living being is getting hurt (unless hurt is their thing), just go for it. Sex is meant to be fun, not a psychoanalysis session.

 

[LasTime]

In my opinion, you can even enjoy to perform oral sex to a man and not be gay as long as you don’t have feelings or be capable of falling in love with a man…

On that note a paedophile could claim that they aren't so because they never had 'feelings' for a child. Being gay/straight/bi is based on sexual attraction... not ability to fall in love with the person in question.

Does having sex with a feminine TS make a man gay? Now that I cant answer. I just know a cock would freak me out.

 

[LasTime]

The most alarming thing about this whole thread is that the OP thinks Gillian Anderson is 'bigger in size'! Compared to WHOM exactly???

I said 'tends to be'. Anderson may not be bigger in size, but she is older and has an air of authority. Did you have to say that? I couldn't think of a woman that ticks all three boxes I mentioned. Unfortunately, all too often bigger in size means in bad shape.

 

[LasTime]

The most alarming thing about this whole thread is that the OP thinks Gillian Anderson is 'bigger in size'! Compared to WHOM exactly???

Other than that ... this seems like another instance of some dude finding a site that's clearly very sex positive and deciding everyone here needs his analysis of their kinks. The guy I've most recently encountered who was into pegging (although we never got around to actually doing it. Yet. Maybe) is one of the most masculine men I've ever slept with, and definitely neither gay nor bi (not that it would be an issue if he was). Does it matter why he enjoys it? Does it matter why I enjoy have his cock in my arse, in spite of the lack of reproductive potential ... actually, I'm not capable of making babies any more, so maybe I should just give up on sex altogether? (Did you know that someone did a study with college students asking them what the purpose of sex is, and came up with a list of 172 things... or maybe 72 things, but still lots ... and not ONE of those reasons was related to reproduction?)

OP, if it feels good and everyone is consenting and no living being is getting hurt (unless hurt is their thing), just go for it. Sex is meant to be fun, not a psychoanalysis session.

I am not homophobic? It's natural for a straight male to think gay sex is a little disgusting. I just noticed that men who engage in pegging are more likely to be gay/bi. I have noticed (on hipforums) that a lot of the pegging posts are made by bi men. And in porn too... for example Lance Hart.

 

[sterculius]

On that note could a paedophile could claim that they aren't so because they never had 'feelings' a child. Being gay/straight/bi is based on sexual attraction... not ability to fall in love with the person in question.

Does having sex with a feminine TS make a man gay? Now that I cant answer. I just know a cock would freak me out.

This statement is ridiculous on a number of counts, I have no objection to any sort of sexual activity performed between consenting adults and not involving harm. Pedophilia is sex where one of the participants is below the age of consent (not mature enough to be able to make an informed decision). Why anyone might be sexually aroused by pre-pubescent children is beyond me.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I am not homophobic? It's natural for a straight male to think gay sex is a little disgusting. I just noticed that men who engage in pegging are more likely to be gay/bi. I have noticed (on hipforums) that a lot of the pegging posts are made by bi men. And in porn too... for example Lance Hart.

Glad you have small feet cause you keep putting your foot in your mouth.

I engage in pegging and I’m not bi. And you don’t know that about all people in porn. That’s their job. They get paid to do it but it might not be their preference.

 

[KimGordon67]

I am not homophobic? It's natural for a straight male to think gay sex is a little disgusting. I just noticed that men who engage in pegging are more likely to be gay/bi. I have noticed (on hipforums) that a lot of the pegging posts are made by bi men. And in porn too... for example Lance Hart.

It's not 'natural' for anyone to think anything. And FYI, thinking gay sex is 'disgusting' is fairly close to the actual definition of homophobia.

 

[Akinkymind]

I am not homophobic? It's natural for a straight male to think gay sex is a little disgusting. I just noticed that men who engage in pegging are more likely to be gay/bi. I have noticed (on hipforums) that a lot of the pegging posts are made by bi men. And in porn too... for example Lance Hart.

