Tihmmnmmish's Cuddle-Friendly Fireside Threadcast

[annaswirls]

Oiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii you baggage

tis me
hittin' the bunk

 

[UnderYourSpell]

With this iggly piggly thing I found it hard to get past this nursery rhyme

Higgerly, piggerly, my black hen,
She lays eggs for gentlemen ;
Gentlemen come every day
To see what my black hen doth lay.

 

[hmmnmm]

damn.
it's all dark in here. looks like everyone left. what the hell? it's only 3 am EST!

oh, well. it gives me a good excuse to write some poetry...

Sure that wasn't a curfew violation?

Oh and the immunities: that just creates unnecessary complications inside these rusted gears. Just do the deeds or do without. Of course things still need to be written... which means things to be procrastinated. You don't seem like a procrastinator. You seem to be able to throw caution to the wind and jump on this and jump on that and not worry too much. That's my problem: worrying. Too much. If I could master guilt-free procrastination... ah what a beautiful world this one would become. Ah yes.

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

You don't seem like a procrastinator.

*coffee spew*

wow. I laughed when I read that first because I am a horrible procrastinator. Well, now that I think about it, I think I might be better than I used to be. I will still avoid some things...
bills mostly..
When you don't have any money, bills are pointless and depressing.

Thank you for bringing that up though.. cuz I think I label myself a worse procrastinator than I actually am. I almost always only procrastinate on things that I can safely put off until later or that I honestly can't do anything about.

I was thinking about this before. My daughter is a master procrastinator-- like I was at her age. And thinking about psychology, it makes sense. According to behaviorism, we do what is rewarded. If my daughter is given a month notice for an assignment, she'll start it the night before it's due. I always did the same thing. And when you can get away with that, still walk away with A's, then I think it tends to reward that behavior. She has the immediate rewards of procrastinating.. being able to do what she wants instead of working on the assignment, then the reward of still getting an A.

When I started writing freelance about ten years ago, that really challenged my procratination behavior. For once in my life, I had deadlines that I could not wait until the last minute to meet. This forced non-procrastination was especially established when I began working with one client a few years ago. It was not uncommon for him to give me an assignment for 100 short (250 word) web-content articles and expect it to be completed in two weeks.

Okay, well, I have two papers due tomorrow. So...
LOL
It's Personality Theory class.. good stuff. Talking about psychoanalytic theory at the moment. gotta love it. I've referred to the Id, ego, and Superego in my poetry before. Lovely fuel for thought and poetry.

-Sheila

 

[hmmnmm]

If we can modify the pleasure idea, where instead of having equal freedom to choose between two pleasurable options, and instead take two random situations: say on one hand there's a pile of dirty dishes and the other is a five mile hike up into the woods. If the freedom to choose was equal for both, I'd probably choose the five mile hike. If someone was telling me, "you must wash that pile of dirty dishes today" the five mile hike will look even more attractive. If someone said, "today we will all be taking a five mile hike up into the woods" then the idea of washing a pile of dirty dishes would significantly rise as a pleasurable activity. I think that's part of the fascination with the non-consent because if someone tried to order me to do something I ordinarily love to do, that act of being ordered will create an automatic reflex of resistance. Why in the world that is, is the mystery, but I really don't want to know the answer. Fascinating ponderings... fascinating.

 

[annaswirls]

Oh you boys are all so ODD! And if you figure out the answer, please share with me, I know a few ladies who would love to get in on the secret.

If we can modify the pleasure idea, where instead of having equal freedom to choose between two pleasurable options, and instead take two random situations: say on one hand there's a pile of dirty dishes and the other is a five mile hike up into the woods. If the freedom to choose was equal for both, I'd probably choose the five mile hike. If someone was telling me, "you must wash that pile of dirty dishes today" the five mile hike will look even more attractive. If someone said, "today we will all be taking a five mile hike up into the woods" then the idea of washing a pile of dirty dishes would significantly rise as a pleasurable activity. I think that's part of the fascination with the non-consent because if someone tried to order me to do something I ordinarily love to do, that act of being ordered will create an automatic reflex of resistance. Why in the world that is, is the mystery, but I really don't want to know the answer. Fascinating ponderings... fascinating.

 

[hmmnmm]

I think you're just saying that because you know quite well the fragility of us boys' egos. I ain't ashamed to admit I appreciate your... your... you know what I mean.

