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UnderYourSpell said:
I did the counsellor thing and she said to me that she understood my pain and without thinking (which is probably the right thing) I said how can you it's my pain!! I got continually told it was not my fault and that's the bit I can't get past and where the guilt lies it's the canker I can't cut out
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It's a tremendously difficult thing to get passed the guilt that has roots in childhood abuse. I have not experienced that myself to that degree as things that occured during my childhood were only isolated incidences. However, I have been in numerous group therapy sessions that dealt with shame from abuse during childhood. I think it's so difficult to overcome because it occured at the same time that our personalities are being formed. Therefore, the roots run deep and are intertwined with the person's self-esteem and self-image.

I've been told by therapists that I need to truly get angry at my abusers in order to gain some power over the guilt and depression. Getting angry doesn't come easy to me. If someone does something wrong to me, I jump right to feeling depressed and hurt. Maybe you could have some luck with putting the blame where it belongs by getting angry at the abuser and those who didn't protect you like they should have.

And now, I am off to do my therapy for today-- painting.
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Getting angry is hard for me, too. I've heard it said that depression is anger turned inwards.
In my case I find it hard to find a culprit - life, fate ?
And my alcoholism, unlike many of my fellows, doesn't appear to be traceable back to my family in growing up.
 
Getting angry with your mother is pretty difficult well I find as an adult anyway, the time of your life when you're supposed to know better. You're supposed to love your mother right? and it wasn't all bad so how do I differentiate between the bad mother things to hate (which happened when no-one else was around to see them) and the rest of the stuff of the good mother? See it's hard to hate in bits and peices or even to love the same way ....... hence one whole bundle of confusion.

Anyway here's something you might be interested to read WARNING
 
unpredictablebijou said:
I like them best with strawberry preserves. That's what makes a perfect pancake. Maybe, lovely Tmmmmnish, you should start a lil Fat Tuesday poetry challenge? About pancakes, or something...
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I am way way to full to be comfortable now and I didn't have the first course (thick homemade veggie soup, a meal in itself) tho Ron did but the pancakes have finished me off. I prefer mine with orange juice but didnt have any so had lemon juice and sugar. Ron and you would do well together ...... he had the strawberry jam!
 
I like my pancake with maple syrup (100%, not some kind of sugar stuff with a trace of maple).
Generally for breakfast.
Tonight we had palachinken (sp ?), which are crepes with a filling of egg stuff.
Also some bean soup with sausages.
 
unpredictablebijou said:
I like them best with strawberry preserves. That's what makes a perfect pancake. Maybe, lovely Tmmmmnish, you should start a lil Fat Tuesday poetry challenge? About pancakes, or something...
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A wonderful idea from someone super duper sweet. However because of very recent developments that practically fell from the sky (very good developments) I probably wouldn't be able at this time to give it and the poets the devotional attentions they deserve. But someone should certainly do it.
 
Jumbled chaos here.
I'm now involved in at least 2 lawsuits-- based on difficulty that I have had over the past 4 years with the school district. Some may be familiar with my past complaints over the truancy fines and lack of help for my daughter. Well, at least now someone is listening. However, my recent days have been spent talking to more lawyers than I could ever want to deal with. I found out that I have the highest amount owed in truancy fines in the school district (over $27K). The person with the next highest has less than half of the $$$fines$$$. I hope the lawyers prove the case and the targeted parents (including myself) get some relief. I guess I can't discuss specifics, but it will be interesting to see how this turns out.
The stress when discussing what I went through is horrible. My psychiatrist literally doubled the dose of my one med just to help me cope with this anxiety. I was physically trembling when talking to the one lawyer about the trouble that I went through trying to get help for my daughter.
sigh... just trying to take a breather tonight. How are you all doing?
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I don't know how you cope at all and I take my hat off to you, how on earth can they ask you for money you don't have? We have a saying over here about 'getting blood out of a stone' and that seems to be what they are trying to do to you
 
ty, Annie.
Well, keep your fingers crossed. If the lawyers have their way, this could be the end of my financial problems.
What's new with you?
 
What the hell????
I just got a letter saying, "Welcome to Medicare!"
In all fairness, I thought this might happen, but I was told that I would probably be on Medicaid longer. So, now I have to pay a $110/month premium to see my doctor. If I didn't have to see my doctor every month due to my disability, I would not take Medicare Part B. $110 a month for medicare.. great. They only give me $600/month for disability. My mortgage is $580. And now I have to pay $110?

Boy, these lawyers better be right and work fast or I'll be taking donations for a nice-sized cardboard box to live in. Anyone got a box large enough for me and my easel?

Obviously, some people are managing to live on disability (SSDI) and get Medicare. Anyone know how? Seriously, if anyone knows of any resources or how it's done, I need to know.
 
Looks fun and interesting, at least as far as I understand what it's about, what's going on. But because of certain recent developments I fear I'd be a hindrance to the team. Maybe after I make some headway and it's still going... sure.
 
sanctuary ........ while I write out one hundred times 'I must not go on other threads where people are going to close ranks on me for being a woman who dares to have an opinion contrary to the ruling male'
 
UnderYourSpell said:
sanctuary ........ while I write out one hundred times 'I must not go on other threads where people are going to close ranks on me for being a woman who dares to have an opinion contrary to the ruling male'
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sanctuary guardian at your service
:rose:
 
snuggles into blankie and sanctuary after letting an interfering sister in law get to me in a biggggggggg way
 
RFLMAO

Don't mind me. I just popped in here until I can stop laughing!

:rolleyes:
 
I'm feeling better today. Gradually over the last couple days, I have felt better than I have in a long time. I even went to the store last night with one of my friends. She told me she was proud of me because I waited for her outside for a minute or two while she was on the way to my house to pick me up. Geez, I feel pathetic. lol

Anyway, I been working on a villanelle for weeks now and it is kicking my ass. I am determined to dance with it today.

Have a good one!
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LadynStFreknBed said:
I'm feeling better today. Gradually over the last couple days, I have felt better than I have in a long time. I even went to the store last night with one of my friends. She told me she was proud of me because I waited for her outside for a minute or two while she was on the way to my house to pick me up. Geez, I feel pathetic. lol

Anyway, I been working on a villanelle for weeks now and it is kicking my ass. I am determined to dance with it today.

Have a good one!
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I'm glad to hear you're feeling better! :rose:
And good luck with your villanelle.
 
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