No, being straight means that you are not sexually attracted to members of your own gender; nothing more/nothing less. Being “disgusted“ by what other people do in private seems a bit too preoccupied with other peoples sexual activites doesn’t it? There are plenty of sexual kinks shared here that are not my thing, and a few that are distinct turn offs; but I don’t go wasting my time watching those kinds of things in porn, nor debating those who DO find those things exciting.

I also really, really have to question your qualification to assess the sexuality percentages of men who enjoy pegging. For one thing, you must be doing quite a lot of “noticing” something that disgusts you? How much pegging porn are you watching to make such an assessment? Even if you have thoroughly immersed yourself in online pegging porn, that’s not exactly reliable data to make any assessments on real peoples sexual orientation.

You are making yourself sound close minded, judgmental, and ignorant.

 

[LasTime]

No, being straight means that you are not sexually attracted to members of your own gender; nothing more/nothing less.

We're already past that. I'm saying that, from online forums, that a lot (yes, not all) of those who post about pegging are men who make reference to the fact they're bi.

For one thing, you must be doing quite a lot of “noticing” something that disgusts you?

I didn't say pegging porn disgusts me. I said gay porn.

Being “disgusted“ by what other people do in private seems a bit too preoccupied with other peoples sexual activites doesn’t it?

Well technically I'm not disgusted by that because I don't end up seeing it! But yeah, when scroll through porn vids and one of two men shows up, it's a tiny bit off putting. I don't believe that makes me homophobic. I wouldn't be uncomfortable with sitting down and talking to a gay man for example.

 

[LasTime]

And FYI, thinking gay sex is 'disgusting' is fairly close to the actual definition of homophobia.

Fairly close? So what other element do I need to be 100% homophobic? I'm turned off by gay sex, but I don't view gay men as lesser beings than me, nor treat them with contempt, so therefore I'm not fully homophobic... just sorta! Maybe I should go for treatment!

It's not 'natural' for anyone to think anything.

It's not natural for anyone to think anything? Newsflash; humans have thoughts. If there's a gay scene in a movie like Rocket Man for example, are other straight men who are watching it thinking nothing? As in 100% nothing?

 

[LasTime]

This statement is ridiculous on a number of counts, I have no objection to any sort of sexual activity performed between consenting adults and not involving harm. Pedophilia is sex where one of the participants is below the age of consent (not mature enough to be able to make an informed decision). Why anyone might be sexually aroused by pre-pubescent children is beyond me.

You're missing the point entirely. Why don't you let the original poster (Luganis) respond instead. He/she claimed that a man can be sexually attracted to other men without being gay as long as they don't fall in love with those men. I just made a comparison using that claim.

Why would anyone be aroused by pre-pubescent children? Because they are paedophiles. I guess they can't help it. That doesn't mean that have to act out their desires. But regardless of that, a paedophile could claim (based on Luganis' argument) that they aren't in fact such, because they haven't fallen in love with a child! Using that argument, I myself could go as far as to claim that I am an asexual, because I've never been in love with a woman!

Anything else you want me to spell out for you?

 

[KimGordon67]

Fairly close? So what other element do I need to be 100% homophobic? I'm turned off by gay sex, but I don't view gay men as lesser beings than me, nor treat them with contempt, so therefore I'm not fully homophobic... just sorta! Maybe I should go for treatment!

It's not natural for anyone to think anything. Newsflash; humans have thoughts. If there's a gay scene in a movie like Rocket Man for example, are other straight men who are watching it thinking nothing? As in 100% nothing?

There's a significant difference between saying something's not for me, and saying it's disgusting. I'm not a fan of beer, but I don't find other people drinking beer problematic, nor do I think that beer is objectively gross. I just don't like it.

When I said that 'it's not natural for anyone to think anything', I didn't mean that thinking is unnatural, but rather that there's no natural basis for the specific thoughts we have - they're pretty much all the result of our socialisation. Therefore, it's not 'natural' for straight men to think gay sex is disgusting - if they do think that, it's the result of socialisation, as is evidence by the fact that I know plenty of straight guys who don't think that.

