What Makes You Good In Bed as a Submissive?

[shy slave]

What appears to set me apart from other subs is I can't bake or cook lol

After all isn't that what supermarkets were invented for

Apart from the that, being small I can fit into a dog cage easily and tying me up takes less rope...do those count ????

 

[sphynx's dragon]

Well...as my Lady can attest too, I'm a hard headed SOB, extremely stubborn. Now what good is this you ask? Simple, my stubborness kicks in and I don't want to cum until She does. So I'd have to say my stubborness. While it gets me into endless trouble out of the bedroom, it does good for me there!

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, believe me I have plagued him with this question over and over, partly because as a vanilla I was also the recipient of more than the usual compliment and several begging to come back for more....oh, and the one who said I had ruined him for all others as he was no longer as easily satisfied as he used to be and couldn't find anywhere else sexually what he had with me. Hmmmm, my motto from about 15 has been try anything once, then try it 2 or 3 times to make sure if you thought you didn't like it. Now add to that a certain Dominant here had found sex okay but not outstanding before no matter what anyone did, and from the first night with me he says he has found what was missing....lol, and someone else mentioned the change in him to me without him knowing..... and I have been wanting more of an answer than I am special or it just is.

Best I have been able to get to explain the unexplainable IHW's is my incredible appetite and love of sex, my adventurousness and creativity, my experience, my natural desire to please, and the obvious joy I find in just enjoying carnal pleasures. Think perhaps it is like love, one of those indefinable things that is great when it happens, not so great when it doesn't. The PC porn thing doesn't work for me...fortunately he is not that big on porn so he is not wanting the stimulation of anything other than me when we are enjoying all things great and small.

Catalina

 

[clearshooter]

*sigh* Me, either. I do know how I'm different than most people, dom or sub. I'm a hell of a lot more loyal than the average person. In other words, I'm stupid. I stick it out with people who should be dumped on their ass. *shrugs*

I have a difficulty linking loyalty w/stupidity. I suppose there is a point where that line is crossed, but I also think it is a charcter trait that is sorely missing in the world of relationships today.

 

[TaintedB]

Hmmmm...this is a good topic.....still discovering things about being submissive overall so my yardstick to judge is only a few inches....

But in my opinion its this...a few years ago at a restaurant a hot french frie squirted hot grease onto the roof of my mouth causing a bad burn....nothing horrific it just left me with a tender little bump as a reminder....here's the kicker....that little "bump" is SUPER sensitive and gives me sensations similar to my clitoris....I can actually reach climaxes from its stimulation....and because of its placement I can't reach it with my tongue but have to have something...ummm...from outside activate its treasure....(my D can use his imagination).....and spicy food....mouthwash....mints....take interesting turns with this surprising addition to my e-zones.....

I guess that gives my SO another path to tease/torture/reward me.

Gracie~

That is one of the strangest things I have ever heard of. This isn't a contest but if it was, you'd be up there near the top of the "Unique" category. LOL, thanks for sharing that!

 

[TaintedB]

What appears to set me apart from other subs is I can't bake or cook lol

After all isn't that what supermarkets were invented for

Apart from the that, being small I can fit into a dog cage easily and tying me up takes less rope...do those count ????

Depends entirely on how small the dog cage is. Can you fit in a suitcase, too?

 

[Aeroil]

Apparently I'm cute, does that count?
hehehe, I don't know my talents, I've yet to discover them.......

 

[TaintedB]

Following orders and staying still.

Oh, you're just like all the other subbies! Sheesh, you're supposed to post something unique, Marquis!

 

[Xelebes]

I can only postulate that having a larger dick with foreskin does have it's advantages, but also poses other difficulties. However, I make that up with total inexperience and an obscene knowledge in geographic locations.

 

[grace9]

TaintedB

"That is one of the strangest things I have ever heard of. This isn't a contest but if it was, you'd be up there near the top of the "Unique" category. LOL, thanks for sharing that!"


(LOL)...Glad it made you chuckle TaintedB.....One day.....when I am very, very brave....*labored sigh*.....I will tell the comically bizarre tale of how I found out in the first place....

Gracie~

 

[jdmct]

Grace 9's spot

That sounds like a fasinating addition to any woman's e zones.
Your SO sounds lucky.

What sets any sub apart is their ability to open themselves and accept their Master's energy.

Hope this has been your experience.

 

[YinandYang]

Hmmmm...this is a good topic.....still discovering things about being submissive overall so my yardstick to judge is only a few inches....

But in my opinion its this...a few years ago at a restaurant a hot french frie squirted hot grease onto the roof of my mouth causing a bad burn....nothing horrific it just left me with a tender little bump as a reminder....here's the kicker....that little "bump" is SUPER sensitive and gives me sensations similar to my clitoris....I can actually reach climaxes from its stimulation....and because of its placement I can't reach it with my tongue but have to have something...ummm...from outside activate its treasure....(my D can use his imagination).....and spicy food....mouthwash....mints....take interesting turns with this surprising addition to my e-zones.....

I guess that gives my SO another path to tease/torture/reward me.

Gracie~

Gracie, this is really strange lol....I was thinking of the question, and trying to think of something that I do that sets me apart from other subs (what a bloody hard question!). I can't really think of anything in the BDSM lifestyle, but I am into Tantric sex, I havent met many people who practice this.

