What was ur biggest influence sexually??

[Munachi]

as for negative influences, i guess it influenced my sexually that there was a case of sexual molesting when i was a little kid (fortunately it never got far enough that i could refer to it as abuse), as i can recognize patterns in my own sexuality that seem to be connected to that. but then, everything that happens throughout our lifes contributes to who we end up being... and fortunately there were many more positive influences...

 

[pupper]

My very first experience was when I was in first grade.A little girl thatlived down the street(my age)had a big pine tree in her yard,we would go under the branches and it was like a big tent in there(no one could see us)She would take down my pants and play with me,I woud get a erection and she loved to play with it.She would take down her pants and stand then she would pull her pussy apart with such force her little clit would pop out(I didn't know what it was then)She would beg me to touch and stroke it.I moved about every year so by second grade she was gone
I went all the way to age 13 before seeing another pussy(I really didn't care one way or the other back then)When I was 13(I hadn't even started puberty,had no pubic hair)I had a 13 year old playmate one day she asked if she could see my cock,and that she would show me her pussy.We would sneak deep into the woods and play with each other,we then started having sex on a regular basis.I moved away from there about three months later.

 

[mr_Cs_guy]

the biggest impact

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[eudaemonia]

I remember my first orgasm at 6 years old; I was rubbing my mound against the side of my bed and couldn't/wouldn't stop until this feeling ended. I remember being stunned at the intensity and was feeling pretty good, but still wondered if it was "normal" (though I knew even then that if it *wasn't*, I was still going to do it).
I asked my dear mother the very next morning as she was getting ready for work if it was alright what I did. She told me (and I'll always be grateful for this, because I have friends who had the exact opposite experience) that is was "supposed to feel good, it is perfectly normal. But it is something to be done in private, it's rude to do it in public." So I breathed a sigh of relief and went about my happy childhood masturbating in private. Never gave it a second thought.
My mother told me later (in my 20's) that as a toddler I'd rub myself against furniture like that and she'd have to get me to stop in public, but she never felt the need to stop me at home.
Secondly, at barely 18 and about to go off to college, my mother (as we talked some about sex) gave me two books from her collection to read. The author of both was Nancy Friday, one was on women's sexual fantasies ("My Secret Garden"), the other was on men's sexual fantasies ("Men in Love"). It was summer time, so with no school I literally stayed up ALL NIGHT reading those and jacking off. I couldn't believe the plethora of information: the lewdness, the explicity, and the no-holds-barred excitement! I reached my personal best, shortly before sunrise, at 8 orgasms in one night. (I was SO sore the next day....)
And lastly, a huge influence was meeting the man who would become my husband. I'm still discovering things with him and I feel so fortunate to have his love/lust. His first lesson he taught me was that, for him and for me even though I didn't know it yet, there were three major kinds of sex: fucking (anismalistic, grunting, "hot pig sex"), having sex (playtime, fun, laughing, relaxing), and making love (pouring emotion and heart into the act). From that, comes all of our adult play. And it continues to influence me sexually.

Great question! Thanks for asking!

This is nearly identical to my experience. All of it, except for the fortune of having mom talk to me about sex. At least by *not* talking to me about it I never got wrong messages, just did what came naturally.

Back to the OP ... My biggest influence? One word: Cosmo.

 

[FurryFury]

Which came first? The rape fantasies or Dad's Playboys, Penthouses and Adam and Eves?

Wish I could remember. It was far too long ago.

I think it's pre programmed though. I remember having those fantasies by fifth grade for sure cause I remember the bathroom really well and which house we were in.

I don't remember finding his nasty shit till later. Boy was that some good nasty shit though. I LOVED the letters and the couple's pictures!

Fury

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I remember humping my pillow at a very young age, not really knowing what I was doing, then going to the skating rink and "making out" with boys and I remember getting really wet and embarrassed to let them feel that. The first time I saw porn was at a friend's house they had this video where a girl fucked herself with a candlestick, and I then got the idea to use things around the house (never used a candlestick, btw)

I'm still learning about myself even at age 31, having lost my virginity at 15, and very few "satisfying" experiences.

my parents never told me a word, other than, "dont have sex"

I learned about it from my friends, they all lost their virginity first.

 

[v-anna]

the first time......

....The first time...With out a doubt....For me, a much older man, who knew what he was doing....If at 17 it had been bad...in some way...It would have totally messed me up. It hurt, I climaxed...not bad at all.

