AngelicAssassin
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What I have learned at Lit/BDSM
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A Desert Rose
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James G 5 said:Drat, they're on to me
How did you figure this out?
And which one told you about all these people who live in my head?
Luna_Wolf72
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I have discovered something new. One always finds people with like minds in the most unusual places. If it weren't for Lit, sometimes i would be convinced that i am the only multi-ethnic chick with issues in the entire world.
(Just felt i had to put that in here today)
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(Just felt i had to put that in here today)
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A Desert Rose
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Oh, pick me! Please, please, pick me!!
Lesson #8 There are cliques at Lit. Some can deny it all they want to but they are here and will always be here. Anytime a group of people assemble... even online... they tend to look for, approach and befriend those of like-mind. It's human nature, conscious or not.
Some people have a strong desire to belong to one clique or another. Some people don't want to belong anywhere. And there are psychological reasons for all these human dynamics.
Clique has become a word with some unpleasant connotations. It's been well earned in many cases, by the negative behavior of some clique members. "Piling-on" type of attacks and exclusivity in it's membership are two of the behaviors that have given it a bad name.
Personally, I don't see the cliquishness at the bdsm forum that I have seen at others. I think that is a reflection of the over-all open-mindedness of most who post here.
Lesson #8 There are cliques at Lit. Some can deny it all they want to but they are here and will always be here. Anytime a group of people assemble... even online... they tend to look for, approach and befriend those of like-mind. It's human nature, conscious or not.
Some people have a strong desire to belong to one clique or another. Some people don't want to belong anywhere. And there are psychological reasons for all these human dynamics.
Clique has become a word with some unpleasant connotations. It's been well earned in many cases, by the negative behavior of some clique members. "Piling-on" type of attacks and exclusivity in it's membership are two of the behaviors that have given it a bad name.
Personally, I don't see the cliquishness at the bdsm forum that I have seen at others. I think that is a reflection of the over-all open-mindedness of most who post here.
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Bachlum Chaam
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Cliques
Hmmmm wondering if I will ever find a clique
must be nobody wants me 
Hmmmm wondering if I will ever find a clique
must be nobody wants me A Desert Rose
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Re: Cliques
I know you are speaking tongue-in-cheek but I want to address this, anyway.
For me, there is a great deal of freedom in not "belonging." Cliques, by nature, are restrictive. I like having a huge circle of friends, with a great deal of variety in their thinking. I'm selfish that way... it broadens my horizons to have a variety of friends.
Bachlum Chaam said:Hmmmm wondering if I will ever find a clique
I know you are speaking tongue-in-cheek but I want to address this, anyway.
For me, there is a great deal of freedom in not "belonging." Cliques, by nature, are restrictive. I like having a huge circle of friends, with a great deal of variety in their thinking. I'm selfish that way... it broadens my horizons to have a variety of friends.
Bachlum Chaam
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My ladies Des and Rose you are right Des, also I'm too old to worry or care I have the freedom to be whom I wish now anyway
AngelicAssassin
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Uh oh, I've been thinking ... (it'll get you in trouble everytime)
And in an attempt to stay with the music of the thread, i've learned that us "freaks" tend towards a little more balanced emotional state than what i've seen on the rest of this board.
Batter up?Desdemona said:
And in an attempt to stay with the music of the thread, i've learned that us "freaks" tend towards a little more balanced emotional state than what i've seen on the rest of this board.
Desdemona
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Bachlum Chaam said:
While I understand that there are indeed cliques here among us, I also understand that many people see us as one great big clique. So, in a sense, we're all in a clique, whether we care about it or not. BC, I'm also too old to worry or care. LOL
AA, I agree. Most of the time, we do seem to be pretty balanced in comparison.
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Desdemona said:
Ladies are never too old my lady
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First, I have to say, my observation from this morning, was probably a bit off base.
Thank you for pointing that out to me Des and Catalina and anyone else who may have done so.
Second, well, I know there must have been a second point, but can't remember what it was.
Thank you for pointing that out to me Des and Catalina and anyone else who may have done so.
Second, well, I know there must have been a second point, but can't remember what it was.
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Re: Re: Re: Cliques
I keep waiting for the right invitation to come along....
James G 5 said:And hey, if they're the right sort of friends, who knows what else might be "broadened"
I keep waiting for the right invitation to come along....
James G 5
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Cliques
Come to the Bash next year
I am officially inviting you
And I know Deb Addington, I might be able to pull strings to have you be the demo girl foir the Fisting class
Talk about "broadening'....
A Desert Rose said:
Come to the Bash next year
I am officially inviting you
And I know Deb Addington, I might be able to pull strings to have you be the demo girl foir the Fisting class
Talk about "broadening'....
A Desert Rose
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Cliques
I don't know how to tell you this but, fisting scares the bejesus out of me.
What bash? and where?
James G 5 said:Come to the Bash next year
I am officially inviting you
And I know Deb Addington, I might be able to pull strings to have you be the demo girl foir the Fisting class
Talk about "broadening'....
I don't know how to tell you this but, fisting scares the bejesus out of me.
What bash? and where?
AngelicAssassin
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Uh oh, I've been thinking......
What you put together constitutes suicide.
DANGER implies at least some hope of a survivable outcome.James G 5 said:How about me, AA, and Snooze all in a room together?
DANGER in numbers
What you put together constitutes suicide.
James G 5
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Cliques
The Bash is the largest, longest running leather-fest in Florida, one of the best in the southeast, if not the whole country
I help run the show
Info here: www.orlandomunch.com
Deborah Addington was one of the presenters this year & hopefully will be back next
A Desert Rose said:
The Bash is the largest, longest running leather-fest in Florida, one of the best in the southeast, if not the whole country
I help run the show
Info here: www.orlandomunch.com
Deborah Addington was one of the presenters this year & hopefully will be back next
A Desert Rose
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Re: What, me, stir up shit?
Okay, I was wrong. There are passive/aggressive posters at bdsm.
But thankfully, they are few.
A Desert Rose said:
Okay, I was wrong. There are passive/aggressive posters at bdsm.
But thankfully, they are few.
