What do women fantasize about?

[AlwaysInTrouble]

For me I enjoy thinking about group sex sessions, fun swinging sessions, public places, getting pregnant, playing in areas and at times when you shouldn't be, toys.

".......These are a few of my favorite things...."

 

[Crownvic]

The tension is EVERYTHING.
A woman who knows how to use it has me.

Makes it so hot and arousing.....awesome

 

[UtilityCurve]

".......These are a few of my favorite things...."

My GF shorthands my desires as "boobs and babies."

I'd have to uncross the "getting pregnant" part.

Of course, it's a rat's neat of complexity. But when I'm inside a woman's pussy, the details blur and the hardwiring takes over: In that moment, her body, her fertility, belongs to me and I want to alter it radically.

 

[Marcie48]

It's different

I think a majority of women are wired different from guys.

After 20 years being married to my wife, I can acknowledge that she doesn't have specific fantasies or things she wants to try that we haven't. We're outgoing, we have a fun sex life, we're not anything out of the ordinary and where I have fantasies, she simply doesn't.

We're American and our culture demands so much from women who are wives, mothers, career women, and so on, that perhaps sex doesn't have the same appeal or focused compared to just having time for herself.

My wife would pick, if she could, a quiet evening where everyone had a good day, our kids are minding themselves and are trending toward sleep, and she, my wife, is able to spend time on her own without demands from others. That includes an orgasm which isn't as important in this stage of life as peace and the ability to pick what she gets to do the next hour.

Guys have the time and the sexuality to come up with all kinds of fun and fantasies to think about. I think the demands on women and some basic wiring just mean a smaller percentage of them really have fantasies the way we think of fantasies.

Are you really a guy? The reason I ask is because you seem to totally understand what most of us are going through.
Having a career, and also being a wife, mother, sister, friend takes up enough of our time that when we are not living the rigors of our hectic lives we would rather just curl up with a good book.
I don't pretend to speak for all women but for myself I'd rather just read a good romance story with a little steamy sex mixed in. It doesn't mean I want to be in any particular sexual situation myself but reading can allow me to escape to that fantasy world.
My husband often asks me about my fantasies and so just to please him I might tell him some details of past experiences or make up some hot stories to get him worked up.
He loves "pillow talk" and I've gotten pretty good at letting him think he is married to a women who has a much sexual prowess than I really have.
I'm sure that sounds dishonest to some, but it keeps our relationship exciting, and open just in case I ever decide to be the "Hotwife" he wants so bad and thinks I might be.
I do welcome your comments and thoughts.
mm

 

[ukcouple4play]

This is a question that has always intrigued/confused me, too. My wife says she doesn't particularly fantasise, she will get involved with and maybe get off on mine when I share them, but for her she doesn't have this near constant inner monologue of imagining horny sexual scenarios that I do. When she masturbates (and she does), she says all she's thinking about is how good it feels. I say confused because it's hard to put yourself in that mindset when the whole of your sexual experience has been dominated by filthy thoughts, imaginings, images and words. Is it down to wiring? Is my fantasy-addled brain a function of testosterone? In a way I'd love to experience sex the way she does, that whole thing about getting out my head and into my body, that sounds very appealing. I think it's also easier to be satisfied that way - my wife is very orgasmic and cums easily from penetration, a couple of minutes of kissing and touching and she just wants me inside her, a couple more minutes and she cums. That's enough for her. Whereas I am constantly chasing new scenarios, new ideas, new kicks. It's tiring!

 

[DennisB]

I have asked the Mrs about this many times and each time I ask, I get a different answer, lol. Women are complex, not to themselves but to men. Or men just are not that smart? Lol. I think a woman fantasizes and think about sex in their minds. Men fantasize and think about sex in their bodies. Now there are exceptions to every rule but if a concept can be grabbed mentally by a woman and it just clicks in her head, it is erotic. The same idea might not click the next time. Some ideas turn on and turn off as time goes by. My wife has told me of faceless men that she may fantasize about during masturbating or even being with me. Characters that she has read about in steamy novels sometimes fill her mind. So the direct answer to the question is varied and wide spread. From feathers to lighting to caresses to pounding. Anything and everything.

 

[fma20fma]

i sometimes fantazise about a rough barebak anal with a blk guy and very large penis.

 

[haventdonethat]

Of course, women's fantasies can be just as varied, sensual and sexual as any male.

A few memorable fantasies that various women have shared with me over the years . . .

Some have moved on from fantasy land to reality.

A group of faceless men masturbating over her as she lies on soft grass, covering her in cum. This progresses to her bathing in an old fashioned bath tub filled with hot semen.

