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weekender43

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I have seen other threads about how people see themselves and how society see them. These are things i struggle wirh myself.

As man you see all these younger men with trim bodies and no body hair to speak of. Fairly large penis and what society has determined to be the what is beauty...circumcised. At 44 i still feel uncomortable when meeting women. I may not have a six pack..i have body hair, chest, arms, leg...ect, and what us the hardest to get over, i am uncircumcised. Always feel like when she sees it for the first time she is disgusted by it.

Am i alone in these feeling. Would both men and women views
 
I wouldn't find an adult male who is uncircumcised with body hair abnormal. Unless there was something else going on with both. It's your body, so do what you want to be happy with it.
 
I wouldn't find an adult male who is uncircumcised with body hair abnormal. Unless there was something else going on with both. It's your body, so do what you want to be happy with it.

Thanks...

So is there a preference for women? Hair or shaved? Circumcised or uncircumcised?
 
Leaving all the physical stuff aside, I'm going to let you into a secret: How attractive you are to others is very heavily influenced by how comfortable you are in your own skin.

Walk down the street hating yourself and thinking about every flaw and fault you have and how you've probably got less right to be alive than a salted slug. Observe how people react to you. Return home.

Now make yourself your favourite nonalcoholic drink, and listen to your favourite music. Do nothing to change your appearance. Think about everything you bring to the world - all the little things people like you for. Make a mental list of everything good or kind about you - not just the physical stuff.

Now take the same walk down the street again, but this time thinking about what your very best friends would say about you - see any difference?
 
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I don't find uncircumcised members that strange. Infact, I have never been with a man who was circumcised. Non religious circumcisions are not very popular in most of the places I have lived in. In fact your post led me to some interesting reading. Apparently it's more common in the US and for the rest of the world, you are pretty much in the mean. Apparently WHO states (and yes, I just read Wiki, that's all. But cmon, it's Lit, I dont need to be more accurate than that), that 1/3 of the male population of the world is circumcised and over 70% of that is for religious reasons.

As for body hair, please... yes!
 
Thanks...

So is there a preference for women? Hair or shaved? Circumcised or uncircumcised?
No particular physical type preferred - whoever I'm currently with seems attractive at the time if their personality is.
 
Thanks...

So is there a preference for women? Hair or shaved? Circumcised or uncircumcised?

Circumcision is not a deal breaker with me. It's like men preferring women who have had undergone female circumcision. How screwed up is that? As far as hair goes, men with hair are more manly. :)
 
No particular physical type preferred - whoever I'm currently with seems attractive at the time if their personality is.

Agreed. Also, from what Penuche said earlier, confidence is key. If you are happy in your own skin, it shows.
 
Circumcision is not a deal breaker with me. It's like men preferring women who have had undergone female circumcision. How screwed up is that? As far as hair goes, men with hair are more manly. :)

Guess it just makes me feel different...like abnormal to society.
 
Agreed. Also, from what Penuche said earlier, confidence is key. If you are happy in your own skin, it shows.

Agreed...had much confidence before. Now that i am single again...struggling with my appearance naked again in front of someone who has not seen me naked
 
I don't find uncircumcised members that strange. Infact, I have never been with a man who was circumcised. Non religious circumcisions are not very popular in most of the places I have lived in. In fact your post led me to some interesting reading. Apparently it's more common in the US and for the rest of the world, you are pretty much in the mean. Apparently WHO states (and yes, I just read Wiki, that's all. But cmon, it's Lit, I dont need to be more accurate than that), that 1/3 of the male population of the world is circumcised and over 70% of that is for religious reasons.

As for body hair, please... yes!

Do agree, this us an American thing which i never understood.
 
I had the occasion to work with a man that got circumcised late in life. It was done due to his girlfriends wishes. It sounded brutal. Makes me wince to think about it even now. Just as you could predict, they broke up not long after he got his foreskin shorn.

And being circumcised is not something i want. I have heard, please correct me if i am wrong, but circumcised penises are less sensitive than uncircumcised. I love how sensitive i am.
 
