The search for the caring caveman.

[Riles]

I was a rank amateur. I think you would provide an excellent partner.

...I think you seek to flatter. The problem is, I've been on Lit so long that the only goal I can think you have is my cyber panties.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

...I think you seek to flatter. The problem is, I've been on Lit so long that the only goal I can think you have is my cyber panties.

Lol. I've been on lit longer than most know. I've moved far beyond cyber panties. Lol!

 

[Riles]

Lol. I've been on lit longer than most know. I've moved far beyond cyber panties. Lol!

...so say all the biggest players.


But all kidding aside, it's good to have your brand of humour and smarts show up in my thread again. Gosh darnit, I like you!

 

[Pervy_Sage]

...so say all the biggest players.


But all kidding aside, it's good to have your brand of humour and smarts show up in my thread again. Gosh darnit, I like you!

I'm gonna frame that compliment and put it on the shelf right beside my club. And yeah...You've been a long time well liked, Litster by me.

 

[Riles]

I'm gonna frame that compliment and put it on the shelf right beside my club. And yeah...You've been a long time well liked, Litster by me.

and sadly, now I must dash.

Catch you on the flip side, m'dear.

 

[sereneone4u]

Something primal. Hard. Strictly about the cock, the cunt and the need for a fierce fucking that will leave me sore in the most delightful of ways.

I love rough play! I seem to be addicted to it, I seek it out and when I can’t find it, I attempt to manifest it by trying to provoke the response I want - you know, tweaking the lion’s tail to so speak. Yet it’s nearly impossible to find the right combination of aggressiveness and control so I can give this desire free rein without the threat of actual injury.

I’m not talking bdsm. At least I don’t think I am. How do I get the “D” without having to be the “s”? No, what I crave is to be manhandled and overpowered, manipulated and used…but I still fully expect my “O’s”!

Am I alone in this? It would be nice to know if that perfect mix has been found by someone.

I did not read the whole thread, but this....FUCK YES!!!!

 

[sereneone4u]

While I see your point from the male perspective, I should say that "my caveman" would not be hindered by these issues. Why? Because he would know and want his possession of me to be by every means possible.

....he would know that holding me, pinning me down and devouring the super sensitive skin of my back would mark me as HIS just as well as him bashing my cervix with his cock.

He would know these things. He would USE them against and for me, and he would allow and relish my protests, but it wouldnt change his plan one little bit!

Totally agree! *grins*

 

[clutch1]

Happy to know I'm not alone. Though I should have given the title more thought.

"considerate caveman"?
Whatever. I just want him to wait long enough so that I come to. I've ended up with what I thought would be great fucks, from highly aggressive men, but it usually ended in the most 'ing kind of way - me all sticky and annoyed.

He's GOT to be out there somewhere! I'll find him, and so will you, miss colourful britches.

How about altruistic caveman?

 

[Miles Long]

Whew, after a whirlwind several days, it's good to come back and see that there have been more additions to this thread. Now, let me attempt to respond with some half ways articulate thoughts.



It's always wonderful and shattering to the normal balance of our lives to meet someone who really zings you, isn't it? God...I haven't had a good zing in ages now that I think about it.

Anyhow, I am happy to lend my voice to such a worthy cause.





Oh....maybe my thread will act as a matchmaker yet.



I couldn't agree more. Otherwise I would have omitted the "caring" in the title, even though it's not the exact fit I was looking for.

Tricky, delicate balance. I don't have any wish to end up hurt - emotionally or physically.



I think there's a teasers taste of it in most relationships, but I'm not looking for just a little sample, and my desires go beyond the mere rough fuck on the bathroom floor once every few weeks.

Perhaps you've been more successful in this search than I, and I am happy for you.

Perhaps I've been successful at it at various times, but so far not long term. But that's just true for general relationships, not particular to my need for the possessiveness and intensity of rough sex.