A threesome with my wife and me. When asked what would take place during this fantasy, she just said “I’ve always been fascinated with her breasts”.

A gangbang by a dozen men or so on the tailgate of my truck in a dim corner of the parking lot at a bar we used to frequent.

Oral sex with half of a lesbian couple we met while on vacation. She would be the one doing the licking.

Being tied spread eagle on our bed, me teasing her with a vibrator as I talked on the phone with a close male friend.

Being spit roasted by me and a nameless male.

Watching me and our good friend sucking each other’s cocks while she watches and encourages us.

 

[BongoGal]

We men make no secret about what we fantasize about...

I think men tend to be secretive about their masturbatory fantasies. In fact, I have never once had a guy tell me that he fantasized about forcing sex on an unwilling woman.

 

[Driven2b]

Of course we do. How else would we orgasm? I fantasize about being used by three nice cocks. About having a passionate long term partner where the passion doesn’t die. About taking load after load of fertile cum inside me and being bred and having milk filled tits sucked while I’m pumped full of more cum. The list goes on and on.

Fucking hell, that’s beautiful and beautiful concise.

 

[ComatoastTX]

If a woman says "nothing" it means, "something I don't want to tell you."

My wife will always tell me that she doesn't have any fantasies or that she never fantasizes. I truly believe that she does have fantasies but just ones that she "doesn't want to tell me" for whatever reason. We have engaged in some pillow talk and a little roleplaying and she did get into it pretty good, although those times we had both been drinking and maybe our inhibitions were lowered. I do think that she knows whatever she would admit to me as far as fantasies go, I would be totally ok with and wouldn't think any less of her. But I'm afraid that she might think that I would want to "make it happen" for her and I think she'd rather keep them as just fantasies. I know that she secretly watches double penetration porn and perhaps that is a fantasy of hers that she doesn't want to share with me.

I just wish that she felt as though she could fully open up with me. I have shared a great many fantasies of mine with her. Some to which didn't go over well as indicated by her reactions. But, I also want to feel that I can be open with her too.

We are older now and don't have the bodies that we used to but we used to have a great sex life and I'd like for it to get back to that.

 

[IslandKate91]

My wife will always tell me that she doesn't have any fantasies or that she never fantasizes. I truly believe that she does have fantasies but just ones that she "doesn't want to tell me" for whatever reason. We have engaged in some pillow talk and a little roleplaying and she did get into it pretty good, although those times we had both been drinking and maybe our inhibitions were lowered. I do think that she knows whatever she would admit to me as far as fantasies go, I would be totally ok with and wouldn't think any less of her. But I'm afraid that she might think that I would want to "make it happen" for her and I think she'd rather keep them as just fantasies. I know that she secretly watches double penetration porn and perhaps that is a fantasy of hers that she doesn't want to share with me.

I just wish that she felt as though she could fully open up with me. I have shared a great many fantasies of mine with her. Some to which didn't go over well as indicated by her reactions. But, I also want to feel that I can be open with her too.

We are older now and don't have the bodies that we used to but we used to have a great sex life and I'd like for it to get back to that.

Has your wife mentioned anything sexual that she thinks about? You say that you two have had some pillow talk, has she initiated any of that or was it you that did all the talking? She may be ashamed to tell you some of her inner most thoughts. Unsure of how you would react or feel about her afterwards.

I get the wanting to be completely open with each other and that is a nice goal to have. And while you said that you have shared a "great many" of your fantasies with her, it sounds to me like there are some that you too are afraid to share with her. Likely for the same reasons.

You also say that you "know she secretly watches double penetration porn". How do you know this? If true, it does seem like something that interests her. Maybe she is afraid of how you would react to her fantasizing about another man (or 2).

 

[Erosfan]

This is a question that has always intrigued/confused me, too. My wife says she doesn't particularly fantasise, she will get involved with and maybe get off on mine when I share them, but for her she doesn't have this near constant inner monologue of imagining horny sexual scenarios that I do. When she masturbates (and she does), she says all she's thinking about is how good it feels. I say confused because it's hard to put yourself in that mindset when the whole of your sexual experience has been dominated by filthy thoughts, imaginings, images and words. Is it down to wiring? Is my fantasy-addled brain a function of testosterone? In a way I'd love to experience sex the way she does, that whole thing about getting out my head and into my body, that sounds very appealing. I think it's also easier to be satisfied that way - my wife is very orgasmic and cums easily from penetration, a couple of minutes of kissing and touching and she just wants me inside her, a couple more minutes and she cums. That's enough for her. Whereas I am constantly chasing new scenarios, new ideas, new kicks. It's tiring!

