the pyshological side of the "slave"

[myinnerslut]

Well he's two for two!

you didnt hear it from me, but hes more then that

*shhh*

 

[BiBunny]

Well he's two for two!

Three for three, actually.

 

[nh23]

you didnt hear it from me, but hes more then that

*shhh*

Three for three, actually.

I knew that I just didn't want to say it without your permission.

 

[Keroin]

I just feel like there is no other word available to me in the English language to describe the way I am in terms of a relationship. When one is invented that I think better describes me, I'll use that.

Oh poo! I didn't read far enough in the thread before I posted this: "Your a Sydmissive". Yeesh, and here I thought I was so clever.

Let's see, um...

You're a Sylave?
You're a Masydochist?

Darn. Those suck.

I hate second place.

 

[nh23]

Oh poo! I didn't read far enough in the thread before I posted this: "Your a Sydmissive". Yeesh, and here I thought I was so clever.

Let's see, um...

You're a Sylave?
You're a Masydochist?

Darn. Those suck.

I hate second place.

http://i154.photobucket.com/albums/s280/itlilone/sticking_out_tongue.gif

 

[myinnerslut]

nh23! play nice!

 

[nh23]

nh23! play nice!

*bats lashes* Who me?

 

[myinnerslut]

*bats lashes* Who me?

i've got my eye on you, young lady *insert teacher face here*

 

[nh23]

i've got my eye on you, young lady *insert teacher face here*

*pouts* it's so hard to be good.

 

[myinnerslut]

*pouts* it's so hard to be good.

i know.

*sigh*

believe me, i know

 

[ZRT]

Geez, don't stop. This conversation's getting interesting.

 

[nh23]

Guess I could give all the details of MIS and I baking cookies in the nude last winter. Boy cookie dough is really hard to get out of some places.

 

[Keroin]

http://i154.photobucket.com/albums/s280/itlilone/sticking_out_tongue.gif

Fine, round one goes to you, nh23, however, I've yet to unleash my bagpipe imitation on this forum.

Tremble.

I will not be out-funnied.

 

[nh23]

Fine, round one goes to you, nh23, however, I've yet to unleash my bagpipe imitation on this forum.

Tremble.

I will not be out-funnied.

You can have Lit's funny award. I'll never be able to keep up. I'm much better with sarcasm. I'm sure someone on here can vouch for that.

ETA: I forgot me and Bunny already have titles. RJ named us Lit's tag-team bitches.

 

[BiBunny]

Guess I could give all the details of MIS and I baking cookies in the nude last winter. Boy cookie dough is really hard to get out of some places.

ZOMG, how did I get left out of that? *Cries*

ETA: I forgot me and Bunny already have titles. RJ named us Lit's tag-team bitches.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Oh, well, I suppose we've mellowed in our old age. Finding our place in slavery and all that. *Nods sagely and tries to look serious*

 

[myinnerslut]

ZOMG, how did I get left out of that? *Cries*

didnt you wonder where those cookies we sent you came from?

Oh, well, I suppose we've mellowed in our old age. Finding our place in slavery and all that. *Nods sagely and tries to look serious*

HA!

 

[BiBunny]

didnt you wonder where those cookies we sent you came from?

It all makes sense now....Geez, I'm slow on the uptake sometimes.

 

[Keroin]

You can have Lit's funny award. I'll never be able to keep up. I'm much better with sarcasm. I'm sure someone on here can vouch for that.

ETA: I forgot me and Bunny already have titles. RJ named us Lit's tag-team bitches.

Yeesh, that was just too easy. Now I feel like a big meanie. Here's a rock, go ahead, I'll even hold still for it.

*Note to self: don't pick fights with slaves.*

LOL.

 

[nh23]

HA!

We have! Can't you tell?
Although we may have been called worse. Once after Bunny and Kitty and I spent the weekend together someone called us sluts.

 

[YourCaptor]

*Quietly resisting the urge to comment*

So

I read a few of your posts and I think I have met the type you are.

Just to make a theoretical example, regarding bondage clothes. If your dom was to give up on clothes and throw them all out, every last one in the trash, would you sit there, fidgeting and thinking, “did you have to throw out all of them?”

Am I in the right ballpark here?

 

[nh23]

Yeesh, that was just too easy. Now I feel like a big meanie. Here's a rock, go ahead, I'll even hold still for it.

*Note to self: don't pick fights with slaves.*

LOL.

Could you throw them at me instead? I've got a huge maso streak. Sounds like it would be a good time. Maybe cookie dough good.

 

[Netzach]

So

I read a few of your posts and I think I have met the type you are.

Just to make a theoretical example, regarding bondage clothes. If your dom was to give up on clothes and throw them all out, every last one in the trash, would you sit there, fidgeting and thinking, “did you have to throw out all of them?”

Am I in the right ballpark here?

I'd be thinking "oh, cool, that means you won the lottery."

 

[MisterSir]

Just to make a theoretical example, regarding bondage clothes. If your dom was to give up on clothes and throw them all out, every last one in the trash, would you sit there, fidgeting and thinking, “did you have to throw out all of them?”

In this age of rampant consumerism I'd be thinking "Man, eBay's RIGHT THERE, the hell is wrong with you?"

 

[00Syd]

From reading around, it seems that a slave mindset is a service oriented one, a mindset that does not view him or herself as the one making decision or having a say in what happens to them and in their lives. The scope of such control varies but ultimately a common theme seems the inability (real, perceived or reinforced) to say "no" to anything.

In the BDSM usage of the word "slave" thou, the fact that one of the original aspects of slavery is that it is not voluntary is often dismissed together with the fact that it is illegal to have a slave in modern society.

Still I remember reading someone that considered the desire to break free of their "slave" pyl, part and parcel of their M/s dynamic: the Master claims the slave; the slave pull on her chain/leash as far as she can get away with. (Before someone screams abuse, it was a married couple and it worked for them).

Regarding the "giving of oneself selflessly" as a sign of a slave and/or submissive I think that it is not only a generalization but at times it is not honest either: if you get pleasure out of putting someone else first, you are doing it for yourself as much as you are doing it for them. So it is not totally selfless, in my opinion. The result appear selfless, but the reality is that both sides get what they want/need out of the dynamic.

At the end of the day, what matters is the satisfaction of the parties involved. At the end of the day it is a relationship and as such can only be successful if it is symbiotic. Where that symbiosis take place might not always be evident nor mainstream.

I love this

 

[eastern sun]

Still I remember reading someone that considered the desire to break free of their "slave" pyl, part and parcel of their M/s dynamic: the Master claims the slave; the slave pull on her chain/leash as far as she can get away with. (Before someone screams abuse, it was a married couple and it worked for them).

Thank you, Syd, for drawing attention to Rida's post. I missed it earlier, and this is a huge part of the sexual dynamics in my own relationship.