Thoughts on monogamy in today's world?

[KimAwakened]

Indeed. The "civilised" one-to-one thing breaks down almost as soon as the constraints are lifted.

There's a thread running in SI at this very moment regarding what happens when people are stranded, out of reach of churches and "society"...

 

[MerWilh]

Obviously evolution means change. We change in response to our environment. But it is true that what we consider the civilized era is a tiny blip in time. Barely enough time for any real change in our innate beings.

Moreover if we have evolved to be monogamous why has it needed to be strictly enforced until relatively recently? And why as the enforcement of it has waned has our behaviour changed so quickly?

Reality is that for much of the civilized age monogamy was a practice that has been imposed upon us and enforced through a variety of measures. Even today being non-monogamous will invite judgment and opprobrium from some people. Yes there are/were reasons why it worked well for society. But if it is so natural why did it need to be effectively enforced?

We have no control group of people who lived in our modern society but who were free from the imposition of monogamy too know how we would have behaved if it wasn't imposed upon us.

To be clear I am not claiming that non-monogamy is natural. I am just saying that to claim monogamy is natural because we observe its prevalence without considering the manner in which it has been imposed upon us is flawed.

Well said.

 

[MerWilh]

Humans are not monogamous. Read "Sex at Dawn" excellent book. I was married two decades and was miserable. I dovorced and entered into many fulfilling relationships and had amazing sexual encounters. I let my wife sleep with black men now because it gives both of us the outlet to "play" yet maintain psychological honesty.

In my view, it was religion that forced us down that narrow minded path. Its not for all of us and should not be forced on any one

 

[Yarglenurp]

In my view, it was religion that forced us down that narrow minded path. Its not for all of us and should not be forced on any one

Yeah, problem with that is that the guy who disagrees with you is either willing to kill you or stands by idly while someone else kills you.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yeah, problem with that is that the guy who disagrees with you is either willing to kill you or stands by idly while someone else kills you.

You said it.

I agree religion has killed a lot, but it might not be the biggest killer.

https://today.uconn.edu/2017/08/think-atheists-likely-serial-killers/#

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

Love my hubs, ride or die.

But if he goes, I’m Ho’ing it up like I should have done 20 years ago.

Me too

 

[MerWilh]

Yeah, problem with that is that the guy who disagrees with you is either willing to kill you or stands by idly while someone else kills you.

Point take. Religious people often have very high horses or dubble standards