Your wife sounds like my late wife. She claimed she did not have any fantasies. She wanted to know all of my fantasies and she did her best to make many of them become reality. Because of our openness with each other, the ones she did make happen were better than my fantasies. She was very orgasmic and could cum easily. She was multi orgasmic as well. She loved sex and we had some incredible experiences. I have posted stories on Lit that are related to our discussions of my fantasies. Two of my stories are completely true and did happen exactly as described. The others are a mixture of fantasy and reality. She read every one of my stories before I posted them. She would say, "I can see us doing that" or "we would get in so much trouble if we tried that."
She was amazing and I have some wonderful memories.

 

[IslandKate91]

Lately, one of my biggest fantasies is to be seduced by a much younger man, college aged. He has an older woman, I guess MILF fantasy, and I find him coming on to me. I enjoy his flirtatious nature and the attention that he is giving me. I find it flattering to the point that it makes me excited. I flirt back with him, knowing fully well that my husband wouldn't approve. We find ourselves alone and I let myself give in to my desires. We have hot sex, multiple times and I let him fill me. I never let my husband know and I keep this hot encounter all to myself.

 

[oneblueye]

whips, chains and rusty chipped razor blades...
and an inexhaustible supply of men bound and unmmovable.

 

[hulmule]

I'm the same.no images, it's times like this I'm reminded how unfair it is!
I may not be able to visualise my fantasies but I think about sex a lot,the feelings,the situation,the whole how can I get him to fuck me like I want type thing. I like my partners to talk during sex, filthier the better because then I can think back on it when Im horny.most of my fantasies at the moment are about people I know,always wondering what their kinks are,what they'd do to me. how far they could get me to go. I wonder when I'm stood next to them, if they can tell I'm thinking about them pushing me to my knees or slapping their dick in my face,kinda thing when I'm actually hands on, it's good to have pics or videos to help me get there.

You sound a great date Love talking during sex...Wife always hated it.. She would say stop it...

 

[Jasmine12345]

I fantasize more about situations than specific sex acts.

Not necessarily always fantasizing about sex, but more about everything leading up to it. The flirting, the subtle and not so subtle cues, the sexual tension and the resulting tingle in my panties.

yes

 

[NorthernVAM]

I fantasize about flirting, teasing, doing new things, exploring, and kink. But even in my darkest fantasies, actually especially in those, my fantasies always include a powerful connection

So .. I think if I were to summarize what I've read on this thread about what women fantasize about, it isn't so much the "sex act" itself, but it's about the "situation" or the "seduction" leading up to the sex act.

As as man, I would say that this is consistent with my own experience with women, in that if you really want to turn a woman on, then you have to invest time and effort into seducing her. In some ways, this is amusing to me, since creating a "situation" really does involve having an imagination, and being uniquely creative in your approach so that you will "stand out" from the crowd in some form or another. Particularly in this medium, where if you want attention from a woman on these boards, you really do have to stand out from the rest of the crowd ....

And yet .. so many guys here are just not that creative ... that's the amusing part of it all.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife says her fantasies involve times with me and her other lovers that were especially sexually exciting with lots of romancing, foreplay, maybe or maybe not ending in having passionate sex. I asked about big cocks, and she smiled and said, "Maybe."

 

[Eos_reborn]

i usually fantasize about my crushes and imagining being seduced or seducing them. I also think about some really memorable sexual moments - that is always a turn on for me.

 

[jason28053]

i usually fantasize about my crushes and imagining being seduced or seducing them. I also think about some really memorable sexual moments - that is always a turn on for me.

Real life crushes or online?

 

[Eos_reborn]

Real life crushes or online?

mostly real life ones

 

[Jasmine12345]

..it's about the "situation" or the "seduction" leading up to the sex act. ....

That's foreplay for getting heated up.

.. .. creating a "situation" really does involve having an imagination,

You don't necessarily have to fabricate a situation. It can be an existing reality right here such as our common ground of being on a sex site. So many erotic topics for interacting with members, for flirting, teasing or seducing.

 

[NorthernVAM]

That's foreplay for getting heated up.

You don't necessarily have to fabricate a situation. It can be an existing reality right here such as our common ground of being on a sex site. So many erotic topics for interacting with members, for flirting, teasing or seducing.

I absolutely agree ... one of my favorite fantasies I have has to do with having verbal foreplay on this site, and then meeting them in real life and acting out all the fantasies we discussed on line in real life ...

I still think a good imagination helps ... as well as knowing how to write helps.

 

[twister947]

Competence.

Yeah. That would be a nice surprise.