Wax / candle play

I :heart: waxplay. We use tea light candles. If he starts out rather high in the beginning after a few minutes he can get close enough that he's almost touching my skin with the candle. I've got weird skin though..so I've never been burned badly..just be careful and have fun!
 
Wow - I didn't expect such quick responses! Thank you :)

I was also going to ask about suggestions, etc... for what type of candles are better to start with, so thank you all for offering that information too! I like BiBunny's "test" of whether it will melt from the heat of your hand. I tend to have very warm hands, so I may try this when looking at them. My skin is somewhat sensitive, but doesn't sound nearly as sensitive as yours does BiBunny, so hopefully that won't be a problem :)

Thank you for the suggestions too Millificent, now I have another reason to hit the dollar store...lol!

Of course I'll read up about the safety precautions and everything before I'd even consider trying it. It was something I was thinking about and figured I'd get others thoughts/opinions of it.

LOL, your skin probably isn't as sensitive as mine (lucky you!). Most people's isn't. I just have a weird, rather rare skin condition that makes it hard for me to enjoy things that irritate said condition. Lucky for me, there are about a zillion other things I can do that don't irritate it, so I can indulge my maso side in those ways.

As an aside, this thread inspired Kitty and me to go to Wal-Mart and buy some more candles, since we used up most of ours night before last! :)
 
One of the few things I have actually done...I highly recommend it if you love sensations. The feeling of the wax flowing across your skin until it solidifies is incredible. I'm not sure what type of candle was used (this was many years ago) but I had no problem with the wax sticking. The feeling of the wax lifting when I took a deep breath or arched my back was just as good as the feeling of the wax going on. I was blindfolded at the time and loved that fat that I didn't know when or where the next stream would fall. (Why is everything better when you are ready but not expecting it?)
 
I was going to post, but it seems a few people paid attention to what I was doing and posted the important stuff.

There's plenty of other things that could be said about waxplay, but the basics have been rather solidly covered. Get used to that level, then come back when you want ideas on how to make it more fun, such a four candles in one hand, and pours in the other, or cracking and slightly lifting the thick wax shell you've produced during a heavy session and pouring some ice water in underneath the wax. Good stuff.
 
Thank you so much Miss Rebecca :) :rose:
My pleasure Miss Stegral, those resources are a reflection of the generosity of information shared by members across the BDSM Board. Aren't we fabulous !

Thank you to rebecca (I think it was her) for posting the links!

On a more personal note, I :heart: wax play in the context of a part of foreplay. Just one way in the myriad of useful devices for getting my total attention : smiles : An entire 'scene' covered in it , leaves little to be desired, even considering the potential for a creative dominant to resolve removal .

I don't burn easily, I still think it's wise to check any candle before using it, irrespective of the melt temperature stated. I also think buying actual BDSM candles is nothing more than clever marketing in most instances.

You'll soon work out what is compatible to the sensation you are seeking and any potentially adverse risks . I like wax play right on the line between seering and an actual burn . I do not want to be scarred or burned in a medical sense, I do enjoy, in this kind of play to be near my higher ends of pain 'tolerance' in shorter bouts. I also have areas I 'prefer' wax not to be applied. As some areas of skin are more sensitive than others you may wish to experiment/explore, what ratio of erotic VS pain & or both combined that you are seeking.

That is all :cool:
 
Thank you rebecca! As I've never done this before, I expect there to be a fair amount of experimenting to determine what I like/prefer/can handle in regards to the heat/pain factor.

Have fun, just be safe on this one, real burns suck.

Damn I'm all distracted/flustered now, it's all your fault : laughs :

On that note I am out :rose:

: vanishes :
 
The A, B, C's of Wax Play

The lighter the candle, the cooler the wax. ( damn those black candles!)
Throw down some towels, add match, drip strategically and enjoy.
 
Thanks again to everyone that responded! Your advice and encouragement are priceless. I went shopping and found some different types of candles. :) Just gotta find some time to experiment with them.

to save you from a amistake that A and i made, when you are experimenting make sure you test the wax on an area of skin that is comparable to where the wax will be hitting your participant, during the scene.
A tested first on his arm and we were both unprepared for how it felt whe it landed on my stomach. the skin is much more sensitive so i felt the heat a whole lot more.
 
I'm interested in reading about others experiences with wax and candle play. I know I've seen threads in the past about this, but I'll be damned if I can find them now! :eek: I'm mostly interested in finding out what your initial reaction was to it, did you think you'd like it, etc...

~Chelle

Love it, love it. Been doing it for many years now. If you have any specific questions, PM me.:rose:
 
The first time I did it, I was alone and it was an assignment. I loved it.

I was surprised when I got my husband to try it on me. The wax felt so much hotter but then anything with him (or I should say another person) is hotter. Still, it surprised me, just how much hotter (uncomfortably) it was.

I love hot wax regardless.

:rose:
 
Just had a scene this week full of wax play. Intense and erotic it was indeed. My favorite activities included slipping a sliver of peeled ginger into his urethra and dripping hot wax over it, sealing it in (it was wedge shaped, so as not to get lost), flicking off little pieces of wax with my flogger and a riding crop, pouring melted wax on skin fresh from the bite of clothespins, and the ever popular wax pull to remove unwanted pieces of errant wax from my artwork. :D

In all seriousness, I used the type of candle that is in the latino section of the grocery story, very soft wax in a reusable glass cylinder, punctuated by a 100% paraffin candle for effect. I always experiment with a new candle to check it's temp and see how it feels. It's best to avoid any unwanted trips to an ER, so always try out each candle. I test on the back of my hand, from different heights.
 
I love wax play...

Giving and recieving!

It can be very difficult to do properly, consistently, but it is a huge turn on when done with passion and care.
 
Damn!! This thread is really REALLY making me want to experiment with some wax play.... but I have no one to play with. Humph.

I've always loved playing with candle wax, I love the burning feeling, but I've never had a chance to actually try wax play. Maybe someday.


Heather
 
The parafin wax pots you can buy at Walmart are great for this. And you can get scented parafin wax from beauty supply stores that don't burn too hot to use. I believe they also make it in florescent colors that glow in the dark now :)
 
I've never seen the parafin wax pots at walmart! What part of the store did you find them in? I've found a variety of candles and such at Walmart, the grocery store and the dollar store. I have not managed to find parafin candles however, and would be interested in finding the pots.

They are usually in the pharmacy area near the foot care. We actually bought my mom one for Christmas, to use on her arthritic hands. It's wonderful stuff and makes your skin feel soooo soft afterwards :)
 
I never knew the wax used made so much difference. I have an extended history of playing with candles, never sexually though, but I want too.

I don’t have many nerve endings in my fingertips, so playing with candles and small flames is one of the few things that allows me to feel anything real without causing serious injury. So much for my confidence with the stuff, I need to test how hot this stuff actually gets.

Does the height of the drop make that much of difference?
 
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