Walked in on....

[SirFace]

I have had a locksmith come in tonight, and re secure my house.Was no easy task for a Sunday, but a necessary one. I am taking your advice on this matter, and have informed my ex that he is not welcomed here.

Thank you all for the advice, and I have taken it to heart. Do not assume that one is weak because one is soft spoken, and I do learn from my mistakes.

Thank you Skye, I am glad to hear that I didnt break any laws... and I knew that because I had given out a key, that was going to void the fact that he was tresspassing.. It is clear now. I am firm, and will not allow for it to happen again.


~RS

Good for you, sorry about the "event". That had to be very stressful.

 

[ImSkye]

I have had a locksmith come in tonight, and re secure my house.Was no easy task for a Sunday, but a necessary one. I am taking your advice on this matter, and have informed my ex that he is not welcomed here.

Thank you all for the advice, and I have taken it to heart. Do not assume that one is weak because one is soft spoken, and I do learn from my mistakes.

Thank you Skye, I am glad to hear that I didnt break any laws... and I knew that because I had given out a key, that was going to void the fact that he was tresspassing.. It is clear now. I am firm, and will not allow for it to happen again.


~RS

No problem. I think you are doing the right thing. Now the law will be on your side and hopefully you will be able to feel safe in your own home.

I don't think you're weak - I learned a long time ago never to assume anything about anyone.

Skye

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have had a locksmith come in tonight, and re secure my house.Was no easy task for a Sunday, but a necessary one. I am taking your advice on this matter, and have informed my ex that he is not welcomed here.

Thank you all for the advice, and I have taken it to heart. Do not assume that one is weak because one is soft spoken, and I do learn from my mistakes.

Thank you Skye, I am glad to hear that I didnt break any laws... and I knew that because I had given out a key, that was going to void the fact that he was tresspassing.. It is clear now. I am firm, and will not allow for it to happen again.


~RS

Glad to hear you have taken action. As for the soft spoken thing and weakness, why would I (apart from not knowing if you speak soft or like a brawling bar room shrew) given I am continually being asked to speak louder?...has been a life long problem, but is not so much I talk quietly on purpose as much as my voice just will not go to a high level unless I actually shout and that is not conducive to normal conversation, nor often as I then lose my voice for hours.

Catalina

 

[DVS]

I'm sorry that happened to you. *hugs*

How rude of anyone to just walk in without permission.

Now I'm thinking that maybe you might want to consult a kink-friendly lawyer, if you can find one, to talk through how to keep your ex from trying to get your son.
While I know perfectly well that it's bullshit to take children from a parent because of the things they do in the bedroom as consenting adults, I can see very well how the other parent and judges could see it differently.

I agree. And, if he really wants to make trouble, he can say your son was in the house at the time, and that he (your ex) didn't have to open the bedroom door because it was wide open!

Of course it's not true, but when it comes to emotional wars of the exhusband/exwife variety, you'd be amazed at how things can get trumped up. And, if you have custody of your son and he wants custody, and if he's paying child support to boot, he could be thinking about creating a little stink in your life to maybe change his situation to the better.

OK, I don't know your ex at all, but I do know that people will be people. And, some of the most loving and caring people in the world can turn into hateful creeps, when divorce and kids are in the mix.

Shit, I know a couple who were said to be the most loving couple EVER, by their friends. Yes, they were that couple who everybody said would always be married and were perfect for each other, etc.

Well, the wife was having an affair and wanted out. There were no kids involved, but she wanted the house and her lawyer said "do anything you need to do to get him out of the house." Possession is key, in such a situation. Once he's out, she can claim he abandoned the house and she took possession. His word against hers, but if you use the right story, even more weight is on her side.

The story went like this...one bright Saturday morning, she calls the cops...crying and claiming "please come quick...my husband is threatening me with a gun!"

Well, the husband was still in bed, fast asleep, and had no idea what was about to happen. She hadn't told him about seeing someone else, and she also hadn't told him he wanted a divorce, either. It was a typical sleepy Saturday morning, as far as he knew.

The cops storm in and drag the husband out of bed, out into the front yard and cuff him. His out there in the front yard, in his underwear and that's how he went to jail. He couldn't do anything about it, because in such a case, there is a "no contest" policy, when a wife says she is being threatened.

Yes, they had a gun. No, it wasn't registered. She took the cops right to it, where it was always kept...in the basement ceiling, far away from where the husband was sleeping, upstairs in the bedroom.

It hadn't been fired, EVER, and I don't know if it was even loaded. But, at the time, the cops see it as a threat and off to jail he goes. He had to spend 24 hours in jail, and the wife calls a locksmith to come change the locks on the house, while he's in jail.

Well, he had a good lawyer, and her actions didn't work, other than to piss him off. He ended up getting the house in the settlement and she got the BMW. She and her lover (her dancer instructor ) eventually moved out of state to join a dancing troupe.

Well, after that little fiasco, everybody lived happily ever after...except for the beamer. A struggling dancer doesn't make much and beamers need to be taken care of. The poor thing, it didn't have a chance.

The moral to this story? Even the most loving people tend to change when it's to their advantage, or when a money hungry lawyer fills their head with possible scenarios. Sometimes it's best to expect the unexpected.

 

[Brittykat]

I've had three walk in with my husband. The first his sister was living with him and just came in sat down and started talking to us. ( We were well into it) She suddenly reliezed what we were doing and ran from the room mortified, we were laughing so hard we had to stop. The second was my mother, it was right after the fact. She came over and I hadn't gotten the tie downs off the posts or the chocolate syrup put away. Yup she saw it all and couldn't stop laughing for twenty minutes. In our new house we had some time to ourselves or so we thought my youngest left her favorite toy home and mom came over to get it walk into our room, turned around a walked out. When I talked to her later she asked "Is that all you two do when your alone?" Yes its embaressing, but I've had to learn to handle it with a certian amount of humor. My mother always dings the door bell fifteen, twenty times before she enter now!!