 

[KimGordon67]

You're missing the point entirely. Why don't you let the original poster (Luganis) respond instead. He/she said that a man can be sexually attracted to another men without being gay as long as they don't fall in love with those men. I just made a comparison using that claim.

Why would anyone be aroused by pre-pubescent children? Because they are paedophiles. I guess they can't help it. That doesn't mean that have to act out their desires. But regardless of that, a paedophile could claim (based on Luganis' argument) that they aren't in fact such, because they haven't fallen in love with a child! Using that argument, I myself could go as far as to claim that I am an asexual, because I've never been in love with a woman!

Anything else you want me to spell out for you?

Love has precisely zero to do with the definition of homosexuality. It might have a little to do with the definition of being gay - e.g. I guess you might identify as gay if you're a guy who forms love attachments with other men, but you don't have sex with them. But that's really not the commonly accepted definition - the OP in that instance was talking twaddle.

 

[FGB]

And ya know....sometimes a cigar is just a cigar!

 

[Goldenfinger]

Why do you need to psychoanalyze it? Why not have fun and enjoy it.

 

[FantasySharer1]

Sometimes people like what they like. And people have weird and conflicting feelings. These five feelings exist inside me right now, at the same time.

1. I would HATE being pegged by ANYONE. I consider myself heterosexual.

2. When my wife's brother was going through a really, really bad break up with his long-term girlfriend, I would have been happy to have given him my ass to fuck and cum inside - because he is my best friend since we were in elementary, and I hated seeing him be sad and sexually frustrated.

3. If my wife's brother came on to me right now and asked to fuck my ass, I'd gladly give it to him. If he asked me to fuck him in the ass, I would fuck him in the ass. I'd suck him dry, drink his cum, his piss, and even enjoy the thought of licking his body up and down. The part that is fun for me about this is making him feel good. He's my friend and my wife's brother and I want him happy. And it would be ZERO romance, and 100% "hey bro, I love making you feel good".

4. I nearly throw-up at the thought of touching any other man's penis or cum or ass besides perhaps my own father.

5. I LOVE women and can't stop thinking about them sexually. Love regular plain old heterosexual sex with my wife.

How so many contradictions? Who knows? People are weird.

 

[Lily Peg]

For me, it's all about the power I have over my husband, as I push my strapon dildo inside him as he moans and squeals. Only to pull it out and push it back in again and again.

Having a domme mistress peg is really ab experience worth living for in my estimation. Mine called me Peggy after the first time and it stuck like the strap on attached! Never fear the desire or even the fantasy it's what we can share and enjoy that matters.

 

[Goldenfinger]

better understanding

 

[lc69hunter]

I have had a number of thoughts about this over the years. Why is it that some straight men do enjoy pegging and some don't? It's got to be more than just pride! And what reproductive purpose is there for a man to be able to orgasm in his ass anyway? I know it doesn't make you gay but what I have noticed that from posts I see online, is that a lot of the men who enjoy it are also bi. I know I'm not gay, but are men who enjoy pegging more likely to be gay? For me I think a lot of the arousal comes from wondering "what in the name of God must she be thinking?" and knowing that she will now view men differently after this. Call me silly but if I were to get pegged I would feel like I'm letting my gender down... like I'm being a traitor to my team. I don't mean to offend; just my opinion.

From what I see online about pegging I often just get the impression that these guys just like things up their ass regardless of where who it's coming from. For me, who it's coming from would be very important. It's not just about the physical feeling. And testimony to that is the fact that I never actually bother playing with my ass in spite of how much pegging I watch. Just because I find a girl attractive doesn't even mean I'd be inclined to desire being pegged by her. I don't know if other men feel the same, but for me it tends to be girls that are older, a bit bigger in size (not fatter), and often more authoritative... Gillian Anderson for example. Does this make sense to other guys? Or would the thought of an 18 year girl pegging you turn you on as much as a 35 year old woman?

