I was never denying that a man can achieve pleasure from his anal area. I was asking about whether it's degrading or not. I have always felt it is, and I don't see that changing. I was hoping people would relate to or address one thing I said in my original post:Let me address this from a different perspective. You frame this as a binary option. Other commenters have already ripped you on this. I will not. All men, straight, bi or gay, are susceptible to anal pleasure, because of that male G-spot, the prostrate. How someone gets you there is a whole different topic. Almost any women, if she wanted, could have you getting anal orgasms in a short amount of time
I am a switch. In the BDSM world it means that I can either be a dom or a sub. In the relationship world my choices for a partner are limited. I couldn't be with a dom. I would probably kill her in a few months. I could be with a sub, an acceptable solution. I could be with a woman who hasn't even a clue what the terms are about. Or I could get lucky and meet another switch, who understands the dynamic of switching off control. I hooked up with one about a year ago and once a month one of us would cede control. One of us would switch off control for a weekend about once a month. When I was in control I was an evil nasty SOB, as she was a bit of a pain slut. However, when she was in control I was her little subby bitch and she fucked the shit out me.
We both soon realized that we had nothing in common but the sexual game, so now I am dating several other women (non exclusive), but she and I get together once a month to either take control, or give it up. It works for both of us, and those other two women? They haven't a clue
If I feel "that [a woman] thinks less of me now than before, it makes me more inclined to imagine her pegging me than imagining more regular sexual thoughts. Does that make sense to anyone else here?"