The quantity and degree to which this permeates the sexual dynamic is something that all couples have to agree to, and I think that's also precisely the case when it comes to things like your issue of D/s and all the labeling that sometimes goes with it. With any relationship the devil will be in the details, and that's why couples should focus on what works for them and not worry about fitting into a predetermined mold or system. But as you pointed out earlier, that's much easier said than done. That which we call a rose by any other name would still make for an awkward sex toy, to paraphrase the Bard...

One other thought that comes to mind as I read everyone's posts is the idea of separating a desire for rough possession with a desire for actual damaging abuse. I think sometimes we as a society condition people (usually men) to think in terms of "oh I shouldn't do that to a woman I love and respect," when in actuality loving and respecting another person means helping them explore their needs and desires and ultimately fulfilling them, too. But there's so much pressure on men and women not to trust some of these desires, and in turn I think that is a big factor in people not finding it in their relationships.

Now, to keep this post from being too overbearing (too late, I know), I would like to remind everyone that tits are awesome. Hooray for tits. If you have tits and are reading this, please give your tits a high five from me. Thank you.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Perhaps I've been successful at it at various times, but so far not long term. But that's just true for general relationships, not particular to my need for the possessiveness and intensity of rough sex.

The quantity and degree to which this permeates the sexual dynamic is something that all couples have to agree to, and I think that's also precisely the case when it comes to things like your issue of D/s and all the labeling that sometimes goes with it. With any relationship the devil will be in the details, and that's why couples should focus on what works for them and not worry about fitting into a predetermined mold or system. But as you pointed out earlier, that's much easier said than done. That which we call a rose by any other name would still make for an awkward sex toy, to paraphrase the Bard...

One other thought that comes to mind as I read everyone's posts is the idea of separating a desire for rough possession with a desire for actual damaging abuse. I think sometimes we as a society condition people (usually men) to think in terms of "oh I shouldn't do that to a woman I love and respect," when in actuality loving and respecting another person means helping them explore their needs and desires and ultimately fulfilling them, too. But there's so much pressure on men and women not to trust some of these desires, and in turn I think that is a big factor in people not finding it in their relationships.

Now, to keep this post from being too overbearing (too late, I know), I would like to remind everyone that tits are awesome. Hooray for tits. If you have tits and are reading this, please give your tits a high five from me. Thank you.

Lol. Love the post as a whole, but the last few sentences made my day! Lol

 

[billrichards41]

Something primal. Hard. Strictly about the cock, the cunt and the need for a fierce fucking that will leave me sore in the most delightful of ways.

I love rough play! I seem to be addicted to it, I seek it out and when I can’t find it, I attempt to manifest it by trying to provoke the response I want - you know, tweaking the lion’s tail to so speak. Yet it’s nearly impossible to find the right combination of aggressiveness and control so I can give this desire free rein without the threat of actual injury.

I’m not talking bdsm. At least I don’t think I am. How do I get the “D” without having to be the “s”? No, what I crave is to be manhandled and overpowered, manipulated and used…but I still fully expect my “O’s”!

Am I alone in this? It would be nice to know if that perfect mix has been found by someone.

Funny I thought you were spying on me again

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

This thread should be renamed THE TYPE A MATCHMAKING THREAD!

Cause its all about being the hottest, strongest, best, most, aggressive competitive crushingly dominant personality there is.

You want a woman like Riles? You better be able to fucking kick her ass. Cause that pussy is grade A prime cut, fresh and solid GOLD bitch.

If you want the Queen Bitch of the pack, you had best be the King Jerk and able to chase her down and bit her neck and hold her while you take her, because she will never give up anything. Oh...and when the coupling is over? Watch your back. Any sign of weakness and she will cut you loose.

 

[Cleopatra]

-snicker-

Look at you go, Riles, on the new boards.

A pleasure to see you in action, as usual. Perhaps the stars will align and we'll get it together one of these weeks?

 

[fire_breeze]

Perhaps I've been successful at it at various times, but so far not long term. But that's just true for general relationships, not particular to my need for the possessiveness and intensity of rough sex.

