The search for the caring caveman.

[Pervy_Sage]

Oh! How very squirm worthy!

Two, huh? My two or your two? I bet there's a significant difference in thickness.

Well, I might share your body with you...one of my thumbs and one of yours?

 

[Riles]

Well, I might share your body with you...one of my thumbs and one of yours?

Well aren't YOU the creative one!

The mind reels, wondering just what you might come up with if given a few hours and free rein.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Well aren't YOU the creative one!

The mind reels, wondering just what you might come up with if given a few hours and free rein.

I'm a cave man. I don't think. I just do!

 

[Riles]

I'm a cave man. I don't think. I just do!

lol


Oooh, I don't buy that. I have known a few cavemen - even if for too short a time, and I got the sense that while mostly instinctual, the wheels WERE turning...fast and furiously, and with wickedly wonderful results.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

lol


Oooh, I don't buy that. I have known a few cavemen - even if for too short a time, and I got the sense that while mostly instinctual, the wheels WERE turning...fast and furiously, and with wickedly wonderful results.

lOL. I thought I'd try it anyway. You described me to a tee. Now..back to that time and free rein....

-my best evil laugh yet

 

[Riles]

lOL. I thought I'd try it anyway. You described me to a tee. Now..back to that time and free rein....

-my best evil laugh yet

Ahh...well I'm afraid I have to leave you holding your own...reins, today. It's time for me to get busy in my day. But DO try again...soon.

Cheers!

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Ahh...well I'm afraid I have to leave you holding your own...reins, today. It's time for me to get busy in my day. But DO try again...soon.

Cheers!

LOLOL!!!!!! Classic Riles. Later.

 

[Dionysian Beast]

-smile-

Really? How curious.

...Do come a little closer, m'dear. I won't bite if you don't.

Oh yes. And if I'm not mistaken, I might have even mentioned it once.

I'm all about closeness And no worries.. I prefer to be the biter most of the times, but being bitten is nothing I object.

 

[Miles Long]

-low whistle-

Wow....you really bring your A game to these posts, huh? Lordy, I don't know if I'm fit to reply to this at....oh, it's almost 9 am. Okay...well....I didn't sleep well, so that's kinda like it being 5 am for me. Be patient.

So for the most part, I whole heartedly agree with your post. Though I will say that the communication and openness of a relationship in it's first few months seems much easier than after years of living in a certain pattern. Thinking of and being thought of as one way - it makes expressing the evolution of sexual interests difficult to admit to. Worse if you know that the partner you have chosen does not possess the traits to satisfy these new needs and desires through exploration.

...oh, and just to be difficult, my tits prefer a two thumbs up instead of the high five.

I think communication can be easier early in a relationship because there is less at stake. If you barely know someone it's not much of a loss if they hear something they don't like and decide to leave. But once you are emotionally (not to mention financially, physically, life-ly) invested in them and in the relationship all of a sudden you've got a lot to lose. I think most people automatically go into a calculation of "gee, just how honest should I be?" That's a pretty natural instinct, and not necessarily a bad one.

The communication of sexual needs and desires can be especially fraught. Disclose too soon and you risk scaring them off before they "get" you. Disclose too late and now you're afraid it will irrevocably change things for the worse. And then you also hit on another area - the evolution of sexual tastes. You never know what you're going to get a hankering for in the future. And that can really shake up the dynamics.

Those are all real obstacles to open, consistent communication. But unfortunately I think they also make said communication all that much more important. And if you have a partner who is unable to satisfy an exploration that you need, hopefully they are at least able to have that conversation with you. It's a tough order, but I guess that's part of the terrifying thrill of deep emotional intimacy.

You get 5 thumbs up and 17 high fives for your tits. Hooray everyone wins!

 

[Ember_on_ice]

Miles, you are wonderful

Any man who has not only thought this through but is able to express it so clearly has my vote for Man of the Year.

Now, take your clothes off...

I think communication can be easier early in a relationship because there is less at stake. If you barely know someone it's not much of a loss if they hear something they don't like and decide to leave. But once you are emotionally (not to mention financially, physically, life-ly) invested in them and in the relationship all of a sudden you've got a lot to lose. I think most people automatically go into a calculation of "gee, just how honest should I be?" That's a pretty natural instinct, and not necessarily a bad one.

The communication of sexual needs and desires can be especially fraught. Disclose too soon and you risk scaring them off before they "get" you. Disclose too late and now you're afraid it will irrevocably change things for the worse. And then you also hit on another area - the evolution of sexual tastes. You never know what you're going to get a hankering for in the future. And that can really shake up the dynamics.

Those are all real obstacles to open, consistent communication. But unfortunately I think they also make said communication all that much more important. And if you have a partner who is unable to satisfy an exploration that you need, hopefully they are at least able to have that conversation with you. It's a tough order, but I guess that's part of the terrifying thrill of deep emotional intimacy.

You get 5 thumbs up and 17 high fives for your tits. Hooray everyone wins!

 

[Miles Long]

Miles, you are wonderful

Any man who has not only thought this through but is able to express it so clearly has my vote for Man of the Year.

Now, take your clothes off...

Do you really think that or are you just saying it so I'll give your tits high fives?

 

[Cleopatra]

-laughs-

Action? What action? I'm not getting ANY action....haven't for weeks now. -grumblegrowl-

And yes, I would LOVE to actually catch you ONLINE instead of just swapping offline posts. Unfortunately I just can't seem to keep my eyes open past 10:00 these days. We are busy, busy with babies this time of year and my own munchkins have been running me ragged by swapping colds/flu bugs every few days.

I miss you. You need to tell me what's a good time to call so we can catch up.



p.s. Don't think I'm letting you out of this thread without adding your own thoughts to this topic, ya beautiful hussy.

I've mixed thoughts about the considerate caveman, myself.

The way I see it, getting that unmistakable - feel it in your gut - flush that you're the only one who will do, right now... that's the key. And I think most cavemen have that "must have sex now" attitude, but I want it to be the "must have hot, twisted, hard sex with Cleo... now!" attitude.

Just my $0.02, of course.

My week got screwed, so I won't have time for a call until... I don't know. I'll figure it out and we'll get it together, babydoll.

 

[Ember_on_ice]

Stupidly Sincere

Do you really think that or are you just saying it so I'll give your tits high fives?

My dear little stud-muffin, I never say things I don't mean. My word is my bond, but so far, I've not found anyone who will bind me...

 

[Miles Long]

I've mixed thoughts about the considerate caveman, myself.

The way I see it, getting that unmistakable - feel it in your gut - flush that you're the only one who will do, right now... that's the key. And I think most cavemen have that "must have sex now" attitude, but I want it to be the "must have hot, twisted, hard sex with Cleo... now!" attitude.

Just my $0.02, of course.

My week got screwed, so I won't have time for a call until... I don't know. I'll figure it out and we'll get it together, babydoll.

That's the trick, isn't it? The good news is I think when a caveman has that attitude he usually has a specific person in mind. That's how it usually works for me. So you just gotta find your caveman.

My dear little stud-muffin, I never say things I don't mean. My word is my bond, but so far, I've not found anyone who will bind me...

Aww you think I'm dear? Haha you clearly don't know me well!