But I just thought of this: sometimes if we've got the woodstove going, missus'll fill up an iron pot with water and then drop some scented oils in there, like basil. You know, those pretty little bottles... Now, if I don't know she did it? If I'm in this room, maybe rambling on here or who knows what, and that smell hits my nostrils? It's like an assault. It's like whatever I was doing or thinking suffers violent disruption. Have to open the windows, hold my hand over my mouth... then I adjust and it's a wonderful smell. BUT... a few times when I was here alone and I'll see those pretty little bottles, and I'll unscrew the cap, and shove it right up to my nose so I get the full blast? I'll take like two or three huge sniffs, and then it's lovely. Now, if missus knew how I reacted to those first unexpected whiffs of the scented oils and then saw me do what I do with those little bottles... I don't think she'd understand. And I couldn't explain it. And can't now.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

I am married to the worlds greatest procrastinator drives me nuts sometimes but I suppose you can get used to a lot of things sigh all those plans about what we were going to do to this place when we moved in 10 years ago and for the most part I am still waiting. He tells me things he's going to do and I just sigh and say yes dear and think I will believe it when I see it. Was only when the tiling on the front of the house was in danger of braining the postman he got it fixed. Still waiting for my patio to be laid although the slabs have been sitting out there for months

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Oh you boys are all so ODD! And if you figure out the answer, please share with me, I know a few ladies who would love to get in on the secret.

I don't think it's a gender thing. I think it's just a personality thing. Everything he said in that post rang so true with me, I had to laugh. At least, I hope it's not a gender thing... I consider myself very feminine.. even though I was on the high school powerlifting team..

As for nonconsent during sex.. I admit, I eat that up. Not uncommon for me to act out nonconsent fantasies with a trusted partner. But, in reality, that's just a show. Even if a partner who I trusted took the initiative to claim a dominance/ nonconsentual role with me, it would be welcomed. Though, I think men are a little hesitant to do so considering my past riddled with rapes and sexual assaults. I have that compartmentalized well though. Nonconsentual sex that I would never consent to is different from nonconsentual sex acts with a partner I trust. Never had that though. It was always just an act. But, I can understand because they couldn't possibly know unless they ask first, which kinda defeats the whole purpose. It can still be quite steamy though.

 

[hmmnmm]

context
1: the parts of a discourse that surround a word or passage and can throw light on its meaning. 2: the interrelated conditions in which something exists or occurs

 

[UnderYourSpell]

context
1: the parts of a discourse that surround a word or passage and can throw light on its meaning. 2: the interrelated conditions in which something exists or occurs

You've been masterpainting too much take a break

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

People don't understand contexts though.. I mean, some do. Others don't seem to get it. I think some people have a strong sense of context when thinking about things. These are the people who can look at a problem, situation, or person from various perspectives and accept the validity of perspectives that are different from their own.

For others, they don't seem to be willing or able to consider context as a powerful, influential factor. They tend to have "black or white" thinking. It's either good or bad. Nothing good could ever be bad, or vice versa.

empathy vs. a closed mind

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Will someone pleeese toddle over to workshop and comment on this damn Cinquain? which as taken over the place in my mind of the damn haiku

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

You've been masterpainting too much take a break

shit.. talking like this is like intellectual masterpainting...
oh, wait, I'm not conversing completely by myself.

What does that make this thread?

a mind orgy?

a string of not so casual philosophical fucks?

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Sorreeeeee me and the Hmmnmm ..ness used to have a masterpainting thread many moons ago lol it still creeps into conversations occassionally

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Will someone pleeese toddle over to workshop and comment on this damn Cinquain? which as taken over the place in my mind of the damn haiku

I have never written that form yet. I'm not at all familiar with it. hmmnmmish?

I really need to get back to work at the moment, but after I write my articles for today I will look to make sure that someone has given you feedback. If not, I will study the list of forms and apply that newborn cinquain knowlege to your poem.

btw, I should let you guys know that even if this thing says I'm online, if I'm working, I'm probably not looking at this window. I just tend to leave this window open under the ones I'm working on. I wouldn't want someone to PM me expecting a speedy response only to feel slighted cuz I haven't replied.

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Sorreeeeee me and the Hmmnmm ..ness used to have a masterpainting thread many moons ago lol it still creeps into conversations occassionally

Did you take offense or think I took offense or was contradicting your thought?

I was just puttimg my spin on it. That's all.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

No no just explaining the masterpainting that keep wandering into my posts lol

 

[Sienna]

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Please support this thread...

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Thank you

 

[hmmnmm]

Oh yes the masterpainting. That's an hmmnannie creation. A wonderful one too. and the thread shouldn't be too hard to locate. I think it started with grand ideas but somewhere somehow it fizzled away.