 

[Salendire]

Sex was an open subject with my parents, at a very very very young age i asked about the baby question and got clear answers (even though i suspect that because i was so young i was unsure of what they were talking about), but there were a few things that i was never told about, like a womans period, my mother had never informed me of this. I think she had the intention to but my period started before she got a chance to explain (i was 10) so when one morning i woke up in blood i freaked out. Had to take the day off of school becuase i was that stressed out about it.

Appart from that my parents were really good, i can remember watching "highlander" when i was a kid and the sex scene in that would always make me feel "funny" so when i got a TV in my bedroom i started watching the movies that i knew had sex scenes in them and i would rewind the sex scenes over and over, i never actually played with myself while doing this but i remember i liked the feeling it gave me.

My 1st sexual experiance was interesting, i was 8 and i am not 100% certain how it came about but a boy i used to play with at after school care and i undressed from the stomach down and before i knew it i was laying down under the slide, gripping the metal of the support shafts and he was grinding me.

I think this has had effects on my sexual psyche because i LOVE being grinded, sometimes i even enjoy it more so than sex itself.

Even though i was young for my 1st sexual experience i had never had an explosive orgasm untill about 6 months ago, i always loved sex but it never felt as good as what i thought it should of. But now i know what i was missing and i am addicted to the feeling, i need to masturbate at least 3 times a day to be satisfied

 

[Norajane]

I think I've had several significant ones...

Puberty/high school: all the things I heard guys saying about women and their bodies, and sex totally put me off the idea of having sex with anyone until I married. The last thing I wanted was to let those guys who talked about boning chicks get anywhere near me. The last thing I could imagine sucking was the dick of of a guy who used "suck my dick" as an insult to someone else.

Now, I understand they were just immature and clueless. Back then, they made me anxious that sex would feel awful for me, and degrading.

College: This is where I saw the girls in my dorm go through the same guy-cycle each weekend: They get dressed and made-up to go to a party. They hook up with some guy from the party. Sunday brunch in the dining hall was consumed by "when will he call me?" conversations about the guys they hooked up with. Guys wouldn't call. Girls heartbroken. Some try to call him, but he becomes unreachable. Girls heartbroken. Dress up and... Lather, rinse, reapeat, each weekend.

Now, I understand those girls were looking for relationships with guys who were only looking to hook up, and not with guys who were also looking for relatioships. Back then, they made me anxious that all guys would dump you after you had sex.


My experiences as an adult were mostly influenced by my curiousity and that of my partners. I've been very lucky and have known some wonderful men who helped me understand that the best sex happens when you're playful with it and open to it. All of those wonderful experiences eventually made me realize that sex wasn't something to be anxious about and felt better than just about anything else.

 

[rozweb]

My start

My brother had 3 erotic story books which I found when I was about 11. These made me really horny but i just didn't know the feeling at the time. He must have realised that I had been reading them becouse the disapeared from his room.I think this started my love of reading erotic lit.
The first time I really noticed anything was not long after this - was sitting with my leg up on the couch armrest and was scratching my inner thigh with a pencil, moved to the sensitive area and the pencil went inside!! I really didn't know anything about anatomy but it felt GOOD. I thought back to those books and there you have it. To discover you vagina and clit on the same day and throw in an orgasm too...WOW
As an adult the partners that I've had have opened my eyes to many things and have taught me how to let myself go and open up to new posibilities. Thank guys

 

[TBKahuna123]

Late night Cinemax!

Seriously, I was a late bloomer all the way around I guess. Oh sure I had a few porno mags laying around as a teenager, but I didn't see my first hardcore porn movie until I was in college. My sexual identity was forged by late night cinemax movies like Lady Chatterly's Lover. They all had a romantic side too em, and that definitely led to me having a romantic view of sex. I was also with a girl in HS who was set that she wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, and being from a religious background too, I was perfectly content to wait as well. This did of course lead to loads of "other" expressions of sexual desires, and I think this was the best thing for me. I learned about foreplay long before I learned about actual intercourse. That's what gave me the raw skills to be a good partner.

Through all of that though, I still was missing the finer points. I can remember the point though where I was really sexually awakened. It was withthe girl in college who I eventually lost my virginity to. We were involved in some heavy foreplay and she started gasping and made me stop toughing her. I now know that I was stimulatiing her g-spot, but at the time I didn't know I was doing anything in particular. Anyway she told me that she had never cum that hard before, so hard that her teeth were vibrating. That statement made an impression on me, but luckily it wasn't my ego it made the impression on.

From that moment on I started watching more closely, paying attention to the reaction my ministrations provoked in my partner. If there is one thing that has served to shape my sexual identity, this was the experience. She shaped a few other things along the way too, but that's another story.