When did/Have I become part of the community?

[Samantha47]

Thanks for your post! I have always enjoyed wearing panties and this has lead to experimenting with my sexuality. I have found I love gay sex.

Me too honey so much

 

[drobert44]

Me too honey so much

Same here.

 

[RoanMtn]

My sissy has 4", but I once fucked one with 9"

I'm an anal virgin, I don't think my pussy could handle 9-inches, lol.

 

[RoanMtn]

I am only 7", hon.

I'm more like your sissy...4-inches.

 

[drobert44]

I'm more like your sissy...4-inches.

So cute, will it get hard when you suck my gay cock?

 

[RoanMtn]

So cute, will it get hard when you suck my gay cock?

It'll get hard just talking about it, lol.

 

[drobert44]

It'll get hard just talking about it, lol.

Play with it, bitch, my gay cock is out.

 

[magic_rat]

Labels are stupid.

I'm Dom for women. I tend to be very sub for men. So am I a switch? Given the choice I'll jump into bed with a woman every time, so am I straight?, I don't find men attractive, but occasionally I like a dominant man to make me suck on his cock or pin me down and force fuck me. Am I bi? But then I also love fucking trans women. Am I pansexual?

I just love sex, and kink, it may different ways. I don't need labels, just willing accomplices.

 

[HeatherMaureen8065]

Labels are stupid.

I'm Dom for women. I tend to be very sub for men. So am I a switch? Given the choice I'll jump into bed with a woman every time, so am I straight?, I don't find men attractive, but occasionally I like a dominant man to make me suck on his cock or pin me down and force fuck me. Am I bi? But then I also love fucking trans women. Am I pansexual?

I just love sex, and kink, it may different ways. I don't need labels, just willing accomplices.

If you are having sex with pans then yes you might be pansexual. If you are having sex with other humans you are sexual and we are all a strange mix of desires, needs and functions. It doesn't change you, just varies your individual outlook from that of others in some way(s). Why try to label the unlabelable?
I enjoy sex with females, and when properly accoutered with males. Generally passive I more accept what happens and respond accordingly then instigate more than my obsession towards feminised exhibitionism.

 

[Terrylipstick]

If you are having sex with pans then yes you might be pansexual. If you are having sex with other humans you are sexual and we are all a strange mix of desires, needs and functions. It doesn't change you, just varies your individual outlook from that of others in some way(s). Why try to label the unlabelable?
I enjoy sex with females, and when properly accoutered with males. Generally passive I more accept what happens and respond accordingly then instigate more than my obsession towards feminised exhibitionism.

Number four

 

[magic_rat]

If you are having sex with pans then yes you might be pansexual.

It was a rhetorical question. Yes, pan is the closest to a standard definition (and no, not everyone I have sex with is pan; their orientation is irrelevant). I don't think pan adequately describes exacxtly where I'm at, but it's reasonably close. And as I said, I don't need labels.

 

[SPARTAN047]

If You have interracial sex are you intersexed?

 

[magic_rat]

no

 

[SPARTAN047]

Sarcasm.

 

[partsecond]

You're part of the community when one of two things happens:

1, you decide you are, based on your sexuality or gender identity fitting in to any of the many, many letters in the boundless alphabet soup.

2, you experience a sense of being queered by other people. Even if nobody knows your secret and nobody has ever bashed, made fun of, or discriminated against you, if you even suspect that any of those things might happen and that causes you to consider closeting yourself, that's part of the queer experience. Anyone who experiences it is entitled to identify with the community. In fact, it might be the only thing the entirety of the community has in common. There are identities under the umbrella which don't overlap in any way at all, and even utterly contradict each other, but every one of them has the personal understanding of being othered by judgemental "normies" or even by other queers.

Oh, number 2 for sure... Haven't heard that any clearer.

Being queered by other people, even if they don't know.

I have fealt this, but didn't know how to interpret this.

Great insight.

 

[RoanMtn]

I don't care much for labels. I just know what I like.

 

[magic_rat]

Anyone who experiences it is entitled to identify with the community. In fact, it might be the only thing the entirety of the community has in common.

What Vonnegut referred to as Granfallooon; people who believe they share an identity based on circumstances of little or no meaning.

Like... X likes worshipping feet, Y enjoys being hung from a meathook and beaten til they bleed and Z likes to wear women's underwear, therefore they are all in the same tribe. But there's a difference between identifying with the community and joining it.

In many ways the community is a flag of convenience under which all the misfits gather and the links are often tenuous at best but it works. I've been at gatherings (munches) where the range of kink, gay or straight, is so disparate that the only common ground is kink itself; you may not understand one another's kinks and fetishes but you're all in a safe space where revealing yourself doesn't prompt shame or ridicule. You're all fellow travellers on a journey where everyone has a different destination.

 

[Britva415]

there's a difference between identifying with the community and joining it.

Other people will (and do) lump all the queers together, though. Even the queers who don’t relate to the other queers.

So yeah, in addition to what you said, there’s something problematic about “a community” which is defined by people who aren’t part of it.

Nevertheless, anyone who asks whether they’re entitled to the “queer” label almost certainly is, if it came about as the result of prejudice, misunderstanding and othering by anyone anywhere ever. And people are still entitled to it even if they don’t choose to or feel aligned today.

Not to get political, but tomorrow the prevailing conditions may be different enough to change the minds of the queers who have been “passing” and unthreatened so far.

My hat is off to people who haven’t ever had queerness forced upon them. Of course they’re free to enjoy the privilege.