What makes sissies tick?

[SweetAnnie40]

First the absolute inner need is Her, sissy's feeling for Her is so deep as to fulfill Her wishes.
Second is sissy's inner need to serve and service others to the upmost in order the meet Her needs.
Third and last is the gratification and inner feeling of peacefulness that sissy obtains when meeting one and two above.

Yes She allows sissy to dress as a woman and yes She request that sissy services men as a woman. She also knows the inner feelings that sissy obtains from meeting Her goals and utilizes this. Yet She also knows the desires of sissy and forbids sissy from fulfilling the ultimate desire of becoming a woman.

Would this be some of the knowledge you seek? Is this what others seek?

Thanks, Salina, for adding to the explanation of Sissy for you. Definitely a wide range out there but I think it is interesting to think of sissy as defined

1) What do you or can you actually do in your life to embrace these "sissy"-like desires? Typically this is wearing panties under guy clothes and the like.

2) What would you do if you could remove the constraints in your life to live the way you want to live? Typically this is more dressing, more often, even more publicly, and interacting sexually with other people.

 

[Iris_66]

First the absolute inner need is Her, sissy's feeling for Her is so deep as to fulfill Her wishes.
Second is sissy's inner need to serve and service others to the upmost in order the meet Her needs.
Third and last is the gratification and inner feeling of peacefulness that sissy obtains when meeting one and two above.

Yes She allows sissy to dress as a woman and yes She request that sissy services men as a woman. She also knows the inner feelings that sissy obtains from meeting Her goals and utilizes this. Yet She also knows the desires of sissy and forbids sissy from fulfilling the ultimate desire of becoming a woman.

Would this be some of the knowledge you seek? Is this what others seek?

Thank you for this Salina, as ever you are eloquent and generous with your experience

It is interesting how you focus on inner feelings, many people would be more simplistic, saying things like _ I like to wear ... or I like to service ..., but while that is a manifestation or an expression, it isn't the core

 

[Iris_66]

Thanks, Salina, for adding to the explanation of Sissy for you. Definitely a wide range out there but I think it is interesting to think of sissy as defined

1) What do you or can you actually do in your life to embrace these "sissy"-like desires? Typically this is wearing panties under guy clothes and the like.

I'm not sure if it is embracing sissy-like desires, or taking comfort from them, or just enjoying them, but for me there are a range, depending on how 'in the know' and 'on board' ones significant other is

I am lucky, as is your hubby, and I think a few others here, but many seem stuck with a non involved, or non approving, or unknowing SO's

Work can also get in the way, limiting how far people can or want to go

For me lingerie, but also pantyhose, full body shaving, walking around in front of SO semi naked, kissing like a woman, no touching of male organs all fit in this category

2) What would you do if you could remove the constraints in your life to live the way you want to live? Typically this is more dressing, more often, even more publicly, and interacting sexually with other people.

I agree, some of our Lit friends seem to have retired, and have blossomed, with the new found freedom.

The move into interacting sexually with other people, but with SO present, seems enticing, partly for the self challenge of putting ones Sissy self out in front of a third (consensual) party, partly for the interaction itself

More dressing for me, not so much, not sure I have the body to carry it off

 

[SweetAnnie40]

More dressing for me, not so much, not sure I have the body to carry it off

Honey, no woman thinks she has the body to carry it off, lol. Just go for it, with confidence of embracing 'you' and that goes a hell of a long way to being beautiful and sexy.

 

[betabrad]

Fuck, I need to be caged like this

https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/11168453/243581451

I know my little dicklette should be caged, but I just don't think there's a cage small enough to fit me. Also , should I be caged when I cant even get fully hard anymore anyway ?

 

[Iris_66]

Honey, no woman thinks she has the body to carry it off, lol. Just go for it, with confidence of embracing 'you' and that goes a hell of a long way to being beautiful and sexy.

Thanks Annie

Taking another baby step tonight, ordering some more lingerie and also a sexy dress

My wife has said she is now only attracted to women and me as a sissy, so we have decided she is only allowed to touch my pussy and ass but not any other appendage

Looking forward to letting things flow

 

[jon414]

Honey, no woman thinks she has the body to carry it off, lol. Just go for it, with confidence of embracing 'you' and that goes a hell of a long way to being beautiful and sexy.

Yes, yes, and more yes!!!

 

[SweetAnnie40]

Thanks Annie

Taking another baby step tonight, ordering some more lingerie and also a sexy dress

My wife has said she is now only attracted to women and me as a sissy, so we have decided she is only allowed to touch my pussy and ass but not any other appendage

Looking forward to letting things flow

Is there a cuckolding aspect to this? Does she want to bring women home to fuck as you watch?