If I go back in mind and recall the different stories I put here, the ones I found most interesting (but many readers did not find as interesting, because I failed in making them very interesting) were those where there was one world (a person) that was comfortable in a certainty and another world comes along and challenges that comfortable world. You know, take a statement like, "I would never _______." You could fill that blank with just about anything. Are you certain of that. How do you know? What about under other circumstances? What if the context was _______? Hm, maybe. What if, what if, what if, how do you know, how do you know... you don't know. You don't. You think you know yourself but someone else sees something else. Why? Do they see something you don't see? Or don't want to see? And I suppose exploring these things within the context of 'fictional' sex encounters or sexual tensions is just a fun way to go about it. And of course doing it where metaphor is quite at home in the bed of poetry just adds another flavor. Many flavors. Endless possibilities.

Of course Annie's got a point too... it's easy to sit and chat about this stuff, but another to quit chattering and go do something about it. Tomorrow. Definitely tomorrow. No later than tomorrow night.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

Nobody knows me not inside they don't I never let anyone in not even Ron ....... my outside self is a different person from my inside me thats private and always will be. Doesn't do to give yourself away completely get too hurt that way. Mother beat that into me that a long time ago keep your own council

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Oh, lawd. I was on my school website. We have to post 2 messages a day/ 4 days a week there. Anyway, we're talking about the Id, ego, and superego. They got on the topic of porn. LOL

This one woman said that many problems in this country and world stem from porn and that she thinks a lot of sexual abuse and violent crimes stem from porn. She also said she thinks porn is an addiction.

By her closed-minded, prudish statements throughout her post, I would guess that she thinks all use of porn is an evil addiction. LOL

btw, her post was a response to my post on the subject in which I was talking about the Id. Some woman posted that she recently decided to leave her husband cuz she caught him looking for sex on Craig's List. Personally, I have never looked at Craig's List at all. I've heard of it many times. I have, on occasion, thought about looking at it just to see what everyone's talking about. The woman said that her husband said he was just looking at it. And I thought to myself-- damn.. what if that really is all he was doing?

Anyway, she was asking which- Id, ego, or superego was responsible for her pain and feelings of betrayal. I posted an explanation that it's all three... and explained how each part probably contributed. I also mentioned that the Id contains instinctual drives for everyone, but people vary on what is acceptable and what is not acceptable for them to act on.

Hence the woman's response that some things are just evil....

what was I saying earlier about how some people don't get context?

 

[annaswirls]

Seems to me that he was looking on Craigslist and She was looking for a reason to leave him.

Even if he were doing more than looking, it seems to be drastic to end a marriage-- which goes into so many more dimensions than sex.

Oh, lawd. I was on my school website. We have to post 2 messages a day/ 4 days a week there. Anyway, we're talking about the Id, ego, and superego. They got on the topic of porn. LOL

This one woman said that many problems in this country and world stem from porn and that she thinks a lot of sexual abuse and violent crimes stem from porn. She also said she thinks porn is an addiction.

By her closed-minded, prudish statements throughout her post, I would guess that she thinks all use of porn is an evil addiction. LOL

btw, her post was a response to my post on the subject in which I was talking about the Id. Some woman posted that she recently decided to leave her husband cuz she caught him looking for sex on Craig's List. Personally, I have never looked at Craig's List at all. I've heard of it many times. I have, on occasion, thought about looking at it just to see what everyone's talking about. The woman said that her husband said he was just looking at it. And I thought to myself-- damn.. what if that really is all he was doing?

Anyway, she was asking which- Id, ego, or superego was responsible for her pain and feelings of betrayal. I posted an explanation that it's all three... and explained how each part probably contributed. I also mentioned that the Id contains instinctual drives for everyone, but people vary on what is acceptable and what is not acceptable for them to act on.

Hence the woman's response that some things are just evil....

what was I saying earlier about how some people don't get context?

 

[LadynStFreknBed]

Seems to me that he was looking on Craigslist and She was looking for a reason to leave him.

Even if he were doing more than looking, it seems to be drastic to end a marriage-- which goes into so many more dimensions than sex.

yeah, i thought that she must be reaching for a good reason to leave him... Especially since she said she's taking her daughter and moving to another state. hmmm.. what's in that state? Does she miss her family, her hometown, or is there something else drawing her there?

To end a marriage over looking at a website seems severe..
There may be one or two types of websites that are so severe, that I would have one foot out the door very fast-- like child porn or something that wrong..
Actually, it's my house, so, he would be picking himself up off the sidewalk..

 

[hmmnmm]

Or, he knew he only had to give her one more reason to leave him, or he was trying whatever he could think of

Or, she might've been a direct beneficiary of whatever he was looking at, if she'd just held her horses and hung around a few minutes.

Context.