The quantity and degree to which this permeates the sexual dynamic is something that all couples have to agree to, and I think that's also precisely the case when it comes to things like your issue of D/s and all the labeling that sometimes goes with it. With any relationship the devil will be in the details, and that's why couples should focus on what works for them and not worry about fitting into a predetermined mold or system. But as you pointed out earlier, that's much easier said than done. That which we call a rose by any other name would still make for an awkward sex toy, to paraphrase the Bard...

One other thought that comes to mind as I read everyone's posts is the idea of separating a desire for rough possession with a desire for actual damaging abuse. I think sometimes we as a society condition people (usually men) to think in terms of "oh I shouldn't do that to a woman I love and respect," when in actuality loving and respecting another person means helping them explore their needs and desires and ultimately fulfilling them, too. But there's so much pressure on men and women not to trust some of these desires, and in turn I think that is a big factor in people not finding it in their relationships.

Now, to keep this post from being too overbearing (too late, I know), I would like to remind everyone that tits are awesome. Hooray for tits. If you have tits and are reading this, please give your tits a high five from me. Thank you.

I think you have hit it square on the head - no pun intended (okay, maybe a little). I remember a time that not only when I voiced something like this (albeit much much more mild than what I want) to previous boyfriends years ago - who then gave me a look of utter disgust but when I actually terrified myself with the intensity of what I knew of who I was and what I desired. Let me tell you, after being told that these things were 'uncivilised' and was 'disrespectful' and 'sick' and why would an intelligent, strong woman like me want something like that?, you keep your mouth shut and forget. It is only after I was with my all that he made it known the depth of his intensity that we spoke about it, and that I felt comfortable with asking him for what I truly need - and to be able to bring it out of him, without feeling degraded, disrespected, stupid or less than a strong woman. When I first told him, it was like I was able to breathe and to be free. Confirmation of that is a reaffirmation of who I am as a woman, and as truly his, and being his for the taking.

Looking back, I think what scared them the most was that all their lives they were told that respecting and loving their partners means treating with cotton fluff and white gloves. That to treat your partner anything less like than a priceless statue is demeaning and disrespectful, regardless of your partner's desires, and that to be primal, instinctual, primordial is 'uncivilised' and somehow inherently bad and shouldn't be done. *shrugs* Just what I've observed, that's all.

I've hijacked Beautiful Riles' thread enough.

 

[Dionysian Beast]

Oh....maybe my thread will act as a matchmaker yet.

Well, I've always had a special fondness for you from afar..

 

[PhilGarlic]

Riles

My wife likes this style of sex as well. I was going to describe how we go about it but on second thoughts, yeah she likes me to take charge, to fuck her hard, telling her what I want while giving her what she wants.
Once its over she likes a nice coffee or tea in bed, rough sex doesn't equate to rough life!

 

[victoria927]

A-freaking-men!

This-

If you want the Queen Bitch of the pack, you had best be the King Jerk and able to chase her down and bit her neck and hold her while you take her, because she will never give up anything. Oh...and when the coupling is over? Watch your back. Any sign of weakness and she will cut you loose.

Exactly!! It took me yrs to find a man that understood this!

 

[Riles]

I did not read the whole thread, but this....FUCK YES!!!!

lol
Are you sure, honey? Your response seems a little lackluster.

How about altruistic caveman?

Oh SURE, and just where the [bleep] were you when I was scratching my head over this title?

The quantity and degree to which this permeates the sexual dynamic is something that all couples have to agree to, and I think that's also precisely the case when it comes to things like your issue of D/s and all the labeling that sometimes goes with it. With any relationship the devil will be in the details, and that's why couples should focus on what works for them and not worry about fitting into a predetermined mold or system.

Now, to keep this post from being too overbearing (too late, I know), I would like to remind everyone that tits are awesome. Hooray for tits. If you have tits and are reading this, please give your tits a high five from me. Thank you.

