What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[Deleted member 6808749]

I'd like to write a treatise about the inherent weirdness of Lit relationships. Or maybe someone will just let me observe those who get involved. And do they ever work?

Nothing in my experience ha. I think it's to easy to believe the other person is being honest and up front. Then it hurts a bit when they turn out to be nothing they claimed to be. Best pick someone else

 

[Mr_bogey]

Fuck skittles

I'd rather not but I appreciate the sentiment and I will always support Grant

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Nothing in my experience ha. I think it's to easy to believe the other person is being honest and up front. Then it hurts a bit when they turn out to be nothing they claimed to be. Best pick someone else

Sorry to hear that. That can be hard to accept and deal with. I myself am very, very, very skittish, so I would be a terrible partner for anyone, here or IRL. I expect to die alone, TBH. But I am just curious if this works for anyone, and if they stay here, or if they leave the platform and live a life. Or if it's all just kind of performative.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

Sorry to hear that. That can be hard to accept and deal with. I myself am very, very, very skittish, so I would be a terrible partner for anyone, here or IRL. I expect to die alone, TBH. But I am just curious if this works for anyone, and if they stay here, or if they leave the platform and live a life. Or if it's all just kind of performative.

There's someone for everyone. I truly believe that.

 

[summer_reine]

I feel like this place is where people go to express an aspect of themselves. If you go into a conversation with that understanding you are less likely to be disappointed. But then I'm new here so wtf do I know.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

There's someone for everyone. I truly believe that.

I am glad that you do. I do not. But keep believing that, because I think it's helpful, because you seem like a nice person.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I feel like this place is where people go to express an aspect of themselves. If you go into a conversation with that understanding you are less likely to be disappointed. But then I'm new here so wtf do I know.

I've been here 20 years. It's definitely an experience. Apparently after 20 years I still don't completely understand it.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

I am glad that you do. I do not. But keep believing that, because I think it's helpful, because you seem like a nice person.

Thanks, I think.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Thanks, I think.

It's a sincere comment. You have been nothing but kind to me.

I am simply sure that, for me, none of that will happen. It's not in my life map, and I am starting to be OK with that.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

It's a sincere comment. You have been nothing but kind to me.

I try to be kind, thank you.

I am simply sure that, for me, none of that will happen. It's not in my life map, and I am starting to be OK with that.

Well, I respect that but I hope you are surprised one day.

 

[ydahecnot]

I wonder if there’s anything interesting happening on the Politics board tonight

 

[MiaBabe23]

Sorry to hear that. That can be hard to accept and deal with. I myself am very, very, very skittish, so I would be a terrible partner for anyone, here or IRL. I expect to die alone, TBH. But I am just curious if this works for anyone, and if they stay here, or if they leave the platform and live a life. Or if it's all just kind of performative.

I know you’ve mentioned you’ve had a difficult experience on here, which really sucks
Bit wary of offering my view partway through the conversation, and I think you’re in a bit of an acerbic mindset atm - no criticism for that - but will risk it ha
But is it all just performative?
No
There are clearly people here who have plenty of fun together, clearly plenty of genuine friendships, and clearly people who are more than that and genuinely committed to each other in some way
I’m sure it’s not performative because they are genuine, and I myself have very genuine feelings for someone - it’s absolutely not performative

 

[summer_reine]

Have you ever searched high and low for something and eventually given up so you just move on and lived life without it. Then one day it appears hidden under a pile of clothes you never wear but decided to try out today. Just me?

 

[lilmissdarling]

I think that ominous positivity should be used more often.

Have a great day...or else.

 

[summer_reine]

I think that ominous positivity should be used more often.

Have a great day...or else.

I absolutely love ominous positivity! It tickles my little goth heart to no end

You have no option but to have a good day

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

I know you’ve mentioned you’ve had a difficult experience on here, which really sucks
Bit wary of offering my view partway through the conversation, and I think you’re in a bit of an acerbic mindset atm - no criticism for that - but will risk it ha
But is it all just performative?
No
There are clearly people here who have plenty of fun together, clearly plenty of genuine friendships, and clearly people who are more than that and genuinely committed to each other in some way
I’m sure it’s not performative because they are genuine, and I myself have very genuine feelings for someone - it’s absolutely not performative

I think you are one of the exceptions.

 

[MiaBabe23]

I think you are one of the exceptions.

Dare I ask to what?

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I know you’ve mentioned you’ve had a difficult experience on here, which really sucks
Bit wary of offering my view partway through the conversation, and I think you’re in a bit of an acerbic mindset atm - no criticism for that - but will risk it ha
But is it all just performative?
No
There are clearly people here who have plenty of fun together, clearly plenty of genuine friendships, and clearly people who are more than that and genuinely committed to each other in some way
I’m sure it’s not performative because they are genuine, and I myself have very genuine feelings for someone - it’s absolutely not performative

Oh I am not entirely negative about things. I often feel an outsider here. I am just curious how things work for other people. I do feel I've sometimes expressed myself here in ways that I haven't been able to do otherwise. Not just sexually. I think, in the end, that is what I get out of it, whatever else happens. I've been able to tell some of my darkest secrets here. That in itself is freeing. I am just curious how other people experience it. I am watching from a window looking in. Not trying to be acerbic or negative this time, actually.

 

[ericalauren]

Cats are great! I wish that their lifespan were longer.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

Dare I ask to what?

Having genuine feelings. It's too easy to use and discard people on here. As it's online I think there is less though of the hurt that you can cause with lies and deceit. People will do things they wouldn't in real life, in a negative way.

 

[summer_reine]

Cats are great! I wish that their lifespan were longer.

Mine was with me for 20 years, she would have stayed longer but she was in so much pain I made a decision for her. Brutally hard day, that was 3 years ago this Christmas. Pets are people too.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

Mine was with me for 20 years, she would have stayed longer but she was in so much pain I made a decision for her. Brutally hard day, that was 3 years ago this Christmas. Pets are people too.

 

[summer_reine]

On that note... We are to cats ( and dogs, and horses and gerbils and well pretty much every pet except parrots and turtles) as elves are to us. Elves live through generations of us as we do with pets. Kinda cool idea, sad, but like... We are elves

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Having genuine feelings. It's too easy to use and discard people on here. As it's online I think there is less though of the hurt that you can cause with lies and deceit. People will do things they wouldn't in real life, in a negative way.

People often discard people online, whether here or in other mediums. I am sorry you've had that experience. I have had similar. I've ripped my heart from my chest and offered it to a person at one point, only to be discarded. I am glad that I have finally been able to work through and start to get over that, but I don't think I will trust anyone here again as a result. But that is me. I am not going to stop being myself, as strange as I am. I am not going to stop saying things that are different from most people. I am not going to stop sharing things that maybe seem weird to people. I am going to try to be more compassionate and a kinder person. And that is the best I can do.

 

[MiaBabe23]

Having genuine feelings. It's too easy to use and discard people on here. As it's online I think there is less though of the hurt that you can cause with lies and deceit. People will do things they wouldn't in real life, in a negative way.

I know I’m not the exception. A lotta genuine friendships, and plenty who are more than that
Yes, probably is easier to use and discard; but I think it’s a minority of people who do that - and it’s obvious that’s what they’re about from the first comment
People also do things they wouldn’t do irl in a positive way