What makes a good sub

[Ebonyfire]

Re: I hope

I hope he is reading these posts and disciplines you! *weg*
Seriously, this is what I am talking about folks. A sub with a personality . . . whether it being bratty, sweetness or whatever is important to the intelligence and/or the senses of both people involved.

Hmm, when I think of brattiness, I think of it as behaviour and not necessarily a personality trait. I like my subs with plenty of personality, in fact that is one of the things I like about proud, he has a wonderful personality. I tend to think it has to do with his makeup as a man first, and a slave second.

Since he reads my posts, perhaps he will post his thoughts on the matter. He is not compelled to do so.

Eb <preparing to ride the stallion>

 

[~Dream~]

First of all..

I agree 100% with the following Quotes from 1st Miss T:

1."Don't try to change your basic personality to fit anyone; it simply will not work. Find someone who suits you, who complements you, whose values match yours. Then you will feel accepted and safe enough to allow your desire for submission to express itself."**(A good sub is one who can complement or "enhance" her Master's life)

2".A sad misconception is that a submissive becomes whomever and whatever her Master wishes. In fact, if the Dom/me is truly invested in the relationship, His/Her wish is only for the sub to be herself and be the best she can be in all things"**Being submissive does not mean a loss of individuality or self. By being involved with the right Dom/me, both become more complete....as two halves make a whole. (yesss!!)
.( A good Sub can be his/her unique self without fear) actually knowing they have something beneficial (of value) to offer to the relationship..

and these 2 from Merelan:
1."Is not afraid to speak out with the truth, whether painful or not."(It is ALWAYS best to be Honest in any relationhip as the Truth WILL come out ,regardless and honesty builds TRUST..)
2."If you are attracted to a rose, why do you try to shape it into a lily? For a rose, no matter how pruned will only be a poor sample of a lily". ( to me, it would be "frustrating as hell" to be shaped into something I am Not.. however I feel a "good sub' will be "watered "like the rose,given "sunlight'aka knowledge and guidance from the Dom and take it with a loving attitude which makes the service a greater pleasure for BOTH)

***Perhaps the greatest challenge for a Master is to determine how a given slave(sub) can best serve Him, and to reconsider the matter again and again as the slave grows, learns, and develops. ****

Foundation=***Communication is the crux of any healthy relationship....BDSM or Not!!!** well said Miss T!!
~

 

[GentleDom]

Different strokes for different folks is what makes the world go round. That sounds appropriate in this forum doesn't it.

This is a tough question but the answer for me is that I need to feel some type of connection to that person. I suppose this is regardless of whether they are even into BDSM. There is always some spark that ignites things for me. It could be as simple as a look or a word. That spark then has the potential to become a flame as I get to knwo the person better. There is no special formula for this to happen for me.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Different strokes for different folks is what makes the world go round. That sounds appropriate in this forum doesn't it.

This is a tough question but the answer for me is that I need to feel some type of connection to that person. I suppose this is regardless of whether they are even into BDSM. There is always some spark that ignites things for me. It could be as simple as a look or a word. That spark then has the potential to become a flame as I get to knwo the person better. There is no special formula for this to happen for me.

Yep. I think that is a wonderful way to look at things.
Welcome to the forum, GentleDom.

Ebony

 

[artful]

I speak

Thank you, Monster. I agree completely with your statement, and this is precisely the point I have tried to make regarding the term *doormat*.

People are different. Because one type doesn't suit you, doesn't mean that this type has no value or worth, it simply means she doesn't suit you.

One man's junk is another man's treasure.
One woman's doormat is another woman's pleasure.
One man's bad sub is another man's joy.
One woman's brat is another woman's toy.

*sheesh that was pretty bad, huh...lol*

Don't try to change your basic personality to fit anyone; it simply will not work. Find someone who suits you, who complements you, whose values match yours. Then you will feel accepted and safe enough to allow your desire for submission to express itself.

What she said. ^

 

[Richard49]

Was I dreaming?

I know that .... while... my age may be getting the best of me along with the stress .....

But I could have sworn that when I was here earlier today I read a thing that said a slave is......

Now I can not find it

 

[lost]

If it was on this thread then it might have been dream's sig, she had something up earlier today that was something like that.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Another thought provoking discussion from times passed, but which some might wish to add their thoughts to.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

A good submissive is willing.

Willing to give her/his greatest gifts, her/his mind, body and soul into the keeping of a dominant who will cherish her/him for the treasure they are.

 

[VanessaCarolyn]

This is excellent!! Exactly what I was looking for!

 

[raven2]

A good submissive is willing.

Willing to give her/his greatest gifts, her/his mind, body and soul into the keeping of a dominant who will cherish her/him for the treasure they are.

How very true