Regarding myself, I never feel like doing something submissive with a woman hen I'm feeling super confident. And if I were to meet a girl out some night and bring her home I would want to be the person taking charge sexually. Pegging wouldn't enter my mind. However if things were to later fizzle out between that girl and I, and I felt that she doesn't respect me as much, then that's when I might end up thinking of her in bed some morning after waking up horny... and imagine her dominating to me. If I feel that she now thinks less of me, it makes me more inclined to imagine her pegging me than imagining more regular sexual thoughts. Does that make sense to anyone else here?

Of men who enjoy pegging, what percentage of you would think that if a woman fucks you like that, that you can only drop in her opinion? And if not, then how come all pegging porn is based around humiliation? Is it that society yet have to get away from the stigma of it, and maybe 20 years from now I could expect pegging porn to not involve humiliation? I personally doubt it! I think that no matter what social conditioning a woman has had, or how open minded she is, I do not think there's any way you can be her hero after her witnessing that. Now it might be possible for her to still consider you a pretty cool guy, but not much more than that. So I do wonder are there men out there who are too proud to do this with their wives who seek out hookers for it?

And is there a chance that if a man likes pegging that it'll make it harder for him to get enough arousal to enjoy regular sex? Like Chris Rock once said "women can't go back in lifestyle, and men can't go back sexually". It is after all - unfortunately - a stronger orgasm, leaving alone the extra arousal from the fact you're doing something that's just wrong! Yet in many ways it seems like the most natural thing to desire done to you by a woman. Since I began looking at porn I managed to resist checking out pegging for 9 years. Eventually after a really stressful week I just felt I needed something. I often watch regular porn and often feel like I'd never need to go there again, but I find that 3 weeks is about as long as I can go without watching a quality pegging vid.

Another thought I've had which might seem random, is can you tell if a man is likely to like it up the bum based on the way he is sitting? You know the way sometimes you see people sitting in such a way that their feet would be under the chair with toes pointed downwards and soles of shoes at 90 degrees to the floor. It's kind of an unmanly way to sit, and I sometimes I get the impression that if someone sits like this, that it could mean that they might like it in the ass! I like to sit this way sometimes when I know no one is watching!

All things considered, I do wish I never knew what pegging was as there is a certain amount of shame in it for me, and I think it might affect my confidence with women. If you are going to give any insight on all this, perhaps I would find it helpful if you would reveal whether you're straight or bi. Thanks for reading.

Let me address this from a different perspective. You frame this as a binary option. Other commenters have already ripped you on this. I will not. All men, straight, bi or gay, are susceptible to anal pleasure, because of that male G-spot, the prostrate. How someone gets you there is a whole different topic. Almost any women, if she wanted, could have you getting anal orgasms in a short amount of time

I am a switch. In the BDSM world it means that I can either be a dom or a sub. In the relationship world my choices for a partner are limited. I couldn't be with a dom. I would probably kill her in a few months. I could be with a sub, an acceptable solution. I could be with a woman who hasn't even a clue what the terms are about. Or I could get lucky and meet another switch, who understands the dynamic of switching off control. I hooked up with one about a year ago and once a month one of us would cede control. One of us would switch off control for a weekend about once a month. When I was in control I was an evil nasty SOB, as she was a bit of a pain slut. However, when she was in control I was her little subby bitch and she fucked the shit out me.

We both soon realized that we had nothing in common but the sexual game, so now I am dating several other women (non exclusive), but she and I get together once a month to either take control, or give it up. It works for both of us, and those other two women? They haven't a clue

 

[LasTime]

Sometimes people like what they like. And people have weird and conflicting feelings. These five feelings exist inside me right now, at the same time.

3. If my wife's brother came on to me right now and asked to fuck my ass, I'd gladly give it to him. If he asked me to fuck him in the ass, I would fuck him in the ass. I'd suck him dry, drink his cum, his piss, and even enjoy the thought of licking his body up and down. The part that is fun for me about this is making him feel good. He's my friend and my wife's brother and I want him happy. And it would be ZERO romance, and 100% "hey bro, I love making you feel good".

Oh fine, but what do you mean your father??!!