I had the occasion to work with a man that got circumcised late in life. It was done due to his girlfriends wishes. It sounded brutal. Makes me wince to think about it even now. Just as you could predict, they broke up not long after he got his foreskin shorn.

And your right...i saw how it is done. That should be outlawed for childeren. Talk about abuse.
 
And being circumcised is not something i want. I have heard, please correct me if i am wrong, but circumcised penises are less sensitive than uncircumcised. I love how sensitive i am.

Please please don't do anything you do not want, ever. If you have to change your body for someone, is it worth it? Now it's circumcision, next it would be something else.
I feel like you understand that this issue is something you need to work on and I am sorry if a certain someone has made you feel unattractive.
I do hope you work it out and embrace yourself.
Best.
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Guess it just makes me feel different...like abnormal to society.
Different needn't mean bad. I know a man who's tall, as fat (and I do mean fat) as he's tall, and has very wavy red hair.

Take a look at the photos of him as a teen, viewed through the lens of what advertising thinks a "normal" man ought to look like and you'd think he was never ever going to get laid.

Did I mention he also has a wicked sense of humour, is kind, fiercely loyal, interesting, quickwitted etc? He married young and his first wife is still very happy with him (they're grandparents now).

BTW he's also a male model who was recruited by an agency which specialises in people who may be attractive but don't have almost bland so-called classical good looks.
 
Please please don't do anything you do not want, ever. If you have to change your body for someone, is it worth it? Now it's circumcision, next it would be something else.
I feel like you understand that this issue is something you need to work on and I am sorry if a certain someone has made you feel unattractive.
I do hope you work it out and embrace yourself.
Best.
:rose:

Thanks. You are right it is something i need to work out. I thank you for your honesty.

I am better with my appearance than a year ago. Thanks to lit. Just need to work these things out.
 
Different needn't mean bad. I know a man who's tall, as fat (and I do mean fat) as he's tall, and has very wavy red hair.

Take a look at the photos of him as a teen, viewed through the lens of what advertising thinks a "normal" man ought to look like and you'd think he was never ever going to get laid.

Did I mention he also has a wicked sense of humour, is kind, fiercely loyal, interesting, quickwitted etc? He married young and his first wife is still very happy with him (they're grandparents now).

BTW he's also a male model who was recruited by an agency which specialises in people who may be attractive but don't have almost bland so-called classical good looks.

Wow very interesting. Good things happen to good people. I try to be as good a person as i can. I am non judgemental and guess expect that from others.
 
Let me pose this question. Why do women shave completely? Would it be something that the first time a man will see you nake you would wonder what his thoughts were about it?
 
Where are you seeing so many circumcised young men? I have watched a LOT of cams & it's pretty common to see uncut men in the under 30 crowd.
 
Its a cultural thing, here in the UK, unless you are Jewish or Muslim it's very uncommon for men to be circumcised, so just take Sherlock, Dr. Who or even Wallace as your style guru and away you go.
 
Where are you seeing so many circumcised young men? I have watched a LOT of cams & it's pretty common to see uncut men in the under 30 crowd.

Have not seen very many cams atleast not couple cams. Are these cams you seen in America. Guess in my age group i remember circumcision was common. Must admit, i have been out of the loop so to speak for a number of years.
 
Its a cultural thing, here in the UK, unless you are Jewish or Muslim it's very uncommon for men to be circumcised, so just take Sherlock, Dr. Who or even Wallace as your style guru and away you go.

Very true. It is a cultral thing. But are American women in my age group accepting of this?
 
Let me pose this question. Why do women shave completely? Would it be something that the first time a man will see you nake you would wonder what his thoughts were about it?

Hmm, again, if you see the picture threads, it's very much a personal choice. A lot of women do, a lot don't.
 
Hmm, again, if you see the picture threads, it's very much a personal choice. A lot of women do, a lot don't.

But do they because that is what they see as the norm? Or did they start because they saw that as the norm?
 
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