-low whistle-

Wow....you really bring your A game to these posts, huh? Lordy, I don't know if I'm fit to reply to this at....oh, it's almost 9 am. Okay...well....I didn't sleep well, so that's kinda like it being 5 am for me. Be patient.

So for the most part, I whole heartedly agree with your post. Though I will say that the communication and openness of a relationship in it's first few months seems much easier than after years of living in a certain pattern. Thinking of and being thought of as one way - it makes expressing the evolution of sexual interests difficult to admit to. Worse if you know that the partner you have chosen does not possess the traits to satisfy these new needs and desires through exploration.

...oh, and just to be difficult, my tits prefer a two thumbs up instead of the high five.

Funny I thought you were spying on me again

No, that was not me in the black trench coat and dark sunglasses, looking over your hedge last Friday at 7:30 pm.

This thread should be renamed THE TYPE A MATCHMAKING THREAD!

Cause its all about being the hottest, strongest, best, most, aggressive competitive crushingly dominant personality there is.

You want a woman like Riles? You better be able to fucking kick her ass. Cause that pussy is grade A prime cut, fresh and solid GOLD bitch.

If you want the Queen Bitch of the pack, you had best be the King Jerk and able to chase her down and bit her neck and hold her while you take her, because she will never give up anything. Oh...and when the coupling is over? Watch your back. Any sign of weakness and she will cut you loose.

Jesus H. Christ! I just about choked on my V8 while reading this.

I think you paint me in a little different light than I personally would have, but I appreciate the sentiment none-the-less.

Though I will say this. You've got that final part just about perfect. But it's not about weakness exactly. It's about fit. I've run the gauntlet of personality types in lovers, and now know just what I want in a playmate - if "he's" not it, I don't feel the need to ride the relationship to it's natural end, I cut it quick and neat.

 

[Riles]

-snicker-

Look at you go, Riles, on the new boards.

A pleasure to see you in action, as usual. Perhaps the stars will align and we'll get it together one of these weeks?

-laughs-

Action? What action? I'm not getting ANY action....haven't for weeks now. -grumblegrowl-

And yes, I would LOVE to actually catch you ONLINE instead of just swapping offline posts. Unfortunately I just can't seem to keep my eyes open past 10:00 these days. We are busy, busy with babies this time of year and my own munchkins have been running me ragged by swapping colds/flu bugs every few days.

I miss you. You need to tell me what's a good time to call so we can catch up.



p.s. Don't think I'm letting you out of this thread without adding your own thoughts to this topic, ya beautiful hussy.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Riles, you say your tits prefer two thumbs up? Why not two palms squeezing? Or two palms slapping? And what are these thumbs going "up". Just a few early morning questions, I suppose.

 

[Riles]

I've hijacked Beautiful Riles' thread enough.

Never. It's a pleasure and somewhat of a relief to have another woman be able to convey thoughts, so parallel to mine on this topic.

...and for her to do it with such elegance and grace. You humble me.

 

[Riles]

Riles, you say your tits prefer two thumbs up? Why not two palms squeezing? Or two palms slapping? And what are these thumbs going "up". Just a few early morning questions, I suppose.

Well, naturally they would rather the yummy twist and tug of thumbs and index fingers, but we WERE talking about a method of expressing approval....or something like that.

...as for where I want a thumb, "UP"...well...that's for another topic entirely.

-sweet, sweet smile-

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Well, naturally they would rather the yummy twist and tug of thumbs and index fingers, but we WERE talking about a method of expressing approval....or something like that.

...as for where I want a thumb, "UP"...well...that's for another topic entirely.

-sweet, sweet smile-

Morning, darling. And remember..twas you who said "two thumbs up".

-evil, no VERY evil grin

 

[Riles]

Well, I've always had a special fondness for you from afar..

-smile-

Really? How curious.

...Do come a little closer, m'dear. I won't bite if you don't.

 

[Riles]

Morning, darling. And remember..twas you who said "two thumbs up".

-evil, no VERY evil grin

Oh! How very squirm worthy!

Two, huh? My two or your two? I bet there's a significant difference in thickness.