What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[Deleted member 6808749]

People often discard people online, whether here or in other mediums. I am sorry you've had that experience. I have had similar. I've ripped my heart from my chest and offered it to a person at one point, only to be discarded. I am glad that I have finally been able to work through and start to get over that, but I don't think I will trust anyone here again as a result. But that is me. I am not going to stop being myself, as strange as I am. I am not going to stop saying things that are different from most people. I am not going to stop sharing things that maybe seem weird to people. I am going to try to be more compassionate and a kinder person. And that is the best I can do.

I wasn't trying to have a go at you. Sorry if it came over that way.

 

[Truegent_ZA]

On that note... We are to cats ( and dogs, and horses and gerbils and well pretty much every pet except parrots and turtles) as elves are to us. Elves live through generations of us as we do with pets. Kinda cool idea, sad, but like... We are elves

I don't think I could pull off the pointy ears look

 

[MiaBabe23]

Cats are great! I wish that their lifespan were longer.

Cats are evil, but also so entertaining

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

I know I’m not the exception. A lotta genuine friendships, and plenty who are more than that
Yes, probably is easier to use and discard; but I think it’s a minority of people who do that
People also do things they wouldn’t do irl in a positive way

I'm happy for you but will respectfully have to agree to disagree.

 

[summer_reine]

*Realizes she has derailed the thread and runs back to the corner*

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I wasn't trying to have a go at you. Sorry if it came over that way.

No, I didn't think you were and it didn't come off that way. I was responding to you and Mia because I am lazy about my replies, so I thought I'd explain it all at once. I just watch things from afar and wonder.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

*Realizes she has derailed the thread and runs back to the corner*

Come back! How's your car?

 

[MiaBabe23]

People often discard people online, whether here or in other mediums. I am sorry you've had that experience. I have had similar. I've ripped my heart from my chest and offered it to a person at one point, only to be discarded. I am glad that I have finally been able to work through and start to get over that, but I don't think I will trust anyone here again as a result. But that is me. I am not going to stop being myself, as strange as I am. I am not going to stop saying things that are different from most people. I am not going to stop sharing things that maybe seem weird to people. I am going to try to be more compassionate and a kinder person. And that is the best I can do.

I’m gonna risk a whole heap of flak because it’s not my place to say it - but neither of you have been ‘discarded’
I know from what you’ve said, Desiree, and from what I saw and heard, Scot, that you were both very much cared about by the people inspiring these comments. And probably still are in some form that I couldn’t speculate on
I don’t say that to suggest unfair things haven’t happened, or to minimize the hurt
But above stands

 

[summer_reine]

Come back! How's your car?

Scary fast. I'm definitely going to get pulled over for the first time soon.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I’m gonna risk a whole heap of flak because it’s not my place to say it - but neither of you have been ‘discarded’
I know from what you’ve said, Desiree, and from what I saw and heard, Scot, that you were both very much cared about by the people inspiring these comments. And probably still are in whatever way

I don't know about anyone else's experience, so I don't try to override their feelings. Like, I don't want to be mean--but what you said feels very, very invalidating.

 

[Truegent_ZA]

Scary fast. I'm definitely going to get pulled over for the first time soon.

Ooo wait ..fast and scary...what car is this

 

[MiaBabe23]

*Realizes she has derailed the thread and runs back to the corner*

Or enhanced it?
Ominous optimism? Luminous pessimism?

 

[barefootgirl69]

*Realizes she has derailed the thread and runs back to the corner*

It's a thread for everyone, no need to run off!

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

A person is allowed to feel a certain way, and there are abusive or not-nice people out there. It doesn't mean that everyone is abusive or not-nice, but you can't white wash or invalidate someone's lived experience because your own doesn't match that. I am glad you've had a good, healthy experience here. That is great. But the thing about life is that it is good but it's also bad and it's everything in between and sometimes we have to deal with negative things. And that is OK. I feel this is a good thread for venting or just talking things through. We all have grumpier moments or moments where we question things. That is OK too.

It's also a thread for anyone to post anything, including stuff about cats!

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

I’m gonna risk a whole heap of flak because it’s not my place to say it - but neither of you have been ‘discarded’
I know from what you’ve said, Desiree, and from what I saw and heard, Scot, that you were both very much cared about by the people inspiring these comments. And probably still are in some form that I couldn’t speculate on
I don’t say that to suggest unfair things haven’t happened, or to minimize the hurt
But above stands

Totally disagree on my part. Don't want to fall out over it but someone who 'cares' would not have done what they did.

 

[barefootgirl69]

It's going to be a horrible night. Still can't turn on the cooler and it's 86 in the house. Bleh...0730 is going to come around way too early and I'll be crabby without sleep!

 

[summer_reine]

Ooo wait ..fast and scary...what car is this

A Mazda 3 GT... Seriously underrated car. Love that it looks like a normal sedan but damn... 0-100kph in about 400 meters

 

[MiaBabe23]

I don't know about anyone else's experience, so I don't try to override their feelings. Like, I don't want to be mean--but what you said feels very, very invalidating.

I know we’ve only chatted here and there, but I hope you get me well enough to know that I think deeply about what I’m saying
The essence of what I said was that you were cared about
I’m sorry if that hit wrong

 

[summer_reine]

It's going to be a horrible night. Still can't turn on the cooler and it's 86 in the house. Bleh...0730 is going to come around way too early and I'll be crabby without sleep!

Ooof that's miserable I find a wet facecloth on my neck helps a little when it's too hot

 

[MiaBabe23]

Totally disagree on my part. Don't want to fall out over it but someone who 'cares' would not have done what they did.

We won’t fall out, no. I know we disagree about that. Not trying to make things feel worse

 

[Truegent_ZA]

A Mazda 3 GT... Seriously underrated car. Love that it looks like a normal sedan but damn... 0-100kph in about 400 meters

Okay...hmmmm okay...*quick Google search later* it does look like a normal unassuming car ... So you prefer a sleeper you say.

 

[Deleted member 6808749]

It's going to be a horrible night. Still can't turn on the cooler and it's 86 in the house. Bleh...0730 is going to come around way too early and I'll be crabby without sleep!

I could lend you my cold dead heart

 

[barefootgirl69]

I think what @MiaBabe23 was saying (and correct me if I'm wrong) was that there were some good times and good memories shared, before there wasn't.

Think on them and be glad you have them. It wasn't ALWAYS bad and it wasn't ALWAYS a lie, etc.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I know we’ve only chatted here and there, but I hope you get me well enough to know that I think deeply about what I’m saying
The essence of what I said was that you were cared about
I’m sorry if that hit wrong

I mean, unless you were there and were a part of what transpired and lived it, I don't see how you can say that without trampling over how I feel as someone who did. As you say, we've only chatted here or there. I appreciate the sentiment, but I am not keen on this point.

I think, at one point, the one person I took more than an interest in did care for me on some level. I know a little more about this person than you might, though, and have had two years to think about what transpired and start to get over it. I am glad I am finally able to start moving on with my life and slowly (slowly) building up a small bit of self-confidence. Please, let me have that for myself.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I think what @MiaBabe23 was saying (and correct me if I'm wrong) was that there were some good times and good memories shared, before there wasn't.

Think on them and be glad you have them. It wasn't ALWAYS bad and it wasn't ALWAYS a lie, etc.

I don't think anyone was saying it was/is always bad, though. Toxic positivity is a thing, though.