 

[Iris_66]

Is there a cuckolding aspect to this? Does she want to bring women home to fuck as you watch?

Yes there is, she says she wants me to be there, in full sissy gear, when she brings a woman back

We have taken our time to get this far, and I sense it is a big next step. She seems to orgasm harder when we talk about bringing a woman back for her to fuck, and she seems genuine in her liking for sissy-me and for a woman lover - so think it may be where we go x

 

[Iris_66]

Is there a cuckolding aspect to this? Does she want to bring women home to fuck as you watch?

How does it work for you guys Annie? Have you gone beyond online with your Mistress? Is your hubby into seeing you with Mistress, or is she more focussed on her own sissy journey and its homoerotic side?

 

[SweetAnnie40]

How does it work for you guys Annie? Have you gone beyond online with your Mistress? Is your hubby into seeing you with Mistress, or is she more focussed on her own sissy journey and its homoerotic side?

My devotion to my Mistress is separate from my sex life with sissy-hubby. I don't share that with him and there isn't a chance of it becoming more than virtual due to distance.

Hubby knows that I have been and will be again with other women but that I prefer to do it away from home. He's okay with that and has not demanded to be present. He is more focused on when I can have Gary come over next. Sissy hubby is an eager cock sucker and loves swallowing loads of cum. Most times Gary comes over it is him and sissy playing, me watching. Sometimes I feel like I want some "Gary" for myself and that when sissy is bound to a chair in the bedroom to watch us. When I'm feeling generous, sissy is riding a big cock on the chair he's bound to and often cums just from watching and riding it.

 

[Iris_66]

My devotion to my Mistress is separate from my sex life with sissy-hubby. I don't share that with him and there isn't a chance of it becoming more than virtual due to distance.

Hubby knows that I have been and will be again with other women but that I prefer to do it away from home. He's okay with that and has not demanded to be present. He is more focused on when I can have Gary come over next. Sissy hubby is an eager cock sucker and loves swallowing loads of cum. Most times Gary comes over it is him and sissy playing, me watching. Sometimes I feel like I want some "Gary" for myself and that when sissy is bound to a chair in the bedroom to watch us. When I'm feeling generous, sissy is riding a big cock on the chair he's bound to and often cums just from watching and riding it.

Wow, you are great. It seems to work that your Sissy is happy to leave you to your own devices , literally, with women, and that Gary plus your strap on fulfils her needs. I know you miss the intimacy with your Hubby, but you seem happy

It was a big step for me telling my wife about my Sissy self, and it is great seeing her enjoy playing with and kissing my sissy pussy, but the thought of being 'shown off' as a girl, to another woman, who having sex with my wife is hugely exciting for me

My wife, possibly more than you, is totally into women, and is completely off men, but that works fine for me. I can't wait to see her 'cross the line' that she is desperate, but scared to cross

 

[Marty Fisher]

My husband confessed to me a few months ago that he wanted to wear my lingerie. Since then, he's talked about wearing more of my underwear and clothes. He shaved his body and is talking about waxing his privates. A week ago he started asking about using a dildo on him during sex.

So, sissies and the wives/girlfriends who love them, what is going on with him? What does this mean? How far will it go? He says he's not gay but is he?

I understand that everyone is different so my questions are a bit over the top, but I truly want to understand how others have gone through handling a hubby who is 'suddenly sissy'.

Thank you!!

I'd start by asking him because as you've said, everyone is different and his reason might be different than mine. I've spent a life time being in control at home and at work, mostly out of necessity and not personal need. For me, allowing myself to be submissive and feminine is a total turn-on and a great way to balance things out. I also happen to be a closeted bisexual so I am attracted to the same sex and being able to present myself both as a male and a feminine submissive is like icing on the cake for me.

 

[SweetAnnie40]

I'd start by asking him because as you've said, everyone is different and his reason might be different than mine. I've spent a life time being in control at home and at work, mostly out of necessity and not personal need. For me, allowing myself to be submissive and feminine is a total turn-on and a great way to balance things out. I also happen to be a closeted bisexual so I am attracted to the same sex and being able to present myself both as a male and a feminine submissive is like icing on the cake for me.

Thanks, Marty. Welcome to the thread! Do you have a femme name?