Anyway going back to your post, the sensitive area on the roof of your mouth is where the kundalini snake (once opened) enters up through your third eye. The snake starts in your base chakra and when unleashed winds its way up through your spine, connecting with the many chakra's on the way up and out through your crown chakra.

There is a process of unleashing the snake, with your partner that involves pulling the energy up through the spine, each of you meditate and help with this process. The one that is having the unleashing done, can put their tongue on the roof of their mouth (as far back as possible) and press on the pressure point. The feelings are quite amazing. It sounds like the little injury you had, has allowed this to happen naturally.

I find the energy exchange in tantric sex makes the whole D/s thing much more exciting, especially when the both of you are into it

I suppose thats my little niche, energy/tantric sex.....well worth the work and meditation in my belief.

 

[Netzach]

What makes anyone good in bed is how well they really really know me.

 

[grace9]

jdmct

jdmct
"That sounds like a fasinating addition to any woman's e zones.
Your SO sounds lucky."

I hope he feels that way .....but then again....you might know that better than I ......I sure feel lucky to have him.....

jdmct
"What sets any sub apart is their ability to open themselves and accept their Master's energy.

Hope this has been your experience."

It most certainly has been...it was difficult for me to do so at first....confronting my fears, my assumptions and knee jerk reactions to letting that happen were challenging to surmount....but it has been more than worth it. It is the energy...beyond ALL else that brings us together.

But that barrier has passed....and the energy exchanged between us is the greatest and most essential aspect of what we share.....in it Heaven opens to embrace us.....without that....the "special spot"......doesn't mean squat(LOL)......don't you agree?...

Gracie~

 

[grace9]

YinandYang

Wow....the snake and third eye explains a lot. How it travels when it happens....the overwhelming feeling that borders on the revelatory....People told me I should sue the place.....I couldn't quite explain why I didn't feel the need! (LOL)....

And Tantric sex with the energy of D/s must be astounding....I would like to hear more about that....raw energy is powerful and awe inspiring and in the realm of spiritual/physical union joined with that of the mind....incorporates the trinity of mind/body/soul...how amazing!...

I imagine once Tantric sex has been integrated into your life....one would never think to return to old ways.

Gracie~

 

[laurel-marie]

This thread sort of bothered me.
I kept trying to come up with how I am different as a submissive.
What makes me unique in bed?
I asked my husband and he said..."You are all mine."
Not glitz and glamore, but it made my heart melt.

 

[ownedsubgal]

this probably isn't unique but...i don't complain. a man can use me sexually however he pleases, can command me to serve him however he pleases, and regardless of how it makes me feel physically or mentally...i will silently and obediently take it. no fuss.

 

[Neomagalie]

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[jdmct]

Heaven

I am sure he agrees............we should all be so lucky......don't break him

 

[graceanne]

I have a difficulty linking loyalty w/stupidity. I suppose there is a point where that line is crossed, but I also think it is a charcter trait that is sorely missing in the world of relationships today.

To some extent I agree. I like that I'm loyal. But when I keep getting kicked in a relationship (No, I'm not thinking of my marriage, mostly friendships), and I stick around cause of loyalty, then it's stupidity. There has to be a point where you say 'this person is never gonna change, and all I'm doing is enabling them'.

 

[TaintedB]

This thread sort of bothered me.
I kept trying to come up with how I am different as a submissive.
What makes me unique in bed?
I asked my husband and he said..."You are all mine."
Not glitz and glamore, but it made my heart melt.

Another Awww is heard. That sounds like something someone I once knew might have said.

 

[TaintedB]

Apparently I'm cute, does that count?
hehehe, I don't know my talents, I've yet to discover them.......

Can any of you _male_ subs bake? I know how to burn Betty Crocker brownies, personally...

Aeroil, what sets you apart from all other subs is not your cuteness (because a great many submisssives are cute, it's a common trait) but your astonishing obstreperousness. You are going to be an awful lot of fun for a certain mistress someday.

 

[Xelebes]

Can any of you _male_ subs bake? I know how to burn Betty Crocker brownies, personally...

Aeroil, what sets you apart from all other subs is not your cuteness (because a great many submisssives are cute, it's a common trait) but your astonishing obstreperousness. You are going to be an awful lot of fun for a certain mistress someday.

Whuh?

 

[Aeroil]

Can any of you _male_ subs bake? I know how to burn Betty Crocker brownies, personally...

Aeroil, what sets you apart from all other subs is not your cuteness (because a great many submisssives are cute, it's a common trait) but your astonishing obstreperousness. You are going to be an awful lot of fun for a certain mistress someday.

lol.... I'm going to look that up then I'll reply
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okay, Encarta says:
ob·strep·er·ous


adjective
1. noisy: noisily and aggressively boisterous

2. unruly: strongly objecting to something or noisily refusing to be controlled.

I think you're talking about it in a different context, since I don't think that fits me....

 

[TaintedB]

This is a really excellent idea. It's really got me thinking.

At first, I couldn't think of anything at all, but then a couple of things came to me.

Hope this answers your question somewhat, taintedB.

I really liked what you said (not about the stupid baking, which I know nothing about and so therefore must be stupid, lol, but about the writing fantasies! ) That touches on a favorite submissive ideal of mine, which is doing the things, in bed and out, that your man likes the most. You are right, this is very easy to do well if you just pay attention and get to know your partner. I also enjoy writing stories that are tailored to a specific person's interests. Not always for sexual partners, either! More often I write them for other submissives who ask me.