We don't know how lucky we are

[LadyJeanne]

What's wrong with the word cunt? It's a good, powerful sounding word. I would think it would be the name of choice for confident strong women everywhere?

I'm serious here, what's wrong with this word? Most women I know freak out if someone uses it, but no one has ever been able to tell me why. So tell me...why?

Prolly cause it's been often used as an insult to woman, rather than as a descriptor or with positive connotations.

"You are a cunt" is different from "I love sliding a finger into your wet cunt" but the word's been ruined for us.

Having said that, I use the word cunt in my stories all the time.

 

[A Desert Rose]

What's wrong with the word cunt? It's a good, powerful sounding word. I would think it would be the name of choice for confident strong women everywhere?

I'm serious here, what's wrong with this word? Most women I know freak out if someone uses it, but no one has ever been able to tell me why. So tell me...why?

well, I love the word cunt... under the right circumstances and from the right Man.

Now, if some woman calls me a "fucking Republican cunt" that's a whole other matter.

 

[kiwichyck]

What's wrong with the word cunt? It's a good, powerful sounding word. I would think it would be the name of choice for confident strong women everywhere?

I'm serious here, what's wrong with this word? Most women I know freak out if someone uses it, but no one has ever been able to tell me why. So tell me...why?

Well, I heard the word used in a derogatory fashion for years before I even realised it was another term for womans anatomy. That put me off to start. And then there is just the sound of it. It is a harsh sounding word. When I hear 'cunt' it conjures up images of nastiness. Like "she's so hard, she could break my dick off with her cunt muscles", that kinda thing. For me, it is just one of those words that makes me recoil mentally *shrug*

 

[Cathleen]

I've used the word too and also agree it has been used in an insulting manner so context matters. Also, I agree it is powerful and it does sound harsh - I think I'm just tired of it, along with pussy.

I like sugarbox Lynn, I must be in a romantic mode.

 

[Cathleen]

The washing machine comment was priceless...

List of terms for vagina ... click me!

And sometimes I worry about family finding out about this site, not because they'd be upset but because they'd probably be perfectly fine with it, and they'd more then likely tell stories I don't want to hear.

OMG! The phrase "Be careful what you ask for" is zooming around in my mind. rcuhljr, that list is off the wall!! That is a helluva list.

My family still treats me as the baby of the family - which I am but... when I told one of my brothers I started writing he thought it was great. Then I said they were of a romantic quality, he was still ok, sort of. Then I said ''Well, some are more erotic then romantic.'' He blushed and said go talk to his wife. She is the only one that's read them. One night she was reading one in bed and he asked what it was, when she told him he jumped out of bed. And he is one I'd consider to be umm, errr... well, definitely not prudish in the least.

 

[Eilan]

Prolly cause it's been often used as an insult to woman, rather than as a descriptor or with positive connotations.

When my ex called a woman a bitch, he meant it as a compliment. A bitch, to him, was an assertive woman. If he called a woman a cunt, however. . .

I once saw a bumper sticker that read, "The cunts are coming."

 

[silverwhisper]

i've always disliked the word, primarily b/c of its use as a vile insult.

the reason i like HT & the HT cafe is b/c they remind me very strongly of another forum i frequent in terms of the give/take and nature of interactions.

ed

 

[rcuhljr]

As long as it doesn't bother her cunt's just another word to use. Hate to cross too many things off the list since talking dirty is hard enough without being repetitive

 

[silverwhisper]

odd...it's always come pretty easily to me. hm...this gives me an idea for a poll...

ed

 

[rcuhljr]

Well practice may very well make perfect, just seems like sometimes I sound uncreative or I'm trying not to use something I already said. Probably putting way too much thought into it since most of it's just tone of voice, that subtle undercurrent that lets her know just how much you want her.

 

[silverwhisper]

honestly, i tend to find that when people have trouble w/ it, the real reason is that they just don't feel sexually confident. JMHO.

ed

 

[rcuhljr]

honestly, i tend to find that when people have trouble w/ it, the real reason is that they just don't feel sexually confident. JMHO.

ed

Well that could be quite true But I'd say it's more they don't feel comfortable being sexual that causes the problem. I imagine there's plenty of people who've been having sex for years and can't talk dirty. I think it might relate to your definition of sexual confidence though.

 

[kiwichyck]

Well that could be quite true But I'd say it's more they don't feel comfortable being sexual that causes the problem. I imagine there's plenty of people who've been having sex for years and can't talk dirty. I think it might relate to your definition of sexual confidence though.

....or your perspective of it maybe?

I was always pretty confident sexually, but talking about it made me squirm. Like somehow good girls could have sex, they just shouldn't talk about it.
And good girls can talk about the sexual organs using their real names, but a lot of the slang terms are vulgar, crude, or just simply 'not nice' words.

I try not to swear, but talking dirty effectively usually involves 'swearing' and of course it just doesn't sound the same if you use proper body part names.

