Thoughts about raising children in the lifestyle?

[His_pita]

I will be moving in with my Dom next month with my 14 year old daughter. We will have a D/s relationship. My daughter will be expected to have respect for him as an adult like she is with all other adults that are worthy of respect. *Some aren't and we have to teach our children that!*

I will be in total control of my daughters discipline and all major decisions concerning her. My Dom is there to back me up with words and to help me raise her to be a healthy, strong woman.

We have talked a lot about how to introduce her to our lifestyle. Not because we plan to flaunt it, but because we will all live in the same home and she will see her mother behaving differently then I did with her father who was nothing like a dominate. Plus, she is very bright and not much gets past this girl.

We plan to answer questions as they come up and to let her know that I am a submissive because I’m a grown woman that understands the choices I make. I have always taught her that you must be strong and in control of your life before you can allow someone else to ever try to control you. I believe that is true for any relationship. She knows that she is wonderful and that everyone is different and must choose the path that works for them in this life.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

I have read all the opinions in this thread with great interest. I agree with so much already said. I think there are many children out there who are being brought up in a household where one parent is more dominant than the other and for the majority of these families BDSM or D/s plays no part in their lives as we would know it.

Dominance and submissive are at the most basic level personality traits, and many people display them without any link or interest in BDSM. What is most important is that both parents agree to a form of parenting and that they work as a team, both parents must be strong and positive role models for their children, and that the home is a harmonious, secure and love filled place which nurtures the children and enables them to grow up to develop as strong, successful and grounded adults no matter what they do later on.

I do take issue with the idea of a patriachy style of home. There are many single parent families that acheive the above, there are many homes where the dominate parent is female. Gender and personality traits are not an issue, parenting ability is.

Of course the idea of a patriarchy style family structure may not sit well with me merely because i am a FemDom. For many it works well.