 

[stargame]

I'd start by asking him because as you've said, everyone is different and his reason might be different than mine. I've spent a life time being in control at home and at work, mostly out of necessity and not personal need. For me, allowing myself to be submissive and feminine is a total turn-on and a great way to balance things out. I also happen to be a closeted bisexual so I am attracted to the same sex and being able to present myself both as a male and a feminine submissive is like icing on the cake for me.

Very delicious of you.

 

[irishblade]

I consider myself a sissy who is very deep in the closet. I want to be feminized and collared and all that even though I’m not attracted to men. I am, however, attracted to a cock. That probably stems from penis envy (obviously lol). Wife is very close-minded so I come here to help scratch my itch. I’d love to explore more. I just don’t really know how without getting caught.

 

[dacoach44]

Sissy's fate....

https://i.imgur.com/7IGXQXg.jpg


Sissy is gonna love this!

 

[CrowdedStranger]

Being Bi since my teens I've wondered about guys who feminize themselves too. It goes beyond just sexual preference

 

[dacoach44]

as for me...

OK I haven't read every reply here so someone may have said something similar already,or maybe not since I'm something of an oddball in all things.

I'm a "normal" looking and acting guy, I have no desire to wear ladies lingerie but have started shaving my hairy butt and trimming down,not shaving,my leg hair. Honestly I've done this because of popular attitudes of ladies now seems to lean towards 'manscaping' to a point. I wonder if that has influenced other guys or if they desired it for themselves.

I discovered early that I liked being penetrated but never,and still don't,consider myself sissy. When I'm having anal fun I consider myself a bitch in heat but other than that I don't feminize myself. Basically I'm as curious as you are about the question because I wonder what exactly it would take for me to 'take the plunge' and go full sissy. Not that I intend to but I never intended to,or believed I could, be Bisexual. I believe everyone has a certain amount of submissive traits and these guys just want to feel special,to get more attention even if it's percieved as negative attention. Maybe they desire anal but believe they have to take on another persona to get it.

I was dating a CD, and tried to dress up. But, that moustache! I did let a gay guy fuck me, just one; loved cocksucking but not getting fucked.

 

[SweetAnnie40]

Hubby was talking this evening and we talked about what it is about being a sissy that gets him so passionate. He discussed how physically erotic it felt to put on panties, lingerie, a tight dress or skirt, high heels.. and how it all felt so different on his body, like shouting that they are all what women wear. When he dresses sissy, it unleashes his cravings, unfettered by social expectations for men... he begs for me to strap on a beautiful cock, make him suck it and then give him a royal fucking, capturing in a way more sensations of being a girl.

I thought it was interesting that he felt one of the most powerful erotic sissy experiences, and one he doesn't get often (enough), is having someone see him and it is totally clear that he's a man wearing pink, satiny, frilly, over-the-top girly lingerie, that he's a sissy. He said when I accepted him after his confession it was the most powerful day in his life (after our son being born and marrying me... nice save).

He thinks that is why he will never tire of going to stores to find lingerie, heels, and clothing. He wears a cock cage to ensure that he never gets an erection during the process. He treats the sales girls with respect and always buys something if he finds things that fit him. Sometimes the sales girls offer to give him their opinion (or agree after he asks for it) so he is clearly seen dressed like a sissy. Sometimes he'll come out of the dressing room to an area with mirrors, knowing other women are seeing him and understand what they are seeing. Sometimes he'll ask their opinion on one item versus another, get their opinion on which is sexiest, or what their favorite color is for special date and so on. He's met some women who are fascinated by him and what he does. Most are polite, helpful, and happy to have made a sale. It has been over 15 years since the last time he got the cold shoulder and was informed that the store did not have dressing rooms for men so he would have to make his purchase on a non-returnable item without trying it on. (He did not spend his money there).

Interesting conversation... just curious if other sissies felt similarly.

 

[SissySalina]

As a sissy it only feels natural to dress, it unleashes the inner joy and peace all at the same time.

 

[dacoach44]

Well Annie...

Hubby was talking this evening and we talked about what it is about being a sissy that gets him so passionate. He discussed how physically erotic it felt to put on panties, lingerie, a tight dress or skirt, high heels.. and how it all felt so different on his body, like shouting that they are all what women wear. When he dresses sissy, it unleashes his cravings, unfettered by social expectations for men... he begs for me to strap on a beautiful cock, make him suck it and then give him a royal fucking, capturing in a way more sensations of being a girl.

I thought it was interesting that he felt one of the most powerful erotic sissy experiences, and one he doesn't get often (enough), is having someone see him and it is totally clear that he's a man wearing pink, satiny, frilly, over-the-top girly lingerie, that he's a sissy. He said when I accepted him after his confession it was the most powerful day in his life (after our son being born and marrying me... nice save).

He thinks that is why he will never tire of going to stores to find lingerie, heels, and clothing. He wears a cock cage to ensure that he never gets an erection during the process. He treats the sales girls with respect and always buys something if he finds things that fit him. Sometimes the sales girls offer to give him their opinion (or agree after he asks for it) so he is clearly seen dressed like a sissy. Sometimes he'll come out of the dressing room to an area with mirrors, knowing other women are seeing him and understand what they are seeing. Sometimes he'll ask their opinion on one item versus another, get their opinion on which is sexiest, or what their favorite color is for special date and so on. He's met some women who are fascinated by him and what he does. Most are polite, helpful, and happy to have made a sale. It has been over 15 years since the last time he got the cold shoulder and was informed that the store did not have dressing rooms for men so he would have to make his purchase on a non-returnable item without trying it on. (He did not spend his money there).

Interesting conversation... just curious if other sissies felt similarly.

Acceptance by femmes is powerful, and appreciated. I have been with my latest flame for about 4 or 5 months; she helped me pick out panties and a nice pink training bra, and I love it! Being a sissy is certainly harmlesss enough, and I bet most wives would accept it if said sissy did his masculine duty as required. She knows I jerk off at the PC in panties, and we found a vibe at her place last week. We are gonna play with it. She had no idea of a sissygasm, but I sure as hell do!

 

[SweetAnnie40]

Acceptance by femmes is powerful, and appreciated. I have been with my latest flame for about 4 or 5 months; she helped me pick out panties and a nice pink training bra, and I love it! Being a sissy is certainly harmlesss enough, and I bet most wives would accept it if said sissy did his masculine duty as required. She knows I jerk off at the PC in panties, and we found a vibe at her place last week. We are gonna play with it. She had no idea of a sissygasm, but I sure as hell do!

Acceptance is one of the most powerful things in our human existence I believe. Healthy people grow up with full, unconditional acceptance from their parents. We join groups and make friends and feel rewarded with acceptance. If we're accepted we must be okay ("accept-able"). I can see how a fetish of which you are ashamed, which society does not accept, but which is clearly part of you, part of your self-identity... to have that be accepted by someone would be very powerful. To be accepted by a sexual partner and a woman would be the ultiimate, right?

 

[stargame]

Acceptance is one of the most powerful things in our human existence I believe. Healthy people grow up with full, unconditional acceptance from their parents. We join groups and make friends and feel rewarded with acceptance. If we're accepted we must be okay ("accept-able"). I can see how a fetish of which you are ashamed, which society does not accept, but which is clearly part of you, part of your self-identity... to have that be accepted by someone would be very powerful. To be accepted by a sexual partner and a woman would be the ultiimate, right?

I agree, accepted and encouraged. My X encouraged me with wonderful incentives, like cute panties and sexy clothes.

 

[Marty Fisher]

My husband confessed to me a few months ago that he wanted to wear my lingerie. Since then, he's talked about wearing more of my underwear and clothes. He shaved his body and is talking about waxing his privates. A week ago he started asking about using a dildo on him during sex.

So, sissies and the wives/girlfriends who love them, what is going on with him? What does this mean? How far will it go? He says he's not gay but is he?

I understand that everyone is different so my questions are a bit over the top, but I truly want to understand how others have gone through handling a hubby who is 'suddenly sissy'.

Thank you!!

As you said, its different for everyone but I'm sure there are a handful of common threads that run through all sissies and I doubt very seriously that he became "suddenly sissy". He most likely finally felt comfortable expressing his desires but he's had bits and pieces of this running through, perhaps as far back as childhood. For some of us, there's nothing more beautiful and enticing than the female species and we just LOVE to emulate various pieces of them - sometimes by wearing female attire (the more intimate the better), some by being submissive, and some by a combination of the two. I am the man in my outward life but I LOVE the feminine spirit and the power that they can have whether they are being submissive by choice, or enticing a man or a woman. I also LOVE to wear skimpy panties (French cut bikinis are my fav and pink is my favorite color) because they just feel good, naughty, and make me feel more feminine. How far will this go with your husband? That's up to the two of you but for me, I'd LOVE to prance around in lingerie all night long and I'd be happy to share a cock with my wife or let her watch while make love to one - but that's just me - your husband may not have ANY interest is the sexual end of crossdressing. ENjoy and good luck!