 

[silverwhisper]

as an author, i find that i shy away from using vulgarity in my writing (click on the link in my profile if you're curious)--i tend to find vulgarity either annoying or intrusive. i'm not a particularly self-confident person, but in matters of sex, i'm pretty confident. the partners i've been with have in general been that way as well. perhaps i have a skewed sampling?

ed

 

[hdlynnette]

I like sugarbox Lynn, I must be in a romantic mode.

I can't believe he's been gone almost 8 years.

Rest In Peace, 'George.'

 

[eudaemonia]

"Aunt Mabel, this fried okra is just fabulous. Why, it reminds me of something I saw posted just the other day about how sensuous it can be to give your man a rimjob."

Goddamnit, mwy, I just nasal-sprayed my keyboard with coffee!

...

 

[eudaemonia]

* Normal is a setting on a washing machine.

:::e slaps the mouse down in total *fecking* agreement:::

* BG and I were talking today about the word pussy. I'm tired of it,

Me, too. I'm going to make a list of my own.

* It is quite possible that I've scared my family into silence (please God let it be true) by sharing one of my most tame stories - it only mentions a kiss!! They are flabergasted that *I* even know of such things and then to find out I participate on a porn board... makes them blush!! I love it.

Good on ya! My family is already flabbergasted by me. Methinks some icing is in order (to go with their cake, just so they can eat it, too).

* On topic -- I am an incredibly lucky person.

Yes you are! A rich sexual inner-life can sometimes keep you going like nothing else.

Seriously, I think most of us here, even those with less than fulfilling sex lives, are far, far better off than the average bear.

<shaking head>"He wants me to give him oral but that's just gross!"</shaking head> What I wouldn't give ...

 

[vanelane]

I kinda liked Dr. Bailey's word on Gray's Anatomy when she told George "Stop looking at my va-jay-jay!"

On topic, what is a 'normal' sex life anyway? The comments quoted in the original post are just truly sad. I am a very lucky woman.

Random thought: A lot of times when I see something I think is just silly like, say, someone who crochets tea cozies for fun and has thousands of them, I say "She has *way* too much time on her hands." Now I realize why!

 

[eudaemonia]

someone who crochets tea cozies for fun and has thousands of them

Um ... color me embarrassed. I thought that was a euphemism for ...

ne'ermind ... sorry ... later!

 

[midwestyankee]

Goddamnit, mwy, I just nasal-sprayed my keyboard with coffee!

...

I hope that it was good coffee at least.

 

[Guest]

 

[Quoll]

My wife once worked in a florist shop. A guy that appeared to be in his twenties came in and told her "I need something really nice for my wife, I'm in big trouble".

As she was showing him the various options, she asked him why he was in big trouble.

He said "I called her the c-word"

My wife closed the door to the cooler and said "I'm sorry, we don't sell anything that can make up for that"

Scaly, give your wife a hug from me, that is just awesome.

 

[LadyJeanne]

My wife once worked in a florist shop. A guy that appeared to be in his twenties came in and told her "I need something really nice for my wife, I'm in big trouble".

As she was showing him the various options, she asked him why he was in big trouble.

He said "I called her the c-word"

My wife closed the door to the cooler and said "I'm sorry, we don't sell anything that can make up for that"

Did she suggest jewelry instead? Big jewelry?

 

[TBKahuna123]

OMG! The phrase "Be careful what you ask for" is zooming around in my mind. rcuhljr, that list is off the wall!! That is a helluva list.

My family still treats me as the baby of the family - which I am but... when I told one of my brothers I started writing he thought it was great. Then I said they were of a romantic quality, he was still ok, sort of. Then I said ''Well, some are more erotic then romantic.'' He blushed and said go talk to his wife. She is the only one that's read them. One night she was reading one in bed and he asked what it was, when she told him he jumped out of bed. And he is one I'd consider to be umm, errr... well, definitely not prudish in the least.

No kidding! I'm not sure which of those I like best: Grassy Knoll or Notorious V.A.G.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Prolly cause it's been often used as an insult to woman, rather than as a descriptor or with positive connotations.

Yeah I agree that's probably the reason why. I think though that women are more sensitive to that than men, I mean we don't object to Dick do we? Funny though I occasionally find myself getting pissed and calling something or someone a cocksucker. Everytime I do I can see it in my wife's face, she gives me that look like "and you expect me to give you a blowjob now?"

Definitely makes me think twice.

"You are a cunt" is different from "I love sliding a finger into your wet cunt" but the word's been ruined for us.

Having said that, I use the word cunt in my stories all the time.

I use it sparingly in my stories, mainly because I run out of other names. Plus, there is something about that word that just fits in certain scenarios where pussy would break the tone. I agonize about it everytime I decide to use it though, not wanting someone to be offended, which would defeat